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Gay Marriage finds Bipartisan Alliance in Senate, Ryan Field Books

Gay Marriage finds Bipartisan Alliance in Senate

Ever since SCOTUS overturned Roe vs Wade, the senate has been working to codify same sex marriage in case SCOTUS decides to overturn same sex marriage on us. 

And this week the senate is set to approve a bipartisan same sex marriage legislation that’s being referred to as the Respect for Marriage Act.

Supposedly, this would protect same sex marriage just in case a judge like Clarence Thomas decided to overturn the 2015 landmark ruling of Obergefell vs Hodges that recognized same sex marriage on a federal level.

You can read more, here. It goes on to discuss Clarence Thomas in-depth, and also discusses just how important this bill is to gay couples. If SCOTUS ever reversed their ruling on same-sex marriage it would devastate and ruin the lives of millions of people. 


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What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

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“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

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Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]


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Cuba on Same Sex Marriage and Family Rights, Ryan Field Books

 Cuba on Same-Sex Marriage and Family Rights

This is pretty straightforward. Cuba’s assembly passed an update on its family law, which could lead to legalized same-sex marriage and many more protections for many people, including women and the elderly. 

The new Families Code will be put to a referendum vote on September 25 after being debated in community meetings earlier this year, where organisers said 62 percent of participants expressed their support.

Here’s more.  Just like here in the US, the biggest opponents are churches. 


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Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

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“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

Why You Shouldn't Compare My Gay Marriage To Your Abortion, Bette Midler's Cruel Tweet About Women Breastfeeding, Ryan Field Books

Why You Shouldn’t Compare My Gay Marriage To Your Abortion

Before I get into any of this I’m not fond of the idea of overturning Roe. Even though I believe abortion is going to go down in history as one of the worst and darkest things about our society, I do support the right to choose. 

With that said, I see so many people comparing same-sex marriage to abortion and I’m sick of it. The celebration of my marriage should not be compared to your abortion. No one does this with hetero marriages and I am tired of seeing it done to same-sex marriages. 

Ever since the entire Roe vs Wade comments were leaked, people have been wondering about how this might affect same-sex marriage. Well, here is a good piece from a reputable source that doesn’t think same-sex marriage is in any danger…at least according to what Alito said. 

In plain English, Alito argues that abortion is dramatically different from cases involving marriage, because abortion involves harm to a non-consenting party, the “potential life” 

And then it goes on to say this…

It represents two people ordering their lives, their property, and their finances around the existence of the legally recognized marriage relationship. This is profoundly different from abortion

Here’s more.  In short, the entire piece is about how different same-sex marriage is from abortion and I highly suggest reading it in full. But mostly, I don’t want my celebration of life…my marriage…confused with your abortion. That’s not fair to any gay couple.


Bette Midler’s Cruel Tweet About Women Breastfeeding

My sister breastfeed her kids for so long that my brother-in-law had to step in and tell her it was time to stop. Of course, he did it in a nice way and my sister knew it was time to stop anyway. My one nephew was almost 3 years old and it was getting to be too much. But my sister is a woman who could breastfeed, very easily and very well. Not all women can breastfeed, for various reasons, and it’s not fair to shame any woman for not breastfeeding. Unlike my sister, my own mom couldn’t breastfeed. 

Here’s what Midler said…

“TRY BREASTFEEDING! It’s free and available on demand.”

Here’s a link to the Tweet.  Frankly, I think there’s something wrong with her. That was just mean and uncalled for. 

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Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



Activists and Gay Marriage Decision; The Relentlessly Gay Yard; New Era For Gay Rights

Activists and Gay Marriage Decision

I hope everyone realizes that SCOTUS is going to rule on whether or not gay marriage should be legal across the board, this month. Most people who understand the constitution believe it’s unconstitutional to deny same sex couples legal marriage. This is why I was never in favor of people voting on things like this. I don’t want my civil rights determined by the average person in the US the same way I wouldn’t want the rights of a Christian conservative to be determined by the average person. The is why we have a constitution.

