Oiled Bros Twerking Together; White Supremacy and Black Homophobia; Fighting Homophobia In Africa

Oiled Bros Twerking Together

There really isn’t an intelligent way to title something like this, so I’m going for obtuse with this one. It really is a kind of slow-witted humor, but I could be wrong about that.

In any event…

The gym can be an awfully sexualized environment, but most of the tension brews under the surface.

Here’s the rest. You can see these “oiled bros” doing their Internet twerking thing in a video. 

White Supremacy and Black Homophobia

Here’s an interview with someone named George M. Johnson. He thinks that homophobia in the black community is a result of conditioning caused by white supremacy. 

Here’s one question and answer…

What role do caucasians play in the homophobia that exists within the black community today? Do they have a responsibility to fix the problem?
As I stated prior, they are the colonizers. They told us how we needed to act in society and what was acceptable and what wasn’t based on the standards of how they set up the hierarchy of their own. I’m not concerned with them helping us to unlearn. We as community need to unlearn the systems they oppress us with. We can do that without their help, in my opinion.

Here’s more. Of course he mentions nothing about the bible or religion. I have no comment, but you can read the comments and see how other people responded. 

Fighting Homophobia In Africa 

Here’s how two brilliant women are working hard to fight homophobia in Africa, instead of blaming people with loaded racist statements. These women are working toward positive goals. 

Katlego has an ally in Adong Judith. She’s a straight woman in Uganda who has made it her mission to stop the type of discrimination lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans and queer (LGBTQ) people face in African nations, where homophobia runs rampant.

Here’s the rest. These women are also the people I respect the most. 

Kendle’s Fire
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Troye Sivan’s Weird Grindr Experience; Hawaii Bed and Breakfast Owner Who Refused Lesbian Couple; University in Dublin Getting Over 170 Gender Neutral Bathrooms

Troye Sivan’s Weird Grindr Experience

Here’s another colorful story from the world of dating apps and gay hook ups.

Sivan was already on a date when this rude thing happened…

He and the guy were hanging out when all of a sudden the dude whipped out his cellphone then started browsing guys on Grindr.
“It was a while ago,” Troye remembers. “I was like, ‘OK. I think I’m just gonna go home.’”
Here’s the rest of the story.  Sivan is in a monogamous relationship now. 

Hawaii Bed and Breakfast Owner Who Refused Lesbian Couple

I find it interesting that these things are still happening today, and not just in certain places. They can happen anywhere.

‘Refusing to let the couple book a room was solely based on their sexual orientation because the owner indicated that if they were married, she would not have allowed them to stay there,’ said their attorney, Peter Renn of Lambda Legal’s Los Angeles office.

Here’s the whole story. The lesbian couple filed a lawsuit in 2011. 

University In Dublin Getting Over 170 Gender Neutral Bathrooms

It looks as if some things, in some places, are moving forward and changing for the better. 

University College Dublin plans to redesignate more than 170 restrooms as gender neutral. This is part of an effort to create a more welcoming environment for transgender and non-binary students.

And they aren’t stopping there. There will be gender neutral changing rooms and they’ll allow name changes on university documents without all the usual red tape that’s required. 

Here’s more. 

Kendle’s Fire
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Gus Kenworthy and How They Raise Dogs For Food In South Korea; Rose McGowan Has Russian Troll Bots Coming After Her; The Pentagon and Transgender Military Service

Gus Kenworthy and How They Raise Dogs For Food In South Korea

Gus Kenworthy posted something on social media this week about the practice of raising dogs for food in South Korea. Here’s part of his quote…

This morning Matt and I had a heart-wrenching visited to one of the 17,000 dog farms here in South Korea. Across the country there are 2.5 million dogs being raised for food in some of the most disturbing conditions imaginable. Yes, there is an argument to be made that eating dogs is a part of Korean culture. And, while don’t personally agree with it, I do agree that it’s not my place to impose western ideals on the people here. The way these animals are being treated, however, is completely inhumane and culture should never be a scapegoat for cruelty.

Here’s the rest. I’m glad Kenworthy is bringing this up. I’ve posted about these things before in 2014, where they also happen in parts of China. Only there they actually have a dog meat festival. 

Rose McGowan Has Russian Troll Bots Coming After Her

I’m only linking. I don’t come up with this stuff.

