"Glee" Changed Public Opinions; Benham Brothers Again; Gay Flag Burns

“Glee” Changed Public Opinions

Here’s a link to an article about how Ryan Murphy thinks Glee changed public opinions. I think it’s an article many of us can relate to…but only to a certain extent.

I have been told that seven years ago, before Glee and Modern Family and Transparent and Orange Is the New Black, that only 18 percent of Americans believed that a gay or nontraditional family was entitled to equal rights. Today, that number has grown to 52 percent. That is a great change, that is a great victory, shockingly in such a short amount of time, but there is more work to be done.

You can read more here.

I’ve been critical of Glee at times and a few of the other TV shows above because I found them to be self-indulgent. But more than that, they don’t always represent all LGBT people…especially those gay men who are still closeted, still without a voice, still facing discrimination, and still living with shame. A good deal of this shame comes from the stereotypes about gay men that make it harder for everyone. But in a general sense I do think Glee did help change public opinion and did help educate the mainstream in a positive way. 

I can tell you one thing for certain. I personally face insults, homophobia, and discrimination every day of my life and we have a long way to go.

Benham Brothers Again

I once posted about these two Benham brothers when they had their HGTV show yanked because their homophobic beliefs surfaced and went public.  Since then they claim gays have been waging war against Christians…allegedly. It’s hard to parse this article because it’s written in such a highly subjective way.

“We had so many people from the gay community reaching out to us and one man in particular from the city of Chicago reached out,” David Benham said during a panel discussion last week. “After a little conversation back and forth, I found out he loved baseball … and I got him tickets to a Cubs game. He shot me a Facebook post and said, ‘I was not expecting that — and I’ve been thinking a lot about this. I’ve chosen to walk away from my lifestyle.’”

So much about this doesn’t make sense. First, it’s kind of sad to think a straight man would be shocked to find out a gay man loves baseball. Maybe the comment about walking away from his lifestyle was sarcasm…because gay isn’t a lifestyle.

But this is what I mean about how far we still have to go. I’m not only insulted by the Benham brothers, but by the gay person who wrote about all this. We also need to focus a little more on finding a few more professional gay journalists and not these self-indulgent cliches.

You can read more here.

Gay Flag Burns

This story is disturbing, because it shows how innocent gay people can be subjected to hate and discrimination when they least expect it. A straight guy got drunk and set their rainbow flag afire.

It was just after midnight when Ariann and Jess were woken up by some commotion; they initially thought they were being burglarized. Jess ran to check on their two girls, and Ariann made it to a window just in time to see Mayfield’s van drive off.

Already shaken, the couple heard more noise shortly thereafter, and when they looked out the window, saw Mayfield running down the street, the flag’s flames aglow in the night.

The guy who did this claims he was so drunk he didn’t know what he was doing and the gay flag wasn’t something he targeted in particular. But even if that is true, tell me what gay person in the world would NOT be scared to death watching something like that happen outside their home?

You can read the rest here. 

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Racism In Gay Community; Winter F-Buddies; Who Is Finn Wittrock?

Racism In Gay Community

In this article, a guy named Nelson Moses Lassiter talks openly about being gay and African American in the gay community. He makes a few good points, and it’s a topic I think isn’t discussed often enough.

When I came to terms with my sexuality, it took a very long time. I used to just debate with myself back and forth and I used to, I was actually angry that I was gay and I was angry at God for making me gay, there were just so many things that were going through my mind. So when I came to terms with everything, I wanted to go out and just meet guys and make friends and kind of find my place in the world, knowing that the world that I came from just wasn’t the one for me, it wasn’t accepting. Eventually I started meeting people and making friends and there was this one time I was actually just chatting with this one guy and the conversation was going great and there was definitely a really cool connection there, there were a lot of similarities and I said, “Oh, do you want to grab a drink some time?”

And he goes, “You’re really sweet, you’re really nice, but I don’t date black guys.”

He was just like, “Well, they’re just not my type.”

I was like, “Well what does that mean, you don’t like me because I’m black? That’s weird.”

That just blows my mind, that anyone could be so insensitive and stupid…and racist. And that’s partly because I did date black guys before I met Tony and the only reason I dated those guys was because I really liked them. We had a good time together.

You can read the rest here. 

Unfortunately, the comment thread devolves into more racism, however, at least it’s being discussed.

Winter F-Buddies

We all know the F stands for Fuck. I just didn’t want that coming up in a google search so I censored the title a little. It’s an article with six reasons about why we need a good fuck buddy in the wintertime. The least of which would be the obvious: to keep you warm.

Here’s one of the six:

It’s beneficial to your mental health

To the surprise of no gay man on earth, a study published in Social Psychology and Personality Science earlier this year found that people who engaged in regular casual sex reported lower stress levels and higher levels of happiness.

