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Zachary Quinto Talks about the Fear of Gay Men in the Entertainment Industry, Ryan Field Books

 Zachary Quinto Talks about the Fear of Gay Men in the Entertainment Industry

I’m always posting about the way the entertainment industry hires straight white writers to write gay content, and then they hire straight actors to play gayface. It’s a form of cultural appropriation straights don’t even want to acknowledge. The most recent example is Harry the Styles playing gayface in The Policeman. Harry can’t even figure out why “labels” are important to many of us…because we are proud to be gay. They did the same thing with that awful Call Me by Your Name film. 

And it continues to happen. I read that there’s a new film about Leonard Bernstein with straight Bradley Cooper who wrote the gay content and is playing gayface. The only one in Hollywood, so far, to admit that’s it’s wrong to culturally appropriate gay men has been Tom Hanks. He said he would never play gayface again, because that’s wrong. 

With that said, I’m linking to a piece now where Zachary Quinto talks about the fear of gay men in the entertainment industry and a few things about politics and democracy. He also talks about why he came out in 2011. He wrote this quote on his blog:

“living a gay life without publicly acknowledging it” was “simply not enough to make any significant contribution to the immense work that lies ahead”. 

He mentions no names, but he does express concern about closeted gay actors in Hollywood who refuse to live authentic lives. They get into why Quinto took in more significant roles like The Boys in the Band, a gay classic. And finally they discuss openly gay Ryan Murphy and how be became so successful. 

You can read more here. It’s long but there’s a lot more to learn. And Quinto sounds like a fascinating man. 

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]


The Wizard of Pride




The Straight Pride Parade

Jeffery Dahmer Reporter Claims the Netflix Series, "Dahmer," Missed Many Facts of the Case, Ryan Field Books

 Jeffery Dahmer Reporter Claims the Netflix Series, Dahmer, Missed Many Facts of the Case

Tony and I are watching the Dahmer series on Netflix right now and we know that the entire story has been fictionalized and dramatized for the sake of entertainment. They took a great deal of “artistic license.” And I think in most cases with a story like that you can expect a certain amount of fiction. I remember following this case back in the 90s and even I saw a few flaws. But I don’t mind that. The one thing I do mind is the way they try to make Dahmer out as a suffering poor soul. I’ve even seen younger people on Twitter claim they feel so much remorse for Dahmer. 

And that’s just ridiculous. Those of you who want to feel sorry for him, don’t. The guy was a despicable monster, plain and simple. He murdered countless numbers of gay men and did absolutely hideous things with their dead bodies. He had no respect for his victims whatsoever. He would meet them and talk to them at length, slowly bringing them into his hideous horror story. 

This new article now to which I’m linking is about the reporter, Anne E Schwartz, who broke the story back in the 90s. And she claims that many things in the series are not factual. As I said earlier, I didn’t expect them to be factual. But it seems they took a great deal of artistic license in some cases. 

For example, she claims that Dahmer’s apartment didn’t smell like dead bodies. She said it smelled like chemicals. She also claims that Ryan Murphy’s interpretation of the police officers as racist and homophobic is also false. That I find a bit hard to believe. Of course, the police aren’t going to admit to it, but I remember what it was like back then and I experienced that kind of homophobia. The police used to hunt gay men down in cruise areas, criminalize them, and treat them like dirt. So she’s clearly coming from a place of white privilege and she hasn’t a clue as to what gay men experienced in the 90s. Straights will often do this, especially straight women…not a clue. 

In any event, you can read more about all this, here. It’s not earth-shattering but it’s interesting.


 How to Be a Good Gay Bottom 


A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]


The Wizard of Pride




The Straight Pride Parade

"Glee" Changed Public Opinions; Benham Brothers Again; Gay Flag Burns

“Glee” Changed Public Opinions

Here’s a link to an article about how Ryan Murphy thinks Glee changed public opinions. I think it’s an article many of us can relate to…but only to a certain extent.

I have been told that seven years ago, before Glee and Modern Family and Transparent and Orange Is the New Black, that only 18 percent of Americans believed that a gay or nontraditional family was entitled to equal rights. Today, that number has grown to 52 percent. That is a great change, that is a great victory, shockingly in such a short amount of time, but there is more work to be done.

