tolerance

What Has Happened to Tolerance and Diversity in the Gay Community?

For those who read this blog, you all know I never get into politics with regard to my personal political beliefs. I’m not a politician and I’m not running for office. I write fiction and my goal is to entertain people…readers…regardless of what their political or religious beliefs are.

If I write about politics in my books, like I did sometimes in the Virgin Billionaire series, I balance conservative views with liberal views. One of the interesting dynamics between Luis and Jase in the VB series is that Luis is a very liberal gay man and Jase is a very conservative gay man. And they fell in love and lived happily ever after.

And that’s how it works in real life, too. Not all gay men and women are liberals, and not all are conservatives. Personally, I have not embraced the Q in LGBT yet, and I’m not sure I ever will.

Even though I don’t agree with my ultra conservative gay friends, I still respect their views and I don’t shun them because they are conservatives. And when I see this happen, I have to wonder whatever happened to tolerance and diversity within the gay community.

This past weekend Tony and I went to a BBQ at a friend’s house and the topic of politics came up toward the end of the evening and I gave Tony a look and said, “It’s time to go home and feed the dogs.” Dogs are a great excuse at times like this. No one can fault you for taking care of them. Only this time the dogs could have waited and it wouldn’t have killed them. This time I wanted to get out because one of my ultra liberal gay friends started in on politics and I saw one of my very good conservative gay lesbian friends ready to explode.

And she did explode, and I’m glad I wasn’t there to see it. But what truly bothers me is that she’s not allowed to have an opinion and everyone else is. She believes in all the things my liberal gay friend believes in as far as equal rights go, but she’s more fiscally conservative. I’m not a conservative, and yet I value what she has to say. And she’s not always wrong. What bothers me even more is this e-mail she sent me about how she feels. She wasn’t addressing me personally. She knows I respect her opinions. It was a mass e-mail to many people who haven’t been respecting her opinions. Frankly, it’s starting to cross into bullying.

Don’t send me any political jokes please. I have no intention of reading them.
I’m sick of the double standard of let me tell you all about my choice but I don’t want to hear about yours.

This is a truncated version of the e-mail, but you see where I’m gong with this. While I don’t agree with everything she says, I do believe she has a right support any political candidate she wants to support. And I respect her for doing this.

Good For Cher: Chaz Bono on Dancing with the Stars



I probably should have left up my new release post for the weekend. But I saw this about Cher and Chaz Bono and couldn’t help posting about it right now.

When I made my last post, about Chaz doing the reality show, I was a little surprised at some of the negative reactions I received. And from gay and straight people, too. Well, anyone who knows me knows I don’t buckle when it comes to things like this. I kept the post up and I’m posting about it again. This is what the T in GLBT is all about, and I’ll fight to my death for tolerance.

Good for Cher for coming to his defense!!

As for Chaz, you may not like it, you may not understand it. You may not even want to like it or understand it. But the point is that Chaz Bono is doing something most people wouldn’t have the guts to do. And I find that amazing…on so many levels I could fill this entire blog with examples. And I don’t even like dancing myself…can’t do it….won’t even try. But I’ll be watching this show.

….Cher takes to Twitter to defend Chaz Bono on DWTS

By Sandy Cohen | AP – Thu, Sep 1, 2011 9:08 AM PDT

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..LOS ANGELES – Cher is taking to Twitter to defend her son Chaz Bono.

The superstar posted several tweets Wednesday defending his participation on the upcoming season of “Dancing With the Stars.” Bono is the first transgender competitor on the hit ABC show.

Cher says her son, who was born female and underwent surgery to become a man, is being “viciously attacked” on blogs and message boards since the new cast was announced Monday.

“This is Still America right? It took guts 2 do it,” Cher wrote, adding that she supports him no matter what he chooses to do.

“Mothers don’t stop Getting angry with stupid bigots who (mess) with their children!” the 65-year-old singer wrote.

Bono, 42, is paired with pro dancer Lacey Schwimmer on the reality show, where celebrities and their professional partners perform various ballroom dances for judges’ scores and viewer votes.

“Dancing” fans have posted both angry and supportive comments on the show’s message boards. One called the casting choice “disgusting” and said “ABC should be ashamed of theirselves for harassing mainstream Americans and Christains.”

Another wrote: “I never and mean NEVER watch DWTS but will this season to support/vote for (Chaz).”

On his own Twitter page, Bono described himself as “the luckiest guy around” and thanked his fans for their support. He also thanked Cher.

“Thanks for all your support mom,” he wrote. “The haters are just motivating me to work harder and stay on DWTS as long as I possibly can.”

The 13th season of “Dancing With the Stars” is set to premiere Sept. 19.