Let’s ALL Support LGBT TV Show "East Siders"; Five Women Accuse James Franco of Inappropriate Sexual Behavior; Cher Headlines Mardi Gras Party In Sydney

Let’s ALL Support LGBT TV Show East Siders

The other night I finished binge watching the 3rd season of East Siders on Netflix and I tweeted about how much I loved it and how I wish there had been more than 6 episodes. And to my surprise, which sometimes happens on Twitter, the creator of East Siders, Kit Williamson, replied to my tweet letting me know that he wants to do more episodes, but funding is always an issue.

First, when I say I love this show I’m not just blowing smoke up your butts. I really do, and I think that’s because it’s so different from other LGBT TV shows I’ve seen. East Siders has love, it’s sexy, it has emotion, it’s current, the characters are likable, and most of all it’s authentic LGBT content. And during a time when so much LGBT content is coming from straight people in Hollywood, I find that as valuable as I do refreshing.

I started watching season 1 of East Siders when it first showed up on Netflix, and with each season that’s followed I’ve enjoyed every episode. After posting that Tony and I took two cross country road trips last year, from coast to coast, I especially loved season 3 of East Siders because two main characters also do a cross country road trip. Now I can’t wait to get back in the car this spring for another cross country road trip and head back to Palm Springs.

I also love the way they set the first episode of East Siders in Palm Springs, CA. A lot of people out there who know nothing about gay culture, but think they do, don’t even realize that Palm Springs, CA is filled with gay history and gay culture. That’s why Tony and I bought a condo out there. So we can divide our time between New Hope, PA, and Palm Springs, CA. There’s no place else like it in the world.

The sex scenes in East Siders are well done, not over the top, and they mention things like PrEP. I think the characters represent a lot of what’s happening out there today with real life gay people. It’s not Modern Family or Will and Grace. This show is the real deal, and I think you’ll like everything about it. I think women who love to love gay romance novels will love East Siders, too. There is modern, new adult gay romance and so far I’ve seen happy endings.

You can read more about it here on IMDb.  And there are a few YouTube videos out. But most of all, give East Siders a shot, support it because we need authentic gay content like this, and help support authentic gay artists who are doing their best. I know what that’s like as an indie gay author to struggle. It’s not easy when you’re up against a system that’s geared for straight white people. But sometimes a show like East Siders comes along and you just want to see it work out.

This is from IMDb

What happens after the world ends? Written and directed by award winning playwright Kit Williamson, “EastSiders” explores the aftermath of infidelity on a gay couple in Silverlake. When Cal (Kit Williamson) finds out Thom (Van Hansis) has been cheating on him with Jeremy (Matthew McKelligon), their relationship is turned upside down. Will the lies tear them apart or are they just stubborn enough to stay together forever? Drunken outbursts and double standards abound in this dark comedy about the sad and funny messes we make out of our lives. Cal’s best friend Kathy (Constance Wu) is always there for him with a bottle of whiskey in her purse, but she has her own problems with her nice guy boyfriend Ian (John Halbach), even if they’re all in her head. Stephen Guarino guest stars as a party promoter throwing one last bash before the apocalypse.

Kit Williamson

There’s also a kickstarter campaign for East Siders, here.   

Five Women Accuse James Franco of Inappropriate Sexual Behavior 
Here’s more about the ongoing James Franco story. 
Five women have come forward accusing James Franco of sexually inappropriate behavior in an explosive new piece published by the Los Angeles Times.
This latest report comes just days after Franco was accused of being a hypocrite on social media for wearing a Time’s Up pin at Sunday night’s Golden Globe Awards:
Here’s the rest. I have no comment about Franco. But prepare yourself for more than a few vituperative, misogynist comments at the end of the article. 
Cher Headlines Mardi Gras Party In Sydney
This is fairly big news. I don’t think Cher has done anything quite this grand in a long time. But as always, she’s doing it with style. 
The rumor mills that gay icon Cher would headline Sydney’s Mardi Gras Party were true. The pop diva has just been confirmed as the main act at the world famous party in an exclusive Australian performance.
There’s more, here. I would imagine there are a lot of thrilled people in Sydney right now. I actually read a novel, a good novel, written by a female author about Mardi Gras in Sydney. I lost touch with her, but the Mardi Gras descriptions were excellent. I’ll update if I can remember the title of the novel.

