Category: Ryan Field

The #MeToo Movement Goes Deeper Than Hollywood; Timothée Chalamet Made A Woody Allen Movie;Matt Damon Apologizes for Sexual Misconduct Remarks; Johnny Weir Speaks About Tonya Harding

The #MeToo Movement Goes Deeper Than Hollywood

I saw someone clueless posting on social media about how we only hear about wealthy powerful men sexually assaulting women, as if to suggest that the women encourage this predatory behavior from these wealthy powerful men. But also that these same women would not encourage guys who aren’t rich and powerful. Of course that makes no sense, because sexual assault is happening everywhere. It’s not exclusive to Hollywood and it’s not exclusive to the rich and powerful.    

Their friend, Jozanne Marie, an immigrant from Jamaica, said she dealt with abuse from within her family for a 10-year period. She wore a shirt that read: “The shame does not belong to you.”

“This is a bigger issue, it’s all over the world. I’m glad people are talking about it right now,” she said. “I’m hopeful this movement will help remove shame. … I believe things are going to change and this is going to set us up for the next generation.”

Here’s more

Timothée Chalamet Made A Woody Allen Movie

This has been trending everywhere. 

Timothee Chalamet is the young actor who plays a 17 year old barely legal gay character in the movie Call Me By Your Name who is having a sexual relationship with a 24 year old character…who is being played by a straight male actor in his 30s.

Woody Allen has been associated with sexual assault allegations.  This dates back to 1992. You can read about that here.  

And now Timothee Chalamet, who plays the barely legal character from Call Me By Your Name, has decided to donate all of the money he made on the Woody Allen movie to charity…

Timothée Chalamet is the latest high-profile actor to donate film earnings to the Time’s Up Legal Defense Fund.

In addition to Time’s Up, the “Call Me by Your Name” star said he will also be giving his salary from the upcoming Woody Allen film “A Rainy Day in New York” to the LGBT Center in New York and anti-sexual assault organization RAINN.

Chalamet is not able to answer any questions about this for legal reasons, however, he’s donating this money because he doesn’t want to profit from his work on the Woody Allen movie. 
Matt Damon Apologizes for Sexual Misconduct Remarks
Evidently, Matt Damon doesn’t know or understand the definition of sexual misconduct. And now he’s apologizing for things he said.

In an interview on ABC News’ Popcorn With Peter Travers, the Downsizing actor said that while he finds it “wonderful” that women are speaking out against their alleged perpetrators, there is a “continuum” with respect to questionable behavior.

“There’s a difference between…patting someone on the butt and rape or child molestation, right? Both of those behaviors need to be confronted and eradicated without question, but they shouldn’t be conflated, right?… We’re so energized to kind of get retribution, I think,” Damon said.
You can read more about it, here.   I think he sounds sincere. And I like people who admit when they’re wrong and are willing to own up to that. I think it makes a huge difference. 
Johnny Weir Speaks About Tonya Harding
We haven’t seen or heard from Johnny Weir in the news lately. This is what he tweeted about Harding. 
I am so over the glamorization of a villain simply because she was born on the “wrong side of the tracks.” While her upbringing may have been tragic, athletes come from all walks of life and succeed based on merit, not assault. I won’t applaud her and I stand for Nancy.
You can read the rest, here.  It’s interesting to note that I’ve seen more than a few who do feel sorry for Harding because of her upbringing. I’m not one of them, though.

A PG Rated Gay Romance

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


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You Could Lose These Internet Rights; Brian Singer Fired From Queen Biopic; Two Men Tortured For Having Gay Sex; Gay Teenager Strangled

You Could Lose These Internet Rights

I’ve been working on the Internet since the late 90s and I’ve seen a lot happen. But nothing that’s ever been this scary.

Net neutrality–or the idea that the internet should be free and open–is circling the drain. The FCC is planning to repeal the 2015 law that banned blocking, throttling, or fast-laning web content. But what, exactly, are the implications of doing so? 

Here’s one thing that could change.

Essentially, internet service providers like Comcast, Verizon, and AT&T want the government to deregulate the internet so they can make more advantageous business decisions. 

I highly urge you to pay attention to this.  Frankly, though, I’m not even sure this can be avoided.

Brian Singer Fired From Queen Biopic

In pop culture news, this is turning into a huge mess. And the project itself sounds so promising.

“Bryan Singer is no longer the director of Bohemian Rhapsody,” the studio said Monday in a statement.
The decision reflected an escalating clash between Singer and actor Rami Malek and was caused by the helmer being missing from the set, necessitating the Dec. 

Here’s more.

Two Men Tortured For Having Gay Sex

Whenever straight people ask me why I don’t care about certain issues, this is the kind of example I give them. For most LGBT people out there in other parts of the world, nothing is safe.

According to various reports, two men in Uzbekistan were arrested and tortured for having gay sex in their own home.

Police claim that the men, each in their 20s, will face three years in prison for “engaging in illegal sexual relations”.

Here’s the rest. What truly worries me are the things we DON’T hear about.

Gay Teenager Strangled

Here’s another example of what gay people still face. This is about a 19 year old who fell victim to anti-gay bullies in London. And I always think of London as safe. So this could happen anywhere.

A police spokesperson said: “They demanded the victim apologize for being gay which eventually the victim did as he was struggling to breathe.

There’s more here.

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A PG Rated Gay Romance

FREE Gay Excerpt: Stepbrothers In the Attic; Hallmark’s Love On a Limb with Trevor Donovan; "The Women Who Love To Love Gay Romance" Author Oleander Plume Wins Flogger Award;

FREE Gay Excerpt: Stepbrothers In the Attic

I finally submitted Stepbrothers In the Attic to the publisher, with the cover copy. You can read more posts about this here and I’ll post more when I get a release date.

Here’s the cover copy, and the excerpt is below at the end of this post. This excerpt shows a little more of the intense homophobia (and shame) the characters face. 

David, Marcus, and their four children are charmed with more love than money. Their happy family is blessed with so many wonders in life they never even think about being different, and never forget to take time to be grateful for everything they have.

And then one quiet evening a regular family celebration turns into a deadly catastrophe. The family is left in a state of confusion. They are forced into making a life change that leads them to a remote mansion in New York’s Hudson River Valley, which then leaves them vulnerable to all of the gay shame, hate, and homophobia they’ve managed to avoid so far. 

When they find themselves at the mercy of a wealthy, abusive old grandmother they never knew they had, and a gay father so desperate for money and approval he’s willing to go through gay reparation therapy, the only thing that keeps them strong is their love. As the nightmare continues and they’re brought to the brink of death, there’s only one thing left to do. 

Will they be able to escape from this surreal nightmare of homophobic abuse and sexual innuendo their twisted grandmother has forced upon them? Or will they succumb to the dismal existence they’ve been forced to endure in an attic that is filled with nothing but shame?  
Hallmark’s Love On a Limb with Trevor Donovan
I’m not sure what the people over at the Hallmark Channel think about being mentioned with a book that just won a Flogger Award (below post), but I think there’s a cross over with these genres, and in some ways the two genres are related. In other words, the same people who might read a book like the one below…or one of my own erotic romance books for that matter…are the same who might watch a TV movie like Hallmark’s Love On a Limb. The only difference between a Hallmark movie and an erotic romance is that people will admit openly to watching Love On a Limb, but they’ll read an erotic romance discreetly and never mention it to anyone.

In any event, this new Hallmark movie, Love On a Limb, that’s airing on October 1…this weekend…looks interesting, especially to a tree hugger like me. If you’ve seen any photos I post with my home on social media you’ll know just how many trees I have on my own property. And I love each one of them. 
Love On A Limb is an endearing new Hallmark movie that is making its way to television this weekend. With Fall and Autumn setting in, Hallmark fans are looking forward to all of the upcoming holiday movies. Love On A Limb is about a park and recreation’s employee who chains herself to an old oak tree to keep it from being chopped down. Hallmark’s Love On A Limb is directed by Mel Damski and written by Erik Patterson and Jessica Scott. According to the Internet Movie Database, Love On A Limb, which was originally titled Seeds of Love, stars Ashley Williams as Aimie, Trevor Donovan as Kyle, Jefferson Brown as Mayor Tom Parker, and Marilu Henner as Zee.