In any event, here’s an article that talks about how activists are preparing for the SCOTUS ruling.

New Mexico Pastor Steve Smothermon says he is ready to go to jail to protect his religious freedom. And he is not the only one.

Smothermon is one of more than 50,000 people who have signed a pledge to engage in social disobedience if the U.S. Supreme Court issues a ruling this month that would legalize same sex marriage across the country.
“We want to help people, but we are not going to be forced by the government and society or the politically correct to say we are going to believe in it,” said Smothermon, senior pastor of Legacy Church in Albuquerque. “If they said, ‘Listen pastor, we are going to put you in jail if you don’t honor this.’ I am going to say, ‘Then put me in jail.’ “
What can you say to that? Put him in jail then.
You can read the rest here. It’s an interesting article that goes into more detail about the history of same sex marriage and how it has been handled by both political parties over the years. And things seem to be constantly changing.
Growing support for same sex marriage among young Republicans, polling data and the fact it is already legal in 37 states and the District of Columbia is enough for some in the party to say it is time to let the issue go.
The Relentlessly Gay Yard
This is where I have to wonder about gay news publications. I saw this in one online gay publication and didn’t know it went this far into detail. Evidently, a straight woman’s yard in Baltimore has been dubbed “relentlessly gay” and neighbors want her to tone it down…or else. Yes, a straight woman was targeted for having a yard that is too gay. 
After the woman was threatened by neighbors she posted the note and it’s receive a lot of attention. 
Then she started a gofundme campaign seeking $5,000 dollars for more rainbow yard ornaments and she’s received $12,000 so far.

Needless to say… I need more rainbows… Many, many more rainbows….
So, I am starting this fundraiser so I can work to make my Home even More “relentlessly gay” If we go high enough, I will see if I can get a Rainbow Roof!
Because my invisible relentlessly gay rainbow dragon should live up there in style!

Only one comment from me. Before Tony and I lived in a private home, we lived in a town house community for the first ten years we were together. There were HOA rules that everyone had to follow. Strict rules. I’m talking Catholic school rules. Those rules ranged from having ONLY tan umbrellas outside to approval of all landscaping. You couldn’t put up colored Christmas lights, only white lights. As far as I know there is no HOA in this woman’s neighborhood so maybe the neighbors that find her yard art offensive should move to places that police these things.
New Era For Gay Rights
A lot of people think that if SCOTUS rules in favor of legalizing same sex marriage all of our problems are over. However, there is a lot to consider.
There are a number of ongoing realities to take into account. There is no federal law protecting L.G.B.T. Americans against discrimination in employment, housing, or public accommodation. That means that, in some places, they can be legally married but then legally fired for doing so. The prevalence of serious health issues and homelessness among L.G.B.T. youth remains disproportionately high. And the global human-rights abuses against L.G.B.T. people are, of course, staggering.
The rest is here. It’s an interesting article that takes what you already know to another level. I don’t always link the the New Yorker because I often find them too elitist…pee elegant…for my own taste. However, this mentions a few interesting points that everyone should know.

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Marriage Update; Thin Matt Bomer; Debbie Reynolds Loves Gays

 

Photo: The photo is in the public domain, and no, that’s not the book review team from Dearauthor.com on the way to BEA. It’s a still with Debbie Reynolds from the film, The Affairs of Dobie Gillis.


Marriage Update

There’s so much going on right now I think these abbreviated stories that link to longer pieces help people keep up with what’s going on with issues like gay marriage. Behind the scenes, there are people working hard in all states to push this forward so all gay couples in all states can achieve equality. In some cases, others are rushing to keep gay couples from becoming equal.

In Oregon, a gay judge said no to The National Organization of Marriage (NOM) so they can’t intervene in defense of Oregon’s same sex marriage ban.

McShane, who is openly gay, held a hearing on two consolidated lawsuits challenging the constitutionality of the ban.
Read more: http://www.towleroad.com/#ixzz31nBjy6nU

NOM is going to appeal.