You can read more here.

I’ve been critical of Glee at times and a few of the other TV shows above because I found them to be self-indulgent. But more than that, they don’t always represent all LGBT people…especially those gay men who are still closeted, still without a voice, still facing discrimination, and still living with shame. A good deal of this shame comes from the stereotypes about gay men that make it harder for everyone. But in a general sense I do think Glee did help change public opinion and did help educate the mainstream in a positive way. 

I can tell you one thing for certain. I personally face insults, homophobia, and discrimination every day of my life and we have a long way to go.

Benham Brothers Again

I once posted about these two Benham brothers when they had their HGTV show yanked because their homophobic beliefs surfaced and went public.  Since then they claim gays have been waging war against Christians…allegedly. It’s hard to parse this article because it’s written in such a highly subjective way.

“We had so many people from the gay community reaching out to us and one man in particular from the city of Chicago reached out,” David Benham said during a panel discussion last week. “After a little conversation back and forth, I found out he loved baseball … and I got him tickets to a Cubs game. He shot me a Facebook post and said, ‘I was not expecting that — and I’ve been thinking a lot about this. I’ve chosen to walk away from my lifestyle.’”

So much about this doesn’t make sense. First, it’s kind of sad to think a straight man would be shocked to find out a gay man loves baseball. Maybe the comment about walking away from his lifestyle was sarcasm…because gay isn’t a lifestyle.

But this is what I mean about how far we still have to go. I’m not only insulted by the Benham brothers, but by the gay person who wrote about all this. We also need to focus a little more on finding a few more professional gay journalists and not these self-indulgent cliches.

You can read more here.

Gay Flag Burns

This story is disturbing, because it shows how innocent gay people can be subjected to hate and discrimination when they least expect it. A straight guy got drunk and set their rainbow flag afire.

It was just after midnight when Ariann and Jess were woken up by some commotion; they initially thought they were being burglarized. Jess ran to check on their two girls, and Ariann made it to a window just in time to see Mayfield’s van drive off.

Already shaken, the couple heard more noise shortly thereafter, and when they looked out the window, saw Mayfield running down the street, the flag’s flames aglow in the night.

The guy who did this claims he was so drunk he didn’t know what he was doing and the gay flag wasn’t something he targeted in particular. But even if that is true, tell me what gay person in the world would NOT be scared to death watching something like that happen outside their home?

You can read the rest here. 

Meadows Are Not Forever








"Glee" Changed Public Opinions; Benham Brothers Again; Gay Flag Burns

“Glee” Changed Public Opinions

Here’s a link to an article about how Ryan Murphy thinks Glee changed public opinions. I think it’s an article many of us can relate to…but only to a certain extent.

I have been told that seven years ago, before Glee and Modern Family and Transparent and Orange Is the New Black, that only 18 percent of Americans believed that a gay or nontraditional family was entitled to equal rights. Today, that number has grown to 52 percent. That is a great change, that is a great victory, shockingly in such a short amount of time, but there is more work to be done.

You can read more here.

I’ve been critical of Glee at times and a few of the other TV shows above because I found them to be self-indulgent. But more than that, they don’t always represent all LGBT people…especially those gay men who are still closeted, still without a voice, still facing discrimination, and still living with shame. A good deal of this shame comes from the stereotypes about gay men that make it harder for everyone. But in a general sense I do think Glee did help change public opinion and did help educate the mainstream in a positive way. 

I can tell you one thing for certain. I personally face insults, homophobia, and discrimination every day of my life and we have a long way to go.

Benham Brothers Again

I once posted about these two Benham brothers when they had their HGTV show yanked because their homophobic beliefs surfaced and went public.  Since then they claim gays have been waging war against Christians…allegedly. It’s hard to parse this article because it’s written in such a highly subjective way.

“We had so many people from the gay community reaching out to us and one man in particular from the city of Chicago reached out,” David Benham said during a panel discussion last week. “After a little conversation back and forth, I found out he loved baseball … and I got him tickets to a Cubs game. He shot me a Facebook post and said, ‘I was not expecting that — and I’ve been thinking a lot about this. I’ve chosen to walk away from my lifestyle.’”

So much about this doesn’t make sense. First, it’s kind of sad to think a straight man would be shocked to find out a gay man loves baseball. Maybe the comment about walking away from his lifestyle was sarcasm…because gay isn’t a lifestyle.

But this is what I mean about how far we still have to go. I’m not only insulted by the Benham brothers, but by the gay person who wrote about all this. We also need to focus a little more on finding a few more professional gay journalists and not these self-indulgent cliches.

You can read more here.

Gay Flag Burns

This story is disturbing, because it shows how innocent gay people can be subjected to hate and discrimination when they least expect it. A straight guy got drunk and set their rainbow flag afire.

It was just after midnight when Ariann and Jess were woken up by some commotion; they initially thought they were being burglarized. Jess ran to check on their two girls, and Ariann made it to a window just in time to see Mayfield’s van drive off.

Already shaken, the couple heard more noise shortly thereafter, and when they looked out the window, saw Mayfield running down the street, the flag’s flames aglow in the night.

The guy who did this claims he was so drunk he didn’t know what he was doing and the gay flag wasn’t something he targeted in particular. But even if that is true, tell me what gay person in the world would NOT be scared to death watching something like that happen outside their home?

You can read the rest here. 

Meadows Are Not Forever








Racism In Gay Community; Winter F-Buddies; Who Is Finn Wittrock?

Racism In Gay Community

In this article, a guy named Nelson Moses Lassiter talks openly about being gay and African American in the gay community. He makes a few good points, and it’s a topic I think isn’t discussed often enough.

When I came to terms with my sexuality, it took a very long time. I used to just debate with myself back and forth and I used to, I was actually angry that I was gay and I was angry at God for making me gay, there were just so many things that were going through my mind. So when I came to terms with everything, I wanted to go out and just meet guys and make friends and kind of find my place in the world, knowing that the world that I came from just wasn’t the one for me, it wasn’t accepting. Eventually I started meeting people and making friends and there was this one time I was actually just chatting with this one guy and the conversation was going great and there was definitely a really cool connection there, there were a lot of similarities and I said, “Oh, do you want to grab a drink some time?”

And he goes, “You’re really sweet, you’re really nice, but I don’t date black guys.”

He was just like, “Well, they’re just not my type.”

I was like, “Well what does that mean, you don’t like me because I’m black? That’s weird.”

That just blows my mind, that anyone could be so insensitive and stupid…and racist. And that’s partly because I did date black guys before I met Tony and the only reason I dated those guys was because I really liked them. We had a good time together.


You can read the rest here. 

Unfortunately, the comment thread devolves into more racism, however, at least it’s being discussed.

Winter F-Buddies

We all know the F stands for Fuck. I just didn’t want that coming up in a google search so I censored the title a little. It’s an article with six reasons about why we need a good fuck buddy in the wintertime. The least of which would be the obvious: to keep you warm.

Here’s one of the six:

It’s beneficial to your mental health

To the surprise of no gay man on earth, a study published in Social Psychology and Personality Science earlier this year found that people who engaged in regular casual sex reported lower stress levels and higher levels of happiness.

I know this may sound a little insensitive, but I think there’s a good deal of logic to this one. I come across a lot of vicious people online during the course of a week and I often wish they had good fuck buddies. Make them much happier online. And there’s this really good looking guy I follow on twitter who is always talking about insomnia. I just want to tell him he needs a good shtup and he’ll sleep like a baby…but of course you can’t say something like that. You can only hope and wish they figure it out on their own eventually.


Check out the rest here. What I like most about this is that it takes sex and focuses more on the emotional/mental rather than the romantic/conventional. In some cases, in real life, it’s not such a bad thing. I also think this is important for all four seasons, not just winter.

Who Is Finn Wittrock?

He’s the creepy mamma’s boy on American Horror Story: Freak Show. The one who took off his pants a few times and set twitter afire. Because white undies on older twink will do that. I actually think his acting abilities are better than his looks, but that’s subjective. However, he made a few interesting comments about the creepy character he’s playing. If you haven’t watched the show this season a good example of what his character does would be a recent scene where he murders all the yentas at a tupperware party, chops them up, and throws them into a swimming pool. And now Finn Wittrock is talking about how his character on AHS isn’t a villain and he most certainly is NOT gay.