As you can see, the entire cast looks pretty impressive. And, this film will kick off what Hallmark is promoting as “Fall Harvest.” There will be a new original film every Saturday at 9 pm, and after that I believe they’ll begin the holiday romances. You can check that out here

Here’s a link to the Hallmark web site where they have a preview of Love On A Limb.

And here’s the link to the excerpt, above.

The Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance Author Oleander Plume Wins Flogger Award
It’s nice to see that an author I took on for my own anthology, The Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance, was actually part of an award winning anthology recently. When I was gathering authors for The Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance, I knew I had a damn good group of writers from the start. And I also knew they’d go on to write for more publications and do wonderful things.
I’m not part of this anthology with Riverdale Ave Books, but I think it’s important to support and spread the news about anything small publishers achieve. And in this genre, this is a big award. 
From my inbox: 
 Congratulations to

“Tie Me Up, A Binding Collection of Erotic Tales”

for winning

The Best BDSM Anthology of 2016 Golden Flogger Award!

You can check out the book at the publisher’s web site, or here on Amazon. According to the e-mail I received, the book will be on sale through October 31, at 50% off regular price. I think the sale is only at the publisher’s web site and you have to use the coupon TMUFlogger

Excerpt: Stepbrothers In the Attic (There is a small spoiler alert. It’s not that significant, but it’s there, so you’ve been warned.)

           While Eric and Brad went over to Marcus so they could hug him, Jasmine turned toward their grandmother and glared at her. “I hate you, old lady, and I hope you drop dead in your sleep tonight.”
            Marcus jumped up and said, “Jasmine.”
            Eric, Brad, and Kevin stood next to the bed waiting to see what their grandmother would do.
            Their grandmother lowered her gaze to Jasmine and they locked eyes for a second. Without warning, their grandmother lifted her arm, flung it back, and then smacked Jasmine in the mouth so hard she sailed across the room and landed next to the table.
            Before any of them even had a chance to react, Brad ran over to see if Jasmine was hurt and Kevin ran up to their grandmother and kicked her in the shin. Their grandmother screamed and she kicked Kevin back so hard he wound up on the floor beside Jasmine in tears. Then the grandmother raised both arms up in and shouted at all of them. “I will not have this kind of behavior in this house. Do you understand me?”
            “Mother,” Marcus said. “Don’t hurt them. Please.”
            “Shut up, Marcus, you little faggot, you weak excuse for a human being,” she said. “You never were good for much, and you have nothing to say in this matter. You obviously can’t control your children and someone needs to do it.”
            Marcus squared his back and looked her in the eye. “Don’t touch my kids, mother. I won’t have it. I’ll leave if you ever hurt them again.”
            Their grandmother glanced at their father and laughed in his face. It was the first time Eric had seen the old hag laugh about anything. “Then leave,” their grandmother said. She stepped away from the door and gestured toward the exit. “I certainly didn’t ask you come back here to fly that silly rainbow flag over the front door, you homosexual degenerate.”
            This was the first time since their other dad died that Eric saw a sign of strength in Marcus. He grabbed Marcus’s arm and said, “Let’s go, dad. I’ll help you pack. We don’t have to stay here.” He glared at his grandmother. “That bitch is crazy.”
            Marcus stood there and said nothing. His shoulders slumped again and he turned to face the wall.
            Their grandmother laughed again and this time she glared at Eric. “Watch your vulgar mouth, young man. You’re not too old to whip. You’re not going anywhere, because you don’t have anywhere to go. And while you are in my home you will listen to what I have to say.”
            “Do something, dad,” said Brad. He sounded as if might get down on his knees and beg.
            Marcus remained silent.
            Their grandmother pursed her lips and glared at them all.  “Tell them about your therapy, Marcus, and tell them that you’ve just completed your first round and that you’re on your way to living a good, clean, decent life. Tell them you’ve found God and you are now repenting for bedding down with another man and doing unthinkable things to a man in bed. Tell them you are not a dirty little degenerate homosexual whore anymore who will do unthinkable things with men.”
            When Eric saw that Marcus wasn’t going to say anything, he faced his grandmother and sneered. “You’re a sick, evil old woman with a dirty mind. You talk about what’s good and decent and clean and you have the filthiest mind I’ve ever come across. You’re the one who needs to repent, not our father. We had a good clean life until our other father died and you know nothing about us. How dare you pass judgment on us with the excuse of your God.” Then he looked into her eyes and glared. “You might get away with whatever you want with everyone else, but you’ve met your match with me, old lady. I’m not afraid of you.”
            She looked at Eric and shrugged, as if nothing he’d said meant anything to her. She knew she had the proverbial upper hand and she seemed to enjoy it. “I don’t want to know anything about you either. You’re all nothing to me. You’re not even related to me. You’re trash. For all I know you are all nothing more than four little bastards that my son picked up off the street because no one else wanted you. So let me make this clear, young bold man with such a big mouth, so you understand me fully. Homosexuality is a punishable sin, and a sickness. I will give you everything you need to survive, but you’ll never get anything else from me. I didn’t ask for you and I don’t want you here at all. The only reason you are here is because I’m so determined to cure my son from the sin of homosexuality. No one else will ever find out you were here.”
            As his grandmother turned to leave, he saw no point in replying to her. He knew for certain now there was something intrinsically wrong with the woman and there was nothing rational he could do or say to change her. He now knew why his father had left this house a long time ago. He also saw that she’d beaten down their father to the point where he was ready to submit to anything, and he didn’t want to make it worse. Eric would figure out a way to get even with her in time. He silently made a vow that night to get her back in ways she could never dream. For the time being, he would pretend to obey her and let her think she’d won.


