Gay 8 Year Old’s Murder; "Ladies, Ladies Ladies" M/M Romance Post; "Looking" Character You Love

“Gay” 8 Year Old’s Murder

I don’t normally post twice on weekend but a few things have been sticking with me and I won’t be able to get them out of my head until I do post. First, this story about a guy who turned down a plea deal after murdering an 8 year old boy who was perceived to be gay sickens me.

Court documents made public in August revealed that Gabriel was doused with pepper spray, forced to eat his own vomit and locked in a cabinet with a sock stuffed in his mouth to muffle his screams.

Testimony also indicated that Gabriel was beat with bats, a club which knocked out his teeth, was shot with a BB gun, and was whipped with the metal part of a belt over eight months.

His siblings said Gabriel was often called gay, punished because he played with dolls and was forced to wear girls’ clothes to school.

Does it get any worse than that? You can read the rest here. 

“Ladies, Ladies, Ladies” M/M Romance Post

There’s been an interesting discussion over at a review blog I’m not that familiar with about m/m romance. In short, a gay male author wrote a guest post titled, “Ladies, Ladies, Ladies,” and even though it was supposed to have been written in jest many took it seriously and the satire crashed.

Why am I posting about this at all? The majority of my hits here on the blog come from random google searches and I thought it would be interesting to share this with the ten thousand random readers I get each week through search engines. That’s relatively small compared to bigger blogs, and I’d prefer to keep it that way, but I also like to see other gay men made aware of things like this. So many gay men don’t even know there is a genre called m/m romance they often stand there gaping at me when I mention it at parties. 

In any event, the post I’m talking about contained a few “hot” topics about gay men, and men in general, that several people didn’t take well. Keep in mind that when I post on topics like this I’m doing it as a blogger and I try to remain objective.  Here’s one quote that seemed to spark more than a few comments:

So, ladies, quit trying to project your Venus side onto your Mars guys, gay or straight. We’re a totally different breed. And when you start to poo-poo that insta-love thing, just remember that men are pigs and go with it, but for god’s sake, quit complaining about it.

You can read the rest here. As always, the comments are important to read in full to see what I’m talking about. I really don’t want to quote anyone because I’m not taking any sides. The line seems to be drawn down the middle with those who support the post and those who found it offensive.

“Looking” Character You Love

I think the thing I love most about the TV show “Looking” is that it breaks many of the old stereotypes. Yes, there are still a few, but sometimes stereotypes are real and they can’t be ignored. However, with “Looking” we’re finally getting to see how real gay men live, and how they think and feel. Even though it’s fiction, gay men like me finally have something with which they can identify, because I can tell you first hand I’ve never been able to identify with the gay characters on TV shows like Sex and the City.

This article wants to know which character in “Looking” you’d like to hang with, gay men:

Is there anything more comforting than chatting with a trusted friend over a frosty mug of your favorite brew? Well, OK, maybe we can think of one or two things, but let’s not digress. We’re huge fans of HBO’s Looking, yet we’re aware the dramedy has evoked polarizing opinions from viewers. (We’ve read your comments, folks.) Whether you love it or don’t, you have to admit that the series features one of most esthetically-pleasing casts on television. We’re wondering which character you’d most like to see peering at you from across a table for two in the heart of the Castro.

You can check out the characters here. I’m torn between Patrick and Lynn.

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Anal Cavity Searches; 2 New Gay Shows on TV

Anal Cavity Searches

When I read this one I blinked a few times. Evidently, in some places you can be stopped for a moving vehicle violation and they can order a search of your anal cavity.

The Fourth Amendment protects all citizens from unreasonable search and seizure by the government. It requires that the greater the intrusion upon the person, the greater must be the reason for conducting a search. Is there ever a good reason for this kind of search?
 
You can read more here. It’s a fascinating piece by CNN contributor, Danny Cevallos, whom I’ve posted about here once before.
 
2 New Gay Shows on TV
 
There will be two new gay shows on TV soon, one on HBO, the other on FX. The HBO show will be titled, Looking, and the FX show will be Chozen. Both are different in distinct ways.
 
HBO’s sounds more like Queer as Folk:
 
Some of our sex scenes are very emotional and very beautiful. Some of our sex scenes are awkward. We’re trying to get as close to reality as we possibly can.’

‘Hopefully, when people watch it, you’ll think, “Oh, I’ve had that exact experience. I know what it feels like to be intimate with someone in that way.”

 
FX’s sounds more like a comedy. And the person who wrote the article to which I’m linking doesn’t sound thrilled:
 
Since I am a middle aged straight woman, not easily amused by rauch, I hesitate to offer an opinion on the merits of Chozen. I have the feeling I am not the intended audience, so I will let you watch the trailer and make your own evaluation.
 
You can read more here. As a gay man I think it looks like fun, not raunch. And I’ve never been a big fan of *anything* animated. But then again, anything with gay content is worth watching since there isn’t much of it in the first place. And I’ve found that what middle aged straight women consider raunch is often cultural to gay men.
 
Why do I make that point? Because she started it first and I’m tired of THEM getting the last word.

Gay Sex on True Blood; Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance Blurb

Gay Sex on True Blood

Almost every original series on HBO tends to push the limit when it comes to sex. I’ve posted about full frontal male nudity on Boardwalk Empire, and how unexpected it was. And last week I watched one of the most detailed homoerotic sex scenes on True Blood I’ve seen in a while. And that wasn’t the first homoerotic sex scene for TB. And I think that’s partly because of the nature of the theme because vampires tend to view the world differently than humans. One of the things I liked most about the Anne Rice vampire books was that she actually had homoerotic sexual scenes in her books at a time when no one else would even think of doing that. They weren’t always as detailed, but they were there and once I started reading Interview with the Vampire I couldn’t get enough of her books for that reason alone. And it wasn’t just the sex. It was the fact that there was a mainstream book out there with something that was actually homoerotic. What a novelty?

