Tab Hunter Gay

Tab Hunter Confidential; Can You Be Gay and Asexual? When Male Thongs Go Wrong

Tab Hunter Confidential

Last night I finally got a chance to watch the documentary about 1950s mainstream heartthrob, Tab Hunter.

Of course they covered his life and his career throughout the film, however, the main focus was that Hunter was gay back when gay wasn’t even a word for men who are attracted to men. Back then, gay was a crime and considered a mental disorder. The nicest word they called us, among tons of pejoratives, was homosexual.

And I can’t recommend this one enough. Hunter brilliantly narrated most of the documentary himself, gave a clear picture of what life was like back then for men like him/us, and he did this all without exploitation or sensationalism. And that’s not an easy thing to do. He also did NOT play to our emotions like George Takei, trying to be the all-knowing wise gay men. Tab Hunter is a man. He’s telling his story. He does this with dignity and decorum. He’s not looking to become the next gayest meme sensation on social media. Plain and simple.

In fact, I think I liked Hunter’s discretion most of all. There’s nothing outrageous about him, but he can still turn heads to this day. 

Throughout the 1950s, Tab Hunter reigned as Hollywood’s ultimate male heartthrob. In dozens of films – and in the pages of countless movie magazines – Tab’s astonishing looks and golden-boy sex appeal drove his fans to screaming, delirious frenzy, making him the prototype for all young matinee idols to come.

You can check that out here.

I watched the film on Netflix.

Can You Be Gay and Asexual?

I’m not sure what to make of this. I have a good friend on Facebook…a gay author with some bestselling novels, with classic gay presses, not start up e-presses…who rants often about how gay culture and gay men are consistently being ripped apart by those who don’t totally understand that being gay is something completely different than being LGBT. In other words, LGBT people are all fighting for rights and equality together daily, however, individually there’s not much in common from a cultural POV. He believes we’re losing our culture and those who don’t know any better and aren’t gay are trying to change the rules…our rules.

With that said, I have seen this topic of being gay and asexual come up before and I’ve always wondered, because most gay men…at least most of the gay men I’ve ever known in my lifetime, and I’m gay…are strong sexual people. They embrace sex and sexuality, without shame or disdain.

This really makes me wonder…

QUEERTY: You identify as gay and asexual. What does that mean exactly?

COTY: I suppose people would say I am “asexual homoromantic” but I don’t necessarily feel like that label fits me. I’m gay–I like guys, just like anybody else who is gay, but not necessarily in a sexual way. I have an aesthetic attraction (who doesn’t like a nice butt?), sensual attraction, and a romantic attraction to men. If I have a strong emotional bond I may form a form of sexual attraction as well.  Asexuality exists on a spectrum.
I’ll be the first to admit that being gay is not only about sex and sexuality, however, I can’t help but wonder if this guy really is gay. I’m honestly not qualified to go into detail about this one, and I am NOT drawing any conclusions, but I am wondering whether or not this might be another attempt to change gay culture as we’ve always known it. Or, possibly, has this been around all the time and no one ever knew it? Gay men are diverse, and that’s a fact, too. Or…should people who identify as asexual simply be called Asexual and leave it at that?…Because there’s nothing wrong with being asexual.
To say the least, the comments are not kind to this person. Actually, they get downright snarky at times and they may or may not be justified.
When Male Thongs Go Wrong
Here is a series of photos about men who wear thongs…and that maybe they should be rethinking their underwear choices.
Male thongs. They may be hot in theory, but rarely do they work out in real life. Few men can actually pull them off, and those who try often struggle. (The notable exception being, of course, Zac Efron. Or French guys.)
Board shorts. Sure! Swim trunks. Great! Speedos. OK! But thongs? Just say NO!
I’ve never been a huge thong fan.  I find them uncomfortable and awkward

Unabated

The Arrangement