Category: Gay Twins

Gay Boyfriend "Twins"; "Fag" Cousin; Anal Cancer

Gay Boyfriend “Twins”

This one made me smile. Through the years Tony and I have known several gay couples who fall into this category: gay boyfriend twins. It’s not about incest. These guys aren’t related to each other. They are boyfriends who try hard to look like each other. The first year we were together Tony made a point of telling me he didn’t want us to ever look like “one of the Bobsie Twins.” At the time we knew a gay couple who wore the same outfits (always tight black shirts), the same shoes (black boots), and even wore their hair the same (too short, dyed black, and spiked)…like identical twins…and even though it’s not something that would have occurred to me I completely agreed with Tony on that matter.

This article explains it in more detail with photos:

We’ve all seen it happen. Two people start dating, and over the course of the relationship, they start to morph into mirror images of each other. It can be funny, sad, hot — it all depends, really.

But did you know there’s a blog that chronicles this phenomenon? The aptly named BoyfriendTwin Tumbler is just chock full of wonders.

You can read more here. The comments get a little snarky, too. This one seems to have hit a nerve.

Side note: most of the gay couples we’ve known over the years do NOT do this. They don’t dress like twins, and make a point of it. The ones who do dress like twins are usually the ones you run from at parties.

“Fag” Cousin

This guy’s cousin came out to him on social media…my nephew did the same with me on Facebook. This guy claims he wasn’t shocked…I was stunned. I really didn’t have a clue. But then I didn’t know my one brother was gay until I ran into him in a disco in New York.

In any event, it’s an interesting story about how their relationship as gay cousins devolved over time. From the way it sounds the younger cousin who came out on social media felt as if the older cousin was trying to mold him into being the gay man everyone expects…the typical South Beach gay man. It didn’t work because the younger cousin wasn’t into any of that, and the two cousins wound up drifting apart for obvious reasons.

When I moved to New York my relationship with Juan took a turn for the worst. My other cousin, Raul, came to visit. I hadn’t spoken to Juan in a few months and asked how he was doing.

“Dude,” Raul told me. “You know he doesn’t like you. He was talking mad shit about you the other day and I swear to God I wanted to punch him.”

I was floored. “What do you mean? What did he say?”

“He said: ‘There are two types of gay men in this world. Ones like me and fags like Paul.’”
It’s interesting to me because my one gay brother has always been a circuit queen. I’d rather eat dirt than follow a bunch of dizzy queens in skinny jeans to Spain looking for the disco ball. I’d rather go skiing in Vermont than clubbing in South Beach. We are complete opposites in many respects, and I think too much alike in others. It’s taken years for our relationship to reach a point of ease…the best word I can think of because we never argue…so just because two family members are gay doesn’t mean it makes anything easier. My relationship with my straight brother is much easier, and we tend to agree more on everything (the other gay brother is awkward with him, too). It’s interesting. 

Anal Cancer 

There’s a campaign moving forward about the growing awareness of anal cancer among gay men. It’s called “Behind Closed Drawers.” 

“A growing number of physicians and health activists recommend that all men who have sex with men, especially those who are HIV-positive, be tested every one-to-three years depending on their immunological well-being and CD4 count,” organizers said in a statement. “They suggest that HIV negative individuals be tested every three years. This work is important, because most people know little about anal cancer, have never been tested for it, and don’t know that screening tests exist.”
You can read the rest here. They’re asking for help and there’s information there on how to do it. I don’t know much about this type of cancer so I can’t comment. 

I think this comment from the thread about HPV is interesting.

The key thing that is not made clear from this article and much of the coverage you see around is that the vast majority of Anal cancer is caused by HPV infection (Human Papilloma Virus) – so it is a sexually transmitted disease. It is the exact same virus which causes the majority of Cervical Cancers in women. Anal Cancer is just as nasty and aggressive as Cervical Cancer, and if you have a screening programme available to you, you should take it up because getting to it early makes a huge difference.

And there is a myth that if you don’t have genital warts, you don’t have HPV – you can be infected with HPV and never know it. 

You can also be vaccinated against HPV. In the USA, all gay and bisexual men up to the age of 26 can be offered HPV vaccination (and all other men up to the age of 21). In the UK there is currently no vaccination of men but you can request it. The message is clear: if you’re gay or bisexual, take part in screening and get vaccinated if possible.

I like to make a point of letting readers know this book was released in two versions, one with strong sex scenes, one without. This is the PG rated version and runs about 52,000 words. It’s .99.

