Tag: Thomas Barrow

Gay High School Couple Will Attend Prom; Nancy Reagan and Gays; Downton Abbey Gay Romance Fail

Gay High School Couple Will Attend Prom

This time a potential life ruining moment was adverted thanks to a local TV news team.

A gay high school couple from Livingston Parish, La., who were initially forbidden to attend their prom, were allowed to show up at the event together Saturday, after Baton Rouge TV station WBRZ intervened.

The station called the district superintendent looking for answers after being contacted by the mother of one of the gay teens who was told he couldn’t bring a same-sex date.

The rest is here. There’s also a photo of the guys.

I remember what it was like around prom time, and THAT wasn’t fun. Up until recently no one took a same sex date to the prom. It wasn’t even on the radar. So we either faked it and took a girl, or we didn’t bother to go. I took this girl named Sue, a nice girl, but it was one of the most awkward nights of my life.

Nancy Reagan and Gays

I’ve read a lot of Nancy Reagan bios and what I read in this commentary supports everything else I’ve read. I think it’s an honest account of how Nancy Reagan related to the gay men of her time that she knew, and how the majority of gay men of her time that she didn’t know weren’t even considered relevant. In other words, the gay men who didn’t design rooms, or gowns, or hair, who were working as attorneys, doctors, and various other professions that aren’t associated with the gay stereotypes. And that’s because those gay men couldn’t afford to admit they were gay. The word gay didn’t even exist until the 1970s.

And I’m not slamming any of those gay men who were the stereotypes, because they did what they had to do to survive during that time, too. I just think it’s interesting to note that Nancy Reagan was always surrounded by the gay men who made her life and her image a lot better than it would have been if they hadn’t been around.

Nancy’s role model and idol was Betsy Bloomingdale. Nancy began using Betsy’s hairdressers, and most importantly her gay fashion designer Jimmy Galanosl the first big member of Team Nancy. Betsy was also in with the gays and soon, Nancy was being seen around town on the arm of Jerry Zipkin, the man most trusted with the wives of the rich and powerful. She was fiercely anti-communist, and so it followed that she took up with Roy Cohn as well.

If you don’t know anything about Nancy Reagan, you can read more about her here. I don’t think it’s a negative piece and I’m not slamming Reagan. I’m only showing what it was like during those times for gay men and for Reagan. I also find these bio pieces fascinating, and as I said earlier this one supports almost everything else I’ve read about Nancy Reagan. And she really wasn’t the monster the gay press paints her to be. She was just a good example of the times in which she lived.

Downton Abbey Gay Romance Fail

I use the word “gay” in this context for clarity. The word gay wasn’t around until much later. 

A few months ago I posted something about the gay character in Downton Abbey, Thomas Barrow. I think he’s probably one of the gay characters I’ve liked most in anything on TV, and I thought there was such promise for his character. At the time I posted about Barrow I was curious to see how they would tie up his story line with all the rest. Unfortunately, I got what I thought I would get. Nothing of any substance. And his story line was nothing more than one dismal event after another.

From a pure romance POV, I liked Downton Abbey, and I followed it through every single season. When I saw them using a gay character and gay story line, I liked it even more…because there’s so little about gay people back then. Thomas Barrow broke the stereotypes and I have no doubt there were many gay men just like him living during that time period. There was so much promise.

In any event, last night was the series finale of Downton Abbey and all the straight people lived happily-ever-after. Even the older straight characters got married and lived happily-ever-after. The footman became a school teacher. The old guy and his wife had a baby. So much of it was unbelievable. One was even cured of some kind of deadly disease. But Thomas Barrow, the gay guy, got a new job and went back to his pitiful life. That’s it. Not even a hint that he was getting gay action somewhere behind the scenes.

Now if this had been a realistic finale I would have understood. However, if they could cure the older guy of his deadly disease, and they could let him get married and live happily-ever-after, why the hell couldn’t they at least have given Thomas Barrow a hint of promise for future romance with a man. It could have been done, and it could have fit in with the rest of the ending.

And for me, it was a huge fail as far as gay romance goes. Huge. And I have to wonder about the original intention and why they used the gay story line in the first place.

This is also a good example of why I decided to parody some really well known romance story lines with gay characters and a lot of eroticism in several of my books. Books like Pretty Man and An Officer and His Gentleman. No one else ever did it, an they’re still not doing it, so I decided to do it myself.

Here’s one example of what I did with Pretty Man…it’s available in print, too, and I have absolutely no idea why those books are selling for so much money. The e-book is a lot less expensive.

Pretty Man
by Ryan Field

Gay Family Circle; Michael Sam Cut From Cowboys; Downton Abbey Gay Cure; Ariana Grande On Catholicism and Gay Brother Frankie

Gay Family Circle

I received one of those magazine gifts last year for Family Circle Magazine and my first thought was OMG, now I have this to throw away, too. Although I still get several print magazines, the only one I order myself is Architectural Digest and I wind up throwing the rest away. I get my news…and everything…online. I also never see anything LGBT related in mainstream publications and the content doesn’t interest me. Plus, the last thing I need in my life is more clutter from print magazines.

