John Hurt Who Played Quentin Crisp; San Francisco’s Sexual Revolution; How Many Hours Do You Spend On Hook Up Apps?

John Hurt Who Played Quentin Crisp

I hated to read that John Hurt passed away. I always liked him, especially when he played the role of Quentin Crisp. He did this during a time when there wasn’t much gay content out there, and when no one even knew who Quentin Crisp was.

I was actually inspired so much by Hurt’s performance as Quentin Crisp, I wrote Crisp into one of my books that’s titled, A Christmas Carl. I once posted about that, here.

The storyline revolves around love, hope, miracles and second chances. When the ghost of Christmas Yet to Come pays a visit to the main character, Carl Smite, it’s actually the ghost of gay icon Quentin Crisp. Mr. Crisp was born on December 25th, and I thought it would be fitting to help him show Carl how he can get back the love of his life, save his son from a horrible death, and spend the rest of his life giving to others instead of taking from them.    

That particular book now has a new home with Riverdale Avenue Books in NY. I’ll post a link below.

In any event, the world lost another wonderful performer. But he left a wonderful legacy, too.

Hurt’s role in the made-for-TV film The Naked Civil Servant, first broadcast on ITV in 1975 – as well as its 2009 follow-up, An Englishman in New York – identified him with Crisp, whose transgressive public behaviour had made him a pioneer in altering public attitudes to homosexuality in the late 1960s and early 70s.

It’s a good tribute to Hurt, and you can read the rest of it here.

RIP

San Francisco’s Sexual Revolution

I’ve always been very curious about the sexual revolution, mainly because I wasn’t part of it.

 No city has as salacious a past as San Francisco (and we mean salacious in a good way) with early watering holes like The Dash. This establishment opened in 1908 and was almost immediately shuttered after a scandal involving a city judge propositioning the cross-dressing staff. Through the 30s, Finocchio’s and Mona’s were the place for drag acts, both for kings and queens.

It’s a long article, and it goes on to mention a few more things I didn’t know about. You can check that out here. 

How Many Hours Do You Spend On Hook Up Apps?

I can tell you for certain, I don’t spend any hours on hook up apps. Although I’ve been posting about them for a while, I’ve never actually even used a hook up app. Evidently, I’m in the minority…or, maybe not??

“I am an out gay man living in an urban area,” he writes in a new confessional published by the Guardian. “I spend hours and hours online looking at hook-up ads on my phone. In addition, I hook up a lot. It is wonderful and awful in equal measure.”

You can check that one out here. It goes on to talk about addiction and some other interesting things. But I found the comments even more interesting. Several people don’t even use hook up apps, and one said he only checked them occasionally. I know there are a lot of guys using them, but I wonder just how many are NOT using them as well. We never get that data in any magazine article.

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Penis Art Is Art, Too; Dude With Longest Penis On Earth; She Cut Off Her Lover’s Penis

Penis Art Is Art, Too

When I owned my art gallery in the late 90s here in New Hope, PA, I represented one adorable elderly woman artist with a thick German accent who focused strictly on penis art. She was amazing. She drew penises, painted penises, sculpted penises, and even designed soap penises. For her, it was all about the penis.

She was especially known for her gilded penises…which she referred to as her, “Golden Rod Series.” Her penis art came in all sizes, shapes and colors. Her work always sold for me, and to a variety of art clients who appreciated the male form, and she was never at a loss for inspiration. She truly made the most of her retirement years.

With that said, here’s a link to some interesting penis art on Etsy.

Here’s a link to Wiki Commons, titled “Erect Human Penis Art.” 

And here’s one called The Penis Art Gallery. 

These are just a few of several links out there, in case you’re interested. I found most of them fascinating.

Dude With Longest Penis On Earth

Here’s a recent story about the dude with the longest penis in the world.

Roberto Esquivel Cabrera, 54, from Saltillo, Mexico, has a penis measuring a colossal 18.9 inches when flaccid but has rejected the possibility of having a reduction.

He made headlines worldwide in 2015 after a video went viral showing him weighing his member to prove its authenticity.
You have to check him out here. The web site is SFW. And there is a twist to this story that I hate to reveal too soon. 
Evidently, this same dude has been promoting his penis a lot lately. In this article he claims his massive penis keeps him from working. There’s a video with this one, and you can see him walking down the street, with his penis swinging around…and you can see how he wraps his penis to keep himself comfortable. 
Again, there’s a twist to this story I’d rather not get into here on the blog. 
She Cut Off Her Lover’s Penis
This is recent news. It’s about a jilted woman who got so upset when her lover told her that he was marrying another woman she cut off his penis. 