I think one of the reasons I wasn’t too fond of the film, Interview with the Vampire, was because I didn’t find the same amount…or degree…of homoerotic sex between Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt. And I’m sure that wasn’t an accident. THOSE two were still building their careers and too much gay sex could have ruined them. Once again, Hollywoodfail. But things have changed a lot since then, and I think it’s important to note these changes sometimes, especially when there are some highly vocal types out there screaming that there is too much sex in gay books now.

This was one of True Blood’s most recent gay sex scenes, with Ryan Kwanten:

Last night’s “True Blood” featured a close shave between Jason Stackhouse (played by Ryan Kwanten) and Ben, a faerie, who while both shirtless in the bathroom, asks for a shave from Jason.
Even though it’s just a steamy dream, it’s always nice to see “True Blood,” one of TV’s queerest shows, including more male-on-male (or faerie, vampire, werewolf, fill in the blank) action.

It wasn’t a graphic scene, but it was highly erotic and it did cross that line where Interview with the Vampire as a film (not a book) failed to go.

In this article actor Stephen Moyer talks about True Blood’s gay following, and whether or not there will ever be angry gay sex with his character, Bill, and Erik.

“I’ve been asking myself that question for a long time. Alex and I would absolutely embrace that. Last year, when Sookie had her fantasy about the two of them with her, we even suggested it. Of course, Bill and Eric together isn’t necessarily Sookie’s fantasy.”

I wouldn’t be too sure about that. I think Sookie might like it. I remember the scene he’s talking about and it reminds me a lot of the anthology I’m releasing this month, The Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance. In fact, I think Sookie might even embrace it…as would the viewers.

In this article, actress Kristin Bauer takes a different side when she says she’s not interested in seeing Joe Manganiello do any full frontal nude scenes. (I know, she actually said this in public.)

“I often hear that it’s not fair that women do it but men don’t do it,” Kristin Bauer told us last night at the Pacific Design Center’s Second Annual Patterns for Paws event benefiting the Amanda Foundation in L.A.

“I’m a portrait painter,” she explained. “I paint nude women—I’ve been doing that forever. And I kind of don’t need to see any men full frontal that aren’t my husband, to be honest. There’s a difference in the anatomy, and I think women full frontal is a little more artistic.”

I have posted and written about this double standard many times, and I don’t think she could be more wrong about anything. Or, maybe her husband was standing nearby and she couldn’t tell you the truth so she pulled a Tom Cruise an blew smoke up out butts.

In any event, True Blood has pushed the limit with homoerotic sex scenes so far, in the same way Anne Rice did it in her books, and I hope they continue to do so. For those of you who are asexual and don’t like sex scenes, there’s always something for you to watch on PBS…or you can knit a sweater. And for those who don’t like too much gay sex in books, you can always read authors who don’t write gay sex scenes in gay books. Odd as that may sound, they are out there and there are choices for everyone. It’s just that the choices for people like me who do like gay sex in books and TV are now out there, too, and we’d like a chance to enjoy what we want to read and see.

Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance Blurb

I posted a teaser/partial blurb on social media last night, but here’s the full blurb. I don’t have any links right now, but the book will be released sometime next week for certain and I’ll update as things progress.

As a side note about the blurb (details count), one thing I wanted to do with this blurb was to add each author that contributed to it. I’ve been in so many anthologies over the years I can’t even count them, but I always felt slighted when the editor of the anthology would mention certain authors in the blurb, and not mention me and the other authors. I felt just as awkward when the editor of the anthology would mention me and not mention the other authors. And you know what, I think that’s just pure laziness on the part of the editors. They didn’t want to take the time to mention all the names and they faked it. I didn’t want to do that, and each and every author who contributed to this book deserves to be mentioned in the blurb. I also hope the one line descriptions help readers see what each story is about…something else we never see in anthology blurbs.

If you’ve ever wondered what it might be like to be a straight woman thrust into the intimate, emotional relationship of two gay men, this book might answer a few of your secret questions. It’s a collection of very different fictional stories that mesh together and create fantasies that in some cases could actually happen in real life.  

When one gay man falls in love with his best girlfriend and her boyfriend, it becomes a heart-wrenching trilogy with three new adult stories by Bella Stanberry that cross social boundaries for which the characters will eventually pay a price. In Anna Black’s Fallen Angel, the straight female character finds out what it’s like to explore her most discreet fantasy. And in Baby Got Bach by Giselle Renarde the straight female character is invited to cross a line that leaves her terrified.

 A Touch of Therapy by Morgan Honeyman delves into new age lessons about how to heal as the main character observes two gay men from a comfortable distance.  Li Blaine’s Changing Curses is a more lyrical dream world which takes a mystical approach when the main character figures out a way to rid herself of a curse. The Facilitator by Tilly Hunter shows how a woman can find herself involved with her best gay friend and his boyfriend, with handcuffs and her grandmother’s wooden spoon. And in the sweet, tender tale of Lustful Wishes by R. Noir, the main character is a confused young man who has had both women and men in his life and he’s trying to figure out how to do the right thing.  

All these stories combined with The Courage to Jump by Oleander Plume, where an m/m erotic romance author gets a chance to meet and explore her gay characters in real life, create a world of dreams that challenge one of the most unspoken topics today: The Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance.