Ian Reisner and Ted Cruz

Bachelorette Contestants Homophobic? Ian Reisner and Ted Cruz; Lesbian Catfishing Married Gay Man

Bachelorette Contestants Homophobic?

I’ve never seen this show, or The Bachelor. I’m not a huge fan of reality TV because it’s all staged and there’s very little reality associated with it…unless the reality is a homophobic content. You know the kind of comments that people make like, “That’s so Gay.” Evidently, because they think gay is so funny…or whatever.  

Cue the disappointment. And the outrage.

It turns out Clint Arlis and JJ Lane, the two straight Bachelorette contestants who claimed they’d fallen in love with each other while taping the ABC reality show, were only “doing it for the cameras” and that “nothing gay ever happened.”


You can read more here. On Twitter there’s a hashtag that I love…#thatssostraight. People on Twitter have taken to using it whenever they see this kind of passive aggressive homophobia. I’ve done it more than a few times because I see this kind of thing almost two or three times every single day.

Ian Reisner and Ted Cruz

Now they’ve found out that the wealthy gay hotelier, Ian Reisner, donated money to Ted Cruz. For some reason, it feels as if Reisner is being targeted.

Afterwards, Reisner claimed the dinner wasn’t a fundraiser and that he didn’t give Cruz any money, telling New York magazine: “There were no checks given. It was nothing like that.”

Well, it turns out that was a bunch of Bologna with a capital B.

The New York Times has just learned that Reisner wrote a personal check to Mr. Cruz’s 2016 presidential campaign in the amount of $2,700, the maximum allowed by law, right around the time the dinner took place.

The rest is here, with the entire history of this Ian Reisner situation. I would never donate money to Ted Cruz, however, I’m not all that fond of the way some are taking such pleasure in all this. Could it be that the liberal gay press is targeting a gay conservative? I don’t know enough about it to answer that question, but I have seen that done before. 

I have a feeling Reisner will respond to this and I’ll be posting about it yet again before next week is over.

Lesbian Catfishing Married Gay Man

I don’t know what to make of this one either. A young guy named David Messerschmitt who is married to a woman hooked up with someone through a Craigslist ad, thinking it was a hot gay man. Unfortunately, Messerschmitt found out he’d been catfished by two young gay women when he met them at a Washington D. C. hotel.

Gallmon entered Messerschmitt’s room at the unnamed hotel and attempted to rob him. We’d say “that’s when things went wrong,” but this whole mess was clearly wrong from the very beginning.
The young woman claims that Messerschmitt trapped her in the room, triggering a previous trauma from a past assault.

At least that’s the argument she’s using in court to try and explain how she came to stab Messerschmitt seven times in the abdomen, groin and heart, killing him.

She made it out of the room with $40 cash and Messerschmitt’s metro card, and walked hand-in-hand with Johnson to a bus stop. Housekeeping found Messerschmitt’s body the next day, his arms bound in rainbow-colored zip ties.

The rest is here. I know I say this all the time, but I think it shows how many more gay people there are out there posing as straight. And it goes without saying how dangerous online hook ups can be.

The Rainbow Detective Agency: On Fleek

State of Marriage Film in Provincetown; Ian Reisner on Gay Extremists; Five Flavored Lubricants; Lily Tomlin on Chit Rivera

State of Marriage Film In Provincetown

The documentary Tony and I were part of called, The State of Marriage, by Floating World Pictures in Los Angeles, that revolves around same sex marriage in Vermont will be premiering at The Provincetown Film Festival this June. Here’s a link to previous posts I wrote about a year ago. We were married by Vermont Supreme Court Justice, Beth Robinson, and our small ceremony in Montgomeryville Center, VT is a part of the documentary.

From my inbox:

We are pleased to let you know that THE STATE OF MARRIAGE will premiere at The Provincetown International Film Festival (June 17 – 21, on  Cape Cod). We wanted the film to debut at a first rate festival with a strong social agenda, that is also fairly close to Vermont. This is a perfect venue. The schedule hasn’t been announced yet, so we will send another note with the date and time. We would love to see you there, if possible. THANK YOU again for all your support. Making this documentary has been a really moving experience. Our first public screening will come on the eve of the U.S. Supreme Court ruling on Obergefell v Hodges, the marriage equality case that was argued, in part, by Mary Bonauto. It’s a great time to celebrate the work of so many people. Here is info on the festival:


Press Release | Provincetown International Film Festival

www.ptownfilmfest.org/info/press.php?ID=248


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Provincetown_International_Film_Festival


If you have any questions, please let us know. More soon, special thanks, and all best – Jeff and Marcia
I’ll post more as I get the information. We’re hoping to get up there for the premiere.  

Ian Reisner on Gay Extremists

The hotelier and gay club owner, Ian Reisner, from New York who recently had a fundraising dinner for Ted Cruz, then apologized after backlash from gay activists, and then called gay men cheap, made a few more comments about gay extremists.

In an op-ed in the Observer, he calls out the “gay extremists” who don’t understand the virtues of breaking bread with someone like Cruz who has proudly boasted about his “proven record of standing and fighting to protect traditional marriage between one man and one woman.” In the same week as the dinner, Cruz filed two bills to halt same-sex marriage.

So which is it? A “terrible mistake” or an intentional engagement with the opposition? Because it can’t be both.

“I hosted a United States Senator Presidential candidate and asked him how he would feel if his daughter were to tell him she was lesbian,” Weiderpass writes. “How often do you think he has been asked that?” 


I don’t totally disagree with Reisner…about breaking bread with the opposition. It’s politics. I just wish he’d get someone to help him express himself a little better.

You can read the rest here.

Five Flavored Lubricants

Sorry if this isn’t the smoothest transition from serious politics to pure clickbait fluff, but this actually is kind of interesting for people looking for a variety of lubes.

The good folks over at Buzzfeed have done us all a huge favor and taste tested a variety of flavored lubricants to let us know which ones are worth buying.

Seven “lube experts” (whatever that means) tested five different flavored lubes: pink lemonade, chocolate orange, green apple, dulce de leche, and mojito peppermint. They based their judgements on four qualities: taste, smell, texture, and usability.

Here’s the link. There’s a video. And yes, lube is important, too.

Lily Tomlin on Chita Rivera

To be perfectly honest here, I don’t have a clue as to who Lily Tomlin or Chita Rivera are. One is an older TV star and the other an older Broadway Musical star. But I thought it was an interesting article on the dangers of jumping to conclusions, and I’m sure many of you do know who Tomlin and Rivera are…and it’s funny.

This is Tomlin jumping to conclusions after she thought she heard Rivera make a gay slur:

‘I suddenly heard her say, “purse nelly.” First she had said my “boy dancers” and the skin on the back of my neck bristled up, and that’s when she said “purse nelly” and then I just went ballistic. I said, ” What did you say?!”

‘I lashed out. She said, “I dunno! WHADISAY?” I said, “You said, ‘purse nelly.’ I wanna know what that means. What you meant by that!” “I don’t know. Whadisay? Pursenelly? Personally.” She was saying “personally”!’

Tomlin would’ve apologized if she had been able to speak at that point.

‘I was so embarrassed,’ she remembers. ‘I just doubled over laughing and fell on the floor.’

You can read the rest here. Where Tomlin got the phrase “purse nelly” I’m not sure. I couldn’t even find it in Urban Dictionary, and you can find almost anything there. 

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