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Colton Haynes In Scream Queens 2; The Cast of Looking On LGBT Representation; Donald Trump On LGBT Promises; Peter Thiel Makes LGBT History At Republican Convention

Colton Haynes In Scream Queens 2

I saw this trending in a few places on social media on Friday, and I figured I’d share for those who might be interested in it. In truth, I haven’t been watching Scream Queens, but I will check it out now that Colton Haynes is part of the cast.

According to Entertainment Weekly, Haynes will be playing a “mysterious role” in the series, which moves the action from college to a hospital of abject terror owned by the superiorly-named Cathy Munsch (played by Jamie Lee Curtis.)

You can check that out here.  

The Cast of Looking On LGBT Representation

Here’s what the cast of Looking thinks about LGBT Representation…

Queerty was on the Looking movie red carpet in San Francisco for the premiere to talk with all of your favorite cast members. In the exclusive clip above, Russell Tovey and the rest of the cast share their thoughts on the importance of LGBT representation in television and film.

There’s a video here. One comment from a cast member rings true: we need more diverse representation. I try to do this in all of my books and I get a lot of positive feedback from people who notice it. 

Donald Trump On LGBT Promises

I’m remaining objective with this one, as I always do with politics. And once again, it’s partly because I don’t want to insult the many LGBT people…and straight people I know…who do support Trump. Of course the article to which I’m linking isn’t objective, but you rarely see anything that is good objective journalism in the queer presses. They can’t help themselves.

Or so he claims.

“As your President, I will do everything in my power to protect our LGBTQ citizens from the violence and oppression of a hateful foreign ideology,” Trump said.

Actually, I watched the entire convention, and I will watch the entire Democratic convention, too. Donald Trump said a few more positive things about the LGBT community, and so did a few of the other speakers, one of whom I’m posting about right below this. In fact, I was shocked at how the people on the floor applauded the LGBT community, with genuine respect. And I saw this myself. It’s not hearsay.

Peter Thiel Makes LGBT History At Republican Convention

Of course you didn’t see this news trending anywhere in the queer presses. So much for objectivity and gay history. But I saw the same thing happen when Fred Karger made gay history by running for President in the last election. He’s an openly gay man and the queer presses went blank on him.

Peter Thiel encouraged the GOP to not get distracted by culture wars on stage Thursday night, saluting Donald Trump for not focusing on such things as he made history.

The tech billionaire declared to the Republican National Convention that he is “proud to be gay,” becoming the first speaker in the party’s history to do so from the stage of the Republican National Convention.

