Colton Haynes’s Struggles In OUT Magazine; Michael Sam’s Nightclub Incident; Larry Kramer Is Ranting, Again

Colton Haynes’s Struggles In OUT Magazine

I’m sure most people know that Colton Haynes came out as gay recently, and as it is for all of us, it’s been an emotional experience for him. The fact that Haynes has such a public profile allows him to speak about what a lot of us feel. I get letters all the time from gay readers in the closet who don’t speak to anyone about themselves…ever. And even though we can’t identify with Haynes’s own personal struggle, we can understand it on many different levels.

Haynes recently made the cover of Out Magazine, where he also made some candid comments.

But the story isn’t all celebrity in-fighting and gay-on-gay shade. It gets kind of dark. Haynes claims that a former manager dropped him for being gay and suggested prostitution as a viable career alternative. He opens up about the trauma of high school bullying after he came out to a classmate at 14, which led to a troubled adolescence of drug experimentation and running away from home.

It gets a little harder, too. You can check this out here.  

Michael Sam’s Nightclub Incident

I’m on the proverbial fence with this one. It doesn’t sound as if Michael Sam did anything wrong. It sounds more like speculation, or a non-incident that could have been ignored completely.

Michael was hanging out with some friends, apparently, but when they left he started yelling with another guy. “People like f***ing you give our community a bad f***ing name,” he yelled. Oof. What could this guy possibly have done? Does anyone know? Can anyone make an educated guess? There are plenty of things a person could do to give a community a bad name, up to and including starting a fight with a professional football player at a place called “Bootsy Bellows.”

You can read the rest here…to see what you think. And, there are comments.

Larry Kramer Is Ranting, Again

I love Larry Kramer for what he’s done…for all that he’s done. I love The Normal Heart. But he does tend to rant from time to time. That’s just an objective observation, not a judgment. This time he’s going after Steven Roth, a billionaire who’s supporting Donald Trump.

“I don’t know why but I was incredibly shocked and disappointed when it was announced that you had become one of Donald Trump’s billionaire brain trust,” writes Kramer. “I could not believe that you could support a candidate, a vice-president, and a party that threatens many of the things that you hold most dear.”

Here’s the rest. 

Last time Kramer went on a rant he went after Barbra Streisand. I not joking. I posted about that here in 2014.

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Pat Patterson Openly Gay and WWE; Social Media Pressure, Gay Porn, and Racism; Tom Daley and THAT Other Swimmer Make Headlines

Pat Patterson Openly Gay and WWE

Here’s a really good article about the life of Pat Patterson, and what it was like to be at the top of his game as a pro wrestler, and gay.  It’s another one that breaks the stereotypes. There are a lot of guys out there like Patterson.

Nearly 20 years after he first arrived in the U.S., Patterson reached the pinnacle of his career in 1979 when, aged 38, he was crowned the World Wide Wrestling Federation’s inaugural Intercontinental Champion. To this day, that championship remains one of the most prestigious in the organization that later became World Wrestling Entertainment (WWE). What most in the wrestling world didn’t realize, however, was that the new champion was gay.

The rest is here.  I know there are many important points in this article about Patterson and his life, but I also think that part about stereotypes is important to all of us. So that we know not to stereotype gay men into any specific category.

Social Media Pressure, Gay Porn, and Racism

As the heading suggests, this is a highly controversial topic for some. I think it also gives a fairly accurate example of the more questionable sides of the porn industry and porn stars.  

In the past, scenes featuring gay porn stars who have committed statutory rape and even murder (Mike Dozer and Sean Cody’s Addison, respectively) have not been pulled down from studios’ websites, even after news of their convictions spread. And in my nine years of reporting on the gay-adult industry, a studio (let alone two studios) has never removed or canceled content due to a performer’s personal beliefs—that is, until now.

So what made Diggs special? White men with sexual “preferences” working in gay porn is nothing new. But thanks to social media and industry blogs, those “preferences” are being exposed, shared, shamed, and retweeted to such an extent that studios can no longer pretend to be oblivious.

