The Puppy Pile; Dolce and Gabbana Douchery; Philadelphia Hate Crime Suspects

The Puppy Pile

I hope people realize that when I post about these things I’m as unfamiliar with them as the next person reading an article like this. In other words, this is a part of gay culture with which I’ve never been familiar, and most gay men I know aren’t familiar with it either. You can’t choose to be gay, but you can choose to live your life a certain way. I don’t choose to live mine this way. This whole pup thing gets attention because it deserves attention…it’s a freaking side show.

Not that I’ve pissed off all the bearded pups out there, here’s an excerpt from an article about The Puppy Pile. Yes, The Puppy Pile.

Things got ruff last weekend at Arf!, a wild night of kink, fetish, bath house disco and sleazy dance tunes. Just how ruff? You’ll have to see the pictures to find out. Honestly, we wouldn’t mind taking a dip in the puppy pile.

You can read more here. And forgive me if I sounded a little harsh above, but you rarely ever see a headline about the quiet gay couple who pay their taxes, vote, and don’t cross the lines of kink into bestiality. At least not in public.

Dolce and Gabbana Douchery

Get this one. Dolce and Gabbana designers who are both gay, Stefano Gabbana and Domenico Dolce, recently said they don’t think certain things should be challenged. For one thing, the family structure and how it has always been perceived.

This self-loathing is priceless:

Stefano Gabbana and Domenico Dolce, founders of luxury fashion brand Dolce and Gabbana, attacked modern families by saying ‘the only family is the traditional one.’

And they said this:

While Gabbana says he would like a family, Dolce says he does not.

‘I am gay, I cannot have a child. I guess you cannot have everything in life,’ he said.

‘Life has a natural course, some things cannot be changed. One is the family.’

The two were a couple, and then they split up. But they’ve obviously maintained a business relationship. 

And this is a perfect example of two stupid queens with too much money and not enough self-respect.  I don’t want kids. I don’t even want them in my house. But I find it impossible not to embrace the modern family and those who do have kids these days…and all it’s done for society. I think kids are much better off for it.

There’s more here, with a photo of the two old queens posing in that quasi dramatic way…because they’re so chic. I won’t be wearing them anymore.

Side note: I’m sorry for breaking my rule about going after gay people on the blog. I’ve been so good since January. But these two really deserved it.

Philadelphia Hate Crime Suspects

Remember the straight people in Philadelphia who allegedly beat up a gay male couple a few months back? One of the lawyers representing one of them claims there isn’t enough evidence to prosecute and they’re claiming innocence.

During the crime, one suspect allegedly called one of the victims ‘a, dirty, fucking faggot.’

‘All three defendants steadfastly maintain their innocence,’ Knott’s lawyer, Louis Busico, said during the hearing as reported by Frontiers Media.

The next court date is 16 April. Busico noted he would file a motion then to dismiss the charges due to not enough evidence.

I’ll follow up on this one. It’s almost all hearsay right now. You can read more about it here. 

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Guy With Two Penises Diphallia; Chubby Chaser "Fat Sex"; Tuc Watkins on Gay Hollywood Stereotypes

Guy With Two Penises Diphallia

About a year or so ago I posted about a young bisexual guy who was born with two penises. It’s a condition known as diphallia. He made his disclosure on Reddit with the name “Doubledickdude” and since then he’s been writing a book. It’s a memoir titled, Double Header: My Life With Two Penises, I’ve been following him in Twitter since last summer and I recently read a tweet about an interview he did with Rolling Stone.

I found the most interesting part of the interview to be where he discusses bisexuality. Finally, someone else with a voice is coming out and hitting the topic head on, so to speak.

Why did you decide to write a book?

There are still a few questions that come through that weren’t asked before, and I realized that there are still people who are genuinely curious. From girls who want to know how to handle their boyfriend being uncircumcised to guys wanting to know if they’re gay or bisexual because my equipment turned them on. Really, it just stuns me almost a year later that people are still reaching out to me. So I thought I should put a book together and use that to answer questions; but also give voice to people who might feel lost in the cracks. Even today bisexual people like myself are given more grief than you’d realize. We’re still “confused” or “cowards,” “too afraid to admit we’re gay.” Which is a load of crap.

You can read the rest of the interview here. From my own personal experience with him on Twitter I can’t tell you how nice he’s always been. In fact, he’s one of the most gracious people on Twitter I know in my circles. Always positive, always upbeat, and always takes his criticism with ease.

I haven’t read the book yet, but I plan to. The link to Amazon is above. Take note that it’s #1 on Amazon in several LGBT categories alone…and I doubt that’s because lesbians are buying it.

Chubby Chaser “Fat Sex”

I normally wouldn’t title a post that way because I think there are better words for overweight people. In fact, I don’t like doing it. But the fact remains that there is a term in the gay community known as “chubby-chasing.” Depending on who you talk to, it may or may not be a pejorative term. It’s when guys who are the standard weights find guys who are overweight highly attractive in an erotic way.

