Gay Christmas Etsy; Gay On Christmas and Issues; Best Gay Holiday Events In NYC

Gay Christmas Etsy

If you’re looking for any belated Gay Christmas gifts here’s a good link. I wish I’d seen this one sooner. I would have shared it earlier this month.

Unless you go to a town or city like Provincetown, MA, or Palm Springs, CA, it’s hard to find gay oriented gifts. Mainstream retail establishments simply don’t carry anything LGBTQ related. At least from what I’ve seen.

Gay On Christmas Issues

I post about something like this at least once or twice a year. It’s an issue for so many LGBTQ people because the holidays are anything but fun.

For too many LGBTQ people, Christmas is not a “merry” time. They’re forced into silence by families who don’t or wouldn’t accept them, ostracized, or even spending the holiday alone.
Tom Goss’s “Gay Christmas”, inspired by his own decision to not go home for the holidays, follows five people feeling alienated during this time, but who ultimately find strength in each other, but find their own family in each other.
There’s more here.  I actually know a few stories this year that I can’t talk about for privacy reasons. But it involves younger gay people and dealing with families. 
Best Gay Holiday Events In NYC
Here’s a link to events that are holiday/Christmas related in New York City. I actually haven’t done many of these things in a while because it’s been too busy. And it’s interesting, because when you only live an hour from NY you rarely ever do things like this. But just being in the city this time of year is such a great experience that you take the rest of it all for granted. 
There’s plenty to do for Christmas in NYC this year, but for those looking to make the yuletide extra gay, we’ve got the best burlesque shows, comedy events and LGBTQ parties from your favorite NYC drag queens, performers and queer nightlife icons.
Here’s the link. There’s another link there, with a full guide, too. I like it. I used to spend New Year’s Eve in NYC every year and loved it. You’d be surprised at how different it is compared to what you see on TV. They only show the most crowded sections on TV, but the rest of the city is mostly nice and quiet. 

FREE Giveaway A Christmas Carl

And don’t forget my publisher is doing a free giveaway at Goodreads for A Christmas Carl.

Chase of a Christmas Dream by [Field, Ryan]

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Dick Pics and Sea Sponges; Studying A Beetle’s Penis; Guy With Huge Penis Is Now Disabled; Non-Smoker Chops Off Roommate’s Penis

Dick Pics and Sea Sponges

Here’s an interesting piece written by a woman who compares men who send dick pics to male dolphins who present sea sponges to other lady dolphins. However, it’s really about how annoying (insulting) it is when a guy sends an unsolicited dick pic. And I’ve received plenty of my own from weird guys on Twitter.

Maybe, like humans, these would-be Cassanovas are sometimes overly aggressive or clueless in their sponge-giving attempts. I can’t help but wonder if down at the bottom of the ocean, there are annoyed lady dolphins are asking why. “Why did he bring me a sponge? I’m a 21st-century cetacean, and I can get my own sponge! Is this supposed to impress me?

You can check this out, here. 

Studying A Beetle’s Penis

There’s not much going on in penis news this holiday season. But there is this.

Catheters and beetle penises have a common problem: finding a way into complicated spaces without breaking or collapsing. Now, thanks to the thistle tortoise beetle, scientists may have a solution for the medical devices. The bug’s penis, which is longer than its body, is stiffer at its base while softer at its tip. That’s the conclusion of a new study published in Science Advances that examined the insect’s genitalia by pushing on it to see how far it bends. 

Interesting information. Here’s the rest. 

Guy With Huge Penis Is Now Disabled

Here’s more on the saga of the guy with the world’s largest penis.

The considerable size of his manhood has left him unable to perform jobs, Mr Cabrera says, and he has now been forced to register as disabled.

Here’s more. He claims his penis is over 18 inches long. That can’t be easy. 

Non-Smoker Chops Off Roommate’s Penis

This is carrying things a bit too far. Seriously. This is scary. 

The man told officers he couldn’t stand the victim’s smoking, after moving to the capital from the city of Irkutsk in Siberia to work as a driver.
He said the pair had often argued about cigarettes, but that on this occasion he had gone “berserk” after he’d sparked up and had attacked him with a knife.

Here’s the link. This really is too sick. Now this non-smoker is facing life in prison…where he will die of a non-smoking related disease. 

FREE Giveaway A Christmas Carl

And don’t forget my publisher is doing a free giveaway at Goodreads for A Christmas Carl.