You can check out the rest here. It’s a fairly in-depth piece. It gets into sexual preferences and racism, which is a topic that’s becoming increasingly popular these days. They mention hook up apps and talk about whether or not sexual preference is a form of racism. It’s…well…interesting.

There’s nothing lewd or sexual about the article, but I don’t think the web site for this one is SFW. You’ve been warned.

Tom Daley and THAT Other Swimmer Make Headlines

Of course my heading for this is sarcastic. I figured I’d better mention that for those who have been deprived of a sense of humor.

This pretty much says it all…

Tom Daley, Great Britain‘s openly gay diving champion, was front-page news across the U.K. after he and his synchronized diving partner Daniel Goodfellow won the bronze medal at the Olympic games in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.

But in what is an ironic twist on the shameful past practice of cropping out gay athletes from mainstream media, most of the British papers focused their coverage not on the pair but solely on Daley.

It also happened on Twitter. I saw it myself while it was trending. I kept wondering who the other dude was…with all due respect to Tom Daley. It’s not Daley’s fault. The media has been doing this for years with every minority. I’m not shocked. It’s a good example of how little you can trust these days in the media.

You can check this one out here. 

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Heartbreaking Letter From Jailed HIV Poz Wrestler; Josh Duggar Sued; Waiter Gets Snarky Anti-Gay Message

Heartbreaking Letter From Jailed HIV Poz Wrestler

There’s always been controversy over the topic of people who are HIV positive infecting others. And I’m wording this with care because I’d like to remain neutral with the subject. I think people should form their own opinions sometimes.

Michael Johnson, a.k.a. “Tiger Mandingo,” the former college wrestler sentenced to 30 years in prison for “recklessly infecting” multiple partners with HIV, has penned a heartbreaking letter from solitary confinement.

You can read the letter he wrote here, along with the rest of the article.

Josh Duggar Sued

I’m not even sure what to say about this article. For those who don’t remember, Josh Duggar is part of that “Good” Christian Duggar family who had a lot of kids and that reality show.

Josh Duggar is in new legal trouble. Matthew McCarthy, a photographer and DJ, is suing Duggar for allegedly using a photo of McCarthy for various dating and social media profiles, including Ashley Madison, OKCupid and Twitter.

Aside from the obvious, I think an important thing to pay attention to here is using someone’s likeness online. Don’t do it.

Here’s the rest

Waiter Gets Snarky Anti-Gay Message

Evidently, these things are still happening. Once again, by “Good” Christians.

Eddy Cabrera, a waiter at Chelly’s Cafe in Kansas City, Missouri got an unexpected surprise from a table of homophobic customers too busy lovin’ Jesus to love their fellow man. After the group treated Cabrera disrespectfully, they didn’t leave a tip on their $84 check and instead left an anti-gay note.

You can check that out here. Wait until you see what the note says.

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Orlando Bloom’s Ordinary Dick Pic; Dennis Rodman Broke His Penis; Identifying As Gay and Trans

Orlando Bloom’s Ordinary Dick Pic

I’ve seen this happen in a few places online…a different kind of commentary about Orlando Bloom’s dicks pics last week.  Not everyone is as impressed or shocked as some might have imagined they would be. A few think it’s rather ordinary.

We like to think that we live in a show-all culture, with few boundaries—but still the exhibition of a penis or vagina in public is considered too much. These are known as “private parts” for a reason. Despite showing ourselves on so many social media platforms, despite all the peacocking of our bodies, we are prudish and sensitive about showing it all off.

And this…

We like to think that we live in a show-all culture, with few boundaries—but still the exhibition of a penis or vagina in public is considered too much. These are known as “private parts” for a reason. Despite showing ourselves on so many social media platforms, despite all the peacocking of our bodies, we are prudish and sensitive about showing it all off.

You can read the rest here. It’s entertaining and I think the general point is spot on. I also think it’s worth mentioning that when I post about male full frontal nudity in films, as a form or art in films, I’m not talking about leaked dick pics to the media. The two are totally different topics.

Dennis Rodman Broke His Penis

Here’s an article about how Dennis Rodman broke his penis…three times…during sex.