Here’s an article about a muscle guy who prefers, as they call it, “fat sex.”

“‘Chubby chasing’ is as good as it gets,” muscle man Dan Oliverio explains in a new interview with the Huffington Post. “That contrast of body types in bed can be totally hot.”

At 6 feet and 225 pounds and with the ability to bench press 350, Oliverio is a fitness nut who could have his pick of men.

His preference? Chubby guys. In fact, the chubbier the better.

The article goes on with quotes I couldn’t publish here and keep it PG rated at the same time. I highly suggest reading it in full because it’s about as graphic and honest as it gets with this topic. Here’s the link.      

There’s also a photo of Oliverio and his boyfriend.

Tuc Watkins on Gay Hollywood Stereotypes

The main problem with this entire topic is that Hollywood knows how to make a lot of money with gay stereotypes, straight people find these stereotypes amusing, and there are far too many gay men willing to do anything to make a fast buck in Hollywood. Don’t even doubt for a moment this isn’t about money. No gay man I ever knew refused playing the clown and court jester for a chance to make millions and get his name in lights. I’ve even seen it in publishing. I actually write about it in an upcoming release titled, “Meadows Aren’t Forever.”

With that said, Tuc Watkins, an actor I posted about earlier this month who made strong comments about stereotypes on Modern Family is speaking up again on the topic. This time he’s asking Hollywood to stop with the gay stereotypes. This comes after his comment about Modern Family and a huge show of support from many, many gay men. I saw it myself. The comments and friend requests on Facebook from gay men supporting him were unreal. I don’t think I’ve seen a reaction like that anywhere else, and I think it’s because so many gay men are afraid of speaking up on the topic. This is one area where we are still facing the worst discrimination there is. And I’m not even getting into the cultural appropriation issues here.

Here’s part of his most recent quote:

On December 19 I cried, ‘Blackface!’ I did it in a fit of exasperation over a stereotype that shook me when I was a kid that I saw alive and well today.

Stereotypes create judgements. When those judgements lead to bullying…or worse…we’ve got a problem. I don’t hear a lot of bullying around the ‘cranky old man,’ ‘neurotic wife,’ or ‘bumbling husband’ demographic.

What’s happening over at Modern Family is not blackface. Blackface is hateful. However, I do believe a stereotype is being perpetuated that can be harmful.

I do agree that Modern Family isn’t blackface…not in the standard tradition. However, he’s a little off base there. There is plenty of gayface being perpetuated these days and no one seems to think there’s anything wrong with that. And, most of all, when the original blackface was considered “appropriate” it wasn’t done with hate either. Everyone thought it was entertaining and at the time no one thought they were insulting black people. That realization didn’t come about until years after blackface became racially insulting. 

In any event, I completely agree with Watkins and so do many other gay men online, and in my own personal circles. This is just the beginning of more to come on this topic. You can read the rest of what he said here.  

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Thank You Tuc Watkins; Straight Guys Kissing; Washington Florist Gay Hate

Thank You Tuc Watkins

Update Below

Remember yesterday’s post, where I linked to a piece about Jesse Ferguson of Modern Family responding to a negative comment made by another actor, Tuc Watkins? Evidently, Watkins isn’t letting Ferguson get the last word. This time Watkins offered a brilliant apology, plus an explanation that I found excellent.

Dear Jesse,
I’m glad to see that a FB post can stoke a fire that burns in the LGBT community, and supporters of our community.

Many doors have opened in gay people’s fight for equality. Civil rights, marriage rights, and depictions of us individually and collectively on television. Great strides have taken us from tolerance into acceptance and towards true equality.
Stereotypes still exist. They probably always will. And while the truth is usually somewhere in the middle, stereotypes polarize us. No news there. But while an explanation of a stereotype can make good, logical sense, it still leaves the stereotype intact.
I’m glad to have played gay characters, but at the same time have been frustrated by the stereotypes I feel I’ve been party to in playing those roles. I’ve begged wardrobe designers so I wouldn’t have to wear paisley shirts, directors to reconsider a “snap” at the end of a scene, and writers to remove ‘Hey, gurl!’ from dialogue.
I did it because when I was growing up, trying to figure out where I fit it in, I couldn’t seem to locate a role model. The stereotypes I saw made me think, ‘Well, I don’t identify with that so I must not be gay.’
I can appreciate that one man’s roadblock may be another man’s role model. I feel like my growth was stunted, but understand that another person’s may have been bolstered. I believe that, as a community we want to make the path easier for those who come after us. I want that. I’m certain you do to.
Some audience members can laugh through a character, but it can also distance others. We each come to the fight with our own baggage…as well as our own weaponry. ‘Revolutionary times call for revolutionary means.’ My comments were extreme, and my use of the word ‘blackface’ inexcusable. I regret creating dissension among the ranks, especially when we’re all in this fight together.
I see your point. I hope you’ll consider mine.

