Category: Gay virgins

Guys and First Boyfriends; Regrowing Foreskin, Again; Big Gay Ass

Guys and First Boyfriends

In the article I’m linking to now, guys talk about their experiences with first boyfriends. It’s a series of pics with quotes that I guess might be interesting to some people. To be honest, it just looks so cliche to me.

Love is an open door, a battlefield and a losing game. It makes the world go round, makes a world of difference and makes a family.

In short, love’s a bitch, but we love it. And there’s nothing like that first boyfriend, those first kisses, the first time you stay up all night talking with someone.

We teamed up with our pals at Whisper to hear about some “first boyfriend confessions,” because young love is everything mentioned above sprinkled with a little extra crazy.

My only comment is that I had several first boyfriends, and nothing quite as dramatic as these photos imply…or mushy. We parted on good terms, and I always believe that’s the best way to end it. But when it’s over, it’s over. Period.

You can read the rest here. And if you really want to read the most interesting part of this article, skip to the comments. Oh, those wonderful, honest comments.

 how do these people get boyfriends in the first place?! I’m 23 and I still have never dated anybody, and yet gays get boyfriends in high school now!? How?!

Regrowing Foreskin, Again

With yet another article on the topic of foreskin, this time it’s about how readers responded to a previous article about how scientists are working on a way to regrow foreskin.  This one, again, is all about the comments…and reactions to foreskin and the concept of regrowing it.

Naturally, this sparked quite an outcry. Robertson’s comment received over 20 replies.

“You want to talk about nasty?” David Runyan responded. “Let’s talk about trapping an open wound in a diaper with feces and urine every night. Before you cut your son make a small cut on your thigh, get some used toilet paper, get it moist with some urine and tape it to the cut and leave it over night.”
(Um. We think we’ll pass.)

“My feet get dirty because I walk around barefoot sometimes,”Jeremy Homer added, “but I’m not going to cut them off for the sake of being clean.”

I’m actually fairly neutral on the topic. I don’t hate foreskin, I don’t love it. It’s all about the man attached that matters most to me. Frankly, I would like to think there are so many more important things to research than trying to regrow foreskin.

But this was at least amusing:

To which Cassie Elizabeth Waldeck replied with this pearl of wisdom, “If my circumcised husband doesn’t shower his balls stink. Circumcised men still need to wash their genitals.”

I hope someone thanked her for stating the obvious. The same concept applies to vagina. 

You can read the rest here.

Big Gay Ass

For the life of me I’ll never get this obsession for a guy with a big HUGE ass. I’ve always been more attracted to guys with slim hips and more of a V-shape. But this article I’m talking about now is focused on guys with some of the biggest, roundest bubble asses I’ve ever seen.

There is, however, a redeeming feature that makes it all worth while.

Pygophilia refers to sexual arousal caused by the buttocks (a.k.a. a butt fetish), and is one of the most common fetishes among the human species. Entire songs have been devoted to the subject, including Beyoncé’s “Bootylicious,” J. Lo’s “Booty,” and, of course, Sir Mix-a-Lot’s classic butt anthem “Baby Got Back.”

Pygophilia is especially prevalent among gay men. According to the all-knowing Wikipedia, “much of gay male sexuality centers on anal intercourse and penetration, so the buttocks are eroticized in that sector due to their proximity to the anus and the genitals.”

I didn’t know about Pygophilia. Bet most people don’t know it. So go over and check it out here…with pics of some of the biggest gay ass you ever saw.

Meadows Are Not Forever 

Racism on The View; Rimming Safety Tips; Virgin Robbie Rogers

Racism on The View

I’ve seen this topic come up before on Twitter several times in the past few weeks and I think it’s worth posting about. (It’s not the exact definition of cultural appropriation, but I think it’s a sneaky passive aggressive form of cultural appropriation, like when someone not part of a minority tries to take on the elements of a particular minority.) In this case, Rosie O’Donnell was trying to tell Whoopi Goldberg what racism is and how she understands it as well as Whoopi.

