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"No Fems" and Hook Up Apps; Tom Daley’s Perfect Physique; Philadelphia Gay Race Issue

“No Fems” and Hook Up Apps

This kind of thing has always bothered me, and I’m not even on any hook up apps. It’s just that when I see it, I wonder about the kind of person who would write something like that. Evidently, I’m not the only one.

Does your dating profile say anything along the lines of “no fems” or “masc4masc”? If so, you’re actually hurting your chances of getting laid.

In a new column, Joe Stone points to a recent study published in Computers in Humans Behavior titled “Masculine Guys Online.” The study surveyed 144 gay and bisexual men about their online dating habits and found that the majority of them viewed guys who write things like “masc 4 masc,” “no fems,” or “real men only” as “significantly less intelligent, significantly less sexually confident, and significantly less dateable than their counterparts.”

I’m glad other people are starting to question things like this, and that the truth is coming out. I think a lot more men are going to start questioning the whole concept of “masculinity” and how it’s always defined their lives.

You can check this out here.

Tom Daley’s Perfect Physique

If you’ve ever wondered about how Tom Daley gets his body, you’ll love this.

My life’s about getting to the point where I’m in the physical shape that I can do all my diving the best that I can. So, I do feel bad and I wouldn’t want to make anyone feel that way. But I know that if anyone else trained for six hours a day, six days a week, they would get the same result…

Here’s the rest. Most of the comments are friendly.

Philadelphia Gay Race Issue

The problems going on in Philadelphia with regard to gay men and racism don’t seem to end. And, it’s not just about race. It’s about gender, too.

A Philadelphia civil-rights agency just released a lengthy report on discrimination in the city’s “Gayborhood,” claiming that 11 local gay bars have simply failed to create a “‘safe space’ for all LGBTQ people.”

You can check this out here. Sadly, one gay woman claims that she feels so invisible in these bars that she has to ask her gay male friends to order her drinks.

There are quite a few comments, and quite a few spins. I think this guy nailed it in one sentence…

 It’s almost comical that people are replying with racist statements while claiming there’s no racism.

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Can Trump End Same Sex Marriage? Katie Couric On Gender Identity; Frank Ocean’s Dad Sues Him

Can Trump End Same Sex Marriage?

I’ve seen this question going around social media for a while and everyone seems to have an opinion…most of which aren’t very accurate. But it’s a valid question many people are worried about. I’ve been curious myself. So I did a simple search and I found this article from the LA Times.

So, can Trump end same sex marriage?

No. Just as with abortion, the president can’t overturn a Supreme Court decision by himself, although he could appoint more conservative justices. Even then, the chance that the high court would reverse itself is very small. Unlike abortion, same-sex marriage has steadily gained in public approval.

It’s also important to keep in mind that same sex marriage and abortion are two different issues. Same sex marriage is more focused on commitment and celebration.

You can read the entire article here. It’s a good, quick rundown about executive power and other important things people are wondering about. There are still a lot of issues no one’s certain about right now because it’s too soon to tell what to expect.

I think it’s also important to remember that same sex marriage was won in many cases state by state as the result of a ruling. It was a long, difficult journey. And when Judge Jones struck down the ban on same sex marriage here in PA the Republican governor at the time did not fight him. However, there are still many things to worry about with regard to equality.

Katie Couric On Gender Identity

This is one of those announcement type links that lists several things happening right now, but if you scroll down you’ll find this one about Katie Couric and gender identity. I have no doubt this will continue to be an ongoing topic for the next several years.

Katie Couric heads up this two-hour National Geographic documentary, which delves into the very timely topic of gender identity in society. In the process, she speaks and finds enlightenment with a range of transgender individuals – including model/actress Harif Nef, and a child already beginning a gender transition – plus activists, medical experts, authors, and more. A truly probing, intelligent work that taps into part of the culture war being waged (HB2 anyone?), and coincides with the current, excellent gender-themed issue of the magazine on stands.

You can check it  out here.

Frank Ocean’s Dad Sues Him

I think most people know that Frank Ocean is an openly gay rapper who came out a few years ago. I love him (and everything he does) and I wait along with everyone else for his next release. I think he’s one of the true artists we have now. He never disappoints.

In any event…

Frank Ocean was just slapped with a multi-million dollar lawsuit from his own father over a Tumblr post he wrote last summer.

Frank’s dad, self-proclaimed “singer, writer, and inventor” Calvin Cooksey, filed a defamation lawsuit against his son, citing a Tumblr post Frank wrote last summer short after the Orlando massacre, TMZ reports. In the post, Frank accused his father of using an anti-LGBTQ slur over 20 years ago.

It goes into a lot more detail here.

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Penis Art Is Art, Too; Dude With Longest Penis On Earth; She Cut Off Her Lover’s Penis

Penis Art Is Art, Too

When I owned my art gallery in the late 90s here in New Hope, PA, I represented one adorable elderly woman artist with a thick German accent who focused strictly on penis art. She was amazing. She drew penises, painted penises, sculpted penises, and even designed soap penises. For her, it was all about the penis.

She was especially known for her gilded penises…which she referred to as her, “Golden Rod Series.” Her penis art came in all sizes, shapes and colors. Her work always sold for me, and to a variety of art clients who appreciated the male form, and she was never at a loss for inspiration. She truly made the most of her retirement years.

With that said, here’s a link to some interesting penis art on Etsy.

Here’s a link to Wiki Commons, titled “Erect Human Penis Art.” 

And here’s one called The Penis Art Gallery. 

These are just a few of several links out there, in case you’re interested. I found most of them fascinating.

Dude With Longest Penis On Earth

Here’s a recent story about the dude with the longest penis in the world.

Roberto Esquivel Cabrera, 54, from Saltillo, Mexico, has a penis measuring a colossal 18.9 inches when flaccid but has rejected the possibility of having a reduction.

He made headlines worldwide in 2015 after a video went viral showing him weighing his member to prove its authenticity.
You have to check him out here. The web site is SFW. And there is a twist to this story that I hate to reveal too soon. 
Evidently, this same dude has been promoting his penis a lot lately. In this article he claims his massive penis keeps him from working. There’s a video with this one, and you can see him walking down the street, with his penis swinging around…and you can see how he wraps his penis to keep himself comfortable. 
Again, there’s a twist to this story I’d rather not get into here on the blog. 
She Cut Off Her Lover’s Penis
This is recent news. It’s about a jilted woman who got so upset when her lover told her that he was marrying another woman she cut off his penis. 

She hatched a plot to stop him sleeping with the other woman by luring him to her home for kinky sex.

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But after blindfolding the 23-year-old guy, she grabbed a reaping hook and slashed off his penis.

Then she disappeared outside with it as her blood-drenched boyfriend wailed in excruciating pain.

There’s a twist to this one, too, much sadder than the one above. This took place in another country, and the guy was locked into an arranged marriage with no way out. So he didn’t even turn his girlfriend in. Instead, he claims that he cut off his penis on his own.

Now the girlfriend is facing attempted murder charges.

You can read the rest here. Unfortunately, doctors don’t think they’ll be able to reattach his penis.

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Have Lots and Lots and Lots of Sex; Mr. Clean Is One Hot Daddy; Chris Salvatore Cares For Elderly Neighbor

Have Lots and Lots and Lots of Gay Sex

I thought this was wonderful. Of course you have to “get” the context first, which many in the comments didn’t seem to grasp. However, I think the general point behind it is brilliant and empowering.

Davey Wavey interviewed LGBT Historian, Tim McCarthy, and McCarthy made some spot on comments…along with an abridged lesson in LGBT history.

Have sex. Have lots and lots and lots of sex. Sex has always been a revolutionary act, especially queer sex. It both honors the protest that’s required to stand up to the world around us, but it also honors and validates who we are. So, number one, if that’s all you can do, you’re still doing a great thing, okay?

But there’s so much more. I promise that’s not all this interview is about. You have to actually watch it to see what I mean. McCarthy talks about strength, caring, all the things that are positive about people who fall under the umbrella of LGBT.

You can watch some of the video here.

And, you can also read books about gay sex, love, and romance.