However, as I was glancing through the most recent issue of FC, I noticed a feature story with two gay men…married with two children. The piece is in a new section of FC, titled “Modern Life,” with a caption on the first page that reads, “Our biggest challenge? Finding time to sit down to dinner together!” There’s a photo of two perfect gay dads, with their two perfect kids, that could have been a photo of Ozzie and Harriet 60 years ago.

I can’t find an online link to the magazine, but I did find this piece about the new “Modern Life” section in FC.

A new “Modern Life” feature, which highlights nontraditional families, marks perhaps the biggest leap forward for the magazine’s content. “I didn’t think we were doing the best job of addressing all the different types of families,” admitted Fears. “We thought shows like Modern Family were actually doing a better job.”

Ironically, last night I was catching up with the TV show, Modern Family, on demand. I’m still not a huge fan of the show in a general sense, but I can’t say that I don’t find it interesting to see how they continue to mainstream gay people into society. I don’t talk much about assimilation here on the blog, and that’s mainly because I don’t think it’s possible to avoid this kind of assimilation anymore. With the equality we’ve been fighting for all this time there comes a price, and with that price comes changes in gay culture as we’ve always known it. In other words, you’re not going to see or hear anything about drag shows, prison parties, Sunday afternoon tea dance, or anything even remotely related to gay culture on TV shows like MF or in magazines like FC.

And I think many gay people crave this heteronormative lifestyle. So why shouldn’t FC put up a stupid, ridiculous feature with two gay dads the same way the do with hetero people? They’ve been doing this for years with hetero people and making fools out of them. It’s only fair we get our turn now.

You can read more here about Family Circle, if you find that sort of thing interesting. 

 Michael Sam Cut From Cowboys

This one bothers me. The Dallas Cowboys cut openly gay pro football player, Michael Sam from the practice team, after being there since 9/3 and never making the 53- man roster. Previously, he was cut from the SL Rams.

 ‘Sam, the first openly-gay player in the NFL, was a seventh-round draft pick of the Rams,’ the statement continued. ‘He spent all of the offseason and training camp with the St. Louis before being released and signed to the Cowboys’ practice squad.’ 

The team noted the spot will be filled by linebacker Troy Davis, a second-year professional. 

Sam used Twitter to thank the team. ‘I want to thank the Jones family and the entire Cowboys organization for this opportunity, as well as my friends, family, teammates, and fans for their support,’ he wrote

You can read more here. Sam goes on to make a gracious comment, without a hint of bitterness. He plans to continue his career as a pro player.

There’s not much more about this story yet, and it seems as though no one wants to even touch the subject. I wonder why. Maybe they should all start reading Family Circle’s “Modern Life” section of at the NFL.

Downton Abbey Gay Cure

One of the things I enjoy most about historical shows like Downton Abbey is the way we can reflect on the idiocy that was supposed to be correct back in those days. I was watching The Knick last night and the cure for a drug addiction was giving the addict heroin. I’m not joking about that. And in the upcoming season of DA the gay character, Thomas Barrow, is supposedly going to get injections that will cure him from being attracted to men. The word gay wasn’t used until the 1970’s and I hate using it in reference to same sex situations prior to that.

Julian Fellowes said in an interview with ITV, ‘He falls for the quackery that this can be cured, that he can get rid of this dumbbell he is dragging around with him. His fortitude takes him through a period of incredible physical discomfort.’ 

‘The result he seeks is impossible – it’s not to be obtained by any medical treatment, it was just quackery.’

Unfortunately, there are still quacks out there who believe gays can be cured.

You can check out the rest here.  

 Ariana Grande On Catholicism and Gay Brother Frankie

Pop singer, Ariana Grande, disclosed that she renounced her Catholic roots in support of her openly gay brother, Frankie Grande. For those who don’t know, Frankie is a talented performer who was recently on Big Brother this past summer. I can’t recall the name of the play, but he just landed a new gig on Broadway.

 ‘When my brother was told that God didn’t love him I was like, “OK, that’s not cool,”‘ she said in an interview with Sunday Telegraph magazine. 

‘They were building a Kabbalah center in Florida so we both checked it out and really had a connection with it.’ 

She said since renouncing Catholicism for Kabbalah, her life has changed for the better.

Although no one in our families has done anything similar, Tony and I are non-practicing Catholics for the same reasons Ariana left the church. If we ever decided to adopt a child I would want him/her to grow up with some kind of religion, but it wouldn’t be Catholicism. I know most practicing Catholics do support gays, and I even know a few priests who do, too. But the big picture is more important in a case like this.

One thing is certain, you never have to wonder why the Catholic church seems to be losing people as each year passes.

You can read the rest here.

 Ring My Bells by Ryan Field
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‘Sam, the first openly-gay player in the NFL, was a seventh-round draft pick of the Rams,’ the statement continued. ‘He spent all of the offseason and training camp with the St. Louis before being released and signed to the Cowboys’ practice squad.’
The team noted the spot will be filled by linebacker Troy Davis, a second-year professional.
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