Update. Here’s a link to the post about the Mardi Gras book I was talking about. 

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The Projector: New Release; The Milo Yiannopoulos Court Saga; Guys Are Going Commando; Watch Them Objectify Justin Trudeau

The Projector: New Release

Here’s my newest release, The Projector, which is also part of a limited edition I’m doing with Altered Parts. But I wanted to release both separately, with different covers. They aren’t related, except for the fact that I’m offering The Projector as a free bonus story with Altered Parts, here. 

In any event, The Projector is a long story that falls a few thousand words short of a novella…it’s 15,000 words. Here’s the blurb, and here’s the Amazon link. I also have it up for sale in other places, too, like Smashwords and iTunes.

Kyle Jacobson is a perfectionist on a mission. With an important school project that must be done on a certain night, during a certain time of the year, he plans everything right down to the last detail. He keeps his secret project so carefully guarded no one other than his boyfriend knows about it, because Kyle believes this could be the most important project of his academic career.

Unfortunately, Kyle’s boyfriend disappoints him at the last minute and Kyle is left to deal with his secret project alone. It becomes a true test of professional tenacity to see if he’ll follow through with his plans or abandon them completely.

Kyle has no idea what lies ahead of him that night, nor is he aware of how quickly life can change in the blink of an eye. But it soon becomes apparent he made the right choice that night, because the outcome of this project changes his entire perspective and his life in a totally unexpected way.

The Milo Yiannopoulos Court Saga

While I’m not a huge fan of any political pundit, I do find this lawsuit with Milo Yiannopoulos interesting from a publishing POV. And this is getting gritty now. The notes from Milo’s editor were released in court, and Milo’s fighting back with a few interesting allegations of his own. 

I’m not going to try to parse this one, and I’m not excerpting. You can check it out here. I’m going to follow this one to see what the outcome is. 

Keep in mind that most articles about this are highly slanted in one direction or the other.  

Guys Are Going Commando

There’s not much happening this week, obviously. Some company is selling gym shorts where guys can go commando…or that’s how it feels.  

The company has released a homoerotic commercial, er, “infomercial” that shows a dude repeatedly adjusting his junk and bending over in a G-string while his fratty friends attempt to tear his clothes off in public. You know, typical “guy” stuff.

It’s worth checking out the video, and the comments. The shorts actually look kind of comfortable. I thought the video was funny, but the people who commented clearly don’t agree with me. 

You can do that, here. 

Watch Them Objectify Justin Trudeau

Whenever I see things like this I can’t help wondering how people would react if this was done to a woman. Especially a woman politician. Think about that for a moment.

But getting back to those looks, a photo quickly went viral today that shows off Trudeau’s curves in all the right ways.

What follows that comment is a close up photo of Justin Trudeau’s ass. This really bothers me because I happen to have a lot of respect for Justin Trudeau. He is the only high profile politician that I can think of in recent years who has actually apologized to gay people for what they’ve gone through.  

We should be thanking Trudeau, not gaping at him.  

You can check it out here

FREE Giveaway A Christmas Carl

And don’t forget my publisher is doing a free giveaway at Goodreads for A Christmas Carl.

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The Next World’s Largest Penis; The Fake News With Ted Helms; Aaron Carter Is Ready To Date Men

The Next World’s Largest Penis

It seems as if the guy I’ve been posting about with the world’s largest penis now has competition.
But now, a certain Jonah Falcon, the media-savvy owner of a 13.5-inch penis, is here to tell the world that Cabrera “cheated” and his penis is legit terrifying/enchanting.
See, Cabrera “created” his shambling Frankenstein of a penis by using weights and stretching out his foreskin. Says Falcon: Cheating, cheater, he’s a cheat.