“Every American has a unique identity. I am proud to be gay,” he said to applause, including from the Trump family. “I am proud to be a Republican, but most of all I am proud to be an American.”

You can check this out here. I think it’s important to present both sides of any story, and Peter Thiel did, indeed, make gay history whether queer presses want to acknowledge it or not. At least other news outlets did recognize it.

Valley of the Dudes


Riverdale Avenue Books Press Release: Valley of the Dudes by Ryan Field

Press Release: Valley of the Dudes

Here’s the publisher’s press release for Valley of the Dudes.

From my inbox…

Riverdale Avenue Books Publishes Valley of the Dudes by Best-selling M/M Author Ryan Field in Homage to 50thAnniversary of Susann’s Classic
Riverdale, NY, July 15, 2016 – The innovative award-winning hybrid publisher Riverdale Avenue Books has just released Valley of the Dudes by Ryan Field to commemorate the 50th anniversary of the groundbreaking classic, Valley of the Dolls.
Lambda-award-winning author Ryan Field, who has been known for parodying heteronormative romance classics, explained his approach to writing his novel, “I’d always considered Valley of the Dolls a game-changer in publishing, pop culture, and in film. I’ve always believed it was part of the forefront of the sexual revolution, and it broke those proverbial grounds that lead the way for other books like it to enter the mainstream.” 
Field added, “I also think it’s a little ironic, if not symbolic, that the 50 year anniversary of Valley of the Dolls coincides so closely with the 50 year anniversary of the Gay Liberation movement. Valley of the Dolls and Gay Liberation were both part of an era that helped define sexuality and equality today.”
Said Riverdale Avenue Books Publisher, Lori Perkins,” It’s amazing how relevant Susann’s classic remains today as we wade through the flood of celebrity worship and scandal that Susann predicted. Ryan’s re-imaging shows just how universal her vision was when it is brought forward 50 years and genders are changed, and it is still a powerful tale of the cost of fame and fortune.”
About the Author
Ryan Field is a Lambda-Award winning author of more than 100 LGBT works of fiction.  Some of his best-known work includeof the bestselling “Virgin Billionaire” series and the short story, “Down the Basement,” which was included in the Lambda Award winning anthology titled “Best Gay Erotica 2009.” Though not always, he sometimes writes gay parodies of *straight* mainstream fiction/films in the same way straight fiction and Hollywood has been parodying gay men for years, without apology. Please check out his web site for updates
About Riverdale Avenue Books
Riverdale Avenue Books is an award winning, innovative hybrid publisher at the leading edge of the changes in the publishing industry.  We publish e-books, print, and audio books under 9 imprints: Desire, an erotica/erotic romance imprint; Pop featuring pop culture titles; Riverdale/Magnus the award-winning imprint of LGBT titles; Truth, an erotic memoir line; Verve featuring lifestyle titles; HSF, a horror, science fiction, fantasy line; Dagger, a mystery thriller imprint; and Sports and Gaming featuring sports and gaming titles. Started in 2012 by industry veteran Lori Perkins, Riverdale is a full service publisher, with a foreign rights and film agency department.  Visit us at

Christmas Past by Ryan Field

Christmas Past by Ryan Field

Below is a post I wrote for Queertown Abbey’s 12 Days of Christmas event this December. When they asked me to write it and I noticed they wanted specific traditions and recipes, I wasn’t sure what to do. I guess in a general sense Tony and I spend Christmas in certain ways, but we’ve never had any set traditions that went from year to year. I love restaurants and great food, but I’d rather skip a meal than cook one, so traditional recipes were out of the question. Why make pizza at home when the pros do it so much better?

I tried to focus in a more general sense, which covered many years in only a few paragraphs.

In any event, wishing everyone a great Christmas and safe travels if you’re on the road!! I’ll resume normal gay news blogging on Friday.

The night we met the entire east coast in the US was dealing with record cold temperatures and snow that had frozen over to ice in many places. We actually met in a gay bar in New Jersey that’s not around anymore, on a Saturday night. And there’s a reason for this. If it had not been for the cold and ice we probably never would have met at all. We only went there was because we didn’t want to drive into the city on Saturday night in that weather.