The former Chicago Bulls basketball player says he first broke his penis during a sexual encounter onboard his boat in Dallas, Texas after “drinking and partying” throughout the day. Rodman says when the incident took place, his partner was screaming, “Oh my God, he is dead. I have killed him.” To which the 55-year-old replied: “No honey. I just broke my d**k”.

It goes on to explain the other two times. Here’s the link 

Identifying As Gay and Trans

I think a lot of people are curious about this topic, and mainly because it hasn’t been discussed much at all. People don’t always understand. I’ve known more than a few trans people in my time, and I do understand it, but a lot of people out there don’t really know much.The main point here is to listen.

We know it can be an awfully tough concept for some to wrap their heads around, but it bears repeating — sexuality and gender identity are two different things.

Just as there are men who are attracted to men and men who are attracted to women, so too are there trans women into guys and trans women into women. The same goes for any way you want to combine identities and interests.

Most of the trans women I’ve known have been into women. But that’s just a generalization on my part. It doesn’t have to work out that way.  You can check the rest out here.

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Gay Culture In the 2000s; Hot Male Photo Series and Exhibitionism; Model Luke Casey Full Frontal Male Nudity

Gay Culture In the 2000s

Here’s an article that reflects on all kinds of gay culture from the 2000s. It’s kind of hard to believe it’s already “retro.”

Before there was Grindr and Scruff there were online chatrooms. Gay.com and AOL were probably the most popular ones. Guys would hang out late at night in their underpants chatting with complete strangers over dial-up internet, swapping pics, engaging in “cybersex,” and arranging hook ups. It was all very exciting at the time.

I never got into these chatrooms. But I know a lot of people who did. The article goes on to mention that Gay.com just deleted all chatrooms this week. I think this is also a reflection on how the Internet in general is changing, not just gay culture.

And this one made me smile. They put up a photo of Will and Grace above it.

Just as the term “fag hag” has fallen out of fashion, so have fag hags, in general. Sure, there are still a handful of hangers on who relish in surrounding themselves exclusively with homosexual men, but for the most part, everyone just hangs out with everyone these days.

I’m not so sure about that. No comment.

In any event, you can check the rest out here. They’re…interesting.

Hot Male Photo Series and Exhibitionism

I really love these photos.

 “My personal work is just a document of my life,” photographer Tommy Ga-Ken Wan tells Queerty. “The men who appear in those photographs are people who have featured in my life: friends, lovers, people I met one time at a party. I’ve never been shy about documenting and sharing those aspects.”

You can check out a few here. I think they’re amazing.

Model Luke Casey and Full Frontal Male Nudity

It seems as if male full frontal nudity is becoming a thing lately…at least in photos. Men want to do it; people want to see it. Plain and simple. This time the focus is on model, Luke Casey.

Regardless, he’s also done quite a bit of modeling and isn’t the least bit shy about showing off what the good Lord gave him. Check out a few of his stunning Instagram pics below and click here to behold (alleged pics of) the young man in his breathtaking birthday suit.

You can read more here, and there’s a link to the alleged full frontal nude photos.  That link, however, is wrong and I couldn’t get anything to load. So here’s a real link that I found on my own.

Casey is a good looking guy and it’s not a lewd photo. It’s actually very artistic. I’m not sure if this is SFW so use discretion.

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George Takei, Star Trek Beyond, and Gay Sulu; San Jose Police, Public Rest Rooms, and Targeting Gay Men; "Twinks For Trump"

George Takei, Star Trek Beyond, and Gay Sulu

George Takei had a few more comments about Star Trek Beyond and the concept of making Sulu a gay character.

“I’m delighted that the issue of LGBT equality is finally being raised, but Gene Roddenberry created all his characters as heterosexual because he had to. There is a lot of evidence of Sulu being heterosexual,” Takei said. He brought up instances from the original series that involved Sulu displaying an interest in Uhura. 

He goes on to state that he liked the movie but the gay scene isn’t much more than a “whisper.”

You can check this out here.

I’ve always wondered “what if” when it comes to characters who are straight and have been straight for years. What if you make them gay? Why can’t you make them gay? Evidently, I’m not the only one.