I think that was well done, and now I know who Tuc Watkins is…very attractive and smart. I don’t think either of them are wrong, but I do understand Watkins’ POV better than Ferguson’s simply because I can identify better. But, the bigger picture here is that at least we’re seeing this dialogue happening now. I’ve been waiting all my life to see this. I used to wonder, aren’t there any other gay people out there with whom I can identify?And I know I’m not the only one who feels that way.

Thank you Tuc Watkins for getting this out there.

You can check out the link here where there’s a photo of Watkins.

Update: I think it’s interesting to note that since Tuc Watkins made his statement I’ve watched his facebook page and it seems as though other gay men sent him friend requests. It’s the first thing I did when I read what he had to say. Maybe it’s coincidence, maybe not. But it is interesting. This is from Watkins timeline: “How does a person accept 11365 friend requests with one click?”

Straight Guys Kissing Men

This is pure clickbait, but I think interesting.

They’ve imagined what if would be like if straight people had to come out, pried self-professed straight guy to dish on hot male celebrities, and even convinced straight besties to look at each other naked for the first time. You know, for science.

But that was all just a warmup for this — straight guys kissing men for the first time

You can check out the rest here. Some of the comments are interesting, too. One doesn’t understand why Buzz Feed is so interested in this or why it’s of significance to gay men. I do. Gay men find it fascinating, and for many it’s even a sexual turn on. No one else is willing to admit that aloud. 
Here’s one comment I love: 
These are friends. Not strangers. It’s within the context of their social relationship. Given the situation in a public environment and strangers, not even the gays would want to kiss a total stranger.
Actually, it’s the other way around for me. I’m not into kissing friends in an intimate way like that. I think it’s a little creepy. I have, however, kissed total strangers and loved it…depends on what the guy looks like. I guess to each his own.
Washington Florist Gay Hate
There’s a woman florist in Washington D.C. who won’t greet gay wedding guests in spite of the fact that no one really asked her in the first place. It’s really a confusing article with mixed messages…but I get it.
She’s had a couple of gay men for customers for years and when they asked her to do the flowers for their wedding she refused based on her religious convictions. So the gay customers are suing her.
Before filing a suit against her, state attorney general Bob Ferguson gave her the opportunity to reconsider her stance, but she stood her ground, citing artistic freedom. (If you’re scratching your head on that one, her claim was that making floral arrangements “is a creative process [that] takes artistic talent” and that “all artists consider what they do to be an expression.”)

Now, nearly two years later, Stutzman is back in court. On Friday, attorneys for both the state and the couple asked a judge to find her guilty of discrimination without going through with a trial, arguing that all parties agree on the relevant points of the case.

The strange part about all this is that the gay guys who have been her customers for years liked her, they interacted with her, and thought of her as a friend…until the marriage issue came up.

You can read the rest here. Frankly, I just think people like this are insecure, and very poor businesspeople. No one’s challenging her right to believe whatever she wants to believe. They’re just asking her to treat people with respect and dignity. But the hate goes so deeply it’s hard to rationalize.

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Cast of "Modern Family" Suing 20th Century Fox

When I read that the cast of “Modern Family” was suing 20th Century Fox for what allegedly boils down to more money which you can read about here, I had to wonder how smart that actually is in a time when TV has been considered a dying industry by some. Back in the day when the cast of “Friends” could command a million plus an episode, things were different…life was different…hell, cell phones were as big as regular phones. And all eyes were glued to the TV on Thursday nights.

Not so much anymore. I’m one of the few people I know with a complete cable package that has all the premium channels. And I’m not sure how long that will last because I’m tired of paying that much money each month to tune in and watch a reality show about the Hutterites. I’m not joking about this either.

I’m also not a huge fan of “Modern Family” because I’m not fond of the way they portray gay men. The gay couple in that show aren’t like any of the gay couples I know. I’m sure there are two effeminate gay men in a relationship somewhere, and I’m not bashing that or complaining about that just to be clear. I would just like to see Modern family balance the act a little and maybe have another gay couple join the cast that isn’t quite as stereo typical as the couple they have now.

We’re not all like that. I’ve written about this before and I’m speaking from my own experience as a gay man who has been in a relationship for twenty years. Yes, as I said there are gay couples like the couple in “Modern Family” and I would like to emphasize once again there’s nothing wrong with that. But it seems to be the way TV portrays gay men all the time…or for the most part. A few do get it right. “The United States of Tara” was one of those shows, and that was cancelled. “Shameless” seems to be spot on, too. In fact, “Shameless” is breaking the stereotypes. I guess what I’m trying to say is that just like all people of African descent don’t look alike (one of the most insulting stereotypes of all time in history), not all gay men speak with lisps and have limp wrists. Plain and simple.

We stopped watching “Modern Family” about a year ago, and not just because of the gay factor TVfail. We thought the storyline was getting tired and we found that half hour getting longer and longer each week. We wound up setting the DVR and trying to watch it later in the week. That wound up in “delete.”