Category: spirit day

Gay Couple Divorce For Three-Way; Two Philly Hate Attackers No Prison Time; Michael Sam On Bullies

Gay Couple Divorce For Three-Way

Here’s a story about a gay couple who were married for a year and they invited a third guy into their bedroom for a three-way (a menage). What followed is interesting. I’m working on this same topic in the next book in The Rainbow Detective Series and I’m honestly not certain where the story line is going to wind up.

“The three of us sat out in our back garden together, talking for hours about our lives, ambitions and dreams,” Adam recalls. “Sebastian was different to anyone we had ever met. There was something about him that Shayne and I couldn’t explain, but it was like meeting our life partner for the second time.”

Sebastian was equally as surprised by how well the three of them got along.

At the time, I didn’t think I was ready to commit to anyone, so it was a surprise when I fell for both Adam and Shayne,” he says. “I didn’t think I wanted one boyfriend let alone two!”
The guys married to each other are divorcing because they don’t want the third to feel left out. This way they can form a new threw-way commitment that will include all three and not just two.  It all sounds wonderful, in that hopey-changey way, but is this something that’s even newsworthy?

It can get complicated, and obviously none of them have any serious financial worries about getting a divorce. In a way, it bothers me because it sort of diminishes what Edie Windsor and so many others (like Tony and me) have fought for with gay marriage. Getting a divorce like they’re doing, with such a glib attitude, is simple to do when you’re in your twenties and you have nothing yet…and you don’t have to worry about power of attorney. But in your thirties and older it becomes much more involved. There aren’t many gay grown up couples who own property and share bank accounts that would do this. 

And that’s what Blair and Proctor are going to face eventually in the next Rainbow Detective book. And right now I really don’t know where it’s going. From a romantic POV I’d like to see it work in the books for all three of them, from a more realistic POV I’m not sure it can work. I’ve seen too much in real life 🙂

Two Philly Hate Attackers No Prison Time
At least two of the straight people charged in a brutal attack on a gay man last year won’t be serving any time in prison. They accepted a plea deal, and the other will stand trial later this month. I’ve posted about this before and you can check that out here.

Victor Fiorillo at Philadelphia Magazine reports: “Kevin Harrigan and Philip Williams pleaded guilty to one count each of conspiracy and aggravated assault. Neither man will spend a day in jail. The guilty plea was given in exchange for a sentence of probation.”

Knott didn’t plead guilty. She’ll go to trial October 30.

There’s more here. 

I can’t really comment on this because this is how the process works and I believe in the process. From what I gather, and I’m no expert, taking a plea deal like this is an admission of guilt that will follow them for the rest of their lives.

Michael Sam On Bullies

Michael Sam is now reaching out to gay kids about bullying. He’s doing this with Vito Cammisano. I have no idea what the status of their relationship is. From the way it looks in the article they aren’t engaged any longer.

To commemorate GLAAD’s Spirit Day campaign, the guys filmed a video to help spread the word and encourage people to wear purple to show their support for bullied queer people.

“I support spirit day because it is very important,” Sam says. “As some one who was once bullied, I think its very important we tackle this issue.”
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Bradley Cooper No Tongue; #Spirit Day; NOM Against Gays in Russia

Bradley Cooper No Tongue

This article is a little dated, but I keep google alerts for certain topics and this one popped up with something else and I thought it was interesting. Evidently, in a kiss scene from Sex in the City with Sarah Jessica Parker, Cooper was told no tongue kissing because SJP doesn’t do that.

“And then right before we shot the scene, this guy came up and I think he said, ‘SJP does no tongue. No tongue, man’. And I was like, ‘Who’s SJP?’ So she kisses me, then straddles me in the front of the car and all I kept thinking about was keeping my tongue as far back in my mouth as possible. It was nightmare. But she wasn’t — she was great,” he said.

This might be one of the fundamental differences between gay men and most (not all) straight women…at least with regard to kissing Bradley Cooper. It reminded me of an old Designing Women rerun I saw once where the character “Mary Joe” claimed that kissing, especially tongue kissing, was even more personal to her than actual sex. Of course that’s paraphrased. But WTF? I never forgot that comment, and to this day still can’t figure it out.

#Spirit Day

On October 17th we’re being asked to wear purple, or go purple online in some capacity or another to support Spirit Day, which is a day set aside to stand against bullying.

Getting involved is easy: Wear purple or go purple online on October 17th and help create a world in which LGBT youth are celebrated and accepted for who they are.

You can find out more about it here.

The Hot in Cleveland cast is going purple that day, including Betty White. There’s a video with the link above.

Bullying gay youth…and gay adults…is still a serious issue all over the place, including online. Too bad there isn’t a day set aside for bullying gay fiction. There seem to be a lot of censorship issues coming up lately. I’ve been dealing with a few issues myself on Smashwords.

NOM in Russia

NOM (National Organization for Marriage…they believe marriage is between one man and one woman, not gay marriage) president, David Brown, was in Russia allegedly trying to push legislation that’s geared toward keeping interested foreign couples from adopting children in Russia. 

Now, Brown is coming under fire by Fred Karger, President of Rights Equal Rights, who claims that Brown’s actions to help pass this legislation with Russian officials violates The Logan Act, a federal statute that states that it is a crime for a U.S. citizen to confer with foreign governments against the interest of the United States or without authorization of the American government.

I’m sure everyone who knows about gay people knows Fred Karger made gay history in the past general election by being the first gay man to run for President of the United States, and he did this on the Republican ticket. If not, I posted about it here many times.

Since then, Karger has been working tirelessly to expose many of the alleged illegal dealings associated with NOM, like this issue in Russia.

Karger wrote this in a letter:

The presentations by NOM’s Brian Brown were apparently very effective. Five days later, the Duma passed a ban on the adoption of Russian children by same-sex couples and by single people living in countries that allow marriage equality.

Immediately after Mr. Brown’s meetings and testimony in the Russian capital, Russian President Vladimir Putin announced a severe crackdown on LGBT rights, affecting all LGBT visitors to Russia to include Americans.

If Mr. Brown did travel to Moscow with French religious leaders with the express intention of furthering discrimination against LGBT Russians and all LGBT travelers to Russia, this could be in direct conflict with current United States laws.

The saddest part of all is that so many children will be denied good homes, with good families.

Photo above is in the public domain.