Lightyear Movie and Critics about Gay Scenes, Gay Men Talk About Body Shaming and Eating Disorders, Ryan Field Books

 Lightyear Movie and Critics about Gay Scenes

I’m torn with this film because it’s more straight people doing gay content, and it’s also being banned in certain places. While I hate to see anything LGBTQIA banned anywhere, I’m also not fond of straights doing gay content. But I’m not throwing shade. It’s not my genre and it’s difficult to figure out how it’s all going down. 

Actor Chris Evans who is very straight is now speaking up about the gay characters in Lightyear because it’s been banned in several parts of the world. I’m not sure if he’s playing gay or not. They don’t say. 

The actor Chris Evans, who voices the main character in the new Pixar animated movie Lightyear, has applauded its depiction of a gay couple, saying those who react negatively should be disregarded.

Here’s more.  As a sidenote, actress Patricia Heaton is irritated that Tim Allen wasn’t chosen to reprise his role as Buzz. She Tweeted about it. 

Gay Men Talk About Body-Shaming and Eating Disorders

Although I don’t believe in any kind of looks-shaming, I will admit that I’m one of those gay men who has always been conscious of my body. I rarely eat carbs, I do a cardio workout every night, and I never eat pizza or donuts. 

With that said, this discussion about gay men and body image has been going on for decades.

 “People internalize, ‘I have to create this body image. I have to live up to this. I have to fight for this. I have to strive for this. I have to starve for this. I have to almost die for this in order for me to have my moment of worth here,'” said Coffie.

Here’s the rest. I think that’s a bit dramatic. Working out, eating the right food, and trying to maintain a strong healthy body isn’t about starving or being close to death. It’s more about choice. The body-shaming is the thing I don’t like. Just don’t do it. Don’t call anyone out for their looks or their bodies. You never know what motivates people. Food, for many people, is a way to deal with anxiety. 


Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

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“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

The Gay Pride Quilt and What it Represents, Ryan Field Books

 The Gay Pride Quilt and What it Represents

I’m using the word Gay here because as I recall from personal experience AIDS mostly affected gay men, at least here in the US. Maybe in the UK. I’m not sure about that. But I am sure about what happened in the US. Yes, a few straight people got it through transfusions and sex, but it was mostly concentrated on gay men and it wasn’t an LGBTQIA “thing.” The word “queer” was a HUGE pejorative at that time. Gay marriage was only a dream in the distance. Comedians made jokes about us and what little representation we had was based on stereotypes and cultural appropriation from actors like Billy Crystal. Life was much different for everyone under the LGBTQIA umbrella back then.

AIDS changed the lives of all gay men. I wasn’t old enough to experience what happened to club life, but I know one gay man who was around back then and he wouldn’t even drink out of the glasses at a gay bar. Of course, this was before people knew how AIDS could be transmitted. But there was a strong underlying tone of panic almost everywhere until we did find out. 

Gay men were dying. St. Vincent’s hospital in NYC, which isn’t there anymore, was overwhelmed with gay men who had AIDS. So I wanted to focus on the AIDS quilt during Pride month. I remember when it started but I’m not sure about all the details. 

Cleve created the first panel for the AIDS Memorial Quilt in memory of his friend Marvin Feldman. In June of 1987, Jones teamed up with Mike Smith, Gert McMullin and several others to formally organize the NAMES Project Foundation.

Here’s more. Of course 1987 was the height of the AIDS crisis. It’s an excellent website and article rich with all kinds of history.

Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

The Christians Are Worried About LGBTQIA Propaganda, Ryan Field Books

 The Christians Are Worried About LGBTQIA Propaganda

I usually link to pro-LGBTQIA news items or commentaries, but this time I want to link to one of those weird Christian websites just to show people how homophobic they are. They’re not only homophobic, they are backward and unsophisticated in the most obvious ways. But I don’t want to digress here. This is about the homophobia LGBTQIA people face on a daily basis. 

This is actually a petition they’re circulating to basically promote these don’t say gay bills.

