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Melissa Rivers on Dad’s Suicide and "13 Reasons Why"; Generic Truvada Approved; Russell Crowe and Nicole Kidman Are Possibles For Gay Conversion Drama

Melissa Rivers on Dad’s Suicide and 13 Reasons Why

I’ve posted about how well received the TV show 13 Reasons Why has been, and that’s not surprising because it’s well done all the way around and the story is captivating. The way they tell the story itself is captivating, however, psychology professionals and people who have had to deal with suicide personally are questioning whether or not it’s actually helping or possibly hurting. Some have been very vocal about this. I’m not qualified to draw any conclusions, however, if I had teenagers I wouldn’t let them watch it. I don’t think it portrays teenagers accurately and there are too many overlooked inconsistencies to make it believable.

With that said, Melissa Rivers whose dad committed suicide when she was only in college spoke about suicide and 13 Reasons Why recently.

How do you feel about “13 Reasons Why,” then?

I know this sounds terrible but I haven’t watched it. I just really don’t want to. Luckily my son has not had any interest in watching it, and I think because we’ve always had an open dialogue about how my father passed and suicide and that it’s not an option, there’s nothing you can’t get through as long as you talk about it. 

You can read the rest of the article here. It gets into more detail about suicide in general, and dealing with it.

Generic Truvada Approved

This should makes things less expensive for people who are taking Truvada, at least I hope so. You never know when it comes to healthcare in the US.

“Yes, the first generic for Truvada has been approved and will now be available in the U.S. Usually, it takes several generics before full cost-savings potential is reached though. Hopefully, this will help to expand PrEP availability for many.”

You can check the rest out here. So far one person left a comment about what it costs him now, and you would be amazed. At least he’s lucky enough to have insurance. A lot of people don’t realize that there are still millions of Americans who opted to pay the fine instead of getting Obamacare. Because the fine is more affordable. And that’s just wrong.

Russell Crowe and Nicole Kidman Are Possibles For Gay Conversion Drama 

I still find it hard to believe that anyone would think gay conversion therapy works. But they are out there and they are still ruining lives.

 Actor-director Joel Edgerton is busy putting plans into place for his next project, Boy Erased.

The drama is based on a memoir of a young gay man, Garrard Conley, who underwent so-called gay conversion therapy.
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Deadline reports that Lucas Hedges, last seen in the Oscar-winning Manchester By The Sea, will take the lead role in the movie.

It also says Edgerton is courting fellow Australians Russell Crowe and Nicole Kidman to take supporting roles.

There’s more here. I’ll probably be posting more about this one.  

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 


Not All Gay Books Have Sex


In Their Prime by Ryan Field

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Gay Teenager Only Wants Straight Men; First Transgender Deacon Ordained; High School Principal Comes Out As Trans

Gay Teenager Only Wants Straight Men

This is more common than I think most people realize, and not everyone is willing to admit it aloud.

He knows you can’t help who you’re attracted to, and that there’s no accounting for taste.

Still, that’s of little solace to a young teenager who’s distressed that he’s only attracted to straight guys; a classically self-defeating case of wanting what you can’t have.

“I’m always around straight guys,”Marcosoto987 writes on Reddit, “and they drive me insane.”  

You can read more here. I think part of his problem is that he hasn’t found out yet how diverse the gay male community is. In fact, there are many gay men walking around all over and you can’t tell if they’re gay or straight at a glance. He’ll learn.

First Transgender Deacon

I’m linking a lot less to queerty.com these days because I’d rather read more stories about things like this. I’d rather read positive news about good people than negative nonsense about politics. And frankly, it’s getting hard to find stories like this at queerty.com. It’s all so negative, with looks shaming and body shaming. It’s getting creepy.

But I digress. This is inspirational.

The United Methodist Church has ordained a non-binary trans deacon.

On Sunday (4 June) M Barclay was commissioned by Bishop Sally Dyck at the Northern Illinois Conference.

Barclay, who identifies as neither male nor female and uses they as their pronoun, worked 12 years to achieve this. 

You can check that out here. 

High School Principal Comes Out As Trans

I’ve known a lot of trans people in my life and I always thought it was because I lived in New Hope, PA, where there’s a large LGBTQ presence. Evidently, I was wrong and I’m applauding the fact that we are now seeing transgender people everywhere.

A high school principal in Brookline, Massachusetts, US, has written a letter to parents in which he comes out as transgender.

Asa Cain Sevelius, principal of Heath School in Chestnut Hill, sent the email out on Wednesday evening.