Of course that’s not possible to know unless you’re African American. If you come from a place of privilege and dominance you can’t take on the feelings of a minority that way. Rosie O’Donnell might be gay and she might know what gaycism is…I know what gaycism is…but she, nor I, know what racism is because we’re not African American. I’ve seen what can only be termed as cries of distress on Twitter from other African Americans who find it insulting and racist when white people claim to know and understand how African Americans feel. It’s something that really bothers me.

In any event, Whoopi put Rosie in her place:

Nicole: “Do you all think we live in a racist country?”
Rosie: “Without a doubt!”
Whoopi: “Is it just ridiculousness or is it racism?!”
Rosie O: “It’s racist and it’s stupid!’
Rosie P: ‘It’s both!’
Rosie O: “It’s two things at once!
Whoopi: “I just see it as stupid!”

And it continued:

Rosie O: “I am a gay American who has been called a [bleeped word] and I know what hatred and homophobia looks like!”
Whoopi: “It’s not the same!”
Rosie: “I have a black kid I raised Whoopi! I have a kid in my house!”
Whoopi: “That is not the same!”
Rosie: “You don’t have to be black to know what racism is!”
Whoopi: “Yes you do!”
Rosie: “No you don’t!”
Whoopi: “Yes you do baby!”
Rosie: “No you do not!”

Sorry Rosie, I’m with Whoopi on this one. It’s not the same. And Rosie would be the first one to stand and shout foul if someone tried to use that kind of subtle cultural appropriation on her as a gay woman.

You can read the rest here.

And here’s an excellent piece on cultural appropriation I think is worth reading just so you know what it is. Here’s an excerpt. It’s not directly related to Rosie and Whoopi, but there’s a lot of it going on these days everywhere you look.

Why Cultural Appropriation Is a Problem
Cultural appropriation remains a concern for a variety of reasons. For one, this sort of “borrowing” is exploitative because it robs minority groups of the credit they deserve. Art forms, music forms, etc., that originated with minority groups come to be associated with members of the dominant group. As a result the dominant group is deemed innovative and edgy, while the disadvantaged groups they “borrow” from continue to face negative stereotypes that imply they’re lacking in intelligence, creativity and more. In addition, when members of a dominant group appropriate the cultures of others, they often reinforce stereotypes about minority groups.

Rimming Safety Tips

Every once in a while the topic of rimming comes up again and it’s always so surprising that so many know so little about it…from a clinical POV. So here’s a link that talks about safety tips I think are important. And, it’s short and sweet with links to other excellent articles. Unfortunately, when you search for rimming you find mostly porn…which doesn’t help at all in real life. I’m going to work on that more in the future. Maybe one long post on the topic from a more clinical POV.

Rimming, or oral stimulation of the anus, but there are a few precautions you should take before the fun begins. Did you know since the mouth comes into contact with the anus during rimming, it’s possible to contract or spread parasites and STDs like

hepatitis , some forms of which aren’t curable?

Here’s the link.

Virgin Robbie Rogers

Robbie Rogers isn’t a virgin anymore, but he was at one time. And this article has a few direct quotes from him on the topic. He talks about losing his virginity to a woman first, and then to a man. And for those of you who don’t think there’s a difference, like Rosie O’Donnell with racism, you’re wrong. There’s a huge difference.

“My first time with a guy was actually not until I was 25, after I came out,” 27-year-old Rogers explains.

He describes the experience as “super awkward,” but leaves it at that. No sordid details, unfortunately. Though we’re sure it couldn’t have been any worse than what these guys went through.

“I mean, can you imagine dating and hooking up with a guy after 25 years?” Rogers asks. “I’m sure that he was like: What is going on?!”