I know this may sound a little insensitive, but I think there’s a good deal of logic to this one. I come across a lot of vicious people online during the course of a week and I often wish they had good fuck buddies. Make them much happier online. And there’s this really good looking guy I follow on twitter who is always talking about insomnia. I just want to tell him he needs a good shtup and he’ll sleep like a baby…but of course you can’t say something like that. You can only hope and wish they figure it out on their own eventually.

Check out the rest here. What I like most about this is that it takes sex and focuses more on the emotional/mental rather than the romantic/conventional. In some cases, in real life, it’s not such a bad thing. I also think this is important for all four seasons, not just winter.

Who Is Finn Wittrock?

He’s the creepy mamma’s boy on American Horror Story: Freak Show. The one who took off his pants a few times and set twitter afire. Because white undies on older twink will do that. I actually think his acting abilities are better than his looks, but that’s subjective. However, he made a few interesting comments about the creepy character he’s playing. If you haven’t watched the show this season a good example of what his character does would be a recent scene where he murders all the yentas at a tupperware party, chops them up, and throws them into a swimming pool. And now Finn Wittrock is talking about how his character on AHS isn’t a villain and he most certainly is NOT gay.

In his own words…very amusing:

But I can never think of him as a villain. I can never think of him as evil. I just have to keep getting under his skin. But he realizes that his purpose in life is to kill. It doesn’t get more dangerous than that. Because I actually found that the killing is not out of hatred. He kind of likes the people that he kills. He wanted to be a performer, and somehow that’s transformed into murder, so he thinks of it as a performance, like he’s fulfilling his destiny.”

Not “somehow.” Ryan Murphy transformed him into a murderer as if picking it out of the sky for pure sensationalism.

Here’s the part about not being gay…

— American Horror Story: Freak Show‘s Finn Wittrock discussing murderous Dandy with Vulture and when asked if his character is gay, replies, “No, no, definitely not. He just likes girls with two heads, you know? One head’s never enough.”

And that’s who Finn Wittrock is. You can read the rest here and please don’t miss the comments.

No Ryan Murphy is just a very terrible writer, because now Dandy just comes off as joke at the expense of gay stereotypes.


It’s like Murphy changed his mind early this season from Dandy being Jeffery Dahmer to being full on Norman Bates. Ryan Murphy writes the worst gay characters on television so this doesn’t surprise me.

Ryan Murphy TV is kind of like meatloaf at a cheap campy diner. The portions are huge, it looks great at a glance, and it’s always highly exaggerated with plenty of filler. But you get sick of it sooner than you thought you would.

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American Horror Story; Is Miley Cyrus a Victim?

American Horror Story

The new season of American Horror Story is coming up this week, and Ryan Murphy thinks it could run for 10 seasons. The show also has a big gay following for some reason, and DRVs in my house have already been set to record the entire series. Jessica Lange is back, and Kathy Bates is also part of the cast.

Jessica Lange plays Fiona, the Supreme witch of her generation, which means she has almost unlimited power — except that she can’t seem to stop herself from aging. Her daughter Cordelia, played by Sarah Paulson, is also a witch, but she’s chosen to stifle her powers and live a more “normal” life. Of course normal in a Ryan Murphy show means running a school for “exceptional young ladies,” a.k.a. young witches, in New Orleans, home of voodoo and the destination for witches fleeing Salem so many years ago.

“American Horror Story: Coven” premieres Wednesday, Oct. 9 at 10 p.m. ET on FX.

Read more here…

Is Miley Sirus a Victim?

In a Guardian article by Melissa Bradshaw, there are some interesting comments about whether or not Miley Cyrus is a victim, and whether or not Sinead O’Clonner was justified in penning Cyrus an open letter. I still think the main issue is dealing with people who have mental illnesses. However, if I were attacked online, non-stop, like O’Conner is attacking Cyrus, I’m not sure I would be so forgiving.

Perhaps you can already see the problem here. It is not women’s bodies or images of them that cause the exploitation of women or violence against women. The perpetrators are to blame. If women’s bodies were to blame for any violence or exploitation of women, then rapists would be justified in claiming their victims were asking for it by looking attractive. The rhetoric of objectification actually feeds that which it claims to protect women against – the equation of female nudity with exploitation and violence. What the world needs is not the idea that women are precious victims. Women need to be able to behave in a sexual way without exploitation or violence being considered a necessary outcome.

You can read more at this link.

I often post about rape culture here. However, I think these issues when coming from a woman’s POV, hold more impact than anything I could say or comment about. But I will add this: Cher started performing in less than nothing costumes many years ago, she shocked people at award ceremonies, and continued to do this well into her fifties. I would like to see how Cher would respond to Sinead O’Conner if O’Conner were to pen her an open letter. In fact, I would like ringside seats.