Gay Guy Rejects Homophobic Bullies’ Apologies; Being a Gay Arab Actor In Hollywood; Ryan Field Books

Gay Guy Rejects Homophobic Bullies’ Apologies

This is one of those Reddit things that talks about a gay guy who was bullied and tortured by homophobes all through high school, and then just recently 3 of the homophobes apologized to him for all the homophobic things they’d done. However, the gay guy who was bullied wants no part of their apologies OR them, and he told them to go f$%k off. 

“They ‘claim’ they’re no longer homophobic and they ‘claim’ to be incredibly sorry for the treatment they put me through,” the Redditor writes. “They ‘claim’ that they didn’t understand me or what I was going through, but now they do and they ‘claim’ that they were absolutely disgusted with how they treated me all those years.”

Let’s just look at this for a second. They took his youth and ruined it, they tried to crush his soul, they caused psychological damage that may never be resolved, I would imagine he’s dealing with some kind of PTSD, and now they want to be forgiven. All is well because they decided to say they were sorry, on their terms. Frankly, I don’t blame him for not accepting the apology. And forgiveness doesn’t always mean the same thing to everyone. I like Oprah’s definition…

Oprah says forgiveness means “giving up the hope that the past could be any different.” 

Here’s the link to more. I hope this guy just moves on with his life and forgets about them.

Being a Gay Arab Actor In Hollywood

Here’s a link to an interview with openly gay actor, Haaz Sleiman. I remember him from Nurse Jackie. He’s receiving an award in Fort Lauderdale at  some small film festival, but on a much grander scale he’s also gaining a lot of respect for what he’s already achieved in his life so far. It’s really a very good interview, with a slightly different POV. 

Growing up in Lebanon, I thought I was the only gay human. I didn’t know who to talk to. I have a loving family and Arabs are very family-oriented, but I couldn’t talk to anyone about it. I was bullied and I was very effeminate as a [preteen] and then I started to change. I had to “fix” it and stop being bullied.

 You can check this out, here. 

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Billy Porter Talks about Homophobia in Show Business; Gay Man Beaten With Hammers on Grindr Hook Up; Ryan Field Books

Billy Porter Talks about Homophobia in Show Business

In the course of any given day, on any social media outlet, I see all kinds of homophobia. It can range from obtuse, to passive aggressive, to outright discrimination. Sometimes they don’t even know they are being homophobic. And that’s just the tip of it all. What Billy Porter is talking about here goes much deeper.

Porter referred to the music business as  “hugely, violently homophobic. It just was never about the music. It was about trying to fix myself so other people would feel comfortable around me.”

You can check this out in full, here. It also mentions a few positive things as well.

 Gay Man Beaten With Hammers on Grindr Hook Up

Here’s another story about hook up culture gone wrong. A gay man who was looking for a hook up was catfished on Grindr, and then beaten with a hammer. It sounds as though he’s lucky to be alive.  

Marc Power, a gay man who lives in Dublin, Ireland, reportedly set out to meet a man he was chatting up on Grindr when a group of teenage boys set a trap for him. They allegedly left him left bloodied and scraped up, attacking him with hammers and vandalizing his car. 

Here’s the link. Power posted photos of his injuries on Facebook, with statements. It’s an interesting piece that goes a lot deeper into the entire concept of gay people dealing with this kind of violence all the time, especially with regard to hook up culture.

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New .99 Gay E-book: ‘The Straight Pride Parade’ by Ryan Field; Straight Pride Parade In Boston; Ryan Field Books

New .99 Gay E-book: ‘The Straight Pride Parade’ by Ryan Field

The Straight Pride Parade: This is one night he’ll never forget! by [Field, Ryan ]There’s always so much talk…and so many clickbait headlines…during Pride month about certain people having Straight Pride Parades, I wanted to write something fictional about it. I don’t think it would have warranted a full length novel, so a short story seemed perfect. Of course the entire concept of Straight Pride is ridiculous, because every day is Straight Pride Day. If you have the kind of privilege, and there aren’t countries that will still arrest you for having sex, you don’t need a dedicated day to celebrate your pride. You are born with that. The whole concept of Straight Pride is also a mockery of LGBTQ Pride, which we all know is not an accident.

With all that said, I wanted to twist things around a little in this short story by making LGBTQ people the privileged and straight people the marginalized. I know the concept has been done before, but not like this and I don’t think anyone has ever made references to Straight Pride. It’s only out as an e-book because it’s a short story, not a full length novel. It wouldn’t be cost effective to release a short in print.

