Category: gay weddings

Where’s the Dildo? Mocking Gay Marriage in New Zealand; Cheyenne Jackson Wedding; James Frey’s Full Fathom Five

Where’s the Dildo?

There’s a game on Tumblr where photos are posted and people have to find the hidden dildo in each photo. I think it’s amusing and the intention is pure fun.

It puts the dildo in its rightful place. Front and center. Well, sort of. I mean, it’s hiding. But it’s asking to be found and — like a car wreck — it’s impossible to look away.

Dildos are our friends. Certainly a friend to the lesbian. But no reason it shouldn’t be a friend to gay men and straight men and women and every other self-respecting adult.

This cute little project makes these oft whispered about toys a little less daunting. It’s hard not to laugh and imagine the little guy holding its breath thinking, “She’s never going to find me! Ah! Look at her looking over there when I’m over here.” Just makes me giggle.

You can rad more here. It reminds me of a story. I had a good friend who passed suddenly and the day after he died his attorney phoned me and asked me to rush over to my friend’s house. When I got there his attorney looked at me with a blank stare, pulled a two foot long dildo out of a shopping bag, and asked me to do something with it. Evidently, the attorney who was handling his estate didn’t want my friend’s family to come into town and find the dildo in my friend’s closet. Of course I took the dildo off his hands, so to speak, but I always wondered why anyone would be more worried about a big latex dildo than the fact that a family member was dead.

Mocking Gay Marriage in New Zealand

This story has been making all the rounds on social media. I saw it first on Twitter, and I didn’t look into it. I thought it was just about two dumb straight guys faking gay marriage in order to win a contest and get attention. As it turns out, and the reason I’m linking now, the contest was held by a radio station in New Zealand to see how far two straight men would go to win something, making gay marriage the butt of the joke.

New Zealand’s The Edge radio station launched its “Love You Man” contest last month. The contest was set up to see how far two best male friends would go to win a trip to the Rugby World Cup in 2015. The Edge has apparently made a name for itself staging outrageous weddings, starting 13 years ago when they married two complete strangers.
 
“After the announce this morning, and the positive reception from our listeners, I am confident ‘Love You Man’ will add to The Edge’s reputation of pushing the boundaries,” Program Director Leon Wratt said in an August press release. “We’re not out to offend, just to make entertaining radio.”

I like to think I have a sense of humor (I thought the dildo game was funny), but this was really bad timing. Millions of gay couples still can’t legally wed and this group is joking around about it. It might be funny twenty or thirty years from now, but even that makes me wonder. We still have a long way to go as far as respect goes. In other words, be just as afraid of offending us as you are offending other loud minority groups.

You can read more here. There’s a very interesting comment thread, with one comment from a m/m author I know.

Cheyenne Jackson Wedding

I’m not so sure this is good or bad. It seems that gay marriage has finally joined the ranks of Hollywood marriages, and it’s become gossip worthy. You know, where they marry and divorce the same way the rest of us lease new cars every two years just so we can get a newer model.

Entertainer Cheyenne Jackson, 39, has married Jason Landau, his boyfriend of more than a year and who some media outlets are identifying as an entrepreneur (although of what it is unclear), at an estate in Encino, California Saturday night. The couple exchanged rings and vows in front of a group of friends that included Jesse Tyler Ferguson, Jane Lynch and Alicia Silverstone. The two men have been engaged since February. It’s been a controversial relationship. Last summer, Jackson divorced his first husband Monte Lapka after being married for two years and after a total of 13 years together and quickly took up with Landau, who according to a source he met at a 12-step meeting.

And they lived happily ever after.

You can read more here.

James Frey’s Full Fathom Five

James Frey, who became well known with a bestselling memoir titled, A Million Little Pieces, and then even more well known when it was discovered the book wasn’t all truth and he duped Oprah, has launched a digital imprint called Full Fathom Five. First, this is significant because anyone who can last in the vicious world of publishing these days gets credit from me. Second, Frey isn’t questioning e-books or whether or not they will stay around. Third, the titles at FFF look damn good.

FFF Digital begins life with Amanda Black’s The Apartment, the first of many genre e-books that the new imprint believes wouldn’t fit into a traditional publishing model but would resonate with digital-savvy modern readers. It’s also hosting a two-month-long contest to find new authors; the prize is a publishing deal and $10,000 in cash.

You can read more about it here. In spite of some heavy criticism, Frey continues to succeed and he seems to know what his readers want. Take note that some of the bestselling titles seem to be adult romance.

 
 
Fangsters by Ryan Field
 
 
 
 
 
 


Smoking Makes You Gay; Oregon Baker No Gay Cakes; E-books Rise

Smoking Makes You Gay

I figured this would happen sooner or later. I only wish I’d posted about it so I could link back now. It seems some genius in Amsterdam did another brilliant “study” and is claiming, according to “research says,” women who smoke are more likely to give birth to gay children. Actually, he claims it’s lesbians, if there are amphetamines involved, too.