Also pass laws that stop every federal and state agency from promoting sexual deviance and trans-genderism to innocent confused children…

Here’s more.  They are revolting. They even claim that LGBTQIA people are forcing little straight kids to become LGBTQIA when that’s not even how it works. Speaking for gay men, we’re born that way and no one can change that. But more than that, you never hear any LGBTQIA people complaining about all that straight stuff we have to listen to in school when we’re kids. 

These are people with whom we’ll never reach common ground. Just dismiss them and let history play out. So far, these right-wing Christians have been wrong on every single count, especially when it comes to equal rights. 

Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

Gay Families Moving Out of Florida Because of Don't Say Gay Bill,

 Gay Families Moving Out of Florida Because of Don’t Say Gay Bill

I’m hearing that a lot of gay families and gay people are moving out of Florida because of the Don’t Say Gay Bill. They fear for the future of their families and they don’t know what else might happen there that causes them more anguish and pain. 

This video is proof of what I’m hearing lately from people I know in Florida. 

Jordan Letschert and Robby Price are teaching their son Kellan how to talk about their family. But recent anti-LGBTQ legislation has led them to reconsider if this is a good place to raise him.

Here’s more.  The video with this link really paints a dismal picture of Florida. I think I’d move away, too, even if I didn’t have kids. Tony and I lived in New Hope, PA for a reason. It wasn’t an accident. And we moved to Palm Springs, CA for a reason. LGBTQIA people are always welcome in these places. Florida, not so much. And the sad part is there’s a large gay population there in certain areas like Wilton Manors.

In all fairness, all gay men need to start calling these straights out in more aggressive ways. We’re always so nice and polite. But I think it’s time they learned their privilege doesn’t work with us. And that goes from the cultural appropriation we see all the time, to anti-gay laws in places like Florida. 


 

Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

Texas Pastor Advocates Violence Against Gay People, Ryan Field Books

 Texas Paster Advocates Violence Against Gay People.

This is really dangerous. When you see a pastor say things like this you have to wonder what kind of religious beliefs he follows. The entire church is labeled an anti-gay hate group. 

“I’m angry this morning because our entire country is celebrating the worse sin in the Bible,” Awes said during the sermon referring to Pride Month, which commemorates the LGBTQ+ community every June.

Here’s the rest. I’m sure he’s lost all credibility with most normal rational people. He even went so far as to say all “homosexuals” are pedophiles. The truth is, according to statistics, it’s really straight men who are the worst child abuse, offenders. 

It’s a highly dangerous article. 

Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



A Great Book by Colton Haynes: Miss Memory Lane, Ryan Field Books

 A Great Book by Colton Haynes

I finally finished reading Miss Memory Lane by Colton Haynes and I loved it. It’s a memoir with a collection of memories that covers almost all of Colton’s life, from childhood to the present. And he really gets into more than a few highly emotional scenes from his childhood.  He doesn’t hold back.  

Aside from the fact that Colton talks about his family, his friends, and a few of the people who have influenced him in his life, I couldn’t help but read this book from a gay POV. His emotional struggle about coming out as gay, and the serious events that led up to this had me stunned half the time. I know, from my own experience, that coming out for any gay man is never easy, but it’s particularly difficult if you’re living in the spotlight like Colton. He actually had to come twice in a lifetime, which most of us don’t have to do. He came out to his family and friends at one point, and then years later he came out to the public. That’s not easy. 

I think there are certain aspects with regard to being gay that almost every gay man can relate to in this book. First, there are the eating issues I think many gay men face. I know I’ve always had to deal with them. I haven’t had a carb in 10 years.  I also found it uncanny the way I could relate to so much, with so much connection. Colton talks about places like Loma Linda, which is something close to me. He talks about Hemet, CA, which is the way I get to Idyllwild. He even mentions Palm Springs and the wind turbines. I live in Palm Springs and my back view is the desert, the chocolate mountains, Desert Hot Springs, and the wind turbines. 

