Ex-Marine vs Former Marine: Kendle’s Fire; Gus Kenworthy Headed For Olympics; What Counts As Losing Gay Virginity?

Ex-Marine vs Former Marine: Kendle’s Fire

In Kendle’s Fire the main character refers to himself as an “ex-Marine.” There’s a reason for this that I can’t say because I don’t want to give out any spoilers. But it’s a valid reason and I did it on purpose, with all due respect to the Marines. This is a special case, and I support everyone in the military 100%, without question.

The only reason I’m mentioning this is because it’s common knowledge that the term “former Marine” is used with regard to someone who has served in the Marines. Once someone is a Marine they are always a Marine. I respect that, and I honor that.

The only time the term “ex-Marine” is used is when circumstances are unusual. In this case, with the main character, Kendle, it’s an unusual circumstance, and that has to do with the fact that he’s gay and he was in the Marines right before DADT was repealed.

So, the term “ex-Marine” works in this case, with this book. It’s not a real story, it’s fiction. And as I said, there’ s a reason for this. The entire point of the novel is about the main character questioning everything he’s ever been taught to believe about himself, and about how society views him as a man.

The fact that Kendle was once a Marine is also very small part of the story. But I thought I should mention it just in case there’s any confusion.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance

Gus Kenworthy Headed For Olympics

This is one of the most positive stories I’ve seen so far this week.

Kenworthy placed second at the final Olympic qualifier for freeski slopestyle, which was held Sunday at Mammoth Mountain, Calif. That result, combined with a victory at a selection event last weekend, qualified him for the Olympic team.

Here’s more. It’s interesting to note that according to this piece this is the first year there are “openly” gay male winter Olympians

What Counts As Losing Gay Virginity?

I think a lot of people wonder about this one. I know I always did. 

“In the heterosexual community, the v-card is generally defined as being lost through vaginal intercourse, although it still depends on who you ask,” he writes. “In the LGBTI community, however, it is even harder to define.”

Here’s the rest. In this case, I actually love the answer. I highly suggest you check it out. 

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Full List of LGBTQ Christmas Holiday Novels and Stories By Ryan Field

Full List of LGBTQ Christmas Holiday Novels and Stories By Ryan Field

Chase of a Christmas Dream by [Field, Ryan]

Over the years I’ve had a few Christmas/Holiday books and stories published. I don’t do them often because they have such short shelf lives. But here’s a list of what I’ve done so far. I hope I haven’t left anything out.

And, my most recent release, Altered Parts, does have a Christmas scene that’s significant to the story line. It’s just not a book I would consider an outright Christmas Romance.

Here’s the link. 

And here’s a list of the books that are dedicated Christmas Holiday stories and novels. The only one I don’t have a link for right now is the last one, Cowboy Christmas Miracle, which is part of the Glendora Hill series. I’m in the process of republishing that one and I’ll have a link soon. Update: 12/8/17 The link is there now. 

Second Chance: The Littlest Christmas Tree by [Field, Ryan]

The Computer Tutor by [Field, Ryan]

Down the Basement II: Santa Saturday by [Field, Ryan]

A Christmas Carl: A Gay Retelling of A Christmas Carol by [Field, Ryan ]

Jeffrey Tambor Leaves Transparent; The Private Lives of Mostly Straight Men; Mother Flawless Sabrina Passes Away

Jeffrey Tambor Leaves Transparent

I’m really starting to hate posting about these things…but it’s news. And I do think that Transparent will continue without Tambor. The cast is fantastic, the story lines are strong, and the characters are likable.

EXCLUSIVE: Facing two accusations of sexual harassment by members of theTransparent team that he has strongly denied, Jeffrey Tambor today has decided not to return to the Amazon series.

Here’s the rest.

The Private Lives of Mostly Straight Men

This one is about sexual fluidity. Don’t worry. I don’t totally understand it either. But it’s interesting.

“To the uninitiated, mostly straight may seem paradoxical. How can a man be mostly heterosexual?” Savin-Williams writes in an article published by TIME. “Yet the evidence suggests that more young men identify or describe themselves as ‘mostly straight’ than identify as either bisexual or gay combined.”

Here’s more. The comments go into a lot more detail.

Mother Flawless Sabrina Passes Away

This was sad to read…

Mother Flawless Sabrina, a drag icon and LGBTI rights trailblazer, passed away on Friday 17 November at age 78.