Chase of a Christmas Dream by [Field, Ryan]

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 Said With Care

A PG Rated Gay Romance

Gay Winner of The Voice Australia Releases Marriage Song; Anti-Gay Crackdown In Egypt; Gay Hollywood Agent and Sex Abuse

Gay Winner of The Voice Australia Releases Marriage Song

It’s coming down to the wire with legalized gay marriage in Australia, and Alfie Arcuri, winner of The Voice Australia, wrote a song to celebrate love.

“The time has come for our voices to be heard,” Alfie said. “This is much greater than just marriage, this is about acceptance and human rights.”
The message of the song urges Australians to see the world through a child’s eyes where equality and love reigns.

There’s more here. If you haven’t been following gay marriage in Australia, here is a link to some of my previous posts. The reason why everyone is urging Australians is because they are putting this to a public vote, through the mail.

Anti-Gay Crackdown In Egypt

In global news, this isn’t encouraging. It sounds almost as bad as Chechnya.

Homosexuality isn’t illegal in Egypt, but gay men are being charged with debauchery, immorality or blasphemy.
What’s more, authorities in Egypt don’t deny the fact they are specifically targeting LGBT+ people, with state media and the religious establishment claiming that it’s a public duty to tackle the spread of homosexuality.

More here. It always seems to come down to religion.

Gay Hollywood Agent and Sex Abuse

This doesn’t seem to want to end. Lately it seems as though there’s a Hollywood sex abuse story at least once a day.

Now less than two weeks after the drama unfolded, Grasham faces even more accusations of sexual assault. And this time the LAPD is involved.

The LA Times reports that Tyler Cornell, a 20-year-old actor, has filed a complaint with the Los Angeles Police Department, alleging sexual assault against Grasham.

Here’s the rest. 

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A PG Rated Gay Romance

Said With Care

Where The Trump White House Stands On Transgender Military Ban; Dating App Daddybear and Your HIV Status; A Fan Insults Nick Jonas’ Height

Where The Trump White House Stands On Transgender Military Ban

Here’s an article that gives some information on where the Trump White House now stands on the transgender ban in the military that Mr. Trump Tweeted about not too long ago.

Other than the basic fact that we know, for certain, that Donald Trump tweeted about his transgender military ban for the entire world to read, the rest is still questionable.

The official wouldn’t say whether service members who had come out would be allowed to continue to serve their country.

You can read the rest here. I haven’t seen too many follow ups, but when I do I’ll post more.

Dating App Daddybear and Your HIV Status

Admittedly, I don’t know much about dating apps and it’s hard for me to comment. But even without knowing much, I don’t think I like what I’m reading here.

I think the point behind the app is to connect wealthy older gay dads with healthy young bears. Which means they allegedly don’t want anyone who is HIV poz.

If you are worried about meeting gay men who are living with HIV, then you can feel relieved with our App because we are trying our best to make sure that all users you meet will be healthy and without HIV, starting from adding a feature to allow users to verify their health condition.
Here’s a link to the rest.  The comments are interesting in the sense that you’ll learn a little bit more about how some…and I mean some, not all…gay men think. 
A Fan Insults Nick Jonas’ Height
I don’t even know how tall Nick Jonas is. But this whole height thing always bothered me in the sense that so many people seem to care about it. I’m six feet three inches tall and I always wished I was a little shorter. Evidently, Nick Jonas has the opposite problem.
A fan spotted Jonas on the street, asked if Jonas would take a pic with him, and Jonas agreed. Later, the fan posted the pic and made a comment about Jonas’ height that left Jonas less than thrilled.
“You need some manners ‘bruh’… I didn’t need to stop to take that picture with you. Just rude. Very rude.”  
Here’s the rest.   Maybe Jonas was having a bad day. 
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A Young Widow’s Promise and the Confederate Soldiers She Buried In New Jersey; Perez Hilton’s Emotional Exhibitionism; Steve Grand’s Year Of Addiction

A Young Widow’s Promise and the Confederate Soldiers She Buried In New Jersey

In a remote part of Salem County, in deep southern New Jersey, there’s a place called Fort Mott. And next to Fort Mott there’s a place called Finn’s Point National Cemetery that has a confederate monument. Ironically, the biggest claim to fame is that Andrew Cunanan, the guy who murdered Versace, also murdered the caretaker at Fort Mott in the 90s while he was on the run. I’m familiar with these places because I grew up in Salem County, NJ and I used to jog there every morning. I still have family in Salem County.