What people don’t understand a lot online about me is that the same Russian trolls, the bots they used against Hillary [Clinton], they’re doing against me. They’re doing it now.”
“The queer community was my safety. I was terrified of straight men; I was hated within that community.  They were my people, and to be ostracized from that by somebody who has done so many awful things to me, and so many others, is so deeply hurtful.”
Here’s the rest. I’m just going to leave this one alone and back away very quietly. 
The Pentagon and Transgender Military Service
Here’s a follow up on what’s been happening with the military and transgender people. Nothing is totally clear, but at least it sounds promising. I hope it continues to be promising. It’s hard to tell with these things. You really never do know, unfortunately. 
Defense Secretary James Mattis of the US Pentagon gave the White House recommendations for transgender military service on Friday (23 February).
It is unclear what the recommendations are, but the Washington Post reported yesterday he was going to advise allowing transgender personnel to remain.
Kendle’s Fire
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The Horrible Advice Billy Graham Gave Gay Youth; New Web Series Exploring Open Gay Marriage; Russell Tovey’s Fiance’s X-Rated Past

The Horrible Advice Billy Graham Gave Gay Youth

Before I get into this I’d like to state that I’m not an atheist and I have nothing but respect for people who are religious. I try never to judge or question  anyone, especially when it comes to religion or politics.

However, the other day while everyone was singing the praises of Billy Graham I just couldn’t help thinking about the dangerous things he said to gay people. How could I help but think that? And I didn’t see one single person mention a thing about that, not even my most liberal social media friends.

While he was known for his inclusivity during the civil rights struggles of the 1960s, Graham was adamantly anti-gay.

Sure, he was a product of his times, but that’s no excuse to gloss over moments like this one, in which he responded to a gay youth that “We traffic in homosexuality at the peril of our spiritual welfare.”

You can read an exchange he had with a young girl, here. It’s a photo from an old newspaper piece where I guess Graham was giving out spiritual advice. Here’s another quote…

Your affection for another of your own sex is misdirected, and will be judged by God’s holy standards. 

New Web Series Exploring Open Gay Marriage

From what I gather, this is about a new web series where two gay married men explore an open marriage.

Playing the roles of Michael and Michael are Michael and Michael — Michael Feldman (The Neighbors, ABC) and Michael Rachlis (Tim and Eric’s Awesome Show, Great Job, Adult Swim) – real-life partners who got married just over two years ago.

Here’s the rest. I watched the trailer and to be honest I don’t think I’ll be rushing to watch this one. I don’t think I’d have much in common with these people. But I will give it a try eventually. 

Russell Tovey’s Fiance’s X-Rated Past

I honestly don’t see what the big deal is with Russell Tovey’s fiance. So the guy did porn. Big deal. But it’s been creating little firestorms all over the web since the story broke. They both look as if they’re nice guys to me, and I couldn’t wish them better if I tried. 

Of course, as soon as the information became public, everyone seemed to have an opinion on the matter. And, no, they weren’t all positive or congratulatory.

You can read more, here. Most of the comments in this case tend to be positive. 

Kendle’s Fire
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Why Gay Olympians Are Marketing Gold; "Queer Eye" On Black Gay Men; Insurance Bias Against Gay Men On PrEP

Why Gay Olympians Are Marketing Gold

This is awfully condescending, and it’s one good example of how gay people get insulted on a daily basis. What they are basically saying is that it’s okay to use gay people and to exploit them for monetary gain. And this is no reflection on Kenworthy or Rippon. I think they’re both wonderful. I’m talking about all gay people right now, in general. I also think this kind of thing happens to a lot of gay people on a much smaller scale.

Big companies were reticent to sponsor LGBTQ athletes, and athletes were hesitant to come out publicly for fear of being stigmatized and losing out on big money.
But that’s changing. Diversity now adds to a star’s marketability as companies strive to tell compelling stories with their advertising.
Here’s the rest. However, at least it’s not the kind of discrimination we’re all used to getting, so there’s that. 
“Queer Eye” On Black Gay Men
I have to admit that I haven’t watched one episode of the Queer Eye reboot on Netflix. I’m just not a big reboot fan…of anything. I always figured I’ve been there and done it, why go back? But this does sound interesting. 
Netflix’s “Queer Eye” reboot is tackling issues of masculinity, sexuality and race in a way mainstream television often overlooks.
In an episode titled “To Gay or Not Too Gay,” Karamo Brown, one of the five hosts of the show, helps a black man come to terms with his sexuality in an emotional makeover.
Insurance Bias Against Gay Men On PrEP
Apparently some gay men who are on PrEP are being denied insurance coverage. 
Maria T. Vullo, the state’s superintendent of financial services, told The New York Timeslast week that companies making such denials could be penalized for illegally discriminating against those clients. 
There’s more about PrEP, here. I know quite a few people doing PrEP, and this is the first time I’m seeing anything like this. However, according to this piece some gay men are going off PrEP to get insurance.  
Kendle’s Fire
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Gus Kenworthy Pulls His Pants Down Again; Are Old Gay Men Jealous of Younger Gay Men?; Milo Yiannopoulos Drops Lawsuit