You can check it out, here. There are photos, and it goes into more detail about the hey days of drag and drag pageants. New Hope, PA, where I live, was huge on the drag circuit from what I hear. I missed all that, but I love when my older friends tell stories about the old days. Especially now since we’re losing so much of our gay culture as each day passes.

In fact, I think the saddest part of all about losing our gay culture is that straight people don’t even know we have our own culture, with roots that go as far back as Mother Flawless Sabrina. They don’t have the slightest clue. That’s sad.

RIP, Mother Flawless Sabrina

 Said With Care
A PG Rated Gay Romance

A Gaggle Of Shirtless Brazilians; A Good Looking Runner’s Wardrobe Malfunction; Don’t Judge A Frat Bro

A Gaggle Of Shirtless Brazilians

A few weeks ago I was told by someone who is transgender that I can’t use the word “transgenders” and that I should say “transgender people.” So when I saw this headline I had to say something. Is it wrong to refer to “Brazilian people” as “Brazilians?”

I mean no offense by it. I’m not trying to insult anyone. I refer to American people as “Americans.” So I’m not totally sure why I can’t say “transgenders” instead of transgender people. I really just don’t get that, especially since I’ve never once posted anything that was not supportive with regard to the transgender community.

In any event, this is a fun story. I think you’ll like it.

Heard of Brazilian pop group Rouge?
Well, they’re about to make an indelible impression on you.
To ring in the band’s 15th anniversary, they’re leaning heavily on the services of some shirtless, muscly male dancers.

Here’s the link.

A Good Looking Runner’s Wardrobe Malfunction

I’m a runner and I think this is every runner’s worst nightmare.

As he reached the finish line, his manly business made its presence known, pouring out of the leg of his shorts, flopping around, bouncing a bit, and giving onlookers much to shout about.
Jozef either didn’t notice, or didn’t care.
Here’s the rest. When you’re running distance you’re in a completely different zone and you really don’t know when something like this happens. 
Don’t Judge A Frat Bro
Here’s a quote by openly gay fraternity leader, Daniel Greene, about breaking the frat boy stereotypes. 
A lot of the openly gay people who feel they aren’t accepted in Greek life — not saying that they’re not facing adversity or obstacles, because they are — but some of that has more to do with their perception, and their unwillingness to give people a chance.
I’m not so sure I agree with this one. At least not totally. I don’t totally disagree either. The world is run by straight white men, and you either play their game by their rules, or you don’t. 
You can check that out here.  There are comments you don’t want to miss. 

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Dynasty’s Gordon Thomson Comes Out; Gay Landlord Who Had Sex In Tenant’s Bed; Hot Guys Sending Books To Hurricane Kids;

Dynasty’s Gordon Thomson Comes Out

Whenever I read things like this I can’t help but think about how bittersweet it is. It’s wonderful that Gordon Thomson came out as gay recently, and so sad that he remained in the closet for so long. And you can’t blame him for remaining in the closet. He had his reasons. His generation of gay men didn’t just come out without carefully considering the consequences…legal and professional.

Even today, there are still consequences, especially with good looking male actors, and that caution is still there. And yet, with that said, I would guess that Thomson has lived a happy, fulfilled life for the most part. Those of you who aren’t gay will never fully understand that long before legalized gay marriage and assimilation, long before heteronormative Hollywood (and book publishing) started white-washing gay content, gay culture was always that one thing we had to depend on. In our own private closeted circles, it kept us well. For many it still does.

But I don’t want to digress, because this is uplifting. Thomson goes into more detail about why he didn’t come out sooner. If this one story alone doesn’t make you think twice, nothing else will. Especially for those of you who aren’t gay but think you know everything about gay men.

Thomson had wondered before we spoke whether his sexuality would come up in our conversation, and what he would say if it did. Would he shout “How dare you?” and “get on my high horse” and terminate the call, or—the unspoken alternative—would he finally say what he has not felt able to say all these years: that yes, he is gay.

Here’s the rest. It’s a very candid piece and Thomson even talks about some of the things that happened on Dynasty with the gay story line. You don’t want to miss this one.

Gay Landlord Who Had Sex In Tenant’s Bed

Here’s another update on the gay landlord who had sex in his tenant’s bed…while the tenant was out. But the clever tenant (who clearly took nothing for granted) caught it on a video security camera.

40-year-old Carlos Quijada-Lara of Colorado Springs, CO pleaded guilty to criminal trespassing and misdemeanor obscenity after a security camera captured him in the act.
He’ll be spending two years in jail.

There’s more here. 

Hot Guys Sending Books To Hurricane Kids

This is one of the best things I’ve seen all week online.