It began: ‘Dear Heath Community, I am writing to all of you to share some powerful news about me. I am transgender.’

The 45-year-old told the Boston Globe that it was becoming obvious that his appearance was changing and he felt it best to say something.

You can read more about this here. There’s a photo, too.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 


Not All Gay Books Have Sex


In Their Prime by Ryan Field

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Gays Fighting Over Ivanka Trump; Jilted Bride Finds Out Groom Is Gay; Leo Varadkar Openly Gay Leader In Ireland

Gays Fighting Over Ivanka Trump

I think this story shows how divided the US is right now. The other day Ivanka Trump tweeted something in favor of Gay Pride Month, and a lot of people on Twitter shot her down.

In case there were any lingering uncertainties about how the vast majority of LGBTQ people feel about Ivanka Trump, those doubts can now be laid to rest.

Yesterday evening, the first daughter tweeted how “proud” she was to support her LGBTQ friends and Americans and wishing everyone a “joyful” Pride month:

However, as you can see from the comment section with this article not everyone agrees. It’s an interesting discussion that shows how divided we are right now. I’m not sure that’s a bad thing either. At least no one can accuse Americans of apathy anymore.

Here’s the rest, with the comments. 

Jilted Bride Finds Out Groom Is Gay

A lot of people don’t realize that there are successful marriages with straight women and gay men. I know several personally. I never ask about the dynamics because that’s none of my business, but they seem to work. So when I see articles like this I sometimes wonder.

A young woman in the UK is auctioning off an expensive engagement ring because she found out her finance is gay.

Please overlook the fact that the author of this article, Graham Gremore, doesn’t know the difference between they’re and their. I always quote verbatim, as I first see it published.

After doing a little investigating, she learned that Brad and her husband-to-be were, in fact, sleeping together. So she called the wedding off.

To make matters worse, even though their no longer getting married, they ex-fiancés are still stuck living together because neither of them has enough money to move out. 

Here’s the rest. I get into this topic a great deal with my next book, “Treading With Care,” which is about gay men remaining in the closet and still maintaining relationships with straight women.

Leo Varadkar Openly Gay Leader In Ireland

Whenever something like this happens I think it’s important to mention it, and to spread the word. You don’t hear about this from the mainstream media…ever. They will completely ignore it.

Leo Varadkar has become Ireland’s first gay leader.

The 38-year-old, who will also be Ireland’s youngest ever PM, is the new Taoiseach and leader of the ruling Fine Gael party.

He beat Minister for Housing Simon Coveney in the final vote.

The Dubiner previously served as the Minister for Social Protection and Minister for Health, and was first elected to parliament at the age of 27.

Here’s the rest, with a photo. There’s an interesting discussion on the comment thread about the differences between head of state and head of government. All I know is he’s got a great position of leadership and he’s gay. Bravo. This is what Pride Month is all about.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 


Not All Gay Books Have Sex


In Their Prime by Ryan Field

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Fred Karger: "An Openly Gay Republican Runs For President"; Christians Help A Gay Teen; NYC Waiter Allegedly Fired For Being HIV Poz

Fred Karger: “An Openly Gay Republican Runs For President”

I’m sure this is still news for most people out there. I’m also sure many didn’t even know that a man named Fred Karger was the first openly gay man to run for President in 2012. I think he started the campaign in 2010. I followed his campaign here on the blog at the time, and I found it fascinating and historic. Historic for obvious reasons, and fascinating because the media all but completely ignored him…especially the LGBT presses. Here’s a link to all of my older posts where I think I followed the most significant stories.

I’m still not totally sure why Karger was so ignored. It was news; it was history. Even though he ran as a Republican, he supported equality, gay marriage, and every other issue we all support. In fact, he’s worked endlessly to fight and expose the most powerful anti-gay marriage groups in the world. He’s been one of the most aggressive activists fighting for equality in recent years. Karger supported gay marriage while every other candidate at the time was still saying they wanted to leave it up to the states. And I haven’t seen Karger exploit or profit from anything he’s done.

In any event, there’s a new video up on YouTube about Karger. It’s a documentary by filmmaker John Fitzgerald Keitel who was with Karger throughout his campaign. You can check that out here. 

Christians Helping A Gay Teen

Here’s something that happened on Reddit. It’s about a gay teen who was questioning his religious convictions, and his conflicts with being gay.

How can God make one of his own people gay? I really do want to believe in God and I have for so long in my life but having this built-in sin, so to speak, has really put a strain on my relationship with God. I am 19 now and am still trying my hardest to believe in God but I feel a shame every time I go to Church because I know I can never get rid of this sin.