Dick Swaab, professor of neurobiology at Amsterdam Biology, claims a woman’s lifestyle while pregnant can have an impact on the development of their babies.

He suggested if they live a stressful life, take drugs, drink or smoke can lower a child’s IQ and ‘influence’ the sexuality.

He also claims stress can do this, and even better, men with older brothers are more likely to be gay.

You can read more here.

My mom never smoked, and was never placed in situations where she was exposed to cigarette smokers for any length of time. There are four siblings in my family: three brothers, one sister. The sister is straight, two brothers are gay. And the youngest brother is straight. My mom also never smoked, drank, or took illegal drugs but has been diagnosed with cancer three times.

I guess now they can some up with yet another way to tax cigarettes based on this Dick study.

Oregon Baker No Gay Cakes

Update: The state of Oregon has determined Sweet Cakes by Melissa’s policy was illegal. A local newspaper placed cake orders for events that were far from religious and the owner of the bakery accepted them all, one of which included a cake for a celebration of some kind of pagan ritual. You can read it in full, here. The fact that this bakery would take orders for things that obviously should have gone against their religious beliefs, but turned down a gay wedding cake, is as sad as it is amusing.

I’ve posted about establishments that refused to make wedding cakes for gay couples, here, or have refused their services to gay couples. And there’s another winner in Oregon who is following the same pattern. This one is really using religion and spirituality to promote discrimination and hate, and according to this link she’s been open about it on Facebook.

In her latest Facebook post, Melissa Klein thanked supporters for their prayers and wrote: ‘I feel such a peace with all of this that is going on. Even though there are days that are hard and times of struggle we still feel that the Lord is in this. It is His fight and our situation is in His hands.’
 
 
The two women who were refused their services have filed a complaint, the state checked it out, and they are all going to settlement talks.
 
The baker thinks her religious freedom is being violated. How gay people getting married is in any way stopping her from practicing her faith doesn’t even make sense. In the quest for equal rights and legalized same sex marriage I have yet to hear one single supporter speak out against religious freedom.
 
E-books Rise
 
This is an interesting article worth reading because it makes a few claims that don’t actually seem to make sense…or are not backed up well enough to make sense. First, it states e-books are rising in popularity, but that most people are reading both print and e-books. Second, it claims that only 4% are reading e-books only. The problem I have with this is that I have yet to meet anyone who started reading e-books who actively went back to reading print books, too…at least not in equal intervals. I’m not talking about someone who reads e-books and once in a while for various pragmatic reasons (someone gives you a gift) goes back to reading a print book once in a while. I’m talking about people who have invested a lot of money in an e-reader or a tablet in order to save money on digital books. But I could be wrong about that. I just haven’t met anyone who does this. Typically, when someone starts reading e-books they become so in love with it they only go back to print books when it’s absolutely necessary.
 
This didn’t make sense to me either:
 
According to the survey, the “typical American adult” read or listened to 5 books in the past year, and the average for all adults was 12 books.
 
I’d like to know what they consider a “typical American adult.” I don’t think most Americans read five books a year. And the average is even more questionable.  
 
It’s a very confusing article and study, but I do agree with the fact they state that e-books seem to spark a rise in reading in a general sense. The most interesting thing about e-books is that once you start reading them you become eager to read even more. And no one can complain about that. I saw no mention of reading on iPhones, which is primarily how I, and a lot of other people I know, read now.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Refused Gay Wedding at Texas Establishment

Refused gay wedding at Texas establishment

With the recent SCOTUS ruling regarding same sex marriage, a lot of new issues have been popping up, some of which can only be expected, unfortunately. Like certain businesses refusing to hold gay weddings, or bake wedding cakes for same sex marriages.

KFOX 14 reports that Monico Ramirez and Jonathan Luna had planned to book El Paso’s Grace Gardens for their forthcoming reception. But as soon as the venue’s staff found out Ramirez and Luna were a same-sex couple, the pair says they were told it was a no-go.

This particular case gets a little more complicated and it becomes a case of he said she said, but this isn’t the first time same sex couples have been refused, and I doubt it will be the last.

Meanwhile, earlier this week, two gay men in Iowa who sought a wedding reception venue were reportedly turned away by the owners of Gortz Haus in Grimes, who argued they had a right to turn away same-sex couples because of their faith and religious convictions.

So, same sex couples are going to have to vet where they plan to wed and celebrate to avoid embarrassing, degrading situations like this. But I think this statement by Jonathan Luna bothered me the most in the article.