The Fake News With Ted Helms

If you’re like me, you’ve become both disillusioned and amused with cable TV news programs. It started for me long before Trump became President. About 10 years ago, I started seeing a pattern in all cable news shows where accuracy was less important than sensationalism. And they (cable news people like Jake Tapper) do this with honest straight faces, as if they really believe their own bullshit, and they expect you to believe it, too. 
Well, Ted Helms is now poking a little fun at them. 
Instead, his aim is to mock cable news. “We really wanted to poke fun at cable news as its own target,” says Helms, a self-confessed news junkie, who likens it to professional wrestling.

“In looking at the news outlets, you realize pretty quickly that they have more in common than they are different,” he says. “They do have an editorial ideology that’s different, but once you peel that back, they’re all the same.” He points to their use of tired tropes and “cage matches,” adding, “It’s heartbreaking sometimes to see how transparently jaded and biased some of the news presentation is.”

Here’s the rest. It’s really hard to single out any one cable news show in particular. They’re all full of crap. I never thought I’d say this, but I’m actually finding the best and most accurate news from sources like Variety, The Hollywood Reporter, and TMZ these days. 

You can find this on Comedy Central. 

Aaron Carter Is Ready To Date Men

You just have to wonder sometimes if this kind of thing is strictly for publicity, but it’s still something you can’t resist. 

“I definitely embrace my bisexuality and, you know, it’s still new to me. I just started talking about it, really. I have my confusions and I’m still learning about the community.
Who knows what the future has to bring, whether it’s a relationship with a guy, I don’t have a problem with that. It’s something that I’ve already thought about for the album after this one. It’s already been thought through.”
Here’s more. There are photos, too. I like him. I hope he can get it together. 

FREE Giveaway A Christmas Carl

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Barely Legal Gay Characters; Cyndi Lauper and LGBT Youth Homelessness; Transgender Professor Wins 1 Million In Court

Barely Legal Gay Characters

Tony and I have a 16 year old niece who recently came out as gay, and she’s dating a fantastic 16 year old girl. They’re both getting support from all family, including parents. They have their entire lives ahead of them, and it’s so refreshing to see young gay people get a chance to have the youth that gay people (and all gay people up until very recently) like me were denied. 
I think I’m aware of things like this because I have been writing gay erotica and erotic romance for a very long time. One of the things the industry has always frowned upon are barely legal characters. In fact, there is a list of things considered “taboo” that most publishers won’t even go near. And even though the concept of barely legal rides a thin line, it is something I’ve always been concerned about.
First, this is one definition of “barely legal” at Urban Dictionary. 
1) The age at which a girl is just old enough to have sex without getting the older man in trouble with the law. 
It works the same way for barely legal guys, too, gay or straight. 
My bottom line here is that it’s creepy and more than questionable, especially nowadays with a new revelation about sexual abuse in Hollywood and the media coming out almost daily. A lot of these young women (and men) who were/are being sexually abused were/are barely legal.
The only reason I’m posting about it is because there’s a new Hollywood film that’s getting all kinds of critical acclaim for having a straight male character who is a 24 year old predator go after a 17 year old gay boy who is barely legal. And I’m finding that most people are not even aware of the fact that there is this concept of barely legal. I’m thinking (hoping) maybe if they knew they’d see something wrong with this and they wouldn’t support it.
Well now you know. You know that this is not a good thing. Barely legal content is when a 24 year old straight male character goes after a 17 year old boy. If that doesn’t bother you, that’s fine. But you should know that’s really what this is about, and there’s no way to twist it and spin it into something else.   
In any event, I’m not even mentioning the movie. The truth is the movie is up for awards, and people who would normally never support anything barely legal are praising this one. And I think that’s just because it’s gay content. If it were straight content it would be considered Lolita.   
Cyndi Lauper and LGBT Youth Homelessness
On a far more positive note, here’s a story about how Cyndi Lauper wants to help make a world a nicer place for LGBT youth. And there are a lot of LGBT young people who need help. The most vulnerable usually fall prey to older sexual predators. 
Cyndi Lauper’s career got a boost in the LGBTQ community, and she has returned that affection many times over with some serious charity advocacy and action. In 2008 Lauper founded True Colors Fund, a non-profit organization designed to end homelessness among LGBTQ youth. A staggering 40% of all youth experiencing homelessness are LGBTQ. These young people face the struggles of homelessness, in addition to prejudice around their sexual orientation or gender identity – making them less likely to get help and more likely to remain homeless. This is the challenge Lauper’s True Colors Fund hopes to help solve.
Transgender Professor Wins 1 Million In Court
I must have missed this one because I don’t remember reading anything about it, or posting about it here. And it’s definitely something I would have posted about because these cases are changing the way transgender people are treated in the workplace. 
A jury found on Monday that Southeastern Oklahoma State University violated Rachel Tudor’s civil rights in Tudor v. Southeastern Oklahoma State University, under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964.

Here’s the rest.  It sounds as if this was a very painful experience. 

Kevin Spacey, AGAIN; Conor McGregor, F#ggot Slur, and His Many Gay Friends; Jamie Dornan Strips In Fifty Shades of Grey Trailer; Muslim Fashion Company Creates Rainbow Hijab

Kevin Spacey, AGAIN

Two more guys have come out with allegations of sexual harassment by Kevin Spacey. I found this quote interesting because I know from personal experience that’s exactly the way you feel when something like this happens.

“I was completely bewildered. I didn’t walk away thinking, ‘I’ve just been sexually assaulted.’ It was more a case of ‘That was an incredibly weird thing to happen’. Then, the more I thought about it, the more I came to realize ‘He just grabbed my -—-. That just really happened. What the hell do I do with this information?’” Nixon says.

Most of us just don’t talk about these assaults. Men aren’t supposed to talk about them.

You can read more, here. 

Conor McGregor, F#ggot Slur, and His Many Gay Friends

This is one of those times when you know the straight guy knows absolutely nothing about gay men or gay culture. Because he wouldn’t have used that word if he did know. And in spite of Conor’s “many gay friends,” if he did have a clue, good old Conor would know that word is mainly used by straight men just like him who are looking for a pejorative when they are just too privileged to know any better.

The pro mixed martial arts fighter and UFC champion came under fire last month after he referred to Andre Fili, who had just beaten his teammate Artem Lobov during a fight, as a “faggot”.
Now, during an interview with Sky News, Conor has admitted that he was wrong to use the slur, but also attempted to defend his actions with an excuse that will sound all too familiar to minorities…
“I have many gay friends,” he said. “When we were campaigning for gay marriage, to legalise it, I was a big campaigner for it, so I am not against that at all.
Here’s more. It gets even worse…and to be totally honest I actually don’t hold anything against the guy and I really don’t think he meant to offend anyone. When you’re coming from a place of such white straight male privilege there’s no way you can ever know just how much that one word stings and cuts. 
 Jaime Dornan Strips In Fifty Shades of Grey Trailer
Even though I did read the books, I have to admit that I didn’t see either of the Fifty Shades of Grey movies, and I don’t plan to see this last one. I had nothing against the books, but the movies just didn’t do it for me. But I know a lot of people did like them so this should make a lot of people smile.
As the Fifty Shades trilogy comes to an end, we’re having difficulty accepting that we’ll no longer be seeing Mr Grey on our screens… but the final trailer for finale Fifty Shades Freed is making us feel a little better.
Jamie Dornan, who plays the sadistic and kinda problematic – but also really hot and rich – Christian Grey, can be seen doing his best ‘Daniel Craig as James Bond’ in the teaser as he emerges from the ocean dripping wet.
Muslim Fashion Company Creates Rainbow Hijab
This is interesting. A Muslim owned company in Australia is making rainbow hijabs to support gay marriage in this ongoing postal vote Australia’s been doing in order to get gay marriage legalized. People can also wear it as a scarf, in many different ways.  
The vote has ignited a debate that’s brought out the worst in homophobes, with priests declaring ‘all gays should be shot’ and MPs telling LGBT+ people to “stop being delicate little flowers” despite their rights being on the line.
“During one of the most critical and important times in our nation’s history, we at MOGA are proud to voice our support for marriage equality in Australia,” the company said in a statement.
I hope it helps. I hope the citizens of Australia support gay marriage. That’s always my bottom line. 
You can check that out here. The photos are very nice. 
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The Queer and Trans Gun Club; This Andy Cohen Dude on Cooper and Griffin’s Feud; Back When Dirty Words Were Illegal