Mr. Clean Is One Hot Daddy

It’s Friday. Sometimes you need to just focus on the lighter side of life. Or, sometimes you just need to get away from creeps like that Milo Yiannapapadolapolis.

It’s a long-established fact that Mr. Clean is a stone cold fox. You know, as far as animated fictional brand mascots go.

But despite his reputation for bringing all the boys to the yard, we were simply not prepared for the newest commercial from the company, set to air during the Super Bowl.

You can check out the video here.

It’s actually funnier than it is sexy, at least I didn’t find anything sexy about it. But you might feel differently.

Chris Salvatore Cares For Elderly Neighbor

Chris Salvatore is a rare breed. He’s an openly gay actor in Hollywood, and, he’s got a huge heart.

As grotesque as the general landscape is out there, it’s important to remember that not everyone is a craven opportunist hoping to misdirect people from their blackened hearts.

Case in point: Openly gay actor Chris Salvatore, who, apropos of nothing, has taken in his 89-year-old neighbor Norma Cook (and her cat Hermes.)

There’s a lot more here, with photos and gifs.

We were caregivers for both my mother and father and I always tell people it’s one of the most rewarding things anyone can do in life. And when it’s over, you’ll miss that care-giving more than you ever imagined.

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Roxane Gay, Simon and Schuster, and Milo Yiannopoulos; RPI Marty Tyler Moore; Hate Crime Attack On Palm Springs Gay Couple

Roxane Gay, Simon and Schuster, and Milo Yiannopoulos

Here’s an article that’s been trending on Twitter all day. Evidently, feminist author, Roxane Gay, wasn’t thrilled with the fact that Simon and Schuster worked out a big book deal with gay conservative pundit, Milo Yiannopoulos.

Gay was scheduled to release How to Be Heard with TED in March 2018, but she told BuzzFeed News she “couldn’t bring herself” to turn in the manuscript after hearing Yiannopoulos’ book would be published by the same parent company. “I was supposed to turn the book in this month and I kept thinking about how egregious it is to give someone like Milo a platform for his blunt, inelegant hate and provocation,” Gay said.

While I support her strong beliefs, and even though I won’t be reading Milo’s book any time soon, I do support Milo’s right to get it published. But please don’t get me wrong, I applaud Roxane Gay for standing up for her beliefs, because I’m not fond of slick, clever political pundits like Milo who spin and twist and exploit situations and emotions for the sake of making a good, fast buck.  I just wanted to be clear about that. In general, that’s a huge issue in our society. So many people are too willing to trust these pundits…all of them.

I’m sure Roxane Gay will find a new home for her book. And if she doesn’t, she can contact me and I’ll pub it for her, in digital and print, and she can charge her readers less than Simon and Schuster would have.

You can read more about Roxane Gay here.

Simon and Schuster made their statement already about publishing Milo’s book.

“We do not and never have condoned discrimination or hate speech in any form,” the company said in a statement released Friday. “At Simon & Schuster we have always published books by a wide range of authors with greatly varying, and frequently controversial opinions, and appealing to many different audiences of readers. While we are cognizant that many may disagree vehemently with the books we publish we note that the opinions expressed therein belong to our authors, and do not reflect either a corporate viewpoint or the views of our employees.”

You can read more about that here.

RIP Mary Tyler Moore

I discovered The Mary Tyler Moore Show a few years ago on one of those cable channels that plays old sitcom classics all the time. The minute I started watching I was hooked. It’s hard to beat Moore’s brand of comedy, and it’s impossible to find her kind of talent anywhere these days. She was one of those people who are destined to be great.

“Today, beloved icon, Mary Tyler Moore, passed away at the age of 80 in the company of friends and her loving husband of over 33 years, Dr. S. Robert Levine,” her spokesperson Mara Buxbaum said in a statement. “A groundbreaking actress, producer, and passionate advocate for the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation, Mary will be remembered as a fearless visionary who turned the world on with her smile.”

You can read more about that here.

Hate Crime Attack On Palm Springs Gay Couple

This is a little disconcerting. We’re heading out to Palm Springs for the month of March and part of April. I’ll be tweeting and posting from the road about the trip. It’s a cross country road trip, with an 8 year old poodle and a 15 year old Westie we adopted a year ago.

And I just read about this…

Two men who attacked a gay couple in Palm Springs during Halloween weekend in 2015 have pleaded guilty. The crime may have contributed to the death of one of the victims who was a well-known gay rights activist in the area.

Christopher James Carr and Keith Edward Terranova have admitted to assaulting George and Christopher Zander near the city’s main gay nightlife district.

You can check this out here. Very sad story that goes into more detail. If something like this can happen in gay friendly Palm Springs, it can happen anywhere.

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"Call Me By Your Name:" Insulting Gay Hype or Real Gay Romance; Church of England and Gay Clergy; Transgender Kids Join Girl Guides

“Call Me By Your Name:” Insulting Gay Hype or  Real Gay Romance

Admittedly, I don’t have enough information about the movie, Call Me By Your Name, to speak about it as thoroughly as I would like to in this post, however, I will be following up on this one. And I think that’s because I thought we had moved on from the Brokeback Mountain days, where straight people wrote about gays, straight actors played gays, and everyone but gay people exploited gays. However, for all I know, I might love this film and I’m really not making any statements. I’m just wondering.

Just the fact that Armie Hammer is playing gay makes me wonder. Colton Haynes couldn’t have played the part? Seriously?  

Again, I’m not certain about Call Me By Your Name, and that’s mainly because I haven’t read anything in the gay presses yet. I depend on them for information like this and so far all I can find on Call Me By Your Name is media hype like this over-written review…

It’s summer, and Elio is 17, so obviously that field is love and sex. Elio is handsome, a beanpole topped with a thicket of dark curls, so he’s got the interest of some French girls staying nearby. He’s interested in them too, but is not pulled to them in the same way that he’s drawn inextricably to Oliver, the 20-something grad student boarding at Elio’s family’s house while he works with Elio’s father.

That’s what makes me wonder. No young gay man is “pulled” to girls. I would imagine there are bisexuals who are, but not gay men. We’re interested in men. How do I know that? I know that because I was a young, horny gay teenager who couldn’t stop thinking about men. And the only reason I’m wondering is because this film is being aggressively promoted as a “gay” film.

Now, here’s a review written by a woman…

If it ends up with heavy-hitting competitors, all the better — but this swooningly lovely film from director Luca Guadagnino (“I Am Love”) is going to be tough to beat. I’d call it the next “Moonlight” or “Brokeback Mountain,” but that would entirely belie its entrancing and — really, could it be? — mostly upbeat tone.

That’s not the first reference I’ve seen to Brokeback Mountain either. So it appears that we’re all being flung back to the 2000s when gay marriage was still illegal in the US, and not all that much has changed…at least according to this woman reviewer. But that could be a misleading review. I don’t know.

If you do a simple search for Call Me By Your Name, you might get lucky like I did and find something from a gay POV. It’s not a review, it’s only a press release. But the people who left comments are gay men. Keep in mind they are talking about the book, not the movie.

One said this…

I have no problem with a book portraying love between two straight men but this one was pretty homophobic.

Another said this…

It’s nice to see that i’m not the only one. I totally hated the novel.All were fantastic reviews and people who loved the book, but i hated it.Aciman’s prose is fantastic but i didn’t liked the story or the characters at all.And i find incredibly annoying the praise Aciman’s got for being an straight man writing a gay novel.

And this one is the most interesting…

There’s nothing “gay” in the book. It’s about two straight men feeling sexual attraction for each other. The younger character make fun of gay people in the book. In the second part of the book they chase women together.

Those are all direct quotes from the comment section. They may or may not be accurate. I’m not forming any opinions yet. I’m only posting the facts as I’ve read them so far. I’m not even sure if it’s a real gay romance, you know, a gay romance with a happy ending where just once the gay characters live happily ever after.

I’ll follow up soon. Some are calling this a gay “classic.”

Church of England and Gay Clergy

I don’t know about anyone else out there, but I find this article pretty sad. That gay clergy have to live this way…still. Where’s the outrage? Where are the protests?

The Church of England is considering plans to ignore the sex lives of gay clergy.