They’ve been busy in Idaho, too.

Idaho Governor Butch Otter is also on his way to the Ninth Circuit U.S. Court of Appeals. Otter is appealing the decision Wednesday by Chief U.S. Magistrate Judge Candy Dale to deny his request that she stay her decision striking the state’s ban on same-sex marriage.
Read more: http://www.towleroad.com/#ixzz31nCV64Y5

And in Arkansas, the state Supreme Court turned down the Attorney General’s request for a stay on a ruling that two state laws on same sex marriage are unconstitutional.

The high court said that, for procedural reasons, the supreme court does not yet have jurisdiction. Responding to the attorney general’s argument that county clerks around the state are uncertain as to whether they should issues licenses or wait for the results of an appeal, the supreme court noted that Judge Chris Piazza’s ruling said nothing about a separate Arkansas law “and its prohibitions against circuit and county clerks issuing same-sex marriage licenses.”
Read more: http://www.towleroad.com/#ixzz31nDUXlna

In Los Angeles, the executive director of the Gay and Lesbian Center spoke about ENDA and religion.

“Religious freedom does not include the freedom to oppress other people. These kinds of fundamentalist forces are behind efforts to gut what laws we do have in this country that protect LGBT people from discrimination….Even our own Employment Non-Discrimination Act—the only federal law currently being proposed to protect LGBT people—includes a broad religious exemption. It was put into ENDA eight years ago, expressly to weaken it. It does not belong there today.” Former NGLTF Executive Director Matt Foreman said Monday he thinks LGBT leaders should “pull the plug” on the current version of ENDA, saying it is “essentially a lifeless corpse.”

Read more: http://www.towleroad.com/#ixzz31nF4dmqr

And this piece about South Carolina is very interesting. Evidently, funding was cut for books at two public universities that show positive gay images, in the amount of $70,000. But that funding was recently restored with the stipulation that the money go toward teaching about the constitution and “founding documents.”

I actually don’t totally disagree with that one. One, I’m not sure exactly what they consider positive gay images and I might no agree with what they do consider positive. That’s highly relative. Two, I personally think there are too many fools in colleges won’t don’t know enough about the constitution or anything related to American History. If they knew a little more than maybe they’d vote a little wiser.

Frankly, I would be happy just to see no books with negative gay images.

Thin Matt Bomer

In more news about the upcoming HBO film, The Normal Heart, Ryan Murphy claims he was upset when he saw how thin Matt Bomer got for his role in the film. The Normal Heart is a play about AIDS by Larry Kramer.

‘I would say,”Please get your blood checked! … I was nervous,’ Murphy admitted in an interview this week on HuffPost Live.

Murphy arrived on the set the first day back after the break and saw an emaciated Bomer getting a haircut.

‘When I saw him, I was emotional. I was very upset,’ he said. ‘We were all concerned. We would check on him every five minutes. Matt was just so physically weak. Je had to sit in the same place between lighting set-ups just so that his energy could be brought out in the performance. It was a very moving thing to witness.’

I’m not sure how emotional I would get if I saw any actor lose extra weight, especially one who is getting paid very well. A few good meals and he’ll pack those pounds back on soon enough. But maybe that’s because I’ve witnessed, first hand and up close, the fresh hells of people in full blown AIDS, with PCP, IRIS, and all those other AIDS complications that have nothing to do with going on a diet to lose weight to get paid huge money to play AIDS.

Sorry, I take that topic very seriously. And I don’t like it when Hollywood blows smoke up my butt. Bomer will be just fine. Ryan Murphy should have given him a Lorna Doone.

There are better ways to show that Matt Bomer was doing an excellent job acting in that role and playing a person with AIDS.

Debbie Reynolds Loves Gays

And blood is red.

‘I have always since 1948 hired dancers and creative people who were gay,’ says the 82-year-old icon. ‘They are like my children.’

‘I didn’t know anything about why it had to be why we are different. I was probably like everyone else, no knowledge about we are born this way. I had to learn and I have learned. You have to want to learn to get rid of your prejudices. You can’t want to stay that way.’