But I digress. This book is truly a 5-star deal because it’s so authentic and bold. Colton even talks about sex at certain points in the book and I could relate to most of it. Not all, but most. At one point in his life, he worked on those sex phone lines. We actually owned one of those sex phone lines in the 90s. When you’re a gay man no one sits you down and explains anything to you about sex. You learn everything there to know about sex and even relationships all alone. And trust me, just like Colton mentions in the book, you make plenty of mistakes. 

At certain points in the book, you can feel the fear and the shame that Colton experienced. You’ll find yourself feeling sorry for him at certain points and then cheering him on at other points. He’s still very young and it’s amazing what he’s accomplished in such a short time. I just hope that Hollywood gives him a break and hires him for more openly gay roles instead of the straight actors they usually hire. 

To sum all this up. I would recommend this book to anyone, gay or straight. In fact, this book should be required reading for all straight people so they understand what it’s like and that everything they saw on Will and his Grace was fiction. It’s also extremely well written in the sense that it’s tight and professional. There are no flowery ridiculous words that you find in most romance novels, and there was nothing that annoyed me. As an author, I look for certain things and I didn’t see any of the usual amateur mistakes that I usually find in books like this. Here’s the link to Amazon. I read the e-book on my phone but I think there’s a sale going on right now with the print book.

Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]








 

A Great Book by Colton Haynes: Miss Memory Lane, Why Do Men Moan When They Pee? Ryan Field Books

 A Great Book by Colton Haynes

I finally finished reading Miss Memory Lane by Colton Haynes and I loved it. It’s a memoir with a collection of memories that covers almost all of Colton’s life, from childhood to the present. And he really gets into more than a few highly emotional scenes from his childhood.  He doesn’t hold back.  

Aside from the fact that Colton talks about his family, his friends, and a few of the people who have influenced him in his life, I couldn’t help but read this book from a gay POV. His emotional struggle about coming out as gay, and the serious events that led up to this had me stunned half the time. I know, from my own experience, that coming out for any gay man is never easy, but it’s particularly difficult if you’re living in the spotlight like Colton. He actually had to come twice in a lifetime, which most of us don’t have to do. He came out to his family and friends at one point, and then years later he came out to the public. That’s not easy. 

I think there are certain aspects with regard to being gay that almost every gay man can relate to in this book. First, there are the eating issues I think many gay men face. I know I’ve always had to deal with them. I haven’t had a carb in 10 years.  I also found it uncanny the way I could relate to so much, with so much connection. Colton talks about places like Loma Linda, which is something close to me. He talks about Hemet, CA, which is the way I get to Idyllwild. He even mentions Palm Springs and the wind turbines. I live in Palm Springs and my back view is the desert, the chocolate mountains, Desert Hot Springs, and the wind turbines. 

But I digress. This book is truly a 5-star deal because it’s so authentic and bold. Colton even talks about sex at certain points in the book and I could relate to most of it. Not all, but most. At one point in his life, he worked on those sex phone lines. We actually owned one of those sex phone lines in the 90s. When you’re a gay man no one sits you down and explains anything to you about sex. You learn everything there to know about sex and even relationships all alone. And trust me, just like Colton mentions in the book, you make plenty of mistakes. 

At certain points in the book, you can feel the fear and the shame that Colton experienced. You’ll find yourself feeling sorry for him at certain points and then cheering him on at other points. He’s still very young and it’s amazing what he’s accomplished in such a short time. I just hope that Hollywood gives him a break and hires him for more openly gay roles instead of the straight actors they usually hire. 

To sum all this up. I would recommend this book to anyone, gay or straight. In fact, this book should be required reading for all straight people so they understand what it’s like and that everything they saw on Will and his Grace was fiction. It’s also extremely well written in the sense that it’s tight and professional. There are no flowery ridiculous words that you find in most romance novels, and there was nothing that annoyed me. As an author, I look for certain things and I didn’t see any of the usual amateur mistakes that I usually find in books like this. Here’s the link to Amazon. I read the e-book on my phone but I think there’s a sale going on right now with the print book.

