Gay Hook Up Abbreviations; Kathy Griffin and Joan Rivers’ Legacy; Gay In Uganda

Gay Hook Up Abbreviations

It seems like there’s another “WTF” coming out each day thanks to social media. And this time it’s all about gay hook up abbreviations.

What it means: Be right back.
What it really means: Goodbye forever.

What it means: Hit me up.
What it really means: You’re hot.

What it means: Hurry up.
What it really means: I’m horny.

And there are 17 more here just like these. Some you already know, some I’ve never seen before. And I have a feeling there are a lot more of these coming soon.

Kathy Griffin and Joan Rivers’ Legacy

I’m not sure why this is considered gay news, but it’s been in all the gay presses so I figured I’d pass it along. Joan Rivers daughter, Melissa Rivers, who is out promoting a new book recently made a comment about how Kathy Griffin shit on her mom’s legacy. I think everyone knows that Kathy Griffin took over for Joan on The Fashion Police, and then quit abruptly, with a statement I found rather generous. I saw the statement on Twitter the day Griffin made it and I didn’t think she was slamming Rivers or her legacy. It sounded as if she was doing what was best for her own career. If you do a simple search you can read more about all that. I’m only posting about what Melissa River said.

My biggest complaint was the feeling that she kind of shit all over my mother’s legacy in her statement on leaving. And I know that was not an intentional reading of it, but that’s how I felt. …By calling the comedy and the style of it old fashioned. It was like, I understand what you were doing, you’re trying to save yourself, but don’t crap all over my mother to do it. That was very personal. But as a professional, that was her choice, that’s what she did. No hard, no foul, moving on.”

I don’t remember the exact post where I mentioned this same topic not too long ago, so I can’t link to it. But I basically made a point of stating that comedy evolves over time, and that what people found funny in 1910 was not considered funny in 1960, and so on. And that’s just the way things evolve in general. So although I loved Joan Rivers’ brand of humor because it was smart…I don’t think it was always completely relevant in the latter years when compared to today’s standards of comedy. The gay references Joan Rivers made for one thing really bothered me. The days of the gay man playing the pet poodle are coming to an abrupt end. And I don’t think that’s a slam against Joan Rivers. I think it’s just stating a plain and simple truth. Comedy changes; the world moves on.

You can see Melissa Rivers’ quote here. 

Gay In Uganda

This is really a gripping article about what it’s like to be gay in Uganda.

“The first thing we hate is homosexuality,” one man begins. “We hate that one completely. If we find a woman with a woman, we pull out one and we do it to her…We have sex with her…Serious rape.”

“So what would you do if you saw a gay man?” asks Yeung.


The man gets a disturbing smile on his face as he yells, “Kill! You kill that one! Woman and woman we rape, but man and man we kill.”

And it only devolves from there. But you really have to read the comments to understand how a good deal of this gay hate has transpired, thanks to Evangelical Christians. I’ve posted about that, too, but I can’t remember how I tagged it. Here’s one comment about a topic that doesn’t get too much attention.

 we cannot forget how many white evangelical AMERICANS are responsible for this. scott lively and rick warren are just two of a number of bigots who travelled to Uganda to whip these people into an anti-gay frenzy.

Sold On


14 Gay Negative Statements; Honoring Stonewall in London

14 Gay Negative Statements

This article claims there are 14 things you should never say to a gay man. Of course it’s a tongue-in-cheek piece and none of it’s written in stone, however, I noticed a few things I’ve posted about over the years myself and it’s interesting in a general sense to see I wasn’t the only one thinking this way. I thought this line was interesting: “the factory of Sex in the City tokenism.” I’ve used the old TV show Sex in the City so many times as a point of reference I have too many posts up to link to one thing in particular.

In any event, I agree with some of the statements, I’m not so sure about others. The gay community is very diverse. Just last night Tony and I were watching the TV show House Hunters where a gay couple was looking for a property in NJ within commuting distance to Manhattan. They looked at one place in Jersey City in Trump Tower and one of them actually said he would like to live there because he could tell all his friends he lives in Trump Tower…as if that’s the most important thing in the house hunting process for him. We switched channels after that comment. It was too Sex in the City for us. We’re more interested in space, views, future property values, and the pragmatic issues that accompany becoming a home owner, not whether or not we can brag about living in Trump Tower. And, last I heard, Donald Trump wasn’t supporting gay people.

3. “I’m like a gay man trapped inside a woman’s body.”

I know you’re trying to connect with me, but what does that even mean? Does that make me a straight woman trapped inside a gay man’s body? Trust me, there’s a lot more to being gay than enjoying nice clothes and hooking up with dudes.

4. “How do you know you’re gay if you’ve never been with a woman?”

Did you need to experiment with women to know you were straight? What about porcupines? How do you know you wouldn’t enjoy sex with a porcupine if you don’t at least try it?

These are just two of the 14 I thought were interesting, and two I’ve personally heard many times myself. The rest are just as informative and entertaining. There are gay men who love Sex in the City. I don’t understand why. But they do. It’s all about diversity.

You can read more here.

Side note: This one below is for Joan and Melissa Rivers They had a wedding shower (or bachelorette party thing) episode on their reality show last year where the token gay guy went along as one of the girls. Of course I’m sure he’s being paid well, and some gay guys will do anything for a buck. But seriously. It’s time to knock it off.

7. “Come to girl’s night!”

If I’m invited then it’s not girl’s night. Stop calling it that! I’m not a girl!

Honoring Stonewall in London

This is the kind of thing I love to see. When the LGBT community comes together on a global level the way they are doing in London at the 2014 Pride event.

Pride in London 2014 will pay tribute to the 45th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots in New York, a turning point for the LGBTI liberation movement.

You can read more here.

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