She hatched a plot to stop him sleeping with the other woman by luring him to her home for kinky sex.

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But after blindfolding the 23-year-old guy, she grabbed a reaping hook and slashed off his penis.

Then she disappeared outside with it as her blood-drenched boyfriend wailed in excruciating pain.

There’s a twist to this one, too, much sadder than the one above. This took place in another country, and the guy was locked into an arranged marriage with no way out. So he didn’t even turn his girlfriend in. Instead, he claims that he cut off his penis on his own.

Now the girlfriend is facing attempted murder charges.

You can read the rest here. Unfortunately, doctors don’t think they’ll be able to reattach his penis.

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Have Lots and Lots and Lots of Sex; Mr. Clean Is One Hot Daddy; Chris Salvatore Cares For Elderly Neighbor

Have Lots and Lots and Lots of Gay Sex

I thought this was wonderful. Of course you have to “get” the context first, which many in the comments didn’t seem to grasp. However, I think the general point behind it is brilliant and empowering.

Davey Wavey interviewed LGBT Historian, Tim McCarthy, and McCarthy made some spot on comments…along with an abridged lesson in LGBT history.

Have sex. Have lots and lots and lots of sex. Sex has always been a revolutionary act, especially queer sex. It both honors the protest that’s required to stand up to the world around us, but it also honors and validates who we are. So, number one, if that’s all you can do, you’re still doing a great thing, okay?

But there’s so much more. I promise that’s not all this interview is about. You have to actually watch it to see what I mean. McCarthy talks about strength, caring, all the things that are positive about people who fall under the umbrella of LGBT.

You can watch some of the video here.

And, you can also read books about gay sex, love, and romance.


Mr. Clean Is One Hot Daddy

It’s Friday. Sometimes you need to just focus on the lighter side of life. Or, sometimes you just need to get away from creeps like that Milo Yiannapapadolapolis.

It’s a long-established fact that Mr. Clean is a stone cold fox. You know, as far as animated fictional brand mascots go.

But despite his reputation for bringing all the boys to the yard, we were simply not prepared for the newest commercial from the company, set to air during the Super Bowl.

You can check out the video here.

It’s actually funnier than it is sexy, at least I didn’t find anything sexy about it. But you might feel differently.

Chris Salvatore Cares For Elderly Neighbor

Chris Salvatore is a rare breed. He’s an openly gay actor in Hollywood, and, he’s got a huge heart.

As grotesque as the general landscape is out there, it’s important to remember that not everyone is a craven opportunist hoping to misdirect people from their blackened hearts.

Case in point: Openly gay actor Chris Salvatore, who, apropos of nothing, has taken in his 89-year-old neighbor Norma Cook (and her cat Hermes.)

There’s a lot more here, with photos and gifs.

We were caregivers for both my mother and father and I always tell people it’s one of the most rewarding things anyone can do in life. And when it’s over, you’ll miss that care-giving more than you ever imagined.

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Roxane Gay, Simon and Schuster, and Milo Yiannopoulos; RPI Marty Tyler Moore; Hate Crime Attack On Palm Springs Gay Couple

Roxane Gay, Simon and Schuster, and Milo Yiannopoulos

Here’s an article that’s been trending on Twitter all day. Evidently, feminist author, Roxane Gay, wasn’t thrilled with the fact that Simon and Schuster worked out a big book deal with gay conservative pundit, Milo Yiannopoulos.

Gay was scheduled to release How to Be Heard with TED in March 2018, but she told BuzzFeed News she “couldn’t bring herself” to turn in the manuscript after hearing Yiannopoulos’ book would be published by the same parent company. “I was supposed to turn the book in this month and I kept thinking about how egregious it is to give someone like Milo a platform for his blunt, inelegant hate and provocation,” Gay said.

While I support her strong beliefs, and even though I won’t be reading Milo’s book any time soon, I do support Milo’s right to get it published. But please don’t get me wrong, I applaud Roxane Gay for standing up for her beliefs, because I’m not fond of slick, clever political pundits like Milo who spin and twist and exploit situations and emotions for the sake of making a good, fast buck.  I just wanted to be clear about that. In general, that’s a huge issue in our society. So many people are too willing to trust these pundits…all of them.

I’m sure Roxane Gay will find a new home for her book. And if she doesn’t, she can contact me and I’ll pub it for her, in digital and print, and she can charge her readers less than Simon and Schuster would have.

You can read more about Roxane Gay here.

Simon and Schuster made their statement already about publishing Milo’s book.