It’s typical poorly written magazine tripe…he explains, he asks, he quips, etc… But I think it’s interesting to note that even Robbie Rogers waited until he was 25 to have his first gay experience. Most of us did wait until our twenties. I was a lot younger, admittedly, but most gay guys seem to be about 25…or older. So if you’re pushing 30 and still a virgin you’re not doing anything wrong. It’ll happen eventually.  

The rest is here.  

Chase of a Christmas Dream

Almost a Porn Star; Straight Catholics Urge Pope; Gay Virgins Wait for Marriage; Advocate & Out Use Porn Sites To Inflate Traffic

Almost a Porn Star

It just seems fitting to start with a quote:

Sometimes when you’re watching gay porn, you don’t notice the guy with the most massive member or the best O-face. You’re looking at the guy with the dead eyes, whose hollow flatness betrays the illusion of the scene. This is the guy who is stiffly going through the motions. Maybe he’s a first-timer. Maybe he got his start doing solo work and the studio promoted him to his first scene with a partner. And he hates it.

Frankly, no. I never did notice that. I don’t think most people do. But the article talks about guys who actually go through this and almost become porn stars. I always thought it took a certain kind of person to do porn for money, and I say that without a hint of judgment. I’m not talking about taking the occasional nude selfie or posting a risque image on Grindr, or wherever. I’m talking about the guys (and women) who make it a living and can withstand that kind of lifestyle. 

It’s a long but fascinating article about how one guy almost became a porn star.

I wondered what happened to the image after you lost ownership of it, when you submitted control to someone else.

In porn, you aren’t just getting dominated by your partner; you’re getting dominated by a group of artists who can represent you however they want. What do they see? Is it really you? Does it matter?

You can read the rest here. Twenty years ago I don’t think the risk of doing porn was as complicated as it is now. So before any of you decide you want to try it out, remember one thing: what goes on the Internet stays on the Internet forever. There’s no back-flipping this time.

Straight Catholics Urge Pope

This is of interest to me because I’ve mentioned before I went through 12 years of Catholic school and so did Tony. Our families are Catholic…old Catholic…and there’s really not much you can tell either one of us about being Catholic we don’t already know. And don’t even try. That was done once and that person lived to regret it. Tell me about the Jewish faith, or any other faith, and I’ll sit and listen for hours. But don’t tell me what I already know and lived.

And what I already know is that our families who are Catholic support us 100%. They support my gay nephew, and other gay family members, friends, and associates. But we aren’t getting an ounce of support from the Catholic church itself, at least not full support in the sense that we can feel equal inside a Catholic church. And it seems other Catholics are now starting to urge the Pope to reconsider the church’s stand on LGBT people.

Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine.
They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.
– See more at:

Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine. 

They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.

You can read the rest here.  I highly doubt that we’ll see any significant changes in our lifetime. Most of the gay Catholics I know have switched to more liberal Episcopal churches. This could be part of the reason so many Catholic churches and schools are closing down. And, unfortunately, I’ve always believed in Catholic education from an educational POV. It’s just not possible to support it anymore under these conditions.

Gay Virgins Wait for Marriage

This title almost sounds valid, but only if you’re NOT gay. In other words, the reason why so many gay men (I can’t speak for gay women) remain virgins for so long is that they’re almost always in the closet terrified to take that first step out. Most don’t even kiss a guy until their mid to late twenties. In my novel, The Virgin Billionaire, the main character was almost forty before he lost his gay virginity. I know this is probably changing now, and thankfully so, but speaking from personal experience most gay men don’t cross that proverbial line until they’re well into their twenties. And marriage has absolutely nothing to do with it. In fact, most of the gay men I know lost their virginity to women, trying to fool themselves into believing they were straight.

However, the article is interesting because it explores a different POV most people don’t realize even exists…the fact that there are gay Christians.

A self-identifying Christian gay man is asked, “What if it doesn’t work out and you wind up ‘saving yourself’ for the complete wrong person?”

