Category: growing up gay

Las Vegas Gay Weddings; Davey Wavey on Gay Slang; HIV Poz Guys Living Long Lives; Growing Up Gay

Las Vegas Gay Weddings

Now that the same sex marriage ban has been lifted in Nevada, Las Vegas is welcoming gay weddings, and with a great deal of style.

“This is a historic day for Las Vegas and the great state of Nevada. As the “Wedding Capital of the World” and one of the top destinations for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender visitors, Las Vegas welcomes LGBT couples wishing to legally recognize their relationship. There is simply no better destination to host a fabulous wedding followed by a one-of-a-kind honeymoon.”

I actually think we’ll be seeing a lot of same sex weddings in Vegas now that it’s legal. You can check the rest out here. There are links with this article that show how to obtain a license and how to plan something ahead of time.

Davey Wavey on Gay Slang

Just to make the point clear before I begin this post. THIS is sarcasm; it’s supposed to be humor. I’m mentioning this because it’s been made clear recently that many don’t get gay humor and they take things a little too seriously sometimes. I’m going to rectify this right now, and in future posts, whenever I post something that I think someone might misinterpret. I apologize to everyone else who gets it. But it’s become clear to me that I have to warn homophobic humor police well in advance.

The link will lead you to a video about straight guys trying to figure out gay slang. It’s done, of course, by naughty Davey Wavey, and the questions and answers are not only hysterical, but they’re true. How do I know this? I’m a gay guy and I use them myself. That’s how. It’s all part of the big gay story.

Here are a few examples.

Would you still know what PNP meant? How about rice queen? Six pack? Well that’s universal.

In full disclosure, I didn’t really know what PNP meant until I saw the video.

HIV Poz Guys Living Long Lives

I’ve actually had this conversation with people very close to me who are HIV poz. The article gives five reasons why many HIV poz guys may live as long as negative guys. Aside from the obvious, which is that no one knows when his or her time is up on this planet, I think all of them are valid. In other words, the article doesn’t paint a fantastical picture and it doesn’t make light of an HIV diagnosis like other insulting pieces I’ve read, but the facts they present are solid.

Here are two:

2. Early treatment is the biggest factor in living a normal life span.
The study found that the group who did best started HIV treatment before their t-cells fell below 350. This t-cell number has become a common marker for when to begin taking medications, but not everyone strictly follows it. The men studied who did start treatment with higher t-cells have a life expectancy of 75 years overall, which is equal to the national average for men.

Gay men who started treatment early got two bonus years, with an average life expectancy of 77 years. That’s over the national average for men.

3. Guys living with HIV are receptive to preventative health measures.
Whether is it nutrition, exercise, or taking an aspirin each day to prevent a heart attack or stroke, men living with HIV have more skin in the game. But they aren’t coming up with these ideas all by themselves. They are more likely to know about them because…

Number four goes on to mention how HIV poz guys are more in touch with healthcare. Number five is a little more realistic in the sense that it shows some of the most common pitfalls of being HIV poz. But overall I think it’s realistic in the sense that it shows HIV is now treatable.

The one thing the article doesn’t mention is counseling. If you have a great ID doc following your HIV who is willing to take the time to listen to your concerns you’re lucky. That’s probably enough. However, if you don’t, try to talk about it with someone.  

You can read them all here.

Growing Up Gay

This article is actually very light and not serious at all. However, I find it interesting because when I was growing up nothing like this would ever have been discussed openly. It’s actually a list of things young gay guys might want to do before they turn twenty-one…it’s kind of a gay twink bucket list, if you will.

This one blew me away:

9. Explore a fantasy 
It’s an amazing time to be gay. By the time you’re 21, you may have already been out for four, five, six plus years. That’s incredible! If you’re comfortable with who you are, you can be honest about what revs your engine. You certainly don’t need to feel rushed to try anything new, but a simple Google search or two hundred can’t hurt.

It blew me away because even though I knew I was gay four or five years before I turned 21 I didn’t actually come out until after 21 and by that time I’d already missed adolescence.

It’s funny, it’s honest, and I liked it so much I can even forgive the dumb political comment about supporting Hillary Clinton. I hate when they try to push a political agenda in anything like this. There’s a time and place.We’re not all jumping up and down for Hillary. Many of us are waiting to see who else runs in the primaries.

You can read the rest of them here. There are, of course, twenty-one. 

The Preacher’s Husband
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