“We do not and never have condoned discrimination or hate speech in any form,” the company said in a statement released Friday. “At Simon & Schuster we have always published books by a wide range of authors with greatly varying, and frequently controversial opinions, and appealing to many different audiences of readers. While we are cognizant that many may disagree vehemently with the books we publish we note that the opinions expressed therein belong to our authors, and do not reflect either a corporate viewpoint or the views of our employees.”

You can read more about that here.

RIP Mary Tyler Moore

I discovered The Mary Tyler Moore Show a few years ago on one of those cable channels that plays old sitcom classics all the time. The minute I started watching I was hooked. It’s hard to beat Moore’s brand of comedy, and it’s impossible to find her kind of talent anywhere these days. She was one of those people who are destined to be great.

“Today, beloved icon, Mary Tyler Moore, passed away at the age of 80 in the company of friends and her loving husband of over 33 years, Dr. S. Robert Levine,” her spokesperson Mara Buxbaum said in a statement. “A groundbreaking actress, producer, and passionate advocate for the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation, Mary will be remembered as a fearless visionary who turned the world on with her smile.”

You can read more about that here.

Hate Crime Attack On Palm Springs Gay Couple

This is a little disconcerting. We’re heading out to Palm Springs for the month of March and part of April. I’ll be tweeting and posting from the road about the trip. It’s a cross country road trip, with an 8 year old poodle and a 15 year old Westie we adopted a year ago.

And I just read about this…

Two men who attacked a gay couple in Palm Springs during Halloween weekend in 2015 have pleaded guilty. The crime may have contributed to the death of one of the victims who was a well-known gay rights activist in the area.

Christopher James Carr and Keith Edward Terranova have admitted to assaulting George and Christopher Zander near the city’s main gay nightlife district.

You can check this out here. Very sad story that goes into more detail. If something like this can happen in gay friendly Palm Springs, it can happen anywhere.

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Barry Jenkins Not Gay, and Moonlight Gay Film; Catholic School Boy Sext Scandal; Ryan Gosling’s Wax Sculpture Drama

Barry Jenkins Not Gay, and Moonlight Gay Film

I can hear you all groaning now, but this bothers me a little and I can’t let it go. When I post about these things, I’m not trying to be negative. It’s because I’m genuinely confused. It’s the second time this week I’ve seen it happen.

I know this film is thrilling everyone, and I will see it myself. But even if I love it, part of me will be disappointed, once again, that it wasn’t written by someone who is gay and knows the gay experience first hand. I just don’t see why we can’t get that basic PC respect when every other minority does.

It’s been incredible to watch Moonlight, director Barry Jenkins’ depiction of Black gay love and coming of age, make its way from art house darling to mainstream drama, racking up countless accolades and a recent Golden Globe win for Best Drama along the way.

And as far as conventional cinematic success goes, the last stop on the train is Oscarville. All year films are hyped as “Oscar contenders,” and more often than not it’s just a lot of hot air. Moonlight is the exception.

There’s more here. With photos.

Here’s more about Barry Jenkins the writer/director. 

It’s not that I believe straight men can’t write gay stories, but I’d really like to see gay people get the same PC consideration that other minorities receive. Because if this were any other minority, Meryl Streep would be giving a speech about it, and someone would be calling for a boycott of this film. And you know they would. Think back to the Stonewall movie.

Roland Emmerich‘s drama “Stonewall” comes with the tagline “Where Pride Began,” but for many LGBT advocates the indie film opening on Friday is not a source of pride but anger

And for the record, I’m not talking about straight women who write gay romance. I think that’s totally different than what’s going on here. The straight women who write gay romance absolutely love what they are doing, they do it from the heart, and they put a different spin on things in their own unique ways. They aren’t trying to mimic gay men. They’re doing their own interpretations. I just wanted to make that clear. And I think it’s an important distinction.

As you can see below they even admit in this article that most people assume Jenkins is gay.  I thought he was at first. It’s a natural assumption.

Maybe I’m wrong? Maybe we should just let straight men continue doing this for us? Come take my culture, and be glib about it while you’re at it, and make a lot of money. Have fun. Get Oscars. We’re nice people. We don’t mind. We’ll even help you do it.

Moonlight is being hailed as one of the best movies of 2016, and an instant LGBT film classic. Naturally, most audiences would assume that the director of Moonlight, Barry Jenkins is gay, but he’s actually straight. 

So do most people who see the movie assume that he’s gay? “They do! All the time.” replied Jenkins.

Catholic School Boy Sext Scandal

I posted about this before, too. Evidently, people still remember the Mike Yenni Catholic school boy sexting thing. They’re not letting Yenni off the proverbial hook either.

Well, during a 50-minute appearance on a midday radio show yesterday, the 40-year-old father of two was bombarded with questions from angry callers who wanted to know more about the whole sexting scandal.