After he posted this a lot of people replied in ways you wouldn’t expect. I’m not particularly religious, however, I thought this one was interesting.

 “As a parent of an LGBT kid, I know first hand how badly the religious environment has treated our gay brothers and sisters; and for that I deeply and genuinely apologize,” another person writes. “I have a sneaky suspicion that my LGBT brothers and sisters are going to be at the heart of some of most powerful transformation the church is going to experience over the next few years.”

There’s more here. The world is changing.

NYC Waiter Allegedly Fired For Being HIV Poz

This is one of those legal stories about which I don’t like to speculate, so I’m only linking to the facts as I saw them.

A former server at popular Chelsea restaurant Buddakan claims he was fired for being HIV-positive.

Talking to New York Post, 27-year-old Jack Mountford says he “loved” working at the Asian eatery on 9th Avenue; a popular destination for celebs like Hugh Jackman and Bruce Springsteen.

Mountford, an actor and dancer, started working at Buddakan in February 2013. He quickly rose from server to “closer,” selling expensive bottles of wine and turning over tables.

You can read more about it here. It goes into a lot more detail.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field

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Leave Richard Simmons Alone; Coming Out At 53; Two College Swimmers Coming Out

Leave Richard Simmons Alone

This is so many kinds of wrong. Richard Simmons returned from a short stay in a hospital and the press surrounded him until he was forced to walk into his own home with his head covered.

That’s wrong. Give the man some privacy. He just got out of the hospital.

With photographers waiting outside his home Thursday, Simmons returned, but kept a blanket over his head to shield himself from the cameras. In addition, police officers were present to keep the crowd at bay.

I just wish he’d flipped them the bird.

You can read the rest here.

Coming Out At 53

You know how I’m always talking about how we have no idea how many gay men are out there? Well here’s more proof. Those of you who think you know it all about gay men, this is another example of how diverse gay men can be. And this story isn’t even that unusual. Right now, as I post this, there are many more gay men who still haven’t come out of the closet and you don’t even know they are gay.

“He came out after being married and also having two children, although a lot younger than me, he’s 36. He was the first person I came out to. We haven’t had an affair or any such [thing], but he knows how I feel about him.

“After a while of chatting to him about how I felt and the fact that now I must talk to my wife and be truly open as to how I feel, I finally did it, talked to me wife, children and close family and friends.” 

You can read the rest here. It’s a great story and it talks about reactions. Trust me on this, only another gay man will ever know what this is like. You can’t even begin to imagine.

Two College Swimmers Coming Out

Here’s another coming out story. It’s about how two college swimmers helped each other come out.

Axel Reed and Josh Velasquez have a lot in common. They’re both 21. They both grew up in conservative households in Southern California. They both swim on their college swim teams. Oh, and they’re both gay. 

You can check that out here.

In Their Prime by Ryan Field

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Seattle Openly Gay Mayor Ed Murray Accused of Sexual Abuse; Male Rape Victims; Ian McKellen’s Closeted Gay Youth

Seattle Openly Gay Mayor Ed Murray Accused of Sexual Abuse

I had to go elsewhere to link to this article because what I read in the gay presses was so slanted I found it disturbing at best. And I’m only linking. I’m not forming an opinion one way or the other.

A 46-year-old Kent man sued Seattle Mayor Ed Murray on Thursday, claiming Murray “raped and molested him” over several years, beginning in 1986 when the man was a 15-year-old high-school dropout.

The lawsuit in King County Superior Court, filed under the man’s initials, “D.H.,” alleges Murray sexually abused the crack-cocaine addicted teen on numerous occasions for payments of $10 to $20.

You can read the rest here. It’s a very long news piece with a lot more detail.

Male Rape Victims

This is one of those things you don’t see often, but you know it happens just the same. It’s about a new documentary that’s focused on men who get raped titled, The Voiceless.

“I felt ashamed,” one man says. “I felt like someone is stealing something from me.”

“I just wanted to run away,” another adds, “and get away from everything.”

According to the 2014 National Crime Victimization Survey, 38% of rape victims are male. And 1 in 6 males are sexually assaulted before the age of 18.

“Sexual violence does not discriminate against men,” activist and filmmaker Vanessa McNeal says.

You can check that out here. I’d also like to point out that men are not only raped by other men. They can be raped by women, too. It happens.

Ian McKellen’s Closeted Gay Youth

This article about Ian McKellen’s closeted, lonely gay youth is touching, however, it’s still happening with millions of other young gays. Do not for one minute think we are all out there living this carefree happily ever after life, or that we can all discuss it out in the open. That’s why I write gay romance novels, because it’s not happening all over the world.

