Gay Bears, Otters, and Pigs; Gay Tops Checking Out Their Own Bottoms; Slamming Mayim Bialik For Sharing Her Views On Monogamy

Gay Bears, Otters, and Pigs

This is part of gay culture, too: don’t judge.

It’s about unusual T-shirts with various themes that represent certain segments of gay culture. And I think they’re interesting.

Silber Fuchs NYC is a family business created by Denis and Donald (pictured, left to right), both of whom were born and raised in NYC. (The name is “silver fox” in German and pronounced “silber fooks.”) Their goal is to “create fun, slightly naughty designs,” several of which are featured below. We asked Donald to wax poetic about Pride, and his answers may shock you.

You can see some of them here.

Gay Tops Checking Out their Own Bottoms

Okay. This one you can judge.

The ubiquitous Davey Wavey invited a handful of self-described “tops” who claim they’ve never “taken the time to take a mirror and go down between [their] legs and really take a look at [their] own behinds.” And here are the results.

Here’s the rest.  Don’t miss the conversation about buttholes on the comment thread.

Slamming Mayim Bialik For Sharing Her Views On Monogamy

First, I think it’s important to point out that Mayim Bialik has a Ph.D. in neuroscience from UCLA, not to mention some excellent acting credits with stellar TV shows. So she’s not an idiot.

Bialik recently posted a video on you tube where she discusses open relationships and monogamy, and one of those writers who do not represent all gay men decided to slam Bialik in this article to which I’m linking below. And what’s really even more amusing than his argument is the way people responded to him in the comments.

I’m not even going to bother excerpting anything from this one. But you can read all of it here.

Here’s one of the reader replies in the comments…

Mayim Bialik continues to prove she’s incredibly intelligent and wonderful. Keep hating.

Frankly, I tend to agree with Bialik on this one. But whether you want to be monogamous or not is a personal choice and no one should ever judge what someone else believes.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Track Athletes Come Out As Gay; Sean Hayes Is Proud Of Gay and Queer; Gay Man Who Fled Chechnya Speaks Up

Track Athletes Come Out As Gay

This is a nice article, but I did want to mention something first. I’ve seen people on social media wonder why they always add “as gay” after they mention coming out. That’s because people are coming out these days as lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and even asexual. It’s not only gay men who “come out.” There are others, too, that fall under the LGBTQ umbrella. I don’t think that’s being too PC. It’s just being accurate.

With that said…

Justin Rabon and Brad Neumann are athletes representing the University of Minnesota’s track team.

They are also both gay and have been together for more than two years.

You can read more here. There are some nice pics, too. With all the vituperative news these days, I wish there were more stories like this.

Sean Hayes Is Proud of Gay and Queer

Here’s another example of what I was talking about above. Sean Hayes is proud to have the words gay and queer associated with his name. Personally, I’m only proud to have the word gay associated with my name. I’ve always been proud to be gay, but I don’t identify as queer. But that’s simply a matter of opinion and I respect the way Hayes feels. I respect and understand anyone who wants to be called queer. It just don’t want to be called that. So it’s even more important than ever to associate people with how they identify.

Sean Hayes begins the revival of Will & Grace as an openly gay man.

But that was not the case during the show’s initial eight-year run – something Hayes has major regrets over.

‘You know, I never really understood – nor took the time to realize – the impact I didn’t have by keeping my life to myself,’ Hayes writes in an essay for for LGBT Pride Month. 

There’s more here.

Gay Man Who Fled Chechnya Speaks Up

Here’s a story with some substance for a change. I don’t know about anyone else but I’m more than interested in learning first hand accounts of what’s happening in Chechnya.

Azmad said he at first managed to escape to Moscow, before being allowed to move to France last week, where he is now intending to seek asylum.

‘At home, I didn’t know calm and tranquility.’

He said gay people in Chechnya live in constant fear and that few take the risk of meeting up with others online. He spoke of one young man who was found naked and bound after being raped and then killed.