Gus Kenworthy Pulls His Pants Down Again

I saw this earlier today on Twitter and I figured I’d share it here for people who aren’t on Twitter. Kenworthy bruised the side of his body so he pulled down his pants and took a bathroom selfie to show his followers.

But before doing so, he took a moment to share a photo of the giant bruise on his butt obtained while competing.
“Just a bruised peach,” the caption read.
 Are Old Gay Men Jealous of Younger Gay Men?
Some blogger named Dylan Jones wrote a sensationalized piece where he states things like this…
There seems to be an attitude among older generations of LGBTQ people, particularly older gay men, that their younger counterparts are “losing sight of the issues.” Many seem concerned that kids these days don’t appreciate what they’ve got, saying they prioritize superficiality and fun over activism and action.
You can read the rest here. I really hate to link to these things because I always wonder how much of it was done for shock value just to get attention. It’s good clickbait and they know it. 

Milo Yiannopoulos Drops Lawsuit

If you don’t know about the lawsuit between the conservative gay pundit, Milo Yiannopoulos, and book publisher, Simon and Schuster, there’s a lot of back story here. I’m not getting into that now.

This link is mainly about Milo dropping the lawsuit. He claims he made something like 1 million on his self-pubbed book and he doesn’t want to spend it all on legal fees. That’s plausible. Not too long ago a publisher sued a book blogger and the legal fees in that case were in the six figures. It’s not cheap to be litigious these days.

Yiannopoulos took social media a second time and seemed proud of the fiasco around the lawsuit.
‘I cost Simon and Schuster a fortune in legal fees and gave them one hell of a bloody nose,’ he wrote.
‘My book was a New York Times bestseller for five weeks and made me millions.
‘The era of all-powerful publishers and cowering authors is over. We can do it without them!’

The rest is here.

Kendle’s Fire
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The Difference Between My Gay Parody Novels and This Mean Gay Marriage Parody Bill; Blind Gay College Student; Spencer Claus Queer Hero

The Difference Between My Gay Parody Novels and This Mean Gay Marriage Parody Bill

This vicious marriage parody bill is another reason why I’ve sometimes, though not always, written gay romance parody novels with straight story lines or tropes. I did it without apology, because gay people have always been considered the parody, in the meanest ways, and I got sick of it. So I created my own parodies. 

Republicans in South Carolina and Wyoming are pushing new bills to segregate same-sex weddings and legally redefine them as a “parody” of marriage.
Six GOP lawmakers unveiled the ‘Marriage and Constitution Restoration Act’ bill to the South Carolina House last week. 
You can read the rest here. The difference between my parodies and this one is that I wasn’t cruel about it. I didn’t mock anyone’s life, marriage, or hurt them. I did it with too much ridiculous sex, and humor.
A Gay Parody

Blind Gay College Student
Here’s a in-depth piece about how a young blind gay man goes about his life, from dating to basic daily routines. 
Maurício Silvia is a 22-year-old gay college student living in São José, Brazil. In many ways, he’s just like any other guy his age. He enjoys hanging out with friends, watching TV, and going on dates. But there’s one thing that sets him apart from many of his peers: Maurício is blind.
Spencer Claus Queer Hero
Here’s something about one of my favorite social media stars. I like people who break the proverbial molds and do things differently…and those who are brave enough to challenge what we’ve all been taught to believe is masculinity. That’s why I wrote Kendle’s Fire. I wanted to do something in my own way.  
Spencer Claus loves all things make-up. The out social media star quickly became so good at face painting that the teen artist enlisted the help of his parents for some modeling shots back in 2016.
Kendle’s Fire
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Butt Magazine Cultural Legacy; Should Wikipedia Change "LGBT" to "LGBTQ"; Believing Male Victims Of Sex Assault

Butt Magazine Cultural Legacy

I have no idea what Butt Magazine is about, but here’s a piece that talks about how it relates to gay culture through a new documentary titled, After Butt.

BUTT ran quarterly from 2001 through 2011 and helped an entire generation define just what it means to be gay. It was sort of a half lifestyle, half porn zine, known for it’s iconic pink pages, candid interviews, and, well, lots of amateur photos of dudes’ butts.

Here’s more. I probably should know more about this because I used to write a lot of short stories for several European magazine publishers in the 90s and 2000s. Butt Magazine came from Amsterdam and that’s one I never worked with.

Should Wikipedia Change “LGBT” to “LGBTQ”

I have to admit that I probably would have felt differently about this 5 or 10 years ago. I don’t identify as “queer” and I don’t want anyone telling me I have to identify as “queer.” However, I’ve learned a lot in the last few years about how all people identify thanks to all the other letters they want to add to LGBT, and I now understand that it’s all about who falls under the umbrella. In other words, I don’t have to identify as “queer,” and that’s fine. And someone else who does identify as “queer” is fine, too. It took me a while to get that. So now I obviously don’t have any problem with anyone using LGBTQ. I don’t have a problem adding other letters either, namely something like asexual.

But the entire topic is causing a stir in other places.

‘”LGBT” was certainly the predominant form at the time this article was created, but there’s since been a solid and well-documented shift, and “LGBTQ” is clearly the most common standard now. To be clear, I don’t think it would be helpful to move this article every time another subgroup comes along to add another letter to the alphabet soup that the most extended permutations have turned into — “K” for “kinky” being the newest — but the most common base form seen in standard sources now pretty consistently includes Q,’ writes Wikipedia user Bearcat.
Various other users, however, oppose this change.

You can check this out here. There’s a poll at the end and I’m actually a little shocked to see how many don’t want to change it to LGBTQ. I would have guessed otherwise.

Believing Male Victims of Sex Assault  

I see something like this almost every day on social media and it makes me livid. Men can be, and are, sexual assault victims, too.

The alleged incident took place in a hotel room the night before the guys were scheduled to shoot a scene together.
Zayne claims DiMaggio left him feeling “belittled and degraded” after coercing him into having bareback sex and ejaculating inside of him against his protests.

Here’s more.  No means no, and men who are victims of sexual assault deserve the same respect as women. 

Said With Care

Kendle’s Fire

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In Their Prime by Ryan Field

Straight Men Having Sex With Gay Men; Gay Men And Straight Male Friends; What’s Left To Learn About Anal Sex

Straight Men Having Sex With Gay Men

Here’s a thought provoking article about something that happens far more often than most people are willing to admit…for obvious reasons.  And, it’s not as complicated as some people think.

This wasn’t an anomaly. In fact, I’d wager that the majority of the men that I’ve slept with in life identified as straight. Most of them don’t bother with the gray areas because it’s a lot easier not to. They all didn’t stem from drugged up reunions or drunken encounters either. Before I felt comfortable with my positioning on the Kinsey scale, I was dishonest with myself too, because the truth hurts and consonants and vowels can bruise just as easily as sticks and stones.

You can read the entire piece, here

Gay Men and Straight Male Friends

Here’s a piece about gay and straight male friendships. It gives 23 reasons why gay and straight men tend to have excellent friendships. I’ve had a few good straight male friends and I find this to be true from my own personal experience. 

When straight men find out that I don’t spend all my spare time having anonymous sex, they are a little disappointed. But then they are comfortable admitting to me that most of their “tales of conquests” are packed with lies.

There are 22 more examples, here.  I also find there’s no pressure or competition with a straight guy, no gender politics, and most couldn’t care less about government politics. They don’t complain as much either. 

What’s Left To Learn About Anal Sex

This one is all about anal sex, from a statistical, educational POV. It’s SFW, too. 

42% of men always or frequently use an anal cleanser prior to having anal sex, compared to 38% who rarely or never do, and 21% sometimes do.

When it comes to cleansers, 25% say they prefer a water-based enema, 20% use a saline enema, and 18% use a shower adapter.

61% say they feel “cleaner” if they used an anal cleanser post-coitus.

Here’s more. For those of you who don’t know much about it, I think it’s important to read these things. This way you know the basics. And hygiene is extremely important. 

 Said With Care

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance

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In Their Prime by Ryan Field

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