In his own words…very amusing:

But I can never think of him as a villain. I can never think of him as evil. I just have to keep getting under his skin. But he realizes that his purpose in life is to kill. It doesn’t get more dangerous than that. Because I actually found that the killing is not out of hatred. He kind of likes the people that he kills. He wanted to be a performer, and somehow that’s transformed into murder, so he thinks of it as a performance, like he’s fulfilling his destiny.”

Not “somehow.” Ryan Murphy transformed him into a murderer as if picking it out of the sky for pure sensationalism.

Here’s the part about not being gay…

— American Horror Story: Freak Show‘s Finn Wittrock discussing murderous Dandy with Vulture and when asked if his character is gay, replies, “No, no, definitely not. He just likes girls with two heads, you know? One head’s never enough.”

And that’s who Finn Wittrock is. You can read the rest here and please don’t miss the comments.

No Ryan Murphy is just a very terrible writer, because now Dandy just comes off as joke at the expense of gay stereotypes.

Yup.

It’s like Murphy changed his mind early this season from Dandy being Jeffery Dahmer to being full on Norman Bates. Ryan Murphy writes the worst gay characters on television so this doesn’t surprise me.

Ryan Murphy TV is kind of like meatloaf at a cheap campy diner. The portions are huge, it looks great at a glance, and it’s always highly exaggerated with plenty of filler. But you get sick of it sooner than you thought you would.

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Normal Heart Review; Fake Memoir; Straight Guys on Grindr

Normal Heart Review

Although The Normal Heart hasn’t even aired yet, there’s already a review. For the most part, the review talks about director Ryan Murphy’s past experience and his general style. In fact, it talks so much about Murphy I started to wonder if this was a review about Ryan Murphy or The Normal Heart. Eventually, after circling the proverbial airport for what seems like forever, the reviewer does get into the actual film with a few comments I expected to read.

But if you do watch the film, just be aware that every few minutes you may wish that someone — anyone — other than Murphy had directed it. Murphy is a self-indulgent director and not particularly rigorous or disciplined. He serves his own muse, not necessarily the needs of the material, and though it’s a classic, Kramer’s play is also unwieldy and outright clumsy at times.

This has always been my biggest worry about The Normal Heart movie. Self-indulgence and Ryan Murphy. I wanted to like The New Normal. I really did. But it was just too self-indulgent for me with all that politics and cliché. It seems to happen to some in Hollywood after a certain amount of success…remember Linda Bloodworth Thomason? Her show, Designing Women, reached a point where the political self-indulgence was unbearable. Most viewers agreed.

Of course I’m going to watch The Normal Heart myself tomorrow night. And I never let any review for anything sway me in one direction or another. But I do “get” this review. I just hope I find this review was a little too harsh on Murphy.

You can read the entire review here. The performances are highly praised.

If I like the movie I’ll post a review next week. If I don’t, I might go silent this time.

Fake Memoir

This isn’t exactly new, but the ruling is new and I thought I’d post about it because it seems to happen so often. Author, Misha Defonseca, faked a non-fic story about being a Holocaust survivor in one of the THE lowest forms of publishing deception ever, and she was recently ordered to pay back the sum of $22m to her publishers.

Misha Defonseca, 76, admitted to making up the stories which appeared in her 1997 book Misha: A Memoire of the Holocaust Years, which told of how she travelled across Europe after her parents were taken by the Nazis.

Even worse: she’s not even Jewish.

You can read more here.

And here’s a story asking why it took so long to expose her.

Why did people take her seriously for so long? Raising questions about the authenticity of someone’s Holocaust testimony, however implausible it seems, is a joyless task and one that puts you in unsavory company. In this case, however, Misha’s story so strained credulity that historian Debórah Dwork ( Children With a Star) and literary scholar Lawrence L. Langer ( Holocaust Testimonies: The Ruins of Memory) raised questions about the book even before it had been published. Both had been asked to blurb Misha, and both warned the publisher that Defonseca’s story was a fantasy.

That’s interesting.

I think people generally want to trust and believe…they crave it. And some like the author above are just born rotten to the core and take advantage of others.