I don’t mean to sound cynical. I understand Reynolds comes from a generation where gays were not discussed openly, and I also respect her for all the things she’s done and been through in her life. I actually read her autobiography a while back and I think it was one of the best, most honest, non-fic books I’ve ever read. She’s far more than what you would expect, and she’s no one’s fool.

I just hope she still loves me when I eventually write my m/m erotic romance movie tie-in novel titled, Banging in the Rain.

You can read more here.

Smoking Makes You Gay; Oregon Baker No Gay Cakes; E-books Rise

Smoking Makes You Gay

I figured this would happen sooner or later. I only wish I’d posted about it so I could link back now. It seems some genius in Amsterdam did another brilliant “study” and is claiming, according to “research says,” women who smoke are more likely to give birth to gay children. Actually, he claims it’s lesbians, if there are amphetamines involved, too.

Dick Swaab, professor of neurobiology at Amsterdam Biology, claims a woman’s lifestyle while pregnant can have an impact on the development of their babies.

He suggested if they live a stressful life, take drugs, drink or smoke can lower a child’s IQ and ‘influence’ the sexuality.

He also claims stress can do this, and even better, men with older brothers are more likely to be gay.

You can read more here.

My mom never smoked, and was never placed in situations where she was exposed to cigarette smokers for any length of time. There are four siblings in my family: three brothers, one sister. The sister is straight, two brothers are gay. And the youngest brother is straight. My mom also never smoked, drank, or took illegal drugs but has been diagnosed with cancer three times.

I guess now they can some up with yet another way to tax cigarettes based on this Dick study.

Oregon Baker No Gay Cakes

Update: The state of Oregon has determined Sweet Cakes by Melissa’s policy was illegal. A local newspaper placed cake orders for events that were far from religious and the owner of the bakery accepted them all, one of which included a cake for a celebration of some kind of pagan ritual. You can read it in full, here. The fact that this bakery would take orders for things that obviously should have gone against their religious beliefs, but turned down a gay wedding cake, is as sad as it is amusing.

I’ve posted about establishments that refused to make wedding cakes for gay couples, here, or have refused their services to gay couples. And there’s another winner in Oregon who is following the same pattern. This one is really using religion and spirituality to promote discrimination and hate, and according to this link she’s been open about it on Facebook.

In her latest Facebook post, Melissa Klein thanked supporters for their prayers and wrote: ‘I feel such a peace with all of this that is going on. Even though there are days that are hard and times of struggle we still feel that the Lord is in this. It is His fight and our situation is in His hands.’
 
 
The two women who were refused their services have filed a complaint, the state checked it out, and they are all going to settlement talks.
 
The baker thinks her religious freedom is being violated. How gay people getting married is in any way stopping her from practicing her faith doesn’t even make sense. In the quest for equal rights and legalized same sex marriage I have yet to hear one single supporter speak out against religious freedom.
 
E-books Rise
 
This is an interesting article worth reading because it makes a few claims that don’t actually seem to make sense…or are not backed up well enough to make sense. First, it states e-books are rising in popularity, but that most people are reading both print and e-books. Second, it claims that only 4% are reading e-books only. The problem I have with this is that I have yet to meet anyone who started reading e-books who actively went back to reading print books, too…at least not in equal intervals. I’m not talking about someone who reads e-books and once in a while for various pragmatic reasons (someone gives you a gift) goes back to reading a print book once in a while. I’m talking about people who have invested a lot of money in an e-reader or a tablet in order to save money on digital books. But I could be wrong about that. I just haven’t met anyone who does this. Typically, when someone starts reading e-books they become so in love with it they only go back to print books when it’s absolutely necessary.
 
This didn’t make sense to me either:
 
According to the survey, the “typical American adult” read or listened to 5 books in the past year, and the average for all adults was 12 books.
 
I’d like to know what they consider a “typical American adult.” I don’t think most Americans read five books a year. And the average is even more questionable.  
 
