Disney Casts Straight Actor For Its First Gay Role; Reykjavik Pride Photos; Trailer For Gay Hook Up Culture Series;

Disney Casts Straight Actor For Its First Gay Role

I saw this trending on Twitter and I’m always amazed at the people who think this is just about “acting.” We weren’t allowed to legally marry until a few years ago. We were placed in mental institutions when there was nothing wrong with us. We were imprisoned for being gay, and in some parts of the world that’s still happening. But yet they don’t give us the respect or the credit for being a marginalized group that had to fight for every equal right we have. And we’re still fighting. That baffles me.

In any event, I’m not going to rant here about it. But I think it’s going to be an ongoing topic for a long time.

A source told The Sun, “This is a huge gig for Jack and has landed him his biggest ever pay cheque. But, more excitingly, he is playing a gay man – one who is hugely effete, very camp and very funny.”

They added, “This latest script, set at a time when it wasn’t socially acceptable to be gay, is another significant turning point.”

That line above alone shows you how little they know, as if it is so socially acceptable to be gay right now. Tell that to the countless numbers of gay people still in the closet that I hear from all the time and see how that goes over.

Here’s there rest. There are comments, and one guy summed it up for me. This is like Disney putting a white guy in blackface.


Reykjavik Pride Photos

On another note, these photos are always nice to see. In fact, they’re refreshing and I want to go there.

Reykjavik Pride wrapped up this weekend (7-12 August) for another super cool year of rainbow-filled celebrations.
The Pride parade kicked off at 2pm yesterday (11 August) and started at the intersection of Sæbraut and Faxastígur.
Here’s the link. It looks like a wonderful group of people gathered for this one. 

Trailer For Gay Hook Up Culture Series
I’m glad someone’s doing a series like this. It’s a huge part of gay culture and we should know about it. 
Here’s a description:
Jaded tells the story of an ordinary man living in the extraordinary city of San Francisco. We follow him as he traverses the gay dating world, looking for love in all the wrong places while on a relentless search for something more. Of course, it’s based on some of my experiences and personal journey, but offers a universal slice-of-life look into the sometimes heartbreaking, never dull, and always exciting San Francisco gay community.
And here’s a link to the article. I’ll watch this one, and you should, too. 

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Straight People Less Attracted To Trans People; Gay Uncles Day; Netflix’s Insatiable and Gay Jokes

Straight People Less Attracted To Trans People

I never totally believe the results of these things. I think there’s a lot of room for doubt here.

A study by researchers at Indiana University found that straight people are less attracted to trans people — regardless of how good looking that person is.

Social Psychological and Personality Science. The purpose of the study was to find evidence of transphobia on dating apps.

Here’s the rest. Personally, I’ve seen a few trans guys that I thought were very hot looking.

Gay Uncles Day

Here’s something new, for the new and something crowd out there.

It’s Gay Uncles Day on Sunday (12 August) and here’s everything you need to know.
The day started two years ago when Florida resident C.J Hatter took to Facebook to make the suggestion.

Here’s the link. I think this is wonderful for those who want to celebrate it, and I really mean that. I understand how some people need these things. But I’ll pass, and don’t call me “guncle.” Tony and I have always had excellent relationships with our nieces and nephews.

Netflix’s Insatiable and Gay Jokes

There’s a new show on Netflix, Insatiable, and some people are calling it out for the gay jokes. I haven’t seen it so I can’t comment.

Insatiable also loves low-hanging humor, with lame sex jokes, gay jokes and body-related jokes being of particular fancy, as evidenced by a string of them built around ‘anal cancer’ references (‘We have to bring anal cancer out of the closet. It’s a silent but deadly killer’), etc.”

Here’s more. To be honest, cancer jokes never sound all that funny to me.


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"Pretty Man" New Release by Ryan Field; Chris Donohoe and White Privilege; Underpants That Celebrate Men of All Sizes

Pretty Man New Release by Ryan Field

I have a new, but older, release out this week titled, Pretty Man. It was originally published in 2009, and the rights reverted back to me a few months ago. When Riverdale Avenue Books asked if they could publish it, of course I said yes.

This time I wrote an introduction to the book, explaining why I wrote it the way I did back then. In just about 10 years time a good deal has changed, and I thought readers might be curious about how things were 10 years ago. We also wanted to release this book now because the new play, Pretty Woman, is hitting Broadway very soon. This way gay people get a story they can relate to as well.

In any event, here’s the blurb, and I’ll post the introduction below at the end of this post.

Pretty Man by [Field, Ryan ]Roland Marcus—rich, handsome and pushing 40—is still not over the fact that his 20-year relationship has ended, and desperately needs someone to distract him while he attends a bevvy of charity events in New York. With all eyes upon him, including his ex’s (who left him for a younger man), Roland accidentally bumps into a hot young guy in a used book store…a strapping male hustler whom he decides to hire for one week to accompany him to his social events. He offers him $5,000, with no strings attached, to just stand by his side and look pretty. 

Josh Holden, a young guy who is helping to support his son and saving money to buy a business with his best friend and ex-wife, is only too happy to escort Roland anywhere he wants to go that week. And he’s not doing it just for the money…

Roland learns in less than a week’s time that his future can still hold both earth-shattering sex and a love of real substance. 


And you can check it out, here, on Amazon. 



Chris Donohoe and White Privilege

As I’ve been predicting all along, these discussions (in general about white privilege, gay and straight) are going to be popping up everywhere in the near future. And I think that’s because so many people don’t understand what white privilege is. This is about the guy, Chris Donohoe, who was asked to leave a swimming pool because of his speedo. I posted about him earlier this week. 

In his anger over his treatment at the Wynn’s pool, Donohoe suggested he’s not quite the gay Rosa Parks he seems to think he is when he said: “I’m a white guy and I have power in society and I still feel completely powerless.”
Um, what?
It’s a very well written, thoughtful piece that might give you some insight, and you can read the rest here. 
Underpants That Celebrate Men of All Sizes
I follow a photographer on Instagram who is always posting sexy photos of men of all sizes. He doesn’t just post photos of perfect men with perfect bodies who spend most of their day at the gym. And this photographer has a huge following because of his photos. Gay men of all ages seem to be more attracted to not so perfect bodies than they are to perfect bodies. In fact, I’m starting to think that stereotype of the perfect male body is becoming tired and cliche. It’s also losing a lot of its sex appeal. 
So this is nice to see for a change. 
Surge is a new a UK-based underwear brand that just launched last week, and they’ve got a message for the world: sexy out model/Instastud Austin Armacost may be the face of the underwear’s debut campaign, but their underpants are for everyone. 
Here’s the link. There’s a fantastic photo with men of all sizes in the underwear.  
Introduction: Pretty Man by Ryan Field 
Anyone who grew up as an LGBT person during the 20th Century saw little or no LGBT content in books, movies, or television. If there was LGBT content, it was either a mockery or a highly emotional serious dramatization that left us in tears. There were no gay romances with happy endings. There were no gay characters living happy lives. Even though we craved stories like this, and we looked for them everywhere, the best we could do was fantasize about heteronormative romances with happy endings and dream about what they might be like if there were LGBT characters. And even though Pretty Man is a gay male romance, I’m including everyone that falls under the LGBT umbrella, including people who are asexual. The general LGBT content simply was not there.

            So when a romance publisher asked me to rework the Pretty Woman storyline into a gay romance with gay male characters, I took the project on because I’d always wanted to see something like that done. I didn’t know until much later that many other people wanted that, too. I would be remiss if I didn’t admit that a portion of Pretty Man is a parody of Pretty Woman. But it’s more than that. If you remove the erotica, the story line itself is the classic Cinderella trope. It’s been done many times, in many different ways, but never with two gay characters that actually meet and fall in love just like heteronormative characters meet and fall in love. There are certain differences that had to be taken into account with respect to the way two gay characters interact, but they weren’t dramatic differences either.
            And now new generation of LGBT people can read or see a story line with LGBT characters at least once in a while. The most important factor for me was a happy ending. But there’s still a long way to go, and my hope has always been that a book like Pretty Man would give LGBT readers something with the happy ending they’ve always craved.  


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Kate Bornstein Trans Performer and Hecklers; Straight Actors Playing Gay Roles; Gay Games 2018 Paris

Kate Bornstein Trans Performer and Hecklers 

Bornstein is a trans performer who is part of the Straight White Men cast.

In a Facebook post, Bornstein wrote: “It’s true what people are saying: a woman, in response to my opening line of the show, ‘Good evening, ladies, gentlemen, and the rest of us’ called out from the audience ‘You’re not welcome here’.”

It goes on to talk about how Bornstein responded to the heckler.

You can read it in full, here. 

I have to admit that I get frustrated every time I read something that has to do with a trans person being ridiculed. 

Side note: the discussion is still going strong about whether or not only trans people should play trans roles. 

Straight Actors Playing Gay Roles

And speaking of that discussion, here’s a long article that talks about straight actors playing gay roles. 

Straight actors leverage gay roles as career opportunities, and not uncommonly as Oscar bait, but it’s the struggles of real gay people that have made these roles so compelling and so multifaceted, and to swoop in at the last minute and co-opt that is no longer acceptable. It’s, dare I say, un-woke.

Here’s the rest. This is another discussion I think will be around for a while.

All things aside, I can only tell you one thing. Whenever a gay person in the arts sees a straight person taking over his or her culture in books or movies, it feels like a knife in the chest. And we talk about it often in private.

Gay Games 2018 Paris

This is about the gay games going on in Paris right now.

From snug fitting singlets to muscled cheerleaders, the Gay Games 2018 are underway in Paris and if this travel-worthy event isn’t already on your radar, these Instagram pics are sure to get your attention.

Here’s the link. There are some excellent photos that are all SFW. 



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Football Coach Who Shook Penis; If Your Partner’s Penis Is Small; Scotty Bowers and Shocking Homoerotic Pics;

Football Coach Who Shook Penis

Here’s something you don’t do, especially if you’re a youth football coach.

A court heard that he dropped his trousers and shook his penis at fans between five to 10 seconds after drinking six or seven pints. 

Prosecutor Brian Pain said: ‘He was fairly rapidly detained and subsequently interviewed.’


You can read it, here.  He’s been banned from games for 3 years. 
If Your Partner’s Penis Is Small
Here’s some advice for people who have a partner with a small penis. 
If your partner has a small penis, the first thing to remember is not to freak out. This is not the end of the world, and it certainly is not the end of sexual pleasure. A person with a small penis is just as capable of giving you incredible sexual satisfaction as someone with a penis the size of King Kong.

Here’s the rest. But this one comes with a warning. It is very heteronormative and has nothing at all to do with gay men. 

Scotty Bowers and Shocking Homoerotic Pics

There’s been a lot of buzz going around about the book and the documentary, Scotty and the Secret History of Hollywood.

For the uninitiated, Scotty worked as a self-described procurer of prostitutes and hookers to Hollywood’s elite from the 1940s onward. In the new documentary on his life, he dishes on everyone from Cary Grant to Katherine Hepburn to Marlon Brando to Charles Laughton, revealing who was into what, and who did what with whom. (Spoiler alert: Scotty did just about everything.)

This piece is focused on a few of his older photos. It’s SFW, too.

Here’s the link.  The documentary is in theaters now. I’m sure I’ll be seeing this one. 


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Russia’s Homoerotic Video and Voting; Postal Worker Uses A Very Racist Homophobic Gay Slur; Pizza Hut and Transphobic Tweet;

Russia’s Homoerotic Video and Voting

This one is really strange.

A bizarre video encouraging people to vote in upcoming Russian elections ends with two men getting naked together.
Released in the Samara region ahead of the 9 September by-elections across the country, the video shows the two men discussing the upcoming elections.
Here’s the link. And you can watch the video. The point is to shame people into going to the polls to vote. If you don’t vote, you’re gay. Shame. 

Postal Worker Uses A Very Racist Homophobic Slur

Although you probably won’t see this in the mainstream, it’s been trending online for a few days.

This happened in Ohio. A postal worker referred to two gay men as “white faggots” and then threatened to screw around with their mail delivery.

They wound up in an argument and it only devolves from there.

“And then she just kept going on and on and on about me and my fiance being white faggots,” Coward said.

“Yeah, not just faggots,” his fiance Michael Vaughn said. “White faggots.”

You can read the entire thing, here. There’s a video, too, because one of the men recorded the argument.

Pizza Hut and Transphobic Tweet

This one is a little more complicated.

In a Twitter discussion about trans women, the Pizza Hut Malaysia account oddly sprung up to offer an opinion.

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Adult Film Star Couple and Group Sex Proposal; Jason Mraz on Sex with Men and Women; Another Gay Venue In London Closes

Adult Film Star Couple and Group Sex Proposal

I think this is the first time I’ve heard about a marriage proposal during a gang bang scene. Or maybe it was an orgy scene. That part’s not clear.

Both adult film performers, Bonds asked for Lear’s hand in marriage after filming a group scene together, with the cameras still rolling. Aww!

Here’s more. They want to have kids.


Jason Mraz on Sex with Men and Women

Jason Mraz recently opened up on his experiences with men and women. 

 “Honestly, I didn’t realize it was going to be so telling. But I’ve had experiences with men, even while I was dating the woman who became my wife. It was like, ‘Wow, does that mean I am gay?’ And my wife laid it out for me. She calls it ‘two spirit,’ which is what the Native Americans call someone who can love both man and woman. I really like that.”


Here’s the rest.  His wife can call it whatever she wants, but the rest of us call it bisexual. 

Another Gay Venue In London Closes

Here’s yet another causality in the gay bar wars. 

‘It is with great sadness that as of today Her Upstairs is no longer open for business at 18 Kentish Town Road,’ they wrote. It is unclear why the space had to close and the post reveals they cannot explain further for ‘legal reasons’.

Here’s the rest. I hate to see it close. I hate to see all of them close. I met my husband, Tony, in a gay bar in the 90s. Of course I don’t know the story behind why this one is closing, but I get really annoyed when they start talking about how vital these places are to the gay community. If they were that vital they wouldn’t be closing and they’d be thriving like they were back in the day. You don’t have to be a genius to figure that out. 


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