Here’s the blurb, and here’s the link to Amazon. I am doing the Amazon exclusive this time with this story, so it’s part of KU and it’s free for some people. 

In a futuristic society where gay is the mainstream and straight is the minority, Mark Alberts is uncomfortable about having dinner with a straight couple, Bert and Betty. Even though he’s open to equal rights for all straight people on his planet, and he’s always openly supported legalizing straight marriage, he still has trouble accepting the unnatural fact that men and women have sex.
In addition to all this, there’s an interesting twist coming Mark’s way that night that changes everything in his perfect, privileged gay world forever.

Straight Pride Parade In Boston

Here’s an article that was published a few months ago following the controversial Straight Pride Parade event in Boston. Yes, this was real life Straight Pride in the making. Even though it’s stranger than fiction, it’s not fiction. It’s really as sad as it is amusing to read about this mockery months later. 

BOSTON — They marched under the motto, “It’s great to be straight.” A man in a shark costume chanted, “Straight lives matter!” Another dressed as Santa Claus held the “straight flag” and welcomed any heckling that came his way.

Here’s a link to the entire piece. There are photos of them, too. 

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Gay Rights Movement Started In Bars; Scotty Bowers Who Arranged Hook Ups For Closeted Gay Hollywood Dies; Ryan Field Books

Gay Rights Movement Started In Bars

Tony and I recently had a conversation with friends of ours about the recent closing of New Hope’s last Gay Bar, The Raven. At one time New Hope, PA was a huge destination point for LGBTQ people up and down the east coast because there were 3 gay bars, with restaurants and hotel accommodations, and now we’re down to zero. Of course there’s a reason for all this and it didn’t happen overnight. Gay bars are closing everywhere, not just here. It’s assimilation, the Internet, and ironically it’s because of all those equal rights we’ve been fighting for over the years. If you do a simple search there are tons of articles out there about this.

In any event, this article suggests, among other things, that the gay rights movement began in gay bars.

Of course, at the same time, there was danger. Gay bars were a target since sex between men was still illegal in every state. Eleven years later the gay liberation movement would be born at a gay bar in New York City.

Here’s the link. If you’re interested in gay culture or gay history, you’ll want to read this in full. I remember the first time I ever went to a gay bar. I was in college, and I felt free for the first time in my entire life. Because up until recently, there were no other places for gay people to go and feel that way. 

Scotty Bowers Who Arranged Hook Ups For Closeted Gay Hollywood Dies

I posted about Scotty Bowers a while back because he had a non-fiction book out that focused on the topic of closeted gay Hollywood stars many years ago. He wrote the book later in life. Supposedly, he waited his entire life to tell his stories, keeping all these secrets quiet for years. Which, of course, is natural for gay men to do. We all learn the meaning of the word discretion at a very early age. 

I’ll be honest, though. I didn’t love the book. In fact, I didn’t finish it and I returned the e-book to Amazon, which is something I never do. I also left a short DNF review on Amazon explaining the reasons why I didn’t finish it. 

But I’m still sorry to hear that he passed. 

Scotty Bowers, who catered to the sexual needs of celebrities who were either gay and closeted or too high-profile to obtain it by conventional means, has died at 96. Cole Porter, Rock Hudson, Cary Grant, and Katharine Hepburn were just a few of the celebs on Bowers’s client list.

Here’s a link to the rest. RIP

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I Wish Colton Haynes Could Play the Lead In A STARR Is Born; Olympic Medalist Kerron Clement Comes Out As Gay; Journalist Leslie Roberts Comes Out As Gay

I Wish Colton Haynes Could Play the Lead In A STARR Is Born

A Starr is Born by [Field, Ryan]This is only my wishful thinking. I know the reality is that it won’t ever happen. But when my publisher, Riverdale Ave Books in New York, asked me to write this parody of A Star Is Born the moment I started it I thought of Colton Haynes. And I really don’t even know that much about Haynes. I just think it’s something he could do, as an openly gay actor, and he could own this main character. I didn’t even choose the cover of this book. The cover artist at Riverdale came up with it and he sent it to me for approval. I knew it was perfect the instant I opened the e-mail. It even looks a little like Colton Haynes, which was totally unplanned.