It’s a very confusing article and study, but I do agree with the fact they state that e-books seem to spark a rise in reading in a general sense. The most interesting thing about e-books is that once you start reading them you become eager to read even more. And no one can complain about that. I saw no mention of reading on iPhones, which is primarily how I, and a lot of other people I know, read now.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Madonna's Racial Slur; Jeff Kaufman: The State of Marriage

Madonna’s Racial Slur

I almost hate putting up a title like that because I don’t for one single minute think Madonna Ciccone is in any way a racist. But an exchange between Maddona and her son, Rocco, on Instagram shows her using the N-word and it’s done in a way that leans more toward cultural endearment than racially charged slur.

Madonna is apologizing for using a racial slur to refer to her white son on Instagram.

On Friday night, she posted a picture of her 13-year-old son Rocco boxing and used a hashtag that contained a variation of the n-word.

When fans objected, she defiantly called them haters, but in a statement to The Associated Press on Saturday she was contrite, saying: “Forgive me.”

I’ve posted about the Q-word…Queer…a few times and how I’m not too thrilled with it because of the associations. But I do know, both intellectually and emotionally, that the people who use the Q-word, as in LGBTQ…for the most part are not making gay slurs, they are not anti-gay, and for them it’s more of a political statement. I never take offense. The same thing could be said for the N-word with respect to context. I don’t use it. But I know there are people who do use it and they mean no racial harm. It’s all about context.

You can read more here.

Jeff Kaufman: The State of Marriage

I was speaking to film producer, Jeff Kaufman, on the phone the other day and he mentioned he was heading to the Sundance Film Festival this weekend. I can’t say why I was speaking to him yet, but I will next week. But I’m also posting about Kaufman because he’s working on a documentary right now about same sex marriage and equal rights. And this is just one of his projects, among others like, The Savoy King, that has garnered more than a few excellent reviews.

I also realized I don’t post enough about indie films, at least not as much as I do about indie books and authors, and most of the films Tony and I watch are actually indies.

Thanks perhaps to a life that was painfully brief in comparisonto peers like Duke Ellington, Swing Era bandleader Chick Webb is underappreciated by casual music lovers. Jeff Kaufman‘s enjoyable, convincing The Savoy King seeks to remedy that, and will likely draw some attention solely for the startling lineup of actors providing voice-over talent. Though unlikely to see many big-screen bookings outside the fest circuit, the doc is rewarding for any Swing fan and, given some colorful and heartstring-pulling elements, will likely inspire filmmakers in the audience to wonder about biopic rights.

You can read more here. And you can read more here about Jeff Kaufman and Floating World Pictures. The documentary he’s doing is titled, The State of Marriage, and that second link will lead you directly to that page.

More to come on The State of Marriage very soon.

Madonna’s Racial Slur; Jeff Kaufman: The State of Marriage

Madonna’s Racial Slur

I almost hate putting up a title like that because I don’t for one single minute think Madonna Ciccone is in any way a racist. But an exchange between Maddona and her son, Rocco, on Instagram shows her using the N-word and it’s done in a way that leans more toward cultural endearment than racially charged slur.

Madonna is apologizing for using a racial slur to refer to her white son on Instagram.

On Friday night, she posted a picture of her 13-year-old son Rocco boxing and used a hashtag that contained a variation of the n-word.

When fans objected, she defiantly called them haters, but in a statement to The Associated Press on Saturday she was contrite, saying: “Forgive me.”

I’ve posted about the Q-word…Queer…a few times and how I’m not too thrilled with it because of the associations. But I do know, both intellectually and emotionally, that the people who use the Q-word, as in LGBTQ…for the most part are not making gay slurs, they are not anti-gay, and for them it’s more of a political statement. I never take offense. The same thing could be said for the N-word with respect to context. I don’t use it. But I know there are people who do use it and they mean no racial harm. It’s all about context.

You can read more here.