San Jose Police, Public Rest Rooms, and Targeting Gay Men

This is an age old issue with gay men that’s rarely ever addressed openly, not even in the gay community. I know gay men who have had this happen to them. And it can be very costly.

From 2014 to 2015, San Jose police ran a sting operation where undercover officers talked with suspects, then cited or arrested two dozen people and charged them with, among other things, loitering near a bathroom with the intent to commit a lewd act.

You can check this out here. It’s an interesting article because they mention that there have been no arrests for male-female lewd behavior. The police will use their best looking, hottest male cop to lure and bait gay men into thinking they are interested in them, and then when a gay man responds to an open advance, the cops arrest him. And, unfortunately, you have to be very clever not to get sucked into that old trap.

“Twinks For Trump”

I honestly had no idea there was even a group called “Twinks For Trump.” And this article…or letter…is addressed to a gay conservative who is supporting Trump. It’s really getting heated up out there, and I think the lines have been drawn.

You think you are awesome because being gay does not, as you say, define the entirety of your existence. This does not make you awesome. It makes you privileged. You are sitting on a whole big heap of privilege, which you appear to ignore.

It’s an interesting letter that brings up a few excellent points. I think it was written from the heart. I like the last paragraph the most because it’s genuine and civil. The letter isn’t meant to be mean or antagonistic, which is a novelty these days. 

 You can check that out here

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Excellent Gay Film: Holding the Man; London’s Oral Sex Cafe; Orlando Bloom’s Full Frontal Nudity Dick Pics

Excellent Gay Film: Holding the Man

I caught this on netflix the other night and really enjoyed it. Once again, thanks to netflix’s inability to execute a decent movie description. Had I not taken a chance and put it on, just based on the one little blurb they gave, I would have missed an excellent movie. Netflix really needs to step up the game a little. Hire some of these millennials.

In any event, this is from wiki…

Holding the Man is a 2015 Australian romantic drama film adapted from Timothy Conigrave‘s 1995 memoir of the same name. It was directed by Neil Armfield and stars Ryan Corr and Craig Stott, with supporting performances from Guy Pearce, Anthony LaPaglia, Sarah Snook, Kerry Fox and Geoffrey Rush. The screenplay was written by Tommy Murphy who also adapted the memoir for the stage play.

As I said above, the story line in Holding the Man was excellent and it takes place during a time when legalized gay marriage did not exist and gay couples had absolutely no rights at all. It was almost exactly around the time that President Bill Clinton signed DOMA, which was one of the worst things that ever happened to equal rights and basically stalled legalized gay marriage for almost two decades. I was there for that one. I remember it well, first hand. 

I felt particularly close to the general story line because I went through similar hospitalizations with my husband in 2007, which I posted about here once before. I’ll never forget carrying legal the power of attorney papers with me at all times so no one would screw around with me.

Side note: Holding the Man is a romantic drama, not a romance. There’s a huge, distinct difference between the two.

London’s Oral Sex Cafe

When I saw this on social media yesterday I had to check it out. There’s going to be a coffee shop in London where they give oral sex to men.

According to the Evening Standard, the small business owner is teaming up with the app BumPix to launch a coffee shop where escorts-turned-baristas administer oral sex on male customers as they sip their morning espressos.

For those of you who are like me and are wondering if this is legal, the owner says they found a loophole and they’re working on it right now.  I can’t wait to see what THAT is.

You can read more here. It’s focused on straight men right now, but they might be doing something for gay men soon, too…because they love the gays so much.

Y’all know that I’m no prude, but I think this is one of the most dismal things I’ve heard in ages.

Orlando Bloom’s Full Frontal Nudity Dick Pics

I don’t know how anyone could have missed this trending yesterday. I saw it on Twitter first thing in the morning and blinked. It has nothing at all to do with full frontal nudity in movies. This is about Orlando Bloom going on vacation and being photographed in the nude.

The photo first surfaced on the cover of the U.K.’s Daily Star. It shows the 39-year-old kneeling on a paddleboard, revealing every bare inch of his perfectly sculpted body. The most important part of image was censored, however, which led to a frantic search on Twitter for the uncensored versions.

You can check this out, and find the uncensored versions, here. I saw them on Twitter and they’re worth a glance or two.

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