‘Gradually, gay people began to disappear. It was systematic.’

Here’s the rest. As I said, this is a first hand account from someone who has lived this nightmare. At least we’re getting this information. But I want more.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Larry Kramer’s Novel "Faggots"; Sex Expert Says Ditch Grindr and Go Out Gay Cruising; Did Walt Whitman Pose For Risky Nude Photos

Larry Kramer’s Novel “Faggots”

I know absolutely nothing about this novel by Larry Kramer, so this is a learning experience for me, too.

All his writing, including his screenplays, his controversial novel, Faggots, and even The Normal Heart, is at its core about the pursuit and potency of love. The poignant secret hiding in plain sight is that Larry Kramer is a romantic.

You can check that out here. It’s much more involved.  The comments read more like short book reviews…some loved it some hated it, which is the best any writer can hope for.

I’m going to get a copy of Faggots and read it myself now. I don’t always agree with Kramer on everything, but I have absolute respect for him and for what he’s accomplished.

Sex Expert Says Ditch Grindr and Go Out Gay Cruising

There’s this sex expert that seems to think cruising in public is something all gay men need to experience. One of the things he’s missing is that cruising in public, as it has always been known, was only a means to an end because gay men couldn’t meet each other in public like straight people. I think a lot of that is changing now, and not just because of hook up apps. I know gay people who meet in ordinary places like the supermarket now…or on the beach…and they start dating just like straight people. So that need to lurk and cruise around in dark, dangerous places where it’s illegal and you can catch almost any STD is losing ground for more reasons than hook up apps.

Cottaging, cruising, visiting the tearooms, or whatever you want to call it often takes place on college campuses and in shopping malls, parks, and rest stops on the highway. You can also find guys cruising on beaches, wooded areas, on the street, and in adult bookstores.

 He believes every gay man ought to give cruising a try once in their life.

“When you’re ready to try something a little more exciting,” White writes, “put on some loose shorts or tight jeans, and head to a local cruising spot.” 

You can read the rest here. I’m not disagreeing with this sex expert. I’m just saying I think the world for gay men has changed so much for the better in the past 10 years there’s no need to do anything illegal anymore. ..unless you don’t have any other options. And I know some of you don’t. I’m not judging that.

Did Walt Whitman Pose For Risky Nude Photos?

Last week it was Walt Whitman’s birthday and I saw many tweets about it. It trended for a long time. However, I think I was the only one who actually tweeted about the fact that many claim Whitman was gay. And that he had a lover named Peter Doyle. And people on Twitter responded well to my tweets. So I found this article even more enlightening.

To mark the occasion, Whitman superfan Hugh Ryan at Broadly has been poring over what appears to be a series of seven nude black and white photographs of a man who bears a striking resemblance to the great American poet.

The photos, labeled simply “Old Man,” were taken 141 years ago by famed artist and photographer Thomas Eakins (July 25, 1844 – June 25, 1916). They depict a slender man (with just a slight ponch) with a long white beard fully naked from several different angles: full-on, in profile, and from behind. 

There’s more here, with a link to the actual photos. I’m not going to speculate on this one.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Gays Fighting Over Ivanka Trump; Jilted Bride Finds Out Groom Is Gay; Leo Varadkar Openly Gay Leader In Ireland

Gays Fighting Over Ivanka Trump

I think this story shows how divided the US is right now. The other day Ivanka Trump tweeted something in favor of Gay Pride Month, and a lot of people on Twitter shot her down.

In case there were any lingering uncertainties about how the vast majority of LGBTQ people feel about Ivanka Trump, those doubts can now be laid to rest.

Yesterday evening, the first daughter tweeted how “proud” she was to support her LGBTQ friends and Americans and wishing everyone a “joyful” Pride month:

However, as you can see from the comment section with this article not everyone agrees. It’s an interesting discussion that shows how divided we are right now. I’m not sure that’s a bad thing either. At least no one can accuse Americans of apathy anymore.

Here’s the rest, with the comments. 