After we met that night, we started “seeing” each other on a regular weekly basis all through that Christmas season. I would drive to meet Tony on Friday nights, and he would meet me on Saturday nights. We did this for two reasons, and I’m mentioning this to show what the times were like. One, we were both fresh out of college and still living at home, and the distance between us was about an hour. Second, in 1992 it wasn’t common for two gay men to “date.” Although neither one of us ever denied we were gay to family, we didn’t talk about it either. And getting picked up for a date by a guy just wasn’t done in our worlds.

During that time, Tony was in the process of purchasing his first home and he was going to settlement the week before Christmas. This bothered me a little because I wasn’t part of that and I felt as if I were intruding in a way. In fact, at the time I thought things might not work out because of this. I’d always pictured meeting someone and buying a home together. But life, as we all learn eventually, is never as we plan it and I wound up loving the town house he bought and I eventually moved in later that year. There wasn’t a move-in day. It happened slowly over the course of that year. Since that time we have purchased other homes together.  

But as I look back now, I think those years, in that town house, were some of the best we’ve ever had. We were too young to even know what we were doing and we learned as we went along. The first Christmas in the town house we purchased the biggest tree on the lot and spent hours decorating it and I still didn’t think we had enough ornaments. So each year after that, even to this day, I wind up buying at least a dozen or more new ornaments. Although I’ve never actually counted them, it’s reached a point where there are so many ornaments to put on the tree it takes a full afternoon to put it up. (And hours to take it down.)

It’s hard to pinpoint a specific tradition or “thing” we do for Christmas…other than this massive overly decorated Christmas Tree. Each year since 1992 it’s always been a little different. Up until we moved to our present home we had huge Christmas parties every year, with forty or more people. One year we hired a male stripper to help serve and he turned out to be the best help we ever had. He really did work. When we moved to our current home, which is in a more rural part of town, we stopped having large Christmas parties because our driveway only holds about twenty cars. There’s no parking on the street because it’s so rural. So we figured that in order to avoid insulting people we couldn’t invite for lack of parking space we just wouldn’t have huge parties anymore. And that’s been fine.

The point is that it’s always different in that sense. I wish I could say we have a specific tradition but we really don’t. Last Christmas we spent a good deal of the time in the hospital with my mom and that came along without warning. The year before, we both had the flu and didn’t do much of anything. If there is any specific tradition I suppose it’s Christmas Eve. We started having a small dinner for just us and two very good friends we’ve known for years. They were an older couple I met when I owned my art gallery and we all hit it off immediately. At the time we met, they were already together about forty years. We spent many Christmas Eves with them, until one of them passed away about five years ago. So now we spend it with the survivor…just the three of us. It’s something I think we all look forward to each year and it’s something I also know I’ll miss one day.

As for favorite recipes. Each year that’s different, too. And I think that’s part of what I’ve always enjoyed the most about the Christmas season. It’s never exactly the same, but it’s always spent at home and it’s never been uneventful. The one huge change is that we’re both “out” with our families and we do spend time with them at Christmas. And, of course, now that we’re legally married it does make a difference. Neither of us thought it would. But it does. It makes us equals with every other straight family member and that’s important. Far more important than most people actually realize.

Check out the rest of the Queertown Abbey event here.  

"Gay American" Jim McGreevey; Gay Cruising In Underwear; Drag Face Turn Off

“Gay American” Jim McGreevey

I know I’ll never forgot turning on the TV for a special announcement from Governor of New Jersey, Jim McGreevey, in August of 2004. I just sat there waiting for something else to come on because I thought it would be another boring political speech that would run too long and contain nothing of substance like most political speeches. But when McGreevey said that he was a “gay American” I turned up the volume. That was ten years ago and a great deal has changed since that time. And this link talks about where McGreevey is now, ten years after that unprecedented announcement.

Ten years after he announced that he was a “gay American” and would resign from office after a scandal-plagued stint as New Jersey governor, Jim McGreevey is back in government, this time mostly as an evangelist for prison reform.