Though Hurricanes Harvey and Irma have passed, the clean up has only just begun. Now, one of our favorite Instagram pages, @HotDudesReading, is teaming up with the nonprofit First Book to send books to all the kids who have been impacted by the storms.

Check that out here…with a hot dude pic.

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A PG Rated Gay Romance

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field

Male Celebrity Bulges; Deaf and Gay Dickie Hearts; What Defines A "Jock" On Gay Hook Up Apps?

Male Celebrity Bulges

Here’s one that dates back, but I missed it back then and I think it’s kind of timeless. And, it’s a lot more fun than politics.

In May, Queerty readers voted overwhelmingly for Jon Hamm’s headline-grabbing schlong as the best celebrity bulge, with actor David Henrie’s poolside package coming in second, followed closely behind by Michael Fassbender’s sweatpants surprise.

You can check it out here, with photos. It doesn’t look as if anyone posed for these pics either.

Deaf and Gay Dickie Hearts

Here’s an interview with actor and filmmaker, Dickie Hearts, who has faced his share of challenges in life so far, and he’s done so with pride and tenacity.

Describe your first Pride.

For some reason, most of my Prides are vaguely hard to remember. All (half) kidding aside, I do remember my first L.A. Pride. It was 2011. I had just driven across the country from Virginia to Los Angeles. I was wearing a pink tutu and looking so fabulous that they let me cut the super-long line at the Abbey. I danced with a really hot firefighter guy. It was a great way to settle into the new gayborhood.

The rest is here. I always find it interesting that no one bothers to leave comments on the best articles, like this one. The only time you see comments is when there’s some kind of clickbait, or it’s something argumentative. I guess that’s the nature of the Internet, though.

What Defines A “Jock” On Gay Hookup Apps?

For people who are into hook up apps, here’s something about how the term “jock” is defined. It’s a collection of opinions from people who use hook up apps regularly. Some of them might surprise you.

Here’s one that I never would have imagined:

When you see that word [jock] it means the guy is guy isn’t out. Only my close friends know I am gay but nobody else does. I’ve always used it to let people know I’m not open to everyone. I just like getting BJ’s anyway. Am I doing it the wrong way?

You can check out the rest here.  Some are more literal.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Chechnya and Concentration Camp For Gays; Hollywood Fail With Gays: Kelly Osbourne On Female Celebs Pretending To Be Gay; Vatican Appoints Gay Rights Activist; In Their Prime by Ryan Field

Chechnya and Concentration Camp For Gays

I’ve seen a lot of information going around about this alleged concentration camp for gays in Chechnya. So I did a simple search and found this on Snopes.

When we asked Amnesty International if they could confirm the existence of the concentration camps they responded that it’s preferable, based on what we know, to refer to them as secret detention sites. “We should always be careful about using the language of ‘concentration camps,’” AI spokesperson Alexander Artemyev said.
Artemyev also noted that not all the detainees have been men suspected of being gay:

Although not even Snopes is perfect, they tend to be one of the more reliable sources online. You can check this out here. As of right now there are still conflicting reports, but it definitely sounds as if something shifty is going on. I highly suggest reading this in full.

Hollywood Fail With Gays: Kelly Osbourne On Female Celebs Pretending To Be Gay

According to Kelly Osbourne, there are female celebrities pretending to be gay. I honestly don’t know much about it, but I do have a comment at the end for Ms. Osbourne.

‘There’s this whole generation of young Hollywood girls who can’t find love where they think it’s supposed to be, and then they come out being gay and two weeks later they have a boyfriend. It drives me nuts!’ the daughter of rocker Ozzy Osbourne and talk show host Sharon Osbourne tells PrideSource.

She adds: ‘I’m like, I know you. I’ve known you pretty much since before you used to shit outside of a diaper. You are not gay! But I think outing somebody in that way is just as bad as outing somebody who has not come out of the closet. It’s one of those things I have to keep to myself… and it drives me fucking crazy!’

You can read the rest here. She’s not naming anyone. But if this is true, I disagree with Osbourne. If they aren’t gay, and they are only pretending to be gay, I say out their asses and name their names. Because outing someone for being straight and privileged and calling their lies is by NO means as bad as outing someone who has not come out of the closet yet. The two are not even remotely related.

Hollywood fail with gays, once again.

Vatican Appoints Gay Rights Activist

It’s hard to tell where the Catholic Church stands on gays these days because I see so many conflicting stories all the time. The Pope says one thing, and then says another. But I guess this is a start…

The Vatican has appointed a pro-LGBTI Jesuit preacher to consult on their PR.