There’s more here.

Ryan Gosling’s Wax Sculpture Drama

Some people aren’t thrilled about the new wax sculpture of Ryan Gosling.

 Madame Tussauds Berlin just unveiled their freshly-hewn Ryan Gosling wax figure, and it’s too much for the Internet to take.’

MTV? They couldn’t handle it: “Ryan Gosling’s New Wax Figure Will Strike Fear Into Your Soul,” warns the headline.

You can check that out here. There’s a photo of the sculpture. I don’t think it looks that bad. I’m sure it’s not as good as Gosling in the firm, hard flesh, but it works for me.

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"Call Me By Your Name:" Insulting Gay Hype or Real Gay Romance; Church of England and Gay Clergy; Transgender Kids Join Girl Guides

“Call Me By Your Name:” Insulting Gay Hype or  Real Gay Romance

Admittedly, I don’t have enough information about the movie, Call Me By Your Name, to speak about it as thoroughly as I would like to in this post, however, I will be following up on this one. And I think that’s because I thought we had moved on from the Brokeback Mountain days, where straight people wrote about gays, straight actors played gays, and everyone but gay people exploited gays. However, for all I know, I might love this film and I’m really not making any statements. I’m just wondering.

Just the fact that Armie Hammer is playing gay makes me wonder. Colton Haynes couldn’t have played the part? Seriously?  

Again, I’m not certain about Call Me By Your Name, and that’s mainly because I haven’t read anything in the gay presses yet. I depend on them for information like this and so far all I can find on Call Me By Your Name is media hype like this over-written review…

It’s summer, and Elio is 17, so obviously that field is love and sex. Elio is handsome, a beanpole topped with a thicket of dark curls, so he’s got the interest of some French girls staying nearby. He’s interested in them too, but is not pulled to them in the same way that he’s drawn inextricably to Oliver, the 20-something grad student boarding at Elio’s family’s house while he works with Elio’s father.

That’s what makes me wonder. No young gay man is “pulled” to girls. I would imagine there are bisexuals who are, but not gay men. We’re interested in men. How do I know that? I know that because I was a young, horny gay teenager who couldn’t stop thinking about men. And the only reason I’m wondering is because this film is being aggressively promoted as a “gay” film.

Now, here’s a review written by a woman…

If it ends up with heavy-hitting competitors, all the better — but this swooningly lovely film from director Luca Guadagnino (“I Am Love”) is going to be tough to beat. I’d call it the next “Moonlight” or “Brokeback Mountain,” but that would entirely belie its entrancing and — really, could it be? — mostly upbeat tone.

That’s not the first reference I’ve seen to Brokeback Mountain either. So it appears that we’re all being flung back to the 2000s when gay marriage was still illegal in the US, and not all that much has changed…at least according to this woman reviewer. But that could be a misleading review. I don’t know.

If you do a simple search for Call Me By Your Name, you might get lucky like I did and find something from a gay POV. It’s not a review, it’s only a press release. But the people who left comments are gay men. Keep in mind they are talking about the book, not the movie.

One said this…

I have no problem with a book portraying love between two straight men but this one was pretty homophobic.

Another said this…

It’s nice to see that i’m not the only one. I totally hated the novel.All were fantastic reviews and people who loved the book, but i hated it.Aciman’s prose is fantastic but i didn’t liked the story or the characters at all.And i find incredibly annoying the praise Aciman’s got for being an straight man writing a gay novel.

And this one is the most interesting…

There’s nothing “gay” in the book. It’s about two straight men feeling sexual attraction for each other. The younger character make fun of gay people in the book. In the second part of the book they chase women together.

Those are all direct quotes from the comment section. They may or may not be accurate. I’m not forming any opinions yet. I’m only posting the facts as I’ve read them so far. I’m not even sure if it’s a real gay romance, you know, a gay romance with a happy ending where just once the gay characters live happily ever after.

I’ll follow up soon. Some are calling this a gay “classic.”

Church of England and Gay Clergy

I don’t know about anyone else out there, but I find this article pretty sad. That gay clergy have to live this way…still. Where’s the outrage? Where are the protests?

The Church of England is considering plans to ignore the sex lives of gay clergy.

Current rules state gay members must be celibate or change jobs.

The House of Bishops are considering today proposals to overhaul the system to become something like ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’, so gay people would not be directly asked about their private lives.

There’s more here. And just why aren’t we screaming about this? We all know that being gay is not just about sex.

Transgender Kids Join Girl Guides

In more positive LGBT news, at least this is happening. I’d also like to add that when I post about these things I don’t think in terms of only gays in the US, I think in global terms that includes all LGBT people under the umbrella.