Chase of a Dream PG-Rated Version

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5.0 out of 5 stars A very very good read & very romantic, September 21, 2012
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This book was a great read and I like the austhor’s writing style. I couldn’t put the kindle down once I began the read.Most reads coming available are so like each other once you read one other authors seem to copy situations and language from each other. Ryan Field should use this novel as his best, hope he continues to produce such good reading.

Hump! Straight Dudes Gay Porn; Gay Twincest Porn; Cop at Utah Gay Pride

Hump! Straight Dudes Gay Porn

In 2005 Dan Savage organized the Hump Film Festival. Savage is a sex columnist and founder of the “It Gets Better Project” I mentioned a few weeks ago with regard to Hachette Books in a post about Hachette and Amazon, and Oyster E-Books. The basic premise behind the Hump festival is interesting. Average people film their own five minute sex scenes that are shown at the festival. They compete for prizes, and this year Savage decided to do a Hump Tour in the US with 20 short films by these amateurs.

The most important thing I read was this, about straight men watching gay porn:

The gay sex scene was so hot Rick Santorum would get hard watching it, yet for every explicit moment or funny joke, there was an intimate moment that balanced the scale, allowing hearts to warm as well as genitals.

Best of all, the festival taught straight dudes to get down with realistic gay and lesbian porn. One guy, Ben, saw gay porn for the first time at the festival.

The second most important thing I read was something I have always tried to do with gay erotic romance/fiction. I’m talking about making it funny, or sexy and intimate. And sometimes trying to find a balance between the two. I’ve written a lot of intimate love scenes in books. But I also go for funny or silly…even though a lot of my critics have missed that point over the years. They actually think I’m being serious. But it’s hard to blame people who don’t have a certain amount of sophistication. You really can’t blame someone for not knowing the bread plate is on the left at a dinner party. You can only try to show them politely.

The most difficult thing to do is combine funny and sexy…or intimate.

Tim, another audience member, told me his favorite aspect of the festival was that “the films were both sexy and funny, which is hard to achieve—it’s usually one or the other.” This is what Savage was going for. “The films were meant to be both sexy and funny, which is how sex really is,” he explained.

I couldn’t agree more. When I wrote the one sex scene in one of the Virgin Billionaire books where Jase and Luis had “literary” sex and laughed about all the worst literary sex phrases in books ever written I wasn’t doing that by accident. Sex is a serious thing, but it’s also a funny thing, too. Or it can be funny if handled the right way. And what two people in a book do (or even in real life) in the privacy of their own bedrooms is often joked about.

In any event, it’s an interesting festival and article. You can read more here. They get into more details about sex toys, sex advice, and how people can actually learn new things from these short films. And straight guys can learn that gay sex films can be both sexy and funny, depending on how they’re executed.

Gay Twincest Porn

In an unrelated piece about the darker side of porn, a straight ex-con, Taleon Goffney, who did gay for pay porn with his identical twin brother, Keyontyli, when they really needed money is turning his life around. The article talks about why he did gay porn…twincest…and what happened afterward.

Even after shooting Mark and the Twins, money was still tight for the brothers. So they resorted to burglary. In February 2008, they were arrested in Philadelphia after Taleon broke into a beauty salon and stole $10,000 from an ATM while Keyontyli stood watch.

During the trial, Keyontyli pleaded guilty to being an accomplice to his brother’s crimes and, in the process, cut a deal with authorities to implicate his brother and avoid major prison time for himself.

Taleon is going to write a book, and try to help others now.

There’s more here.

Cop at Utah Gay Pride

A cop who refused to ride in the Utah gay pride parade in Salt Lake City recently resigned. I find it interesting because my brother-in-law, Tony’s brother, and his family live in Salt Lake City and they tell me it’s very different from living on the east coast near New York and Philadelphia, but they find it gay friendly and they aren’t even gay.

The officer, whose name has not been released, had cited his religious beliefs for balking at the assignment that called for him to be among the Salt Lake City Police Department officers riding in front of the parade.

His attorney said he felt uncomfortable with that role, did not want to be seen as a gay pride advocate, and asked for another assignment.

I know he’s claiming religious reasons. But I’m starting to wonder about that. It sounds more social and political than religious to me. No one asked him to support gays. They only assigned him to ride at the parade…part of his job. And aren’t we all supposed to be objective and professional at certain times in all of our careers? I doubt anyone would have thought he was a gay advocate…I don’t think anyone would even have cared or noticed him.

To have that much hate in your heart that you’re willing to lose your career just baffles me. I wonder how he’ll feel when he realizes that the world will continue to grow and move forward in spite of him, and that allowing gays equal rights didn’t do a thing to harm or change his life. He did it to himself.

You can read more here. I would imagine this is going to wind up in court and it should be interesting to see the outcome.


The Virgin Billionaire’s Dream House by Ryan Field