I’m also seeing so many positive comments about Billy Porter playing Cinderella that I’d like to see more gender bending lead roles in films (and books) where openly LGBTQ actors get a chance at something big, too.

In any event, I do think we’ll be seeing more films with more LGBTQ content, but I’m just not sure if the world is ready for a gay parody/version of a heteronormative story like A Star Is Born. But sometimes it’s nice to dream, too. (Smile)

Here’s a link to A Starr Is Born

Olympic Medalist Kerron Clement Comes Out As Gay

People from all walks of life continue to come out as LGBTQ+ and I never get tired of reading about them. It just proves what I’ve been saying here on this web site for the last ten years: that we can’t even begin to imagine how many closeted LGBTQ people there still are. And I believe more will be coming out in the future. In this particular case Kerron Clement came out on National Coming Out Day.

“I have been through what a lot of people have been through which is being afraid of being who you are,” he said. “I struggled with my sexuality for 17 years. Over time, as you get older, you care less. Now it’s time to just be yourself and be free. That’s what I’ve become, free.”

Here’s a link to the rest. 

Journalist Leslie Roberts Comes Out As Gay

Here’s another story about a journalist in Canada on a morning program who came out as gay on National Coming Out Day. I guess it was National Coming Out Day in Canada, too, but I’m not totally sure about that. 

Though he has been out privately for years, Roberts said he never came out publicly because of the way some work colleagues reacted when he told them in 1989: “I was married at the time. I had a young daughter. And the first thing everybody said was this is career suicide. This will not connect with the viewers. This will mean the end of your career in television. Things have changed.”

Here’s more. Sadly, his story is similar to many, many others. At least he can come out now.

It’s also interesting to me because I always wonder if anyone actually comes out on National Coming Out Day. Apparently, they do. 

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Billy Porter Will Play Fairy Godmother In Cinderella Movie; 15 Countries Where It’s Illegal To Be Gay; Ryan Field Books

Billy Porter Will Play Fairy Godmother In Cinderella Movie

This story has been trending all week and I’m glad to see it finally made the gay presses.

Cinderella will go to the ball! Billy Porter has confirmed that he is scheduled to play the role of the Fairy Godmother in an upcoming big-screen movie version of Cinderella.

Here’s the link to more. I think we’ll be seeing a lot more of this kind of thing in the future. I love Billy Porter because they are so honest about what they do and how they do it.

15 Countries Where It’s Illegal To Be Gay

This actually doesn’t surprise me. I don’t like it, but I’m not shocked. It’s a good example of how the fight continues. What does surprise me is that other countries like the US don’t focus more on these global human rights issues. The media never mentions them either. That’s wrong. There are still millions of people in the US who are reading old time print newspapers and depending on TV news, and they are not getting all the information they should be getting.

Many nations in the world have modernized their views on same-sex unions, but there are still 72 countries in which homosexuality is illegal — the majority of which are in Africa or the Middle East.

They list 15 countries you can read about, here.

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Gay Disabled People With Respect to Being Gay Bottoms; Pete Buttigieg’s Inner Civil War About Being Gay; Ryan Field Books

Gay Disabled People With Respect to Being Gay Bottoms

This is a real life piece written by a gay disabled guy speaking from his own personal experience, and there’s an interesting twist. He’s also a nice writer. I like his voice. He explores the concept of whether or not most gay disabled men are bottoms. I know nothing about this and I’m only linking.

It wasn’t until my boyfriend brought up the idea of me topping him (Which I tried, thank you! More on that in a later column, I promise) at the age of 28 that I began to wonder: Was I totally off the mark? All my life, I had assumed bottoming was every disgaybled man’s sole role. Surely, if it was Christmas, we’d all be the receivers of the ahem, gifts, right? I thought. Call it being naive. Call it being sheltered. Call it having years of internalized ableism (OK, fine, it was totally that). 

Here’s the link to read more.  The comments that follow are interesting, too.

Pete Buttigieg’s Inner Civil War About Being Gay

He’s more about Mayor Pete Buttigieg and his personal struggles with regard to being gay. I’ve read a few other things he’s said and I like that he’s keeping it real. I don’t think there’s a gay person alive who can’t relate to this.

“What it was like was a civil war because I knew I was different long before I was ready to say that I was gay and long before I was able to acknowledge that that was something that I didn’t have power over,” Buttigieg said

Here’s the link to read more of this one. 

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