Transgender children as well as transgender women in the UK are finally allowed to join the Girl Guides.

Since its formation in 1910, the Girl Guide Association has strictly been a single-sex organisation.

However, moving with the times, the organisation has recently added new guidelines, opening its doors to new members who were ‘assigned male at birth’ but ‘self-identify’ as female.

There’s more here. Of course not everyone is thrilled about it, but that’s going to take some time just as it always has in the past when it comes to anything LGBT.

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Writer: Amanda M. Thrasher; Carrie Fisher/Debbie Reynolds: Bright Lights; The Shunning of Gay People

Writer: Amanda M. Thrasher

When I reached 1 million hits on this blog, I thought I would stop and move on to something else. At least that was the plan. Evidently, I’m not ready to stop yet, because I reached 1 million a while ago and I’m still here. I’m just a little different than I was when I first started blogging.

With so many smaller presses (that at one time promised everyone the world and everyone believed it) shuttering these days, it’s nice to find something that’s inspiring for a change. It’s even nicer to find something that’s professional in every sense of the word. And positive. I think that we all need to reinvent ourselves at certain times in our lives and our careers so that we can move forward to explore more possibilities.

With that said, I discovered something different. Something that’s not laced with petty controversy or negativity you find so often in the less professional, smaller genres on the fringes. And it’s a nice change.

Here’s an excerpt from Amanda M. Thrasher’s latest blog post…

Writer’s All Have A Thing, What’s Yours?

Like most writers, authors, I’ve been writing for years. But when I sit down to write a new piece, though I’ve evolved slightly over the years, my primary process has never changed. It’s kinda like my personal thing, my way of doing it, that kicks off the project and keeps me motivated and excited throughout the entire thing. It’s possible other writers use the same method, I don’t know, but it works for me.

You can check out the rest here. If you’re interested in something more professional than you’ve been seeing lately, you won’t be disappointed. And you won’t be tortured with politics either. This is about writing and publishing.

Carrie Fisher/Debbie Reynolds: Bright Lights

Here’s a link to IMDb for the HBO documentary, Bright Lights, that’s focused on Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds.

We watched it on Saturday night and it’s one of the best documentaries I’ve seen in a long time. It not only discusses their professional lives, but also the special relationship Fisher and Reynolds shared as mother and daughter. There are several amusing facts about Todd Fisher, too.

An intimate portrait of Hollywood royalty featuring Debbie Reynolds, Todd Fisher, and Carrie Fisher. 

You can check it out here. I’m not sure if they’re streaming it anywhere online, but if you subscribe to HBO it’s definitely worth watching.

The Shunning of Gay People

One of the most rewarding things nowadays is to see so many gay people coming out without shame. It’s happening everywhere, and I’ve posted statistics about that. However, it’s not all as simple as it used to be. We’re learning that not all gay people are the same, and that they don’t fit into the same proverbial boxes that used to contain nothing but Will and Grace characters. In many cases, they are rebelling, especially with younger professional gay men.

I’m linking to an article now that’s not very objective, however, it shows just how large the divide is becoming in the gay community. I’m really not sure why this is happening, and I think it’s too soon for any studies to be out. But I think it’s going to be interesting to see how all this plays out in the future.

“I’ve had more Christian Republicans accept me for being gay than I’ve had left-wing people accept me for being a gay conservative,” 32-year-old Tylor laments in the video. “They say that they’re for women, gays, people of color. But what they’re really for is women, gays, people of color who vote Democrat.”

He adds that some people have gone so far as to “scream and call you racist, sexist, homophobic, bigot, transphobic.

I wasn’t too thrilled with either of the candidates in the last general election. So when I write posts like this I look at these things as objectively as possible and I can’t help wondering about what’s going to happen to gay culture if this divide continues? And I don’t think there’s any way of knowing right now because I would imagine the majority of gay people who lean more toward the conservative side aren’t willing to admit it aloud for fear of being shamed and shunned by the more vocal, liberal gay community. But I could be wrong about that. I follow one openly gay professional who is a libertarian, and even though I can’t figure him out sometimes, I do find him interesting. I would bet he’s not the only gay libertarian.

At first I used to think that a lot of the gay conservatives were only doing it to get attention, or to promote themselves for hits or money. It didn’t make sense. All my life I grew up knowing that gay men can only be liberal Democrats. If you’re gay, it’s the unspoken law. Evidently, that’s not true anymore and we have no way of knowing just how divided things are at this time. The only thing I know is that I’m not about to shun or shame anyone because they believe something different than I believe.

You can read more here.

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