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Kevin Spacey, AGAIN; Conor McGregor, F#ggot Slur, and His Many Gay Friends; Jamie Dornan Strips In Fifty Shades of Grey Trailer; Muslim Fashion Company Creates Rainbow Hijab

Kevin Spacey, AGAIN

Two more guys have come out with allegations of sexual harassment by Kevin Spacey. I found this quote interesting because I know from personal experience that’s exactly the way you feel when something like this happens.

“I was completely bewildered. I didn’t walk away thinking, ‘I’ve just been sexually assaulted.’ It was more a case of ‘That was an incredibly weird thing to happen’. Then, the more I thought about it, the more I came to realize ‘He just grabbed my -—-. That just really happened. What the hell do I do with this information?’” Nixon says.

Most of us just don’t talk about these assaults. Men aren’t supposed to talk about them.

You can read more, here. 

Conor McGregor, F#ggot Slur, and His Many Gay Friends

This is one of those times when you know the straight guy knows absolutely nothing about gay men or gay culture. Because he wouldn’t have used that word if he did know. And in spite of Conor’s “many gay friends,” if he did have a clue, good old Conor would know that word is mainly used by straight men just like him who are looking for a pejorative when they are just too privileged to know any better.

The pro mixed martial arts fighter and UFC champion came under fire last month after he referred to Andre Fili, who had just beaten his teammate Artem Lobov during a fight, as a “faggot”.
Now, during an interview with Sky News, Conor has admitted that he was wrong to use the slur, but also attempted to defend his actions with an excuse that will sound all too familiar to minorities…
“I have many gay friends,” he said. “When we were campaigning for gay marriage, to legalise it, I was a big campaigner for it, so I am not against that at all.
Here’s more. It gets even worse…and to be totally honest I actually don’t hold anything against the guy and I really don’t think he meant to offend anyone. When you’re coming from a place of such white straight male privilege there’s no way you can ever know just how much that one word stings and cuts. 
 Jaime Dornan Strips In Fifty Shades of Grey Trailer
Even though I did read the books, I have to admit that I didn’t see either of the Fifty Shades of Grey movies, and I don’t plan to see this last one. I had nothing against the books, but the movies just didn’t do it for me. But I know a lot of people did like them so this should make a lot of people smile.
As the Fifty Shades trilogy comes to an end, we’re having difficulty accepting that we’ll no longer be seeing Mr Grey on our screens… but the final trailer for finale Fifty Shades Freed is making us feel a little better.
Jamie Dornan, who plays the sadistic and kinda problematic – but also really hot and rich – Christian Grey, can be seen doing his best ‘Daniel Craig as James Bond’ in the teaser as he emerges from the ocean dripping wet.
Muslim Fashion Company Creates Rainbow Hijab
This is interesting. A Muslim owned company in Australia is making rainbow hijabs to support gay marriage in this ongoing postal vote Australia’s been doing in order to get gay marriage legalized. People can also wear it as a scarf, in many different ways.  
The vote has ignited a debate that’s brought out the worst in homophobes, with priests declaring ‘all gays should be shot’ and MPs telling LGBT+ people to “stop being delicate little flowers” despite their rights being on the line.
“During one of the most critical and important times in our nation’s history, we at MOGA are proud to voice our support for marriage equality in Australia,” the company said in a statement.
I hope it helps. I hope the citizens of Australia support gay marriage. That’s always my bottom line. 
You can check that out here. The photos are very nice. 
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The Queer and Trans Gun Club; This Andy Cohen Dude on Cooper and Griffin’s Feud; Back When Dirty Words Were Illegal