McGreevey, now 57, runs transitional programs for those getting out of prison and returning to Jersey City, where the mayor sees him as a policy and political adviser.
“This is the ideal intersection of faith and service and government policy,” McGreevey said in an Associated Press interview this month.
I remember meeting McGreevey in person once. We had a business in Lambertville, NJ, which is a mile from where we live in New Hope, PA. McGreevey was walking in some kind of parade at the time, which is a big thing for a Governor to do in a small town like Lambertville. Frankly, I knew he was gay just by looking at him that day. Of course had I mentioned that to anyone at the time I would have been slammed hard for making an “accusation.” Times were different, but not all that different in some cases. Make the same remark about any other male politician today and there will still be shame attached to it. That’s what we still need to work on the most. The shame. There’s nothing wrong with being gay. Repeat that until you “get” it. We don’t have to live in a world where there are no labels. There’s nothing wrong with labels unless we attach shame to those labels.
You can read more here. The article goes into more detail about McGreevey’s reasons for resigning and coming out the way he did in such a public way. It wasn’t all about taking pride in being gay. I think some of it was. But not all, not by any means.
Gay Cruising In Underwear
Some of the critics in the m/m genre don’t always appreciate gay culture as it is…and as it always has been. I’m not talking about readers now. I think all my readers, male and female, “get” what gay culture is all about. I’m talking about a handful of rather loud voices who review “professionally” and write blog posts about gay men as if they’re talking about lab rats.
Unfortunately, m/m authors can’t dispute any of their claims because the authors would be considered badly behaving authors. But bloggers can do whatever the hell they want, which is the best perk about blogging. One of these reviewers I’ll refer to as the “brightest star in the sky” who reviews m/m all the time with his/her own personal take on how gay men really are is about as far off on real gay culture as Joan Rivers is on fashion. But I think this link I’m posting about right now is only more proof that cruising and the element of danger with regard to gay sex is a huge part of the culture, whether you like it or not. It’s just a fact and it can’t be disputed no matter how hard the asexual crowd tries.
Usually when you pass a hitchhiker your immediate thought is to keep going. But, if you were to pass by Char DeFrancesco you would probably slam on the brakes, especially since he’s lost and all he has on is his underwear. In this exclusive photo shoot from Marco Ovando for The Underwear Expert, Char is just trying to catch a ride! He tests which underwear will catch him a ride the quickest by changing it up. There are looks from Baskit to Marco Marco, and then Char slips on some Wood Underwear and finally ends up in C-IN2. We’re not sure if he’ll ever make it home looking like that!
You can read more here, and see the photos of Char cruising the highway in his underwear. It all looks like fun and games on the surface, but there’s a deeper meaning here and a strong symbolic reference I could write a book about. In fact, this could be one of the ultimate fantasies for most gay men…yes, even those who try to assimilate the most.
Drag Face Turn Off
This is interesting to me because I sometimes write stories with characters who cross lines with gender bending. I don’t write them often, but the few times I have (Down the Basement) they’ve received more attention than I thought they would. In this next link an artist took vintage photos of hot, hairy butch men and put them in drag face. The results where what most of us would expect.
“I’m doing a series of paintings of vintage ultra macho porn stars, with shaved faces in full drag face. It’s interesting how without the face, the paintings are very erotic and suddenly in face it’s a strange turn off. Just a fun exercise but I’m excited to be showing so quickly in my new city.”
This is interesting, too.
As a drag performer in San Francisco, I was often made very aware of the power feminine transformation has over our sexual boundaries and comfort zones as gay men. The joke has always been that a boy must be prepared to sacrifice his sex life in order to work in this specific creative medium. And to a certain degree, this can be true. 
You can read more here, and see a few photos.
Here’s one of the gender bending stories I wrote where the exact opposite of this is true. This little gender bender gets more than his share of attention…and sex…but with straight frat boys who don’t know he’s in drag, not with gay men. The straight guys think he’s a real woman, and the story is not all fiction.
Down the Basement
by Ryan Field

Amazon Review:

Ryan Field is top of the class when it comes to cross dressing and female attire erotica and this is one of his hottest. The sense of danger as Rush takes care of the drunken jocks who could suddenly discover his secret and beat him up is palpable as is the erotic tension. The situation is plausible and the ‘surprise’ ending is a nice touch.