Category: gays in locker rooms

Mike Huckabee’s Gay Friend; James Blunt Anti-Gay Joke; Gays In Locker Rooms

Mike Huckabee’s Gay Friends

If this article is accurate, it’s so filled with passive aggressive racism I’m not sure where to begin. Do I start with the gay friends Mike Huckabee allegedly has, or the Jewish and Muslim people? And to be honest, I really don’t think in Huckabee’s own limited scope he thought he was doing or saying anything wrong.

‘I don’t drink alcohol, but gosh — a lot of my friends, maybe most of them, do. You know, I don’t use profanity, but believe me, I’ve got a lot of friends who do. Some people really like classical music and ballet and opera — it’s not my cup of tea,’ the Republican said.

The condescension continues with this:

‘It’s like asking someone who’s Jewish to start serving bacon-wrapped shrimp in their deli,’ he argued.

‘We don’t want to do that — I mean, we’re not going to do that. Or like asking a Muslim to serve up something that is offensive to him, or to have dogs in his backyard,’ he continued.

He then goes into more rhetoric about how Christian convictions are being upended by the PC police, and then mentions he’s not fan of ballet or opera…or obviously any forms of sophisticated culture. But he never once recognizes the fact that the US is a country built partly around the concept of separation of church and state. Never once mentions that gay people aren’t telling Christians how to practice their religions. And, never once mentions that gay people don’t care about legalized *religious* marriages. They care about legalized *federal* marriages…at least most anyway. (There are gays who continue to mix church and state and I’m not getting into that.) Nor does he make the distinction clear for his followers.

You can read the rest here. As someone pointed out in the comments, there are so many things wrong with what Huckabee said it’s hard to know where to start.

James Blunt Anti-Gay Joke

As Mike Huckabee would say, “Gosh, I didn’t even know who James Blunt was until now.” I really didn’t, but I’m seeing a trend these days that some people are getting more attention than ever before by doing something anti-gay or saying something stupid and then retracting in hopes of forgiveness. It’s a clever way to get free publicity…if, in fact, this is what they’re doing. I’m not a mind reader. But I wouldn’t put it past anyone either. This is only one example of a questionable tweet. I’ve seen my share that never make headlines…like one James Franco tweeted and exploited a few weeks ago with an alleged minor…barely legal. 

This James Blunt guy (he’s from the UK) is now getting attention for being an alleged homophobic for joking around about dropping the soap in the conservative MP shower room…in the UK.

The lead story is: ‘The class ceiling – From pop to politics, does it pay to be posh?’ 

Blunt tweeted the cover, saying: ‘I won’t be picking up the soap when this party moves to the showers.’ 

The article goes on to mention how many think Blunt’s comments…and other comments he makes…are offensive to gays.

Is this homophobic? I’m honestly not sure. I see various tweets throughout any given day where people from the PC police gang up on someone and I’m not sure these people from the PC police even know what a sense of humor is. And you can’t define a sense of humor.

The rest is here.  The comments are varied on this one. I do think humor in general is not the same nowadays as it was twenty years ago. The same comedy that worked in the 1990’s doesn’t work today…which is perfectly normal. It will change twenty years from now.

I think we have more to worry about with Mike Huckabee than with James Blunt’s lame jokes.

Gays In Locker Rooms

This really is the dumbest article I’ve seen in a long time. And it’s not from a guy who made a joke and the PC police called him homophobic. It’s not from a politician who makes condescending remarks. It’s from a gay publication that speaks from both sides of its proverbial asshole.

It’s more like a “I can do this and say this and get away with it, but you can’t” type of article. It’s about gay locker room fantasies, and it promotes all the fears straight people have about gays in locker rooms.

It’s a series of photos with comments that range from guys getting “head” in locker rooms to guys getting notes slipped to them. Notice how they set this up ahead of time to make it look as if there’s nothing wrong and that this homophobic piece of hot steamy shit is fine in a gay publication…but put that in a mainstream publication and watch the homophobic screams from the gay PC police come flowing forth.

In the past we’ve shared myths about gay guys in the locker room, but even then we were up front that sometimes things are exactly as they appear to be. No, all guys aren’t constantly checking each other out, but we’d be kidding ourselves if we thought it didn’t happen. And that’s just a tame introduction.

Which is all fine and well — gotta keep our edge, right?