“They made me feel bad because there was another couple there, but they were a normal couple, and they gave them the packages and everything. We really wanted it to be there, but they refused the services for us.”

My heart goes out to these guys. I don’t think there is an LGBT person on earth who doesn’t know and understand that kind of hurt. But Luna and the rest of us have to stop thinking of ourselves as not being “normal” like the other couple to which he refers. We are just as normal, and we deserve to be treated just like everyone else.

You can read more here.

Josh and Brent Wedding Photos at Beekman 1802

I’m on the Beekman 1802 mailing list and I received their latest news this evening: they were married, had a wedding at Beekman, and they shared photos so everyone could see how they decided to do this.

From my inbox:

Well, we’ve finally gathered photos from our wedding to share with you…and we have a special video of us getting our wedding license to share. Trust us…you’re gonna be sick of of wedding news after the next month or so. Yep…we’re just like any other newly married couple: we’re gonna overshare our special day. So settle in. This newsletter is just the tip of the wedding iceberg. (We’ll put in some recipes and giveaways before the wedding video and photos, just to ease you in. )
I think a lot of LGBT couples in legal states are doing things differently after the SCOTUS ruling. Tony and I have no immediate plans yet because same sex marriage is not legal where we live…and we’re only forty-five minutes to NYC, which seems so ridiculous. I posted last week about how one town in PA started issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples and the Republican Governor of PA, Tom Corbett, has already begun to challenge this as an illegal act. What is even more ironic is that Tom Corbett’s daughter and son-in-law would not have been allowed to marry years ago in some US states because they happen to be an interracial couple.

In fact, Tom Corbett is now heading a state where LGBT marriage is not legal, in spite of the fact that his own daughter and son-in-law would have suffered the same inequality in certain US states prior to 1967 when the SCOTUS ruled this unconstitutional. As of right now, Gov. Tom Corbett has not mentioned one single plan to legalize same sex marriage so that he, too, can be on the right side of history and that LGBT couples can have the same dignity as his daughter and son-in-law. So I guess we know how his legacy will go down.

Interracial marriage in the United States has been fully legal in all U.S. states since the 1967 Supreme Court decision that deemed anti-miscegenation laws unconstitutional, with many states choosing to legalize interracial marriage at much earlier dates.

I was out of the office today visiting family in NJ, where civil unions are legal, but marriage is not…the Governor there, Chris Christie, keeps vetoing the bill that would pass it. He’s the guy with the big mouth who likes to embarrass people in public and try to look cool. From what I’ve heard, no one is NJ is too thrilled with anything he’s doing. He’s up for reelection soon. And if the tide of opinion is turning like it’s been in every statistic I’ve read, this one issue alone could bury him. I ran into an old friend who is a lesbian and she’s moving to Delaware with her partner where she can be equal and she’s not going to be discriminated against. I know many others, and their families and friends, who plan to campaign actively against Christie in the next election just on this one issue alone. I don’t think the Republican party fully understands how they are going to look in 100 years.

However, it’s nice to see some things moving forward, and to see that some LGBT couples are enjoying equality. Here’s a link to the Beekman website where you can view all the photos. And there are a few more interesting things to check out as well.

Gay Weddings on Long Island…

I’ve begun a new novel that deals with gay weddings in a different way than I’ve written about them before. This novel takes place in NY, after gay marriage was legalized. This, to me, even though same sex marriage is not federally recognized, makes all the difference in the world. And I don’t even live in NY.

I’ve been invited to more than a few gay weddings in NY myself so far. I’ve heard there are many more coming up, too. It’s fun, even though it can be expensive. So I decided to write about some of these weddings…strictly fiction…and I’ve been doing a little research while I’m at it.

This looks like fun:

Lessing’s Long Island Gay Wedding

This is the moment (Jekyll and Hyde)

When I got tickets to see this play, Jekyll and Hyde, at The Plymouth Theater ten or eleven years ago, I was looking forward to seeing Linda Edder on stage. But I didn’t know much else about the play. And when I started reading reviews about it, I started to become less than thrilled as the day approached. For whatever reason, most reviews were mediocre; some were awful. And driving into the city on a 95 degree day in June didn’t make me smile.

However, as is sometimes the case with most reviews of anything, the reviewers were dead wrong. They missed this by a mile. Not only did I love the show and all the music that went along with it, it was my first experience at The Plymouth Theater. It’s not the largest theater on Broadway, but it’s probably one of the best I’ve been in.

And now I’m thinking of using this song, This is the Moment, as a wedding song for a scene in my next book, GONE WITH A WINK. I’m just not sure it’s appropriate. For a straight wedding I don’t think it would be. But for a gay wedding considering all the obstacles gay men and women have to overcome in order to get married, legally or illegally, it might work out very well.