Jilted Bride Finds Out Groom Is Gay

A lot of people don’t realize that there are successful marriages with straight women and gay men. I know several personally. I never ask about the dynamics because that’s none of my business, but they seem to work. So when I see articles like this I sometimes wonder.

A young woman in the UK is auctioning off an expensive engagement ring because she found out her finance is gay.

Please overlook the fact that the author of this article, Graham Gremore, doesn’t know the difference between they’re and their. I always quote verbatim, as I first see it published.

After doing a little investigating, she learned that Brad and her husband-to-be were, in fact, sleeping together. So she called the wedding off.

To make matters worse, even though their no longer getting married, they ex-fiancés are still stuck living together because neither of them has enough money to move out. 

Here’s the rest. I get into this topic a great deal with my next book, “Treading With Care,” which is about gay men remaining in the closet and still maintaining relationships with straight women.

Leo Varadkar Openly Gay Leader In Ireland

Whenever something like this happens I think it’s important to mention it, and to spread the word. You don’t hear about this from the mainstream media…ever. They will completely ignore it.

Leo Varadkar has become Ireland’s first gay leader.

The 38-year-old, who will also be Ireland’s youngest ever PM, is the new Taoiseach and leader of the ruling Fine Gael party.

He beat Minister for Housing Simon Coveney in the final vote.

The Dubiner previously served as the Minister for Social Protection and Minister for Health, and was first elected to parliament at the age of 27.

Here’s the rest, with a photo. There’s an interesting discussion on the comment thread about the differences between head of state and head of government. All I know is he’s got a great position of leadership and he’s gay. Bravo. This is what Pride Month is all about.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Mr. Leather Was Bullied; Pastor Accused Of Beating the Gay Out of Him; Gus Kenworthy Cries About Coming Out

Mr. Leather Europe Was Bullied

I guess this can happen to anyone. It even happens in gay relationships.

“In 2001, I found myself in a relationship with a man who could only be described as a malevolent bully.”

The man he was with, King writes, was “emotionally, mentally and physically abusive and systematically broke me down over the next five years, to a point where my confidence was at an all-time low.”

You can check out the full story here. There’s a photo of Mr. Leather Europe. It goes way more in-depth.

Pastor Accused of Beating the Gay Out of Him

This one is about a guy who was beaten for over two hours after he left church one Sunday. The idea behind it was that they wanted to beat the gay demons out of him.

Now, the church leader who orchestrated the attack, 58-year-old Brooke Covington, is on trial. She, along with five others, is accused of kidnapping and assault. If convicted, she faces up to two years behind bars.

Fenner testified that he thought he was “going to die” as we was being choked by one church member while Covington screamed, “God said there is something wrong in your life!”

Here’s the rest. Brooke Covington claims Fenner never told her to stop.

Gus Kenworthy Cries About Coming Out

Gus Kenworthy is making news again and this time he’s talking about what it was like to come out of the closet. I get into this a great deal in my next book, tentatively titled, “Treading With Care.” I don’t think most people can even begin to understand what it’s like for anyone to come out…which is why there are still so many in the closet.

“And after a while I just realized that the pain of holding on to this lie and the pain I was having from being in the closet was actually greater than the fear of just saying f**k it and letting go and so I was just like, screw it, I’m gonna come out…The following season was my best year competitively. I didn’t miss a podium. The sponsors were all super supportive.”

You can read the rest here.  

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


They Canceled "Sense 8"; Parents Outraged Over LGBT Yearbook Page; Body Cam Footage From Inside Pulse Nightclub Massacre

They Canceled Sense 8

They canceled the TV show Sense 8 and the interwebz are going berserk. Of course I loved that show and I’ve posted about it here on the blog several times, but that’s not the main reason why I’m a little frustrated over the cancellation. I can’t help wondering if it has something to do with the gay content…or rather, the way the gay content was presented to the public. Shows like this never seem to last, where shows that promote all the stereotypes seem to thrive. It’s interesting.  

