Judge Judy on Grindr

Judge Judith Sheindlin  recently found out what gay hook up site, Grindr, is all about through an episode of her courtroom TV show, Judge Judy.  She was in the middle of a dispute between a 47 year old man and his 23 year old “friend” when she found out they’d met on Grindr. Her comments, as always, are classic.

‘Um, we met on a, um … social website,’ Murphy explained. ‘It’s actually called Grindr. … It’s an app for your phone or your iPad. It’s a social app that tells you where homosexual males are and their proximity to where you are.’

The judge then asked: ‘Mr. Murphy, so, what you’re telling me, sir, is you went on this website in order to find someone who had the same sexual predisposition you did?’

Murphy then tried to say this with a straight face: ‘Um, no, actually, it was just to make friends.’

The always blunt judge replied: ‘If I was looking just to make friends, I wouldn’t go on a website that said it’s just for little, old Jewish ladies. I would try to expand my horizons a little bit, do you understand, Mr. Murphy?’

It gets better. Judge Judy told the older guy he should be with someone closer to his own age…”at least out of school.” Ha!! There’s usually only one reason why a 23 year old is with a 47 year old and friendship has nothing to do with it.

You can read more here. This is why I have a DVR alert for Judge Judy running twenty-four hours. The thing that always amazes me is that there are people so willing and eager to get in TV they’ll do anything, even if it involves a certain amount of public humiliation.

35 Worst Sex Acts

Here’s a harsh little piece that seems to criticize the sex acts on the TV show, Californication, starring David Duchovny. Brian Feldman calls it soft core porn.  I’m not sure why Feldman feels he is qualified to judge what porn actually is, but that’s another post. What does bother me is that we always hear from the “I hate sex crowd” but you never hear anyone say there wasn’t enough sex in a TV show, book, or film. Just the big mouth “I hate sex crowd.”

In any event:

Last night, Showtime’s Californication rode off into the sunset after seven long seasons. It should surprise nobody that a show called Californication spent much of its time contriving embarrassing sex acts for its characters to perform. What resulted was basically 84 episodes of soft-core porn masquerading as premium cable drama. Thanks, Showtime! Here are 35 of the worst sexual encounters or mishaps that David Duchovny’s Hank Moody, Evan Handler’s Charlie, and the Californication crew participated in.

Here are a few examples:

Hank pukes on a valuable painting while having sex with someone.

Charlie masturbates in his office, repeatedly and vigorously …

… Videos of Charlie repeatedly and vigorously masturbating in his office get him fired.

Charlie gets his nipple torn off by a sex toy.

Hank and Charlie have a threesome with a boxing trainer, during which she squirts on Charlie’s face just as both of Hank and Charlie’s significant others walk into the room.

There are more here. I thought the show was done well and I always like to remind people they don’t have to watch or read anything with too many sex scenes if they don’t want to. You can always knit a sweater instead…or read something by Brian Feldman. 

Instragram Homophobia?

This article is interesting because I’ve seen the same thing happen with other social media and I’m not sure it’s a matter of homophobia. I’m not sure it isn’t either. I just think most social media outlets seriously need to rethink their actions in the mad rush to tear people down without even giving them the benefit of the doubt. Facebook is the biggest culprit of all time. If someone posts gay content and someone else doesn’t like that gay content by the person who made the post can be reported and his or her account can be suspended. In this case, a photo of a newly married gay couple was taken down on Instagram without even sending out a take down notice…or checking the facts correctly.

‘This is the kiss that sealed their wedding vows. Vows that under state and federal protection offer them 1500 rights and responsibilities. ‘@instagram we expect an apology for taking this pic down and flagging it as inappropriate.

PLEASE REPOST PLEASE REPOST PLEASE REPOST!’ Instagram has apologized for the mistake, and restored the photo. ‘When our team processes reports from other members of the Instagram community, we occasionally make a mistake,’ an Instagram spokesperson told The Huffington Post.

 ‘In this case, we wrongly removed content and rectified the error as soon as we were notified. We apologize for any inconvenience.’

You can read more about how all this transpired here. But I think the point of all this is that social media outlets should have a better control with regard to what is and is not considered harmful content. This photo of two married men is about as harmless as it gets. In the same respect, I have seen some images on Instagram that leave a great deal to be desired. A few are taken down, but no one rushes to do that.

Small Town Romance Writer

Here’s a preview of another upcoming book, Small Town Romance Writer. It’s part of the bad boy billionaire series, and this one is longer than my other books. It runs about 110,000 words, which is over twice the required word count in my contracts, but it just couldn’t be helped this time. I actually edited it down from over 150,000 words. I’ll post more tomorrow. There’s a blog hop post I’m doing for the 4th of July on my first gay experience and I’m going to tie this in somehow.