Just in time for the big game, we asked Whisper to mine their data for some salacious locker room confessions. We certainly weren’t disappointed with what they found.

I’m not trying to insinuate there isn’t a gay locker room fantasy. There are all kinds of fantasies out there that are gay and straight. I’m only saying you can’t have it both ways. You can’t slam James Blunt for joking about dropping the soap in the locker room in one publication and print a douchebag article about gay locker room fantasies in another and expect to be taken seriously.

You can read the locker room fantasies here. You’ll see I’m not joking. And if you read the comments you’ll see I’m not the only one who feels this way. I always save the comments for last so I’m not influenced. Sometimes I’m with them sometimes not, but this time I’m glad I did save them for last.

The Rainbow Detective Agency

Gays in Locker Rooms; Grindr’s New Look; Gay TV Review: "Vicious" Cage James by Ryan Field

Gays in Locker Rooms

In the new book I’m working on now that’s part of the Glendora Hill cowboy series, the main character, Kick, is all grown up and he’s working as a web interviewer. In one scene he goes into a cowboy locker room to interview cowboys to get their reaction about having openly gay cowboys nowadays. I though it would be an interesting focus…and love story…because of the professional athletes like Michael Sam who have come out. This article to which I’m linking now talks about what gay men think when they are in lockers rooms. I have a feeling a lot of people might be surprised.

“As men we’re all born with a competitive, masculine drive, and are visual in nature,” said Jos W. one of my gym mates. “It’s not uncommon for guys to cast lingering glances at women, cars, food, you name it. When a guy checks out another guy it’s more often for his own validation that he’s either got work to do on his own body to look as good as the other guy, or to assure himself that he’s rockin’ his body just fine.”

I actually tend to agree with this. I think I’ve mentioned before how each time I’ve ever been to a nude beach I’ve been amazed at how NON-sexual it really is. When you’re nude for longer than ten minutes (for most people) in a locker room or anywhere else the novelty wears off and you actually don’t even realize you’re nude. It’s really not sexual. I think the locker room fantasy for gay men is huge in porn, but it’s only fantasy. When you put a gay man in a locker room with other men in real life he’s going to behave the same way most other men behave.

You can read more here. There are a few more excellent examples that disabuse what a lot of people might think gay men are thinking in locker rooms.

Grindr’s New Look

Grindr is coming out with a brand new look this summer that will be available for android, and a little later for iOS. There will be new updates in the way people view user pics, along with a few other things. (I’m not familiar with Grindr so I’m winging it here.)

“The update is part of Grindr’s continued focus on speed and simplicity when looking to meet guys and this new profile will make it easier than ever,” a Grindr representative said in an email statement to The Huffington Post.

You can read more about it here. There are also a few screengrabs.

As I’ve posted before, be careful who you meet and how you hook up on Grindr. Here are a few previous posts I published about Grindr. Especially if you’re traveling to US cities like Philadelphia or New York and you’re coming from somewhere that doesn’t experience the realities we experience every day in these cities. Trust me, it’s a whole different world. And the nickname “Killadelphia” didn’t happen by accident.

Gay TV: “Vicious”

For some reason this new TV show, Vicious, with mature gay characters has not been getting as much attention as anything Ryan Murphy, and I’m not sure why. It’s probably one of the best, and most accurate, sitcoms I’ve seen in a long time. It’s not only realistic, but the political self-indulgence we usually find in Ryan Murphy television is absent, too. Maybe because it’s British? I always find British sitcoms take comedy and reality to a completely different level than here in the US. And in Vicious you won’t find any of the insufferable politically correct clichés that I think are starting to wear us ALL down.

This is from wiki. I want to get the facts right:

Vicious is a British sitcom shown on ITV. The series stars Ian McKellen and Derek Jacobi as Freddie and Stuart, a gay couple who have been together for 49 years but endure a love/hate relationship.[1][2] The show premiered on 29 April 2013[3] and garnered 5.78 million viewers, though it received a mixed response from critics.

The first series ended on 10 June 2013, and was released onto DVD on 20 November 2013.[4][5] On 23 August 2013, it was confirmed that Vicious had been renewed for a second series, to air in 2014.[6]Starting in late June 2014, the show began airing in the United States on various PBS stations.

The show airs here in the US on Sunday nights on PBS at 10:30.