Netflix unceremoniously canceled “Sense8” on Thursday, sending shockwaves through the Twitter community. In other words, fans were pissed.

Show producers took the high road about the bad news, posting the following on the social media platform…

Here’s the rest.  It’s actually one of the first shows where I’ve seen that kind of gay content, instead of the mash up nightmare they do on TV shows like Modern Family and Will and Grace. But I’m not totally surprised either. This is what happens to TV shows that portray gay people a different way…think Looking…and don’t follow the stereotypes, because they just don’t want to see it.

Go Hollywood, again.

Parents Outraged Over LGBT Yearbook Page

It always amazes me when I hear straight people say they don’t know why we have to talk about these things in schools, as if the only thing about being LGBT is related to sexuality. They have no idea there even is something called “Gay Culture.” They think anything related to LGBT is adult content, and that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

The truth is most LGBT people know who they are at very young ages. I knew I was gay around 5 years old. Of course I spent the next 15 years trying to ignore that, but it would have made things a lot easier if I’d seen things like this is my high school year book.

Ealier this month, several parents were furious and disgusted to discover a yearbook page dedicated to Atasocita High School’s LGBTQ students. 

In order to be more inclusive, yearbook editors profiled four queer youngsters, who shared their experiences coming out over a rainbow-hued background.

Now, irate parents have been writing into to threaten and insult the yearbook’s Editor-in-Chief, recent graduate Kyle Armour. 

It’s interesting when straight people talk about having gay things “crammed” down their throats. As if gay people don’t know what it’s like to live their entire lives having heteronormative things crammed down their throats every single day of their lives.  

You can check this out here

Body Cam Footage From Inside Pulse Nightclub Massacre

About 11 hours of body footage from what happened inside Pulse nightclub has been released. It comes with a warning.

Police in orlando have made public 11 hours of officer body-cam footage from the mass shooting at Pulse Nightclub on June 11, 2016. 

49 people were killed when Omar Mateen opened fire inside the popular nightlife spot. 

ABC’s Nightline gained access to the previously unseen footage to use during an episode looking back on the attack one year later. 

You can read more here.  It’s hard to believe it’s been almost a year.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Gay Hairdresser Actor On The Comback Dies; Grindr Bought Out By Chinese Gaming Company; Colton Haynes Gets Engaged, Again

Gay Hairdresser Actor On The Comeback Dies

I was a faithful fan of the TV series starring Lisa Kudrow titled, The Comeback. I particularly liked Robert Michael Morris who played Kudrow’s personal assistant. More often than not, he was the one who grounded her character and kept her steady. And he was also one of the few people on whom she could trust and depend.

So I hated to see this.

Robert Michael Morris, the actor who played a flamboyant gay hairdresser on HBO’s The Comeback for two seasons, has died. 

He was 77. 

Morris was a standout on the comedy starring Lisa Kudrow who tweeted on Tuesday (30 May) that the actor was ‘an example of what a truly good soul looks like.’ 

You can read more here. There’s a photo, too.


Grindr Bought Out By Chinese Gaming Company

It’s amazing to think an app like this would command this kind of money.

The Chinese gaming company that bought a majority shareholding in gay dating app Grindr last year has announced its intention to buy the remainder of the company.

In January 2016, Beijing Kunlun Tech bought a 61.5% stake in Grindr for $93million – putting a value of $155million on the business.

You can check that out here. 

Colton Haynes Gets Engaged, Again

Colton Haynes already got engaged once, but I guess he wants to get as much publicity out of it as possible. And you know what? Good for him. Straight celebrities have been doing this kind of thing for years and years, so frankly I’m thrilled to finally see a gay celebrity do the same.

This past Sunday, 28-year-old Colton decided to return the favor. 

While the couple was hanging out by the pool over the holiday weekend, he dropped a diamond encrusted ring into Jeff’s glass of Dom Perignon while Sonny and Cher’s “I Got Your Babe” played softly in the background.

Here’s more, with a photo.  

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field