Not A Cool Thing To Do On Facebook…

This is a short and sweet post. And, I am not directing this to anyone in particular. When I harp about facebook and other social networks it usually comes from a discussion I’ve had with at least three or more other authors about social networking. And though we don’t always agree on everything, we did all agree on this one particular facebook rule.

If someone you don’t know well clicks “unfriend” and dismisses you, and you happen to notice they are missing from your friend list, do not contact them and ask why. And when I say “don’t know well,” I’m talking about facebook friends you’ve never met in person, aren’t related to, and probably never will meet in person.

First, it’s just not a cool thing to send someone you don’t know personally a personal message asking about why they unfriended you. It’s confrontational and defeats the purpose of facebook. If someone unfriends you they obviously have their reasons and you have to respect them. I’ve had people unfriend me on facebook and unfollow me on twitter and I figured it was none of my business and I let it go. And I’m sure there are more I haven’t bothered to notice. (Who really has that kind of time?)

I’ve also unfriended people on my facebook page, mainly for one reason in particular: they got into politics. My own personal rule is facebook is a place for social networking, not political networking (if you don’t agree with me, feel free to unfriend me). I don’t always unfriend; sometimes I just hide them from my feed. Not all political posts on facebook are offensive. Some are smart, well thought out, and you can learn something from them…whether you agree with them or not. I don’t mind those posts. But the ranters and zealots, on either end of the spectrum, turn me off.

And if someone doesn’t like what you’re doing or posting, they have every right to delete you from their list of friends. Of course you have every right to contact them and ask why, especially if it’s your next door neighbor, best friend for twenty years, or your Aunt Sally. But it’s not a cool thing to do if you’ve never met the person. Seriously.

Clint McCance: Arkansas School Board Member – Doesn’t Get Much Worse than this!

I read this earlier this morning. Shocked doesn’t even describe how I feel. It’s doesn’t get much worse than this, and in public no less. You have to wonder what’s motivating this loon. Below is a quote from The Daily News. Just click and you’ll be directed to the link.

A small town in Arkansas is up in arms after an elected school board member went on an anti-gay tirade on Facebook and declared that he wanted homosexuals to kill themselves.Read more:

Michael Nava for Judge, San Francisco Superior Court

I know, I’m not from the San Francisco area. But I’ve been following Michael Nava for a long time and it takes a lot for any political candidate to impress me. He’s openly gay, has a long time life partner, and he’s working hard to go up against tradition so he can make positive changes. If I lived in the San Francisco area I’d be going door to door helping get him votes. But the best I can do is post a few of his e-mails here for readers. If you’re in the SF area, please take the time to read these. And please pass this on to anyone you might know in SF.


Greetings from the campaign trail

—It was a year ago this month – just before my 55th birthday on September 16 – that I decided to run for the San Francisco Superior Court. It was not an easy decision. I’ve been a lawyer for almost 30 years. I realized that in a couple of years I could retire and begin another career, maybe as a teacher, or return to writing fiction, or pursue any one of my many interests outside the law.

But in the last few years it has become clear to me that the lack of diversity among California’s judges is a serious issue on many levels. It means that for young people from disenfranchised communities who want to enter the profession – young people of color, women, LGBT people – there are few role models and mentors to look to for encouragement, inspiration and assistance. It means that the people most likely to be ensnared in the legal system on both the criminal and civil side –poor people of color –are confronted by a system in which no one looks like them or has had their life experience. When I was a young prosecutor in the early 80’s, often the only other Latino in the courtroom was the defendant. I fear that that has not much changed.

I entered the race to change the status quo and help create a judiciary in San Francisco that looks like the community it serves.

We are now in the last stretch of this race. It has been hard-fought campaign and my opponent has tried everything from frontal assaults to backroom political maneuvers but the people gave me the highest number of votes in June and, if I can continue to get my message out to them, will give us victory on November 2nd.

I cannot begin to express the gratitude I feel for those of you who have supported me in this long and exhausting effort; I can only hope to repay that debt by becoming the best judge and public servant I can be.

In these final few weeks, I need your help more than ever. If you have considered making a contribution to my campaign, in whatever amount, now is the time. My budget requires me to raise $60,000 between now and mid-October. That money will go to sending out mailers, paying for slots on slate cards, and other forms of advertisement. Help me across the finish line by making an on-line contribution at or downloading the contributor form on my website and sending a check to: Michael Nava for Judge 2010, PO Box 78403, SF, CA. 94107.

Thank you, Michael

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