The Queer and Trans Gun Club

Just when you think things can’t get more peculiar out there, you read this…

A group of LGBTI people in Rochester, New York have been learning how to properly shoot guns.
Trigger Warning Queer & Trans Gun Club was founded this past year as a response to the rise of extremist groups like the Alt-Right. The 18 dues-paying members are all LGBTI, and many are just learning about guns for the first time. Members meet once a month to shoot at still targets and clay pigeons.
Here’s more. The article states there are more clubs just like this in other places. I hope they’re careful, and I’m serious. This one worries me. 
Andy Cohen on Cooper and Griffin’s Feud 
I honestly still do not know who this dude, Andy Cohen, actually is. I’m not being snarky about that. I don’t know who the hell he is. I have never seen him on TV…or anywhere for that matter. All I know is he seems to be a gayer gay man than me or most people I know, and he’s friends with Anderson Cooper. In fact, from what I’m reading, he’s the gayest of us all. And now he’s fanning the proverbial flames in the ongoing feud between Kathy Griffin and Anderson Cooper. 
Still, Griffin didn’t let the moment pass her by. This morning (27 October), she tweeted about the exchange, calling Cohen ‘deeply misogynistic’. She also claimed he treated her ‘like a dog’ the 10 years he was her boss.
Here’s the rest. There’s some back story there. But I always tell people to remember one thing when it comes to this Kathy Griffin thing: Lenny Bruce. Lenny Bruce was a stand up comic who was once arrested for using the word cocksucker.  I may not like what Griffin did, and I would certainly never do that myself, but I support her right to do that with my last ounce of breath and I’m not even one of her biggest fans. 
Back When Dirty Words Were Illegal
Speaking of free speech and comics, here’s an article I found that talks about Lenny Bruce and his obscenity arrests. You couldn’t say cocksucker in public for fear of being locked up in jail. 
This is a fascinating article that someone like this Andy Cohen person will never promote. I can do this because I’m not selling out to anyone or anything when it comes to free speech in any venue. 
San Francisco was the perfect city for a performer looking to break down social mores; everything representing bohemia in 1961 America could be found along Broadway’s six blocks in North Beach: strip joints, gay bars and nightly jazz billowing out of murky doorways.
Not everyone was enamored, however. The local police and concerned citizens were looking to clean the place up, especially after the popularization of the Beat movement, of which North Beach was the West Cost epicenter. Tensions between police and artists grew quickly; interracial couples were targeted heavily, then the popular hangouts. In 1957, poet Lawrence Ferlinghetti was arrested for allowing copies of Allen Ginsberg’s epic poem, Howl, to be sold at his North Beach bookstore, City Lights Books. 
You can read this in full here, and I highly suggest you do that. 

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What Kathy Griffin Called Anderson Cooper; The Babadook and Pennywise Get Married; Ellen Gives A Gay Guy A Big Surprise

What Kathy Griffin Called Anderson Cooper

I actually think that Kathy Griffin will go down in entertainment history as somewhat of a free speech icon…think Lenny Bruce. I’m not getting political about this one way or the other, so please don’t leave comments giving me your political opinion. This is not politics. I’m only talking about free speech and censorship. Of course there were consequences to what Griffin did. There usually are. However, I don’t even think Griffin realizes how much of an example she’s set for anyone interested in writing,  free speech, or comedy. Whether or not I like what she did doesn’t even matter. She made a bold move, she owned it, and I think she’s going to come out looking a lot better in time than she does right now. 