The Queer and Trans Gun Club

Just when you think things can’t get more peculiar out there, you read this…

A group of LGBTI people in Rochester, New York have been learning how to properly shoot guns.
Trigger Warning Queer & Trans Gun Club was founded this past year as a response to the rise of extremist groups like the Alt-Right. The 18 dues-paying members are all LGBTI, and many are just learning about guns for the first time. Members meet once a month to shoot at still targets and clay pigeons.
Here’s more. The article states there are more clubs just like this in other places. I hope they’re careful, and I’m serious. This one worries me. 
Andy Cohen on Cooper and Griffin’s Feud 
I honestly still do not know who this dude, Andy Cohen, actually is. I’m not being snarky about that. I don’t know who the hell he is. I have never seen him on TV…or anywhere for that matter. All I know is he seems to be a gayer gay man than me or most people I know, and he’s friends with Anderson Cooper. In fact, from what I’m reading, he’s the gayest of us all. And now he’s fanning the proverbial flames in the ongoing feud between Kathy Griffin and Anderson Cooper. 
Still, Griffin didn’t let the moment pass her by. This morning (27 October), she tweeted about the exchange, calling Cohen ‘deeply misogynistic’. She also claimed he treated her ‘like a dog’ the 10 years he was her boss.
Here’s the rest. There’s some back story there. But I always tell people to remember one thing when it comes to this Kathy Griffin thing: Lenny Bruce. Lenny Bruce was a stand up comic who was once arrested for using the word cocksucker.  I may not like what Griffin did, and I would certainly never do that myself, but I support her right to do that with my last ounce of breath and I’m not even one of her biggest fans. 
Back When Dirty Words Were Illegal
Speaking of free speech and comics, here’s an article I found that talks about Lenny Bruce and his obscenity arrests. You couldn’t say cocksucker in public for fear of being locked up in jail. 
This is a fascinating article that someone like this Andy Cohen person will never promote. I can do this because I’m not selling out to anyone or anything when it comes to free speech in any venue. 
San Francisco was the perfect city for a performer looking to break down social mores; everything representing bohemia in 1961 America could be found along Broadway’s six blocks in North Beach: strip joints, gay bars and nightly jazz billowing out of murky doorways.
Not everyone was enamored, however. The local police and concerned citizens were looking to clean the place up, especially after the popularization of the Beat movement, of which North Beach was the West Cost epicenter. Tensions between police and artists grew quickly; interracial couples were targeted heavily, then the popular hangouts. In 1957, poet Lawrence Ferlinghetti was arrested for allowing copies of Allen Ginsberg’s epic poem, Howl, to be sold at his North Beach bookstore, City Lights Books. 
You can read this in full here, and I highly suggest you do that. 

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What Kathy Griffin Called Anderson Cooper; The Babadook and Pennywise Get Married; Ellen Gives A Gay Guy A Big Surprise

What Kathy Griffin Called Anderson Cooper

I actually think that Kathy Griffin will go down in entertainment history as somewhat of a free speech icon…think Lenny Bruce. I’m not getting political about this one way or the other, so please don’t leave comments giving me your political opinion. This is not politics. I’m only talking about free speech and censorship. Of course there were consequences to what Griffin did. There usually are. However, I don’t even think Griffin realizes how much of an example she’s set for anyone interested in writing,  free speech, or comedy. Whether or not I like what she did doesn’t even matter. She made a bold move, she owned it, and I think she’s going to come out looking a lot better in time than she does right now. 

If you don’t agree with me, think Lenny Bruce again. There was a time when someone doing stand up comedy couldn’t even use words like fuck, cunt, or cocksucker. Bruce was actually arrested for using the word Cocksucker. 

Griffin is still speaking out, and good for her. That’s called free speech. In all honesty, I was never a Kathy Griffin fan…until recently when she started crossing the lines. I admire that. 

And given Griffin’s comments this week in a sit-down with The Daily Beast, that friendship (not to mention any remote chance of working together again) seems to be lost forever.
While much of the piece focuses on the comedian’s feud with “fame whore” lawyer Lisa Bloom (her words), Griffin does manage to work in a searing burn at Cooper, referring to him as “The Spineless Heiress.” She attributed the insult to “her gays.”

There’s more here. For the record, I wouldn’t have done what Griffin did. But this cocksucker…me… will defend Griffin’s right to do that with his last breath. And if you don’t know anything about Lenny Bruce, check out the link to wiki above. I’m not a huge fan of Wikipedia for the most part. I find it amateur and questionable at best. However, it’s fast, and there are some things you can trust. 

The Babadook and Pennywise Get Married

I’ve seen both movies and frankly I didn’t find either one the least bit scary. I think they’re amusing. The scariest part for me is that so many people actually think they were scary movies. It obviously doesn’t take much to scare people or get them excited. Facebook is a good example.

In any event, this is a lot funnier than scary. It’s a video and it’s not long.

Enemies of Dorothy wrote: The Babadook may be the newest a gay-icon, but he’s wasting no time before sharing this exciting news! #PennyDook Directed by Michael Varrati Written by and starring Ryan Fisher and Chris Bryant DP: Brandon Smithson Crew: Stephen Schiatta and Michael Cornacchia MUSIC: “The Engagement” by Silent Partner “Rage Black Sun” by TeknoAXE ————– Enemies of Dorothy Now Available on REVRY!

It’s interesting to note that I have not met one single person yet in real life…gay or straight…that thinks the Babadook is a gay icon. Most people don’t even know WTF the Babadook is. They know Pennywise, but the Babadook just passes them by. 

Here’s the link.

Ellen Gives A Gay Guy A Big Surprise

No. Ellen didn’t take off her pants. That’s not the surprise. This is totally different.

When Trent Bauer went to a recent screening of Ellen, he thought he was just going to watch his favorite comedian in the flesh.

What he didn’t know is his best friend Stephanie Knauer, also in attendance, had written Ellen to sing her friends’ praises:

Here’s the rest. If you’re the type of person who gets “the feels,” this should do it.

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Gay Man’s Sexual Assault From A Woman; California’s Protections For LGBTI Seniors; Colton Haynes and World Mental Health Day

Gay Man’s Sexual Assault From A Woman

With all the disturbing news trending about sexual harassment in Hollywood…and sexual harassment against women in general…we’ve heard very little about the sexual harassment that women do to men. And it happens all the time. I’ve experienced it personally. I find it just as revolting and disgusting as any woman feels when a man does it to her.

With that said, here’s a painful story about a gay man who was sexually harassed by a woman.

A gay man has revealed how a sexual assault by a woman has driven him to the brink of suicide.
Frank McGowan, who is a Bafta-nominated filmmaker, suffered post-traumatic stress disorder after the attack two years ago.
There’s more here. It’s a topic that never gets any attention, and I think it’s time we started talking about it more. 

California’s Protections For LGBTI Seniors
Tony and I have a condo in Palm Springs, CA, and our house is for sale here in New Hope. We don’t have any set plan. We are totally winging this one. Our house could remain for sale for a long time so it’s really no possible to make definite plans. But one of our options would be to move to Palm Springs full time, and I have to admit that this article makes it all the more appealing. 
California Governor Jerry Brown signed a bill last week protecting the state’s LGBTI seniors from discrimination in long-term care facilities.
Brown signed SB (Senate Bill) 219 into law on 4 October, Q Voice News reported.
Authored by state Senator Scott Wiener, an openly gay Democrat from San Francisco, SB 219 goes into effect on 1 January 2018.
I remember an older gay man here in New Hope who lost his partner/husband of 50 years. After his partner/husband died, he started to slow down and eventually he needed long term care. He was put in a heteronormative long term care facility because there are no long term care places for LGBTI people in this area. So even though he’d lived his entire life as a gay man, he was thrown into the most heteronormative situation possible, and he didn’t last long. I think he lived there a few months before he passed away. 
So that’s why these protections are even more important for LGBTI seniors. It’s bad enough that some of us lose our culture and everything we’ve ever known as we age, but at least we’ll have some protections. You can read more of the details here
Colton Haynes and World Mental Health Day
I happen to think Colton Haynes is a very strong, brave man. I follow him in Instagram and I often check out his Instagram stories. I see what he posts, and I see how difficult it is for him sometimes. I think he’s a huge inspiration for all of us, just based on how he handles his own struggles from day to day. 
And he’s open about it, which is a lot more than most people can do. 
‘I had been in bed crying/paralyzed for 3 wks with no explanation. My personal life & career were at an all time high.
‘I’ve talked about this before but I can’t stress enough how important it is to seek help when your feeling down or in your darkest moments.
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London’s Chemsex Scene; The Death of the Gay Bar; More Gay Bars Closing; Gay Bars Closing, Gentrification, and Chemsex Culture

London’s Chem Sex Scene

I don’t know much about it, but I find the topic of chemsex fascinating. Here’s a piece about London’s chemsex culture where they discuss things in a lot more detail than I’ve seen in other places.

Both murderers used their knowledge of chemsex—male sex parties, often organized on dating apps, which are fueled by mephedrone, G, and crystal meth—as a pretext and a smokescreen for their gruesome killings. The more chemsex came up in these court cases, the more this niche subculture, in the eyes of the public, came to represent a macabre, depraved underworld.

Here’s more. I think we’ll be reading a lot more about this in the future. I’m almost tempted to publish a short story with this theme, but I can’t figure out a way to create a happy ending. 

The Death of the Gay Bar

I recently had a discussion with someone about gay culture, and we got into the topic of gay bars disappearing. I’ve seen it happen right here where I live in New Hope, PA. NH was once a huge destination point for gay men because there was so much gay culture. At one time there were 4 gay bars. Now there’s one bar left, and that seems to be a mixed bar. I’ve also posted about gay bars shuttering in large cities like London and San Francisco. There just doesn’t seem to be that need for them anymore.

This article is pretty spot on, in a pragmatic sense, with regard to why the gay bars are disappearing.

This means that many gay men and women, particularly youngsters, do not feel the need to congregate in one spot. In big cities such as London or New York they can display affection in many bars and pubs, while they frequently live in areas of cities that are more diverse. According to research by Amy Spring, a sociologist at Georgia State University, who looked at 100 American towns between 2000 and 2010, the vast majority of gay men (87%) and lesbians (93%) living with partners now live in neighbourhoods where gay and straight people increasingly live side by side.

Here’s the rest. 

More Gay Bars Closing

Here’s a piece that’s more detailed. It lists examples of gay bars that are closing, from Indianapolis to London.  

Part two of the double whammy: A growing tolerance toward lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. Gay marriage is now legal in all 50 states and many foreign countries. Ellen DeGeneres just got a Presidential Medal of Freedom. Same-sex couples hold hands on sidewalks, in shopping malls and in bars — and not just in gay bars but in boy-meets-girl bars, too.

Here’s more

Gay Bars Closing, Gentrification,and Chemsex Culture 

Here’s something that takes a different spin with regard to why gay bars are closing. It talks about gentrification and chemsex culture…which I’ve been posting about lately. 

 The explosion of chemsex culture, as well, provides further competition for promoters of gay nightlife. “Clubbing has suffered at the hands of home-based chill-out and recreational drugs,” says a patron of London’s Fire. “There’s drinking, using, and shagging all in the comfort of your own home or of near-neighbors thanks to the apps.”

You can check this one out, here.  

I think it’s a little bit of everything combined. 

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Billboard For Gay Hook Up App On Detroit Interstate; Cow Shoes Used By Moonshiners During Prohibition; Amistead Maupin’s Affair With Rock Hudson;

Billboard For Gay Hook Up App On Detroit Interstate

There’s a new billboard that supposedly went up overnight along a Detroit interstate for a gay hook up app called “Squirt.org.”

A Detroit TV station said this…

It features an advertisement for a website called squirt.org along with the caption “Too hot for the app store,” and two men embracing each other. The website lets registered users search their local area for locations to hookup with other “gay or bi men.” Members can also review the locations, which include public gym locker rooms and shopping mall bathrooms, with star ratings.

You can check this one out here. There are photos of the billboards. Needless to say, residents are going berserk. Most people can’t even deal with two men holding hands, let alone kissing in public. 

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Cow Shoes Used By Moonshiners During Prohibition

From 1922 to 1933 there were prohibition laws in the US, which meant that alcohol was banned. Pay attention, millennials, this is a good lesson for you. Like anything that is outlawed and banned from society, prohibition created a new underworld for criminals with questionable business practices. In other words, just because alcohol was illegal it didn’t mean you couldn’t get it. It didn’t mean that people didn’t get drunk, or that the US turned into this sweet sober place.That’s not hard to figure out. However, in order to disguise their footprints from police, moonshiners would wear these odd looking cow shoes.

Moonshine (a type of strong, homemade whiskey) was often made by bootleggers in the middle of a forest or meadow. So the moonshiners would wear cow shoes like these to avoid drawing the attention of any law enforcement looking for human activity in the woods.

You can check that out here, with a photo. 

Amistead Maupin’s Affair With Rock Hudson

The author of Tales of the City has a new memoir out, and there are a few personal news items in the book. 

In a new memoir called Logical Family, the author reveals he had a “friend with benefits” relationship with actor Rock Hudson, as well as a love triangle that involved Sir Ian McKellen.

There’s more here. As usual, you can learn a few more things in the comment section. 

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"Call Me By Your Name" Is NOT A Gay Romance; Sam Smith Kissing Brandon Flynn; Gay Couple Victims of Vegas Mass Shooting

Call Me By Your Name Is NOT A Gay Romance

The book and movie, Call Me By Your Name, may be the best thing that’s ever come out in the entire universe. Armie Hammer may play gayface better than anyone, ever. At least that’s how it’s being promoted. And I’m not disagreeing with any of that. I’m not disagreeing with the quality or the art. I actually do like homosexual content that comes from a heteronormative POV, especially when it’s realistic. So this isn’t a rant. I don’t really care one way or the other. There are a lot more important things going on in the world right now.

I just get a little tired sometimes of seeing and reading about homosexual content that’s coming from a heteronormative POV that has nothing at all to do with gay culture or gay romance. 

In any event, I’ve posted about it before more than once and I’m tired of doing it. The powerful marketing campaign for this movie is so strong nothing I say is going to matter much anyway. They’ll roll right over me and whistle all the way to the bank. Hollywooders will probably give it an Oscar. But here’s an interesting review I found that I agree with in many ways. I doubt it’s going to get much attention, but I highly recommend reading it.

I bristle every time I hear the word “universal” used to describe a queer romance on screen. It’s not that non-queer people can’t relate to queer stories, or can’t understand their nuances. Instead, it’s about the desexualising of queer romance – turning the sex lives of LGBTQI+ individuals into something palatable for straight audiences.

Here’s the rest. It’s an excellent opinion piece.

It’s also interesting to note that there are no gay actors playing leads in Call Me By Your Name. I guess that’s because there are no gay actors in Hollywood? Such a shame.

Sam Smith Kissing Brandon Flynn

Now this was nice to see. Openly gay performer, Sam Smith, was recently spotted kissing 13 Reasons Why actor, Brandon Flynn. In spite of Hollywood’s idiocy, thank God the world’s changing and we can actually see things like this now.

TMZ dutifully reports the two artists were cavorting around Greenwich Village and acting very chummy indeed.

You can check out the photos here.   They make an adorable couple.

Gay Couple Victims of Vegas Mass Shooting

This one isn’t so easy to read. I feel sorry for everyone who was involved with this. All they wanted to do was have a good time.

Various sources report a gay Utah couple were among the victims Sunday evening in a mass shooting that took place at an outdoor Las Vegas concert.
Cameron Robinson of Cedar City, a father of three who worked for the city of Las Vegas, was shot and killed in the horrific attack, while his boyfriend, Bobby Eardley, took shrapnel to the back.

There’s more here.  Eardley’s sister said he’s going to survive.

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