Current rules state gay members must be celibate or change jobs.

The House of Bishops are considering today proposals to overhaul the system to become something like ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’, so gay people would not be directly asked about their private lives.

There’s more here. And just why aren’t we screaming about this? We all know that being gay is not just about sex.

Transgender Kids Join Girl Guides

In more positive LGBT news, at least this is happening. I’d also like to add that when I post about these things I don’t think in terms of only gays in the US, I think in global terms that includes all LGBT people under the umbrella.

Transgender children as well as transgender women in the UK are finally allowed to join the Girl Guides.

Since its formation in 1910, the Girl Guide Association has strictly been a single-sex organisation.

However, moving with the times, the organisation has recently added new guidelines, opening its doors to new members who were ‘assigned male at birth’ but ‘self-identify’ as female.

There’s more here. Of course not everyone is thrilled about it, but that’s going to take some time just as it always has in the past when it comes to anything LGBT.

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The Blog For Gay Bathhouse News; George Michael Mural In Sydney; Tom Goss Showering With Men Almost Made Him Asexual

The Blog For Gay Bathhouse News

The other day I saw a tweet where someone compared a politician to Hitler because that particular politician was complaining about the press for sharing fake news. The tweet made it sound as though that was the only kind of censorship or media control in Nazi Germany, without mentioning the fact that the worst kind of media control back then was the propaganda promoted by Hitler through the press. You can read more about this here. I’m not going into detail about it. I’m just using it as an example.

Unfortunately, I often see the same brand of media manipulation happening all over the Internet nowadays, and it happens often in mainstream news. It’s not as bad as what happened in Nazi Germany, and yet it’s still a form of propaganda that’s designed to camouflage the truth. There’s only one kind of gay person they allow us to see, and only one kind of gay life they want you to know about. And that’s because it suits their agendas. However, they rarely ever post about the real aspects of gay culture, like the bathhouse blog I’m linking to right now.

I’ve been following this blog for about ten years and it’s still moving forward. It talks about the kind of gay news so many gay men have always been familiar with. Here’s something from one of their most recent posts about a gay clergyman who allegedly has an addiction to gay saunas…

Sex addicted clergyman has been fired from his position after his wife exposed his double life of hookers, orgies and gay bathhouse visits.

Following the wife’s whistle-blowing over his secret life, a disciplinary hearing ruled her husband would be banned from ministry for life over his conduct.

You can check that out here, along with the rest of the blog. It’s well written, simple to navigate, and still remains relevant to this day. And I can promise you that you won’t see them talking about this on CNN.

George Michael Mural In Sydney

Here’s something else the PC news media would never report (or explain) to the mainstream about gay culture. It’s kind of an artistic religious parody (St. George) much the same way I’ve parodied straight movies with erotic gay romance books, and the image is holding a joint in one hand and poppers in the other.

Sydney-based street artist Scott Marsh just put the last finishing touches on a splashy 20′ mural immortalizing pop icon George Michael, which you’ll find on the corner of Bray and Flora in St. Peters.

Important detail: Since patron saints tend to cradle some sort of magical talisman, Marsh thought it wise to paint a joint and big bottle of amyl into Michael’s paws.

You can check that out here, where there are a few comments already. And for those of you who only see what they let you know about George Takei, Neil Patrick Harris, and Ellen, amyl nitrate has always been a part of gay culture. You don’t have to like it. You just have to know about it.

Tom Goss Showering With Men Almost Made Him Asexual

I think they’re exaggerating the true meaning of asexual here again, but I get the point they’re trying to make and I don’t think that’s being exaggerated. Most gay men like Tom Goss are just as confused.

The Son of A Preacher Man singer recently told The Fight magazine that for a long time he thought he was asexual and was actually considering becoming a priest.

But being around a group of young, musclebound college wrestlers pumped full of testosterone didn’t have any affect on Goss.

“These were 18–22 year old men, beautiful and with bodies to die for, I didn’t find them attractive either,” he said. “As a result I just assumed I was asexual.”

I think many gay men can identify with that. You can read the article in full here. It goes on to mention that Goss did, in fact, enter a Catholic seminary. And there’s a video of his music.

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