Father James Martin is the author of Building A Bridge: How the Catholic Church and the LGBT Community Can Enter into a Relationship of Respect, Compassion, and Sensitivity.
The editor-at-large of America magazine, the New Yorker has used his voice to call for an inclusive Catholic Church.

The rest is here. Evidently, Fr. Martin has more than a few critics within the Church. There’s a tweet to prove this, and Fr. Martin doesn’t waste a moment going after another priest on Twitter who questions his authenticity and his motives.

Cover Reveal: In Their Prime

In Their Prime is my newest release with Ryan Field Press. It’s a longer novel, about 90K words, and it’s not an erotic romance this time. There are no explicit sex scenes…but it is still a romance. I’ll post a lot more about it soon.

Here’s a cover reveal…

Malaysia Islamic Authority and Gay Cure Therapy; LGBT Content In Korean Schools

Malaysia Islamic Authority and Gay Cure Therapy

As sad and backward at this sounds, it’s obviously a reality.

Malaysia’s official Islamic authority has openly endorsed ‘gay cure’ therapy.

The Department of Islamic Development Malaysia (Jakim) released a video last week explaining how non-LGBTI people could change their sexuality if they wanted to.

In the three minute video, Jakim said sexuality was like learning to ride a horse and if a LGBTI person wanted to become heterosexual they should receive training and guidance.

You can check that out here.

LGBT Content In Korean Schools

I like posting about these things whenever I see them. I think it’s important to think globally in terms of LGBT issues.

LGBTI groups in South Korea are calling on the government to have LGBTI content added to sex education in schools.

The Department of Education currently has a sex education policy which preventions any mention of sexual minorities.

LGBTI advocates have labelled the policy as discriminatory.

There’s more here. It goes on to mention many of the challenges LGBT youth face.



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Meryl Streep, People With Disabilities, and Hollywoodfail; Vivica A. Fox Apologizes; Andrew Garfield and Stephen Colbert Make Out On TV

Meryl Streep, People With Disabilities, and Hollywoodfail

I think most people know what happened with Meryl Streep at the Golden Globe Awards. That was political, but this post isn’t about politics. This is about calling out people coming from places of privilege. It’s also about letting others know that this issue with disabled people goes a lot deeper than what the media reports on the surface. It happens time and again, with disabled people. It happens in Hollywood with minorities, too, and I’ve posted about how often this happens with gay characters more times than I can count.

Someone decided to finally speak up about it, and to defend people with disabilities who never get any representation…

What’s most disheartening, Keplinger notes, is that when people with disabilities are depicted on the big screen, they tend to be played by actors who are able-bodied in real life.
“’We would never do this,’ I’m sure many were thinking. ‘We would never mock someone with a disability,’” Keplinger said. “But how many of the actors in that room have been paid millions of dollars to play someone with a physical disability? There is a difference between playing a part and mocking someone, absolutely, but can Hollywood really pat itself on the back when disabled actors are still so rarely cast ― even to play people like themselves?”

You can read more about this here. It’s a long piece, but it gets right to the proverbial heart of the matter. I think I like this line the most because it can be applied to anything.

“Imagine what it would feel like to be a woman and for the only women you ever saw in films to be played by men

Vivica A. Fox Apologizes

It’s only fair to post about this. Besides, you don’t see too many apologies coming from anyone these days.

Fox was called out everywhere for comments she made about not wanting gay men at her male stripper shows. This was her reply…

“My intention was not to offend anyone and I’m woman enough to apologize if you felt that way,” she continued. “My show has already been taped and I was just doing something for the ladies but all are welcome to enjoy Vivica’s Black Magic Show! It’s HAWT…I’m all about LOVE not HATE dawling! Have a blessed day.”

Here’s where I found this. I’m probably not going to watch her show, but I think she sounds sincere.

Andrew Garfield and Stephen Colbert Make Out On TV

This one seems to be getting mixed responses. From what I’ve read, people reacted the same way years ago whenever a white person kissed a non-white person on TV.

Apparently straight guys have figured out what straight girls have known for years: making out with someone of the same sex is a great way to get attention.

On last night’s The Late Show, Andrew Garfield — no relation to the cat — was pressed on his lip-lock with Ryan Reynolds at the Golden Globes. “You kind of stole focus,” Colbert said. “What was the story there?”

There’s more here, with a video of the actual kissing. The comments are mixed.

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