Straight Guys on Grindr

I’ve actually never been to Grindr. I know I should probably check it out, but it’s not at the top of my priority list. But many single (and some married) gay men frequent Grindr regularly and you often hear a variety of different comments about it. This next article is interesting because it shows the reaction straight men have when using Grindr for the first time.

Almost all of them are amazed at how ‘convenient’ the service is, saying how much easier their sex lives would be if there were a Grindr for straight people.

‘Girls don’t even take their tops off on Tinder,’ one says, ‘that’s like frowned upon.’

Their sex lives might be easier, but I’m not sure they would be safer. I’ve posted about several violent and deadly incidents all related to Grindr hook-ups. (How can you NOT take that seriously?)

I posted about a young man from Canada who was raped and robbed in the Philadelphia area a few weeks ago after he hooked up with someone through Grindr  and now there are two more incidents in the Philadelphia area to report that are even more frightening. This time an adorable, talented young guy was murdered, and a public prosecutor was arrested for allegedly raping a sixteen year old boy…all allegedly through Grindr.

In any event, I guess I’ll have to check out Tinder now.

Mark Ruffalo The Normal Heart; Colin Firth On Rupert Everett; Matt Bomer Too Beautiful for Normal Heart

Mark Ruffalo The Normal Heart

Mark Ruffalo who is straight playing gay, talks about why he did The Normal Heart, and how he feels about it.

“I was growing up during the AIDS epidemic, and I saw how cruel and how insensitive people were to these people suffering. It sort of has been forgotten in our culture what happened during those times.”

Many of the pioneering HIV/AIDS activists depicted in the film, he added, “brought us to the point today…gay marriage is as common almost as marriage right now.”

“That was an important story that needed to be told, and I was honored to tell it with the folks that I got to tell it with, and having Larry Kramer’s words to convey it,” he noted.

I’m looking forward to The Normal Heart. I grew up gay during that time, too. But I think this is what happens sometimes when straight actors play gay roles. It’s not that they can’t play the parts. It’s just that when it comes time for publicity they say things that often make me wonder. Matt Damon did the same thing after the Liberace HBO movie and I commented in a post about that in March 2013. (And I thought Damon was wonderful in the film.) I think if Ruffalo were gay he would have said a few different things. First, the comment about marriage. Tony and I are legally married in only a few states, not in PA where we live and pay taxes. One mile away in New Jersey we are legally married. Gay marriage outside New York and other metropolitan areas is far from being as common as “marriage” right now. But more than that, marriage is marriage. Period. 

And please don’t tell me I’m scrutinizing this too much. No one dares to say that to Whoopi Goldberg or Oprah Winfrey if they know what’s good for them. I want the same respect.

You can read more here.

Colin Firth On Rupert Everett

This bit of news won’t change the world. But what the hell. Sometimes it takes a while for actors to open up, and when they do it can be interesting. This time it’s Colin Firth talking about working with Rupert Everett years ago when most of us were still kids.

‘We started off as friends, then it went horribly wrong about two weeks in,’ Firth recalled. ‘He was incredibly unpleasant.
 
He described me as a “ghastly guitar-playing socialist.” I did not have a guitar.’
 
But the two managed to patch things up and work together again – most notably in Shakespeare in Love. Says Firth: ‘We’re great friends now.’

There’s more here. Best buds forever.

Matt Bomer Too Beautiful for Normal Heart

No one can promote anything better than Larry Kramer, so there will be more than a few posts and links until The Normal Heart airs on HBO this May. When it comes to self-promotion Kramer makes one pushy gay male m/m romance author I know look tame in comparison. (Sorry, no names.) This time the link is to an article where Larry Kramer thought Matt Bomer was too beautiful to play this part in the film but Ryan Murphy didn’t agree.

To convince Kramer, Murphy arranged for the two men to meet and the 36-year-old Bomer admits that going in, he was ‘starstruck’ because he had first read The Normal Heart as a 14 year old.

‘It was like meeting one of the Beatles,’ Bomer tells the magazine.

‘He was so central to my understanding and development. We talked for a really long time.’ Kramer, who has waited nearly 30 years for his acclaimed play about the early days of the AIDS crisis to be turned into a movie, sent Murphy an email immediately after his meeting with Bomer which simply stated: ‘He’s the one.’

Frankly, I’m still not over the fact that Matt Bomer isn’t going to be Christian Grey.  But I’m glad he snagged The Normal Heart role.

You can read more here.

Bryan Singer Accused of Rape; The Normal Heart; Asking Out Same Sex

Bryan Singer Accused of Rape


Given a post I wrote about an unnamed TV personality in the UK who was mentioned in a story about a nineteen year old guy who committed suicide, this article is interesting because they don’t seem to be holding anything back.

LOS ANGELES (AP) — A man who claims he was sexually abused by “X-Men” franchise director Bryan Singer said Thursday that he reported the molestation to authorities at the time, and he does not know why charges were never pursued.

With his voice occasionally wavering, Michael Egan III described abuse he said began when he was 15 years old at the hands of Singer and others. He told of being plied with drugs and promises of Hollywood fame while also enduring threats and sexual abuse in Hawaii and Los Angeles over several years.

And here’s another article that talks about why the accuser decided to wait so long to file a lawsuit.

 

I can’t comment on this in-depth. But everything he says seems to back up what all people who have experienced abuse at young ages say.

 


 

The Normal Heart

As the date for the TV premiere of The Normal Heart draws nearer, we’ll be seeing more of these clips with Matt Bomer. 

Directed by Ryan Murphy, “Heart” features an all-star cast, including Julia Roberts, Mark Ruffalo, Matt Bomer and Jim Parsons, and is based on Kramer’s acclaimed 1985 play about the rise of the HIV/AIDS crisis in New York.

 

It should be interesting to see how it’s done.

 

Asking Out Same Sex

I guess this was meant to be amusing, but I’m not so sure given the potential for misunderstanding and possible backlash. A man and woman asked people of their same sex for phone numbers, aggressively coming on to them, and filmed the responses.

In these two videos that are making their rounds on the Internet, a man and a woman individually approach different people of their same sex asking for their numbers and insinuating that they’d like to take them on a date. Oftentimes awkward, the differences between the responses of the men and women are perhaps the most interesting part of these videos.

It’s not something I would do.

American Horror Story; Is Miley Cyrus a Victim?

American Horror Story

The new season of American Horror Story is coming up this week, and Ryan Murphy thinks it could run for 10 seasons. The show also has a big gay following for some reason, and DRVs in my house have already been set to record the entire series. Jessica Lange is back, and Kathy Bates is also part of the cast.

Jessica Lange plays Fiona, the Supreme witch of her generation, which means she has almost unlimited power — except that she can’t seem to stop herself from aging. Her daughter Cordelia, played by Sarah Paulson, is also a witch, but she’s chosen to stifle her powers and live a more “normal” life. Of course normal in a Ryan Murphy show means running a school for “exceptional young ladies,” a.k.a. young witches, in New Orleans, home of voodoo and the destination for witches fleeing Salem so many years ago.

“American Horror Story: Coven” premieres Wednesday, Oct. 9 at 10 p.m. ET on FX.

Read more here…

Is Miley Sirus a Victim?

In a Guardian article by Melissa Bradshaw, there are some interesting comments about whether or not Miley Cyrus is a victim, and whether or not Sinead O’Clonner was justified in penning Cyrus an open letter. I still think the main issue is dealing with people who have mental illnesses. However, if I were attacked online, non-stop, like O’Conner is attacking Cyrus, I’m not sure I would be so forgiving.

Perhaps you can already see the problem here. It is not women’s bodies or images of them that cause the exploitation of women or violence against women. The perpetrators are to blame. If women’s bodies were to blame for any violence or exploitation of women, then rapists would be justified in claiming their victims were asking for it by looking attractive. The rhetoric of objectification actually feeds that which it claims to protect women against – the equation of female nudity with exploitation and violence. What the world needs is not the idea that women are precious victims. Women need to be able to behave in a sexual way without exploitation or violence being considered a necessary outcome.

You can read more at this link.

I often post about rape culture here. However, I think these issues when coming from a woman’s POV, hold more impact than anything I could say or comment about. But I will add this: Cher started performing in less than nothing costumes many years ago, she shocked people at award ceremonies, and continued to do this well into her fifties. I would like to see how Cher would respond to Sinead O’Conner if O’Conner were to pen her an open letter. In fact, I would like ringside seats.