 Actor Scott Chambers supplies the visuals for McKellen’s somber narrative.

“Part of the reason I proselytize, talk about being gay, is because I don’t want today’s children not to enjoy their sexuality,” McKellen says. “Be aware of it, think about it, puzzle about it, discuss it, have it out in the open, because of course it’s central to what you are.” 

If you consider the young gay Amish people alone who are closeted, we still have a long way to go. I think it’s wonderful that McKellen made the video, but a bit out of touch with the realities that young gay people are still dealing with. At least that’s what I hear from closeted gay men all the time…of all ages.

You can read the rest here.



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Catfishing: Pressing Charges; Philly Gay Bashing Trial Tweets; The Remove Adam Lambert Petition

Catfishing: Pressing Charges

I’ve always believed a person’s online identity is truly who that person is. You can present yourself in public in many ways, however, when it comes to your online general behavior that’s really who you are deep down.

With that said, I’ve seen a lot of catfishing and other questionable behavior this past year online,  and in my case what I’ve seen comes predominantly from ambitious, opportunistic, aggressive bloggers who sometimes even cross over as fiction authors. These are always people who would never have had a voice in public…anywhere…if it hadn’t been for the Internet, multiple free social media accounts, and free access to a Word Press blog. You wouldn’t even have known they were alive if it hadn’t been for the Internet because their biggest talent is having the ability to manipulate nice, innocent people for their own personal gain.

Those of you who have been catfished and duped online know exactly what I’m talking about. What makes all this even worse is that many of these devious opportunistic catfishers have built a loyal fan base that run to their defense when their devious behavior is finally exposed. In one case this year, a very well known romance book blogger/reviewer was forced to admit that she was not only running a hugely successful (and profitable) publishing blog, but also writing books in the same genre she blogs about daily, with a pen name and a completely fictitious identity. For several years, this aggressive, manipulative, clever blogger catfished in private forums and basically duped everyone with whom she came into contact. And when she was finally exposed, her loyal online minions ran to her defense and even started a crowdfunding page for her.

There have been many other cases that aren’t worth getting into, however, the point is that people who have been catfished often feel completely hopeless because the catfisher is almost always clever enough to put a spin on it and come out looking good in spite of all the pain and emotional distress he or she has caused people. In some cases I’ve seen them build networks with other questionable types who will come to their defense. And the victims wind up feeling helpless while the criminal continues to move forward unscathed.

So here is an interesting web site that talks about what you can do if you believe it to be true that you have been the victim of a catfishing scam. I haven’t seen many charges pressed against these online criminals but I do think that’s going to change in the future as more of them are exposed.

The main problem with catfishing and the law is this:

 The answer is not clear cut, it depends.

So until more victims start pressing charges against these online criminals, the most important thing anyone can do now is to remain prudent with any online relationships.

Philly Gay Bashing Trial Tweets

Here’s another new twist in the alleged Philadelphia gay bashing trial that makes social media even more relevant in modern daily life.

A judge ruled Tuesday that a suspect’s anti-gay tweets can be introduced at her trial next month, according to Philly.com.

Kathryn Knott, one of the three Bucks County defendants charged in the September 2014 assault on a gay couple in Center City, is the only one to have claimed trial.

Her two alleged accomplices Philip Williams, 25 and Kevin Harrigan, 26, will not serve any time behind bars after accepting a plea deal.

Here’s one of her tweets:

‘this camo song is gay like all the other brad paisley songs’

You can read the rest here. I guess she never heard the saying, “What you say online remains online forever.”

The Remove Adam Lambert Petition

There are 11,000 signatures in an online petition to remove Adam Lambert from a New Year’s Eve concert in Singapore.

It is not known who started the petition which is signed, ‘For the love of Singapore, our family and our future, Concerned citizens, Concerned parents, Concerned individuals.’

Describing the singer as a ‘performer fraught with controversy even in his home country’, it lists the American Idol Sean 8 runner-up has having ‘engaged in sexualized acts, including kissing a male band member on stage’ and ‘featur(ing) female showgirls and male strippers performing acts of indecency.’

It goes on to say, ‘Singaporeans can enjoy a good show without their consciences being affronted by lewd acts in the name of entertainment.’

I don’t know much about Adam Lambert or his act so I can’t comment…other than saying I don’t think I’ve ever heard of anyone wanting to ban Ricky Martin from anything.

Here’s the rest. 

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