Jeff Kaufman: The State of Marriage

I was speaking to film producer, Jeff Kaufman, on the phone the other day and he mentioned he was heading to the Sundance Film Festival this weekend. I can’t say why I was speaking to him yet, but I will next week. But I’m also posting about Kaufman because he’s working on a documentary right now about same sex marriage and equal rights. And this is just one of his projects, among others like, The Savoy King, that has garnered more than a few excellent reviews.

I also realized I don’t post enough about indie films, at least not as much as I do about indie books and authors, and most of the films Tony and I watch are actually indies.

Thanks perhaps to a life that was painfully brief in comparisonto peers like Duke Ellington, Swing Era bandleader Chick Webb is underappreciated by casual music lovers. Jeff Kaufman‘s enjoyable, convincing The Savoy King seeks to remedy that, and will likely draw some attention solely for the startling lineup of actors providing voice-over talent. Though unlikely to see many big-screen bookings outside the fest circuit, the doc is rewarding for any Swing fan and, given some colorful and heartstring-pulling elements, will likely inspire filmmakers in the audience to wonder about biopic rights.

You can read more here. And you can read more here about Jeff Kaufman and Floating World Pictures. The documentary he’s doing is titled, The State of Marriage, and that second link will lead you directly to that page.

More to come on The State of Marriage very soon.

Phineas Swann-Our Vermont Wedding; 12 Year Old Boy in Utah Fights for Marriage

Phineas Swann-Our  Vermont Wedding

In December, Tony and I got engaged and we celebrated with a few very close friends and kept it very small and quiet. But we did make plans for a wedding later this month, at one of the first Inns in Vermont where gay weddings started taking place from what I gather. We did this for several reasons. One, we’ve been to a lot of places but never to Vermont. In fact, it’s the only state in New England we’ve never set foot in and we’ve both always wanted to go. Two, we did consciously choose this place for the historical significance and because it’s in Vermont. And that’s not something we do often. But in this case, and because we’re keeping it small, we both wanted to do something special. After all, it’s been a twenty-one year engagement and we still won’t be legally married when we return to our own home state after the wedding…Pennsylvania.

We could have gone to New Jersey, Delaware, Maryland, or even New York. But this place sounded so nice. And the owners are just wonderful.

I still don’t have the exact dates, but it will be at the end of this month. I spoke with the owner of Phineas Swann today and explained we’ve been dealing with family issues and she was more than willing to work with us…and around our dates. This place is also very pet friendly, and both our dogs will be coming with us.

In any event, here’s some info about Phineas Swann. There’s a photo of another gay couple at the bottom. This is the page dedicated to wedding information:

The Phineas Swann Bed and Breakfast Inn is the perfect place to celebrate your intimate Vermont wedding – we specialize in elopement packages and small to medium size weddings of up to 75 guests. Intimate weddings for both straight and gay couples are our specialty!

At the Phineas Swann Bed and Breakfast Inn, we believe your Vermont wedding should reflect your personal style, so we offer several choices for your wedding event. Call our wedding coordinator Lynne at (802) 326-4306 and learn more!

I will definitely be posting more, and with photos.

12 Year Old Boy in Utah Fights for Marriage

I’ve been following what’s been happening in Utah with gay marriage and posting about it here. There’s a page full of posts with links. And now there’s news of a 12 year old boy in Utah who is out there actively supporting, and fighting for, the rights of his two moms.

“I’m here today to talk about love, family and equal rights,” Hackford-Peer told the cheering crowd. “Some people do not believe that I’m from a loving family because my moms are gay — they are wrong. I love my moms, and my moms love me and my brother, unconditionally.”

I don’t think I’ll ever stop feeling as if I’ve been gutted when I read things like this. On the one hand I think this kid is spectacular, and on the other it kills me to see him even having to do something like this. To defend what most people just take for granted is painful to see.

You can read more here.

