Category: Jodi Foster

Jim Parsons on Gay; Ellen Page on Jodi Foster

Jim Parsons on Gay

Jim Parsons never disclosed he was gay, but didn’t hide it either. He brought a partner to events and acted as if it were perfectly normal without ever addressing his situation.

‘What happened was that we were very fortunate with the show, and we started getting invited to awards shows and stuff. I had to deal with it very quickly – I mean, there was no option. I was going to take Todd. And so I had to deal with it,’ Parsons tells SiriusXM Progress.

But no one asked.

‘This went on for years.’ Parsons said.

That is until 2011 when he was starring in the Broadway revival of The Normal Heart and doing an interview with The New York Times.

‘(Reporter) Patrick Healy — and I just love this — he just (asked a question, beginning with), “As a gay man…” and I was kind of thrilled. He finally just took the information that I’d presented in front of him, and everyone, and just talked about it.’

‘My recollection was hearing the question pretty calmly. That was where I found the peace about it, actually. If it’s going to be talked about that’s exactly how it should be talked about. Just something else to mention.’

That’s how I did it, and a lot of others I know did it. There wasn’t a big emotional coming out day, with parades and prides and rainbow flags waving.

You can read more here. Parsons will also be in the HBO film adaptation of The Normal Heart. I’ll post more about that when I see it.

Ellen Page on Jodi Foster

In another piece related to coming out in a slightly different way than how Jim Parsons went about it, Ellen Page recently defended the coming out speech Jodi Foster gave at the Golden Globes a while back. Foster didn’t mention certain words…gay or lesbian…which caused many of the overly ambitious zealots to go berserk over the way she did it. Page doesn’t seem to find a problem with it.

But Ellen Page, who came out herself on Valentine’s Day, says give her a break in an interview with The Hollywood Reporter.

‘You have no idea how hard that moment is, even though they’re not fully saying what you want them to say,’ she says, addressing Foster’s critics. ‘It’s not about you.’

Page’s speech at a Human Rights Campaign event in Las Vegas was much more direct and emotional than Foster’s remarks at the 2013 Golden Globe Awards while accepting the Cecil B. Demille Lifetime Achievement Award.

I agree with Ellen Page, and with Foster. And I’m on record with a post I wrote in 2013 right after all the criticism surfaced. In fact, Page was much kinder than I was in my little rant.

 What interests me most is that she was obviously so anxious over doing this. Don’t get me wrong. That’s perfectly understandable, especially considering the reactions I’ve read today from some of the biggest assholes on the planet. But we often tend to think of people like Jodi Foster as being so strong and invincible that nothing bothers them. The fact that she’s such a great actress makes this image even stronger. So it’s important to put this into perspective and try to think like a lot of the closeted gay people in the world have to think. If this was a big thing for someone like Jodi Foster just imagine what it’s like for someone in a small town (or country) who doesn’t know where to turn.

You can read more about Ellen Page and Foster here.

I think the one thing that bothers me the most is when some people have the unmitigated gall to tell other people how to come out, as if they have that right to dictate how it should be done. It just doesn’t work that way. Not all gay people are that generic. In fact, some of us will push harder the more you pull us.

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Jodi Foster Talks About Sexuality: Asswipes Speak Out

Not only did actress Jodi Foster win the Cecile B. Demile award at last night’s Golden Globes, she also won over the hearts of many LGBT people you won’t normally hear about by openly discussing a very private part of her life she doesn’t have to discuss.

Most people already knew she was gay, but I’m sure there were some who didn’t…maybe the Pope? Or that literature teacher I posted about in France yesterday? In any event, the fact that Foster talked about herself this way, with a topic that has been absolutely so utterly taboo in Hollywood since the film industry began, makes a huge difference to both LGBT people and society in general. As a side note, I watched a film the other night that was a memoir about Marilyn Monroe. There was an infamously well known actor portrayed in this film who knew and worked with Monroe back then and he was gay, in the closet gay. And not one single mention of this in the film. Not even a hint. So the pressure for actors and actresses to remain closeted still exists today. And even when they are dead, their families come out and dispute all facts as if there’s something fundamentally wrong with being gay. That’s where it gets tricky. You have to respect the privacy of everyone, but why is it always so wrong to say your gay?

But Jodi Foster took one more step in rectifying this mind set. No one should be forced to talk about this in public, nor should they feel obligated to do this unless they are ready to do it. However, when someone like Jodi Foster does something like she did last night it makes things easier for other people who aren’t as famous, don’t have as much money, and don’t know if they’ll ever be able to come out. In a word: Hope. And I’m not talking about the kind of hope our illustrious politicians promise us all the time and never follow through with. This is hope in it’s simplest, and most effective, form.

Unfortunately, the speech was met with criticism from some. It’s been referred to in many ways I’m not bothering to list here, because it just gets me too damn mad and I’ve promised myself I won’t rant or curse anymore in blog posts…unless I really, really can’t help it. But Perez Hilton tweeted something interesting:

Surprised that a lot of my gays on Facebook are roasting Jodie Foster for her speech! perez.ly/13tD6CX I applaud her!!!

Unfortunately, it doesn’t surprise me. And I applaud her as well.

Here’s part of what Foster said. I’m not linking back to anything in this post because the quotes are Foster’s own words and the article where I found the quotes is just dumb. It takes on a tone of “Wow, guess what?” You know, the same cheesy way they coax people to watch those Barbara Walters TV news programs all the time. And other articles I read were insulting to Foster and to the LGBT community in general.

“While I’m here being all confessional, I just have the sudden urge to say something I’ve never been able to say in public. A declaration that I’m a little nervous about. Not quite as nervous as my publicist, huh, Jennifer? But uh, you know, I’m just going to put it out there. Loud and proud. I’m going to need your support. I am — single,” she said. “I’m kidding.”

Foster later added that ”I already did my coming out about a thousand years ago, back in the stone age. In those very quaint days when a fragile young girl would open up to trusted friends, and family, coworkers and then gradually, proudly, to everyone who knew her.”

What interests me most is that she was obviously so anxious over doing this. Don’t get me wrong. That’s perfectly understandable, especially considering the reactions I’ve read today from some of the biggest assholes on the planet. But we often tend to think of people like Jodi Foster as being so strong and invincible that nothing bothers them. The fact that she’s such a great actress makes this image even stronger. So it’s important to put this into perspective and try to think like a lot of the closeted gay people in the world have to think. If this was a big thing for someone like Jodi Foster just imagine what it’s like for someone in a small town (or country) who doesn’t know where to turn.

Photo courtesy of Alan Light