If you don’t agree with me, think Lenny Bruce again. There was a time when someone doing stand up comedy couldn’t even use words like fuck, cunt, or cocksucker. Bruce was actually arrested for using the word Cocksucker. 

Griffin is still speaking out, and good for her. That’s called free speech. In all honesty, I was never a Kathy Griffin fan…until recently when she started crossing the lines. I admire that. 

And given Griffin’s comments this week in a sit-down with The Daily Beast, that friendship (not to mention any remote chance of working together again) seems to be lost forever.
While much of the piece focuses on the comedian’s feud with “fame whore” lawyer Lisa Bloom (her words), Griffin does manage to work in a searing burn at Cooper, referring to him as “The Spineless Heiress.” She attributed the insult to “her gays.”

There’s more here. For the record, I wouldn’t have done what Griffin did. But this cocksucker…me… will defend Griffin’s right to do that with his last breath. And if you don’t know anything about Lenny Bruce, check out the link to wiki above. I’m not a huge fan of Wikipedia for the most part. I find it amateur and questionable at best. However, it’s fast, and there are some things you can trust. 

The Babadook and Pennywise Get Married

I’ve seen both movies and frankly I didn’t find either one the least bit scary. I think they’re amusing. The scariest part for me is that so many people actually think they were scary movies. It obviously doesn’t take much to scare people or get them excited. Facebook is a good example.

In any event, this is a lot funnier than scary. It’s a video and it’s not long.

Enemies of Dorothy wrote: The Babadook may be the newest a gay-icon, but he’s wasting no time before sharing this exciting news! #PennyDook Directed by Michael Varrati Written by and starring Ryan Fisher and Chris Bryant DP: Brandon Smithson Crew: Stephen Schiatta and Michael Cornacchia MUSIC: “The Engagement” by Silent Partner “Rage Black Sun” by TeknoAXE ————– Enemies of Dorothy Now Available on REVRY!

It’s interesting to note that I have not met one single person yet in real life…gay or straight…that thinks the Babadook is a gay icon. Most people don’t even know WTF the Babadook is. They know Pennywise, but the Babadook just passes them by. 

Here’s the link.

Ellen Gives A Gay Guy A Big Surprise

No. Ellen didn’t take off her pants. That’s not the surprise. This is totally different.

When Trent Bauer went to a recent screening of Ellen, he thought he was just going to watch his favorite comedian in the flesh.

What he didn’t know is his best friend Stephanie Knauer, also in attendance, had written Ellen to sing her friends’ praises:

Here’s the rest. If you’re the type of person who gets “the feels,” this should do it.

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Gay Man’s Sexual Assault From A Woman; California’s Protections For LGBTI Seniors; Colton Haynes and World Mental Health Day

Gay Man’s Sexual Assault From A Woman

With all the disturbing news trending about sexual harassment in Hollywood…and sexual harassment against women in general…we’ve heard very little about the sexual harassment that women do to men. And it happens all the time. I’ve experienced it personally. I find it just as revolting and disgusting as any woman feels when a man does it to her.

With that said, here’s a painful story about a gay man who was sexually harassed by a woman.

A gay man has revealed how a sexual assault by a woman has driven him to the brink of suicide.
Frank McGowan, who is a Bafta-nominated filmmaker, suffered post-traumatic stress disorder after the attack two years ago.
There’s more here. It’s a topic that never gets any attention, and I think it’s time we started talking about it more. 