With that said, I had no idea when I wrote A Young Widow’s Promise there would be so much turmoil over confederate statues and monuments. For us…locals…it was just history and we never paid much attention to it. And my main character, Felicia Roundtree, only did what she thought was best at the time when she turned her front yard into a burial ground for confederate soldiers.

Felecia Roundtree is thirty-seven years old, she’s already lost her husband in battle, and prays each morning her two young sons live to see another day. With her own two hands, she’s turned the front of her property at remote Locust Point, NJ, into a burial ground for unknown Confederate prisoners of war, hoping someone will return a kind gesture to her own loved ones. Then one morning in August, just after she has a vision of her dead husband, three Confederate prisoners of war turn up at her doorstep begging for mercy. One is near death; the other two aren’t much better. Though she’s reluctant at first to help the enemy, she offers them food and shelter, and then eventually begins the romance of her lifetime with a young old Confederate named Calvin. When she learns a deep dark secret about the other two Confederates, she’s not sure what to think. Felecia has no idea she’s even falling in love. Nor does she realize she’s preserving an important part of American History. But she’s true to her promise every step of the way.

You can check that out here. 

And here’s a link and some info on Finn’s Point Cemetery. I think it’s an interesting piece of history that we don’t hear about very often, especially in New Jersey. And timely because of all the controversy over confederate monuments.

Originally purchased by the federal government to build a battery to protect the port of Philadelphia, the land became a cemetery by 1863 for Confederate prisoners of war who died while in captivity at Fort Delaware. One hundred and thirty five Union soldiers who died while serving as guards at the prison camp are also buried here. The death toll among prisoners of war and the guards was high, especially in the latter part of 1863 and throughout 1864. By July 1863, there were 12,595 prisoners on the island at nearby Fort Delaware which was only about 75 acres (30 ha) in size. Disease was rampant and nearly 2,700 prisoners died from malnutrition or neglect. Confederate prisoners interred at the cemetery totaled 2,436 and all are in a common grave as can still be seen as a huge pit in the north western corner of the site near the monument.

Perez Hilton’s Emotional Exhibitionism

I’m still trying to figure this out one, so I honestly can’t comment. I swear they write these articles in some kind of secret code lately.

The story so far: Perez Hilton wants fans to know he’s thankful for the support they lavished upon him in the minutes and hours following a video he posted to Instagram in which he forthrightly succumbs to a bout of weepies and bereft boo-hoos.

The blogger and reality TV casualty revealed in the tear-stained, self-directed clip that he was absolutely gutted after being unceremoniously fired from a “career changing” role.

There’s more here. And there are comments.

Steve Grand’s Year of Addiction

Here’s a story about Steve Grand’s struggle with alcohol addiction. I hope he’s getting the help he needs.

Steve’s drinking became a problem after a seven-year relationship came to an end that started when he was only 18 years old. The extreme ups and downs were made even more intense by the fact that during that time, the spotlight found Steve after his “All-American Boy” music video hit the internet in 2013. 

There’s more here.  You can follow him on Twitter where he keeps in touch with his fans regularly. Not too many have the kind of interaction with fans, which is nice to see.

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Being Gay In the 70s and 80s; How To See Justin Theroux Naked; D.C.’s Town Nightclub Is Closing

Being Gay In the 70s and 80s

Here’s a piece that talks about what it was like to be gay in the 70s and 80s.

Such Is Life Videos’ set of news clips about LGBT stories from decades ago is an excellent primer for just how far we’ve come. These two videos, featuring the 70s and 80s, are both long, but make for excellent stop-and-play action in a browser tab for watching during breaks. After all, most segments are only a few minutes long and you won’t miss any plot lines.

There’s more here.

I have a lot of older gay friends and I’ve heard so many stories…all true. So you’ll want to read the comments with this one.

How To See Justin Theroux Naked

This one is really nothing more than a clickbait gimmick. But I love The Leftovers so if it helps them get an Emmy I’ll all for it.

It’s quite simple, really: The Leftovers’ producer has assured us that Justin Theroux will get 100% naked if the show wins an Emmy nomination this year.

Now that the show is finally wrapped up, the powers that be are doing everything in their power to grab some awards and acolytes for their efforts.

Here’s the rest.

D.C’s Town Nightclub Is Closing

Here’s yet another fatality from the never ending saga of gay nightclubs closing.