And he responds, “That’s why people like me save sex for marriage and not for ‘I kinda like you.’ The process of marriage goes a long way towards making sure we enter into a sexual commitment with a sound mind. OK, but what if it still doesn’t work out? Sure, that happens. Well then we’re really getting into the moral question of divorce…suffice it to say, there are some situations where I would probably seek remarriage.”

So many find this refreshing…the concept of gay virgins, as if we’re all running loose having sex everywhere. I guess I do, too. But what I find really refreshing in a novel sense is that it’s wonderful to see gay men getting this choice now. I didn’t get it, and neither did the gay men I know. We remained virgins out of absolute unadulterated fear and anxiety that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. Which is why I’m short on patience for people who try to tell me what it’s like to be gay.

You can read more here. 

Advocate & Out Use Porn Sites To Inflate Traffic

I find this interesting because until now I never even heard of “pop-unders.” They are the ads that you might see if you’re into porn, on your favorite porn sites. But you probably won’t even notice them. I’m going to let the article explain this so I don’t screw it up.

Viewers may be surprised to see the home pages of and appear as pop-unders (see browser tabs on screen shot, right), behind such X-rated fare on as Hospital Gangbang and Mature Blake Tops Silver Daddy. Among the other pop-unders in this inspiring category is, featuring nude shows of female strippers.

They do this, allegedly, to inflate their popularity. But this one is complicated, and it comes with a full disclosure, so you’re going to have to read the rest here.

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Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine.
They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.
– See more at:
Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine.
They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.
– See more at:
Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine.
They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.
– See more at:

Theo James Gay Superhero; Gay Virgin Fight; Gays in Ethiopia

Theo James Gay Superhero

Theo James is an actor in the UK who says he wants to see a gay superhero in a film. It’s interesting because I had this discussion with someone not too long ago about female superheroes. And it’s not as if it hasn’t been done in gay books already…more below. (Actually, it’s been done many times.)

Today there are great shows like Looking, poignant pieces of work that revolve around a central cast of characters that happen to be gay’ he said.

 ‘But I remember when Queer as Folk came out and thinking, Things are changing. Maybe there will be more shows like this.

 ‘And then suddenly there was a drought. Hopefully the day we have a gay action hero isn’t far away.’

Evidently, James isn’t aware of my gay superhero story, Captain Velvet’s Velvet Box. Or a few gay superhero books I’ve been part of. I hate to do a Sheldon, but I doubt he reads much.

You can read more about James here.

Gay Virgin Fight
When I saw this on social media the other day I didn’t pay attention to it. But it’s been popping up in other places so I figured I’d post something. In many ways it could read like a book…if the main characters were older.
A gay London teen who planned to lose his anal virginity ‘in the name of art’ is now being accused of stealing the idea.

Clayton Pettet, a 19-year-old art student, is vowing to perform in April the piece called ‘Art School Stole My Virginity’.

A different art student, 24-year-old John Bingham, has now accused Pettet of stealing his performance piece ‘Art School Stole My Sexuality’.

I don’t know how the laws are in the UK, but here in the US you can’t steal an idea. Works are protected, but not ideas. This link isn’t the best one around, but I’ve heard this before in many other places that discuss ideas and concepts. With a simple search you’ll see what I mean.

You can read more about these two snarky little gay virgins here.

Frankly, since there’s no way to prove either of them actually are anal virgins it’s really a moot point for me. Unless, of course, there’s a lot of screaming during the exhibit. That’s usually how the first time works.

Gays in Ethiopia

For gays in Ethiopia it might come to pass where gay sex becomes a non-pardonable crime on the same level as terrorism, human trafficking, and rape.

The act would change Ethiopia’s Pardon and Amnesty Law by grouping gay sex alongside other non-pardonable offenses such as corruption, human-trafficking, smuggling, rape and terrorism.

From what I gather the laws now as they stand are already harsh…someone could even get up to 25 years in prison for infecting someone else with AIDS related to same sex acts.

Pure ignorance. And I can’t help wondering if there are any Christian US zealots behind this, or at least helping to push it along.

You can read more here.