Hawaiian Gay Votes Against Gay Marriage; Indy Mayor Against Marriage Ban

Hawaiian Gay Votes Against Gay Marriage

One of Hawaii’s openly gay representatives, Jo Jordan, made history this week by being the first openly gay person in power to actually vote against marriage equality in Hawaii in what has often been a contentious fight at best. The reason why she voted against the bill is not because she’s anti-same sex marriage. It’s really because she isn’t certain the law is as strong as it should be and as a legislator her solitary goal is to create an absolute law that can’t be challenged down the line.

“I’m not here to protect the big churches or the little churches, I’m saying we can’t erode what’s currently out there. We don’t want to scratch at the religious protections at all, because if we don’t create a measure that’s bulletproof, or as close to bulletproof as possible, then the measure will go to the courts. And they will interpret it however that may be. A judge will make assumptions and make a ruling, and that will become the law of the land. So you really want us to create the legislation.”

As anyone can imagine, Jo Jordon has not been all that popular with the LGBT community for obvious reasons. I’m not even sure how to comment on this one. I would imagine that if a few other LGBT people in power agreed with Jordon and backed her up it might sound less extreme. However, right now same sex marriage is about to pass in Hawaii in spite of Jordon’s protests, and Hawaii will then become the 16th state to have legalized same sex marriage.

I guess only time will tell if she was right or wrong.

Here’s another article about Hawaii, and why this bill is so significant in Hawaii. I didn’t know the fight for same sex marriage actually began in Hawaii years ago.

But the step in Hawaii has special resonance because the contemporary battle over same-sex marriage was born here two decades ago. Such marriages existed nowhere when Ninia Baehr and Genora Dancel, along with two other couples, filed what seemed like an utterly quixotic lawsuit seeking a marriage license. To near universal shock, Hawaii’s Supreme Court granted them a victory in 1993, ruling that a refusal to allow gay and lesbian couples to marry was discriminatory and illegal.

I’m not really surprised that I don’t remember this. To be perfectly honest, I’d already been with Tony for a full year in 1993 and at the time actual legal marriage was not even on our proverbial radar. In other words, we didn’t think that way because we had been conditioned to not think that way. And people like is basically did the best we could with circumstances we didn’t even know we could change.

Indy Mayor Against Marriage Ban

The Mayor of Indianapolis, Greg Ballard, came out publicly against Indiana’s gay marriage ban and he signed a resolution to prove it. As it stands now, in Indiana marriage is between one man and one woman, and now conservative groups want to make this even stronger by creating a measure that would make it even more difficult to legalize gay marriage there.

Indiana already limits marriage to being between one man and one woman. Indiana lawmakers are set to consider amending that definition into the state constitution during the upcoming session.
If successful, the measure would then be placed on the ballot for consideration by voters next November.

They also want to leave it up to voters, much like Gov. Chris Christie wanted to do in NJ recently.

If successful, the measure would then be placed on the ballot for consideration by voters next November.

The problem with leaving something like this up to voters is that anyone who is anti-gay and doesn’t want to see LGBT people have the same equal rights as everyone else gets to decide the rights of innocent people and that’s just not fair. I personally don’t want a Christian bible thumping zealot deciding my fate, just as that same Christian bible thumping zealot would not want ME deciding his or her fate.

What is highly interesting about this whole thing with Greg Ballard, at least it is to me, is that Ballard is a Republican mayor, and yet he is still against a marriage ban. Ballard has also been a guest, in a front row seat, at a gay wedding.

When Democratic councilor Zach Adamson recited his wedding vows at a multi-faith ceremony in Indianapolis last weekend, Republican Mayor Greg Ballard and wife Winnie were there in the front row to witness it.

Adamson and his long-time partner Christian Mosburg had gotten legally married in Washington, D.C. on Oct. 19, but they returned to Indiana — where same sex marriage is banned — last weekend to repeat their vows.

You can read more here.

As a side note, I’ll be posting something brief about New Hope Mayor, Larry Keller, very soon with the recent results of the local election. I posted about how Mayor Keller refused to marry a gay couple here in PA last month in several places. His decision started local firestorm that probably won’t end for a long, long time.