I’ve read a few reviews that I disagree with completely. This one from USA Today by Robert Bianco is a real gem.

The kind of Are You Being Served comedy that Ricky Gervais dismantled so devastatingly in Extras, Vicious is an affront to gay men, the elderly, sitcom lovers and fans of McKellen and Jacobi alike — and proof that some British shows are best left on their side of the ocean.

The above sentence is so absolutely incorrect I don’t even know where to begin. Vicious IS the prefect example of what I’ve always seen with mature gay men. It is the reality the politically correct in the US will shun in order to make gay men as heteronormative as possible.

Just trust me on this: the show is accurate…and more important, it’s fucking funny.

The reviews have been mixed, though. Here’s a much better one that actually gets what the show is about.

On the other hand, others, such as the Mail’s TV reviewer, thought it ‘an instant classic’, while The Times said it was ‘packed with zingers’ and hailed the fact that it ‘remembers the “com” of “sitcom” in a way that many others do not’. 

I guess it’s all a matter of taste in some cases. But as I said, what bothers me the most is I’ve known so many mature gay couples who are literally just like this. In many ways the main characters reminded me of Frank and Marie Barrone from the Raymond Show. And whether you like or it not, this is the way many gay couples who have been together for the long haul spend their final years.

Cage James by Ryan Field

Here’s a preview cover for another upcoming release I’ll have out this summer, Cage James. This one will be launched after my next book in the Bad Boy Billionaire series, Small Town Romance writer. Keep in mind this isn’t the final cover. It still needs some work and I’m still going back and forth with the cover artist. More to come soon.

Cage James
by Ryan Field

Priest for Gays in Trinidad; Terrell Thomas Gets Confused with Gays

Priest for Gays in Trinidad

I know it’s unusual these days, but sometimes there’s something nice to read in the news and this is one I couldn’t resist. A Catholic priest recently gave a speech that calls for gays to be enshrined in a new constitution in Trinidad. He did this during a consultation, and made a point of saying the issue doesn’t even warrant further debate.

On the issue of sexual orientation being subject to further national discussion … discussion about what? Aren’t LGBT, aren’t they not humans still, yes or no?’ Fr Geofroy asked, according to the Trinidad Express.

I think it’s important to pay attention to these things because we often hear so many negatives with regard to gays and Catholics. I can say from personal experience, as someone who grew up Catholic and went through 12 years of Catholic school, most Catholics are not anti-gay. Tony’s family is Catholic, and so is mine. They aren’t anti-gay. So what we often hear on this topic comes from one segment of the Catholic religion, and usually the most conservative and most sensationalized to sell news.

You can read more here.

Terrell Thomas Gets Confused with Gays

Terrell Thomas of the New York Giants is having a difficult time with gays in pro football. For one thing, he’s afraid to say anything on the topic because he fears it might be taken out of context. He also thinks Michael Sam coming out has put too much pressure on him, and even worse, he’s terrified to think about what might happen if he walks around naked in the locker room with gay men.

Thomas is also concerned about a player’s ability to walk around the locker room naked.

‘There’s a lot of talk and joking around, and some guys walk around completely naked all the time, and they might not want to do that anymore,’ he said. ‘When you add that situation to the mix, I think it’s going to make some people uncomfortable.’

I actually don’t find any fault with this. It’s all new, it’s different, and it’s going to take a little time for guys like Thomas to realize they have nothing to worry about. If anything, I think it’s kind of cute that he would express his fears so honestly and I don’t think…at least from what I’ve read…he’s making any slams against gay people.

But Michael Sam has already addressed the locker room issue.

‘I think it’s a stereotype that gay people are predators,’ he said. ‘It’s very offensive.’ “(My being gay) shouldn’t matter if I work hard, if I make plays,’ Sam added. ‘That’s all that should matter. … Can he help us win games. I can. … I’m happy with who I am – I know how to play the game.”

Well said. There is this misconception about gay men lusting after straight men every waking moment of the day and nothing could be farther from the truth. If anything, it’s been my own personal experience that so-called straight men are all not so innocent. I’ve always found them to be more aggressive…even with gay men…than gay men.

At least Terrell Thomas is honest about his feelings, which I think is a good thing because it gets the issue out in the open once and for all so we can disabuse other straight men of these gay for you notions.

You can read more here.