Why Do Men Moan When They Pee?

I don’t know where they come up with these articles, because I have never once moaned when I pee. But apparently, according to this, many other men do moan when they pee. The article is actually titled, The Silence of the Pee Moan. 

“You can call it a moan or a sigh,” says Jamin Brahmbhatt, a board-certified urologist. “It’s a natural response to pain or pleasure. A lot of the time you hear it happen in the bathroom and that’s because men or women have held it too long, and it’s just a huge sense of relief.”

Here’s the rest. They go into more detail and it’s actually interesting in a clinical way. 


Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]








 

Texas Investigates a Trans Family and Now the Trans Family Is Suing the State, Life Is Harder For Gay People In China, Ryan Field Books

 Texas Investigates a Trans Family and Now the Trans Family Is Suing the State

Here’s a story about three Texas families with trans kids. The state of Texas has been investigating these families for over gender-confirming treatments and I guess the families got sick of it. Now they’re suing the state. 

The lawsuit filed on Wednesday is the latest challenge over the state looking into such treatments as child abuse. The lawsuit also asks a Texas judge to block similar investigations against other members of an LGBTQ advocacy group.

Here’s more.  Lambda Legal and the ACLU are now involved. I have a feeling we’ll be seeing more stories like this in the MAGA states. And if you don’t know what gender-confirming treatments are this might help. I’ll be honest. I’m not totally sure there’s a set definition. The concept of gender-confirming treatments seems to cover a vast area. For the most part, it seems to be more about support than anything else. 

Life Is Harder For Gay People In China

This is a new documentary about what it’s like to be gay in China. I don’t like the fact that they still use the word “homosexual” and it is a website where you need a subscription. I wouldn’t normally link to websites like this, but I wanted to make a point. I think it’s important for people to see what life for gay people is like on a global level. 

It sucks. 

It was never easy to be gay in China, where the government cares little about the rights of sexual minorities. 

Here’s the rest. We still have a long way to go. 


Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

Drag Culture and How to Get Gay Famous, Ryan Field Books

 Drag Culture and How To Get Gay Famous

Ever since I was in my early 20s and started going to gay bars I realized there were some gay people who were, indeed, “gay famous.” In New Hope, PA, where there used to be several gay clubs before the straights gentrified it, there was one drag performer, in particular, we all called “Mother.” Of course, there were others. One was named Monica Ray and they did Marilyn Monroe in drag. But “Mother” was THE most gay famous in New Hope for many years. Here’s a photo of Mother. 




I’m linking to an article here that goes into more detail about how to become gay famous, and what that means on a small local level. I can tell you that everything about this article is spot-on accurate. And in gay communities like New Hope or Palm Springs it’s a big thing. 

While gay fame is not limited to drag, drag is a powerful example of this phenomenon. Ask a queer barfly or nightlife connoisseur about the first time they saw an amazing drag performance. 

Here’s the rest.  It’s an excellent example of a huge part of gay culture and even gay history in some cases. I find that so many straight people don’t know or understand anything about drag culture.  


Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

Gay Rugby Player Beaten To the Point Where He May Never Play Again, Ryan Field Books

 Gay Rugby Player Beaten to the Point Where He May Never Play Again

This is so sad to read. It’s so hard to fathom that this sort of thing is still happening. But I see so much hate for LGBTQIA people all over social media these days I worry about the future. This hate is often fueled by the far right. 

In this particular hate crime, a gay rugby player in Ireland was beaten so badly that his ankle was shattered, and one of his eyes was dangerously damaged. Right after it happened, he posted about it on Twitter. 

“Last night a stranger called me a faggot before beating the shit out of me,” Somers tweeted from the hospital after the attack. “He left me with a fractured eye socket, 2 fractures in my ankle, a dislocation in my ankle & some other minor injuries.”

Here’s more. This all happened in April and they go into more detail about how he’s doing now. Plus, there are hospital photos of the poor guy. He says he may never be the same again. 

Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”

Amazon

“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]