California’s Protections For LGBTI Seniors
Tony and I have a condo in Palm Springs, CA, and our house is for sale here in New Hope. We don’t have any set plan. We are totally winging this one. Our house could remain for sale for a long time so it’s really no possible to make definite plans. But one of our options would be to move to Palm Springs full time, and I have to admit that this article makes it all the more appealing. 
California Governor Jerry Brown signed a bill last week protecting the state’s LGBTI seniors from discrimination in long-term care facilities.
Brown signed SB (Senate Bill) 219 into law on 4 October, Q Voice News reported.
Authored by state Senator Scott Wiener, an openly gay Democrat from San Francisco, SB 219 goes into effect on 1 January 2018.
I remember an older gay man here in New Hope who lost his partner/husband of 50 years. After his partner/husband died, he started to slow down and eventually he needed long term care. He was put in a heteronormative long term care facility because there are no long term care places for LGBTI people in this area. So even though he’d lived his entire life as a gay man, he was thrown into the most heteronormative situation possible, and he didn’t last long. I think he lived there a few months before he passed away. 
So that’s why these protections are even more important for LGBTI seniors. It’s bad enough that some of us lose our culture and everything we’ve ever known as we age, but at least we’ll have some protections. You can read more of the details here
Colton Haynes and World Mental Health Day
I happen to think Colton Haynes is a very strong, brave man. I follow him in Instagram and I often check out his Instagram stories. I see what he posts, and I see how difficult it is for him sometimes. I think he’s a huge inspiration for all of us, just based on how he handles his own struggles from day to day. 
And he’s open about it, which is a lot more than most people can do. 
‘I had been in bed crying/paralyzed for 3 wks with no explanation. My personal life & career were at an all time high.
‘I’ve talked about this before but I can’t stress enough how important it is to seek help when your feeling down or in your darkest moments.
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Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field

London’s Chemsex Scene; The Death of the Gay Bar; More Gay Bars Closing; Gay Bars Closing, Gentrification, and Chemsex Culture

London’s Chem Sex Scene

I don’t know much about it, but I find the topic of chemsex fascinating. Here’s a piece about London’s chemsex culture where they discuss things in a lot more detail than I’ve seen in other places.

Both murderers used their knowledge of chemsex—male sex parties, often organized on dating apps, which are fueled by mephedrone, G, and crystal meth—as a pretext and a smokescreen for their gruesome killings. The more chemsex came up in these court cases, the more this niche subculture, in the eyes of the public, came to represent a macabre, depraved underworld.

Here’s more. I think we’ll be reading a lot more about this in the future. I’m almost tempted to publish a short story with this theme, but I can’t figure out a way to create a happy ending. 

The Death of the Gay Bar

I recently had a discussion with someone about gay culture, and we got into the topic of gay bars disappearing. I’ve seen it happen right here where I live in New Hope, PA. NH was once a huge destination point for gay men because there was so much gay culture. At one time there were 4 gay bars. Now there’s one bar left, and that seems to be a mixed bar. I’ve also posted about gay bars shuttering in large cities like London and San Francisco. There just doesn’t seem to be that need for them anymore.

This article is pretty spot on, in a pragmatic sense, with regard to why the gay bars are disappearing.

This means that many gay men and women, particularly youngsters, do not feel the need to congregate in one spot. In big cities such as London or New York they can display affection in many bars and pubs, while they frequently live in areas of cities that are more diverse. According to research by Amy Spring, a sociologist at Georgia State University, who looked at 100 American towns between 2000 and 2010, the vast majority of gay men (87%) and lesbians (93%) living with partners now live in neighbourhoods where gay and straight people increasingly live side by side.

Here’s the rest. 

More Gay Bars Closing

Here’s a piece that’s more detailed. It lists examples of gay bars that are closing, from Indianapolis to London.  

Part two of the double whammy: A growing tolerance toward lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. Gay marriage is now legal in all 50 states and many foreign countries. Ellen DeGeneres just got a Presidential Medal of Freedom. Same-sex couples hold hands on sidewalks, in shopping malls and in bars — and not just in gay bars but in boy-meets-girl bars, too.

Here’s more

Gay Bars Closing, Gentrification,and Chemsex Culture 

Here’s something that takes a different spin with regard to why gay bars are closing. It talks about gentrification and chemsex culture…which I’ve been posting about lately. 

 The explosion of chemsex culture, as well, provides further competition for promoters of gay nightlife. “Clubbing has suffered at the hands of home-based chill-out and recreational drugs,” says a patron of London’s Fire. “There’s drinking, using, and shagging all in the comfort of your own home or of near-neighbors thanks to the apps.”

You can check this one out, here.  

I think it’s a little bit of everything combined. 

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