“After more than ten years in operation at 2009 8th street NW, in the center of the Shaw neighborhood of Washington, DC, Town Danceboutique, the city’s largest and most well known LGBTQ nightclub, will be closing.” 

More here. 

Seems to be a sign of the times.

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In Their Prime by Ryan Field


It’s World Naked Bike Ride Time Again; A Lot of Babadooks At Pride; Gay Men Who Are Not Identifying As Gay Anymore; Straight Married Father Creeps The Toilets

It’s World Naked Bike Ride Again

There’s something about this one that fascinates me. And if you go to wiki commons where a lot of the photos are free to share legally you’ll find I’m not the only one. There are quite a few photos of previous World Naked Bike Ride events posted over there, without censorship.

The World Naked Bike Ride is a clothing-optional ride that happens every June. Founded in 2004, bikers from all corners of the globe gather to ride together en masse on human-powered transport to “deliver a vision of a cleaner, safer, body-positive world.”

You can check this out here. The photos posted are, of course, SFW on this site. But if you do a search for this over at wiki commons you’ll find the real photos. It’s not sexual either. It’s simply about enjoying nudity in public. There’s a difference. Unless you’ve been to a nude beach it’s not easy to understand this. But after the first ten minutes of being naked in public it’s just like anything else.

A Lot of Babadooks At Pride

I often think that P.T. Barnum was right when I see things like this. I posted about how The Babadook is quickly becoming a “gay icon” last week, and now I’m seeing that people who went to Pride events actually dressed up as The Babadook.

I guess you can get people to do anything if you put the right spin on it. I’ve seen the movie The Babadook. I made a point of seeing it last week after I posted about it. And frankly, I just don’t get all the hype, especially with respect to gay culture. I didn’t see one single thing in that movie that related to being gay, or dealing with gay culture.

Well, judging by some of the looks we witnessed at this year’s Pride festivities, he’s certainly well on his way. On the heels of a slew of new Babadook jokes that have made their way onto the Web this month, several Pride revelers decided to don their very best Babalewks.

Here’s the rest, with photos of people dressing as The Babodook, proving that there certainly were a lot of Babadooks at pride this year, and THEY showed up in many forms.

Gay Men Who Are Not Identifying As Gay Anymore

I don’t have any links to this, but I’m curious about it. Over the weekend I saw people who were genuinely promoting Pride events with their hearts and souls. They passionately believed in what they were doing, they have pride in Pride, and they can’t wait to share their excitement. It was nice to see them celebrating how far we’ve come, without hate or any hidden agendas. It was nice to see the genuine, honest support from the heteronormative community, too.

I also saw people who normally couldn’t care less about Pride events or anything LGBT related posting about it on social media. They do it for different reasons, to get people to think they care because it makes them look good. As disingenuous as that sounds, I get that, too. At least they’re doing something positive even if it doesn’t come from the heart. Some people don’t see anything wrong with exploiting a minority for their own personal gain. Mostly, Hollywood.

But what really surprised me were the posts and comments I saw on social media this week from openly gay men who claim they no longer identify as gay. I saw a lot of them, too. From what I gather it’s for political reasons…although I’m not totally sure about that either. And now I’m wondering if this is going to start trending, too. Especially as the political climate continues to devolve into nothing more than insult for insult. And these are all openly gay men who have always supported equal rights and everything that being gay stood for.

Straight Married Father Creeps the Toilets

Before I get into this, I left my own comment on this article.

  • Ryan Field

    I know it shouldn’t matter whether he’s married to a man or a woman. He’s a creep no matter what. But I think it’s nice to point out these little details now that same sex marriage is legal.

Someone else mentioned this detail in the comments. I hate when they say a guy is married and let us naturally assume he’s married to a woman.

Rant over.

This is creepy…

35-year-old Brent Hachborn says he didn’t mean to cause any trouble when he set up not one, not two, but three different spy cams in the men’s faculty bathroom at the James Hiller School in Ontario. He was only satisfying his latent bisexual urges, his lawyers argued.

The recordings were made between April 2015 and February 2016. Hachborn, a married father of two, was employed as a teacher at the school. Eventually, he was promoted to a vice principal position at a nearby school, but we would return to James Heller often to collect the tapes. 

Here’s the rest. You see what I mean about how they used the word “married,” as if there are no married gay men with two kids. I know it’s a tricky one because it shouldn’t really matter. But somehow it just does.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field