Gay Guy Has Sex With 400; The Gay Adult Theater; Prince Harry’s Nipple Tweak

Gay Guy Has Sex With 400

A guy named Dylan Jones no one has ever heard of wrote an op-ed piece…because that’s what you do now…about all the sex partners he’s had, and how he’s proud of it, and why he hates slut-shaming. Yes, slut-shaming, again.

Jones estimates his number of paramours falls “somewhere around the four hundred mark. An average of two every week for four years. And that’s not even counting weekends.”

I’m not remotely insecure about it,” he writes. “I have absolutely no shame.”

He goes on to mention how one guy slut-shamed him …by using a really bad stereotype to define this guy, which I think negates his point because that is a form of looks-shaming. And he claims that he only gets the slut-shaming thing from gay men.

Frankly, I couldn’t care less who, or how many, he screws around with. 

You can read the rest here. I’m also not fond of kissing and telling. There’s this thing called discretion and good taste. You don’t have to tell the world how many men you’ve been with.

You’ll want to check out the comments with this one. 

The Gay Adult Theater

This is something I’ve never done…gone to a gay adult theater. That’s before my time. However, I think it’s interesting from a cultural POV. And, this is another part of gay culture I hate to see disappear during a time when almost all of gay culture is vanishing.

This time a gay adult theater in San Fransisco called, The Tea Room Theatre, is closing down. For those who don’t know what a “tea room” is in gay culture, you can read more about that here. I know a lot of you don’t know what that means because I once mentioned “tea dance” in a forum and most people didn’t even know what that was. And “tea dance” and “tea room” are not the same thing. Here’s more about tea dance. (I get into a lot of these things in my next book, yet to be titled.)

Blame goes to the usual suspects: the internet, hookup apps, and a more open culture that no longer forces queer people to hide. These days, porn is practically something you can find out in the open — especially in San Francisco.

There was a time when porn theaters like these were one of the primary ways that men hooked up. You’d spend a few bucks to slip into a grubby theater, or loiter in a hallway, or watch a live dancer. If theaters weren’t your thing, you could also poke your head into certain bathrooms; or hide in the bushes down by the ocean. Half a century ago, for a lot of men, there simply weren’t any good clean wholesome ways to meet each other — and for some people, that was just fine.

You can read the rest here. I think it’s a huge part of gay culture, and once again, it has nothing at all to do with any other aspect of LBTQ. This was predominantly about gay men, only gay men, and gay culture. 

The comments are interesting because one gay guy who is 30 left a comment that it is so off base about what these theaters were all about, it’s as funny as it is sad. He thinks guys went there to watch movies. He wants to see “events” held at gay adult theaters now. He thinks that’s what gay adult theaters need: events. 

Bless his little gay soul. Someone should tell him.

Prince Harry’s Nipple Tweak 

I think everyone can agree that Prince Harry does a lot for good causes, and he inspires a lot of people all over the world. And, he’s great with people.  

While attending a volleyball event at Britain’s Invictus Games, the Paralympic-style games that Harry himself founded in 2014 in which wounded, injured or sick armed services personnel and their associated veterans take part in sports, the young Prince of Wales could just couldn’t resit tweaking the nipple of participant.

You can check that out here,  with a video of the incident. Someone in the comments claims this is pretty normal for straight guys to do.

 

Unabated





The Arrangement

Love Finds You In Charm; Gay Slut-shaming; Louis Tomlinson and Gay Shame: James Franco’s Album

 Love Finds You In Charm

That’s actually the title of a new Amish romance film coming out, Love Finds You In Charm. And when I spotted this link on Twitter as a “teaser” on vimeo I thought I’d share it with my readers. The interesting thing about Charm…and there really is a Charm, Ohio…is that I have a few Amish friends who only live a few miles away. Most are readers who have found creative ways to read e-books in private. I actually do receive quite a few e-mails from Amish men all over the east coast who are curious about the “English” and gay life. It’s always very discreet and I always learn something new.

In any event, I kept getting first hand updates while they were filming Love Finds You In Charm from a few locals in Ohio, and to be honest they aren’t always fond of films like this. In fact, they often feel the same way about Amish films and books done by non-Amish the same way gay men feel about books and films done by non-gays. I really don’t know enough about that to comment.

But I find most Amish films entertaining and the message behind them is all about love and romance…even though I know intellectually it’s all embellished. Love Finds You In Charm might be the exception to the rule. I won’t know until it’s released.  I apologize to anyone Amish ahead of time if you find this offensive. My intention is not to offend you.

You can view the teaser here. It’s stars Trevor Donovan, an actor who played a gay role in 90210. Trust me, you’ll enjoy the video clip. It was filmed on location in Charm, Ohio and the scenery is spectacular.

Gay Slut-shaming

For anyone who doesn’t know, this is what slut-shaming is in a general sense, with respect to women. The article to which I’m linking now talks about gay slut-shaming, with respect to the four worst things gay men say to shame each other.

The most obvious is “You’re a Slut.” This part of the piece talks about how some gay men will judge each other based on sex habits…or how much sex one might be having. I’ve heard it a million times in passing whenever I’m with a large group of gay men (which is why I often try not to be in large groups with gay men anymore). There’s a standard, or protocol, that’s set and the “gang” always seems to go along with it. Middle aged gay men of lower rent origin always change the pronouns, as in…”She’s such a slut.” Tony and I once parked at a beach in Provincetown and  found ourselves sitting behind two of the most vicious gay men in the world. They slut-shamed everyone on the beach so harshly, always changing the pronouns from he to she, I actually forced Tony to get up and move as far away from them as I could.

Another example talks about shaming with dating apps, and there’s one that talks about shaming with the Peter Pan syndrome. They’re all on target, but the number one is shaming with respect to HIV. I can tell you first hand because I’ve been POA for a friend with HIV that most gay men either ignore those who are HIV, or they talk behind their backs with some of the worst comments possible.

This is the big one. HIV is a significant barrier for many people who try to understand the gay community, and it accompanies the greatest stigma. Most of us probably have at least one friend or acquaintance who has HIV. Have we asked them about living with HIV? Have we asked them what it’s been like? Have we asked them how they feel? This is the most terrible reason that gay guys shame one another.

We shun those who have it, we use unfortunate, misleading language when we remind others that we’re “clean” in our social networking profiles, and yet we still live in a society where unsafe sex is common. How can any of us chastise an entire group of people who are HIV positive, but fail to slip on a condom ourselves? Newsflash: we are not invincible. Practise safe sex, and don’t shame those who have made the mistakes we’re all prone to make from time to time. The vast majority of us have at one point or another taken the same risk while being sexually active. There is an enormous disparity in the way the gay community treats those who are HIV positive.

Gay men will never ask each other how they feel, or what it’s been like. If you want to see a group of middle aged gay men disappear, mention HIV. At least that’s been my personal experience. It’s unspoken, and I know two middle aged gay men who are HIV and they have never once discussed it openly in all the years I’ve known them.

You can read the rest here. It’s a good article and spot on in every respect.

Louis Tomlinson and Gay Shame

After The Independent published an article about One Direction’s Louis Tomlinson’s alleged support for Apple’s CEO Tim Cook, Tomlinson went on a full fledge Twitter rant denying he’s gay because that’s how he allegedly perceived the article. In his strong public denial he only came off looking as if there’s something inherently wrong with being gay. It’s so common for straight men to do this they don’t even see it as an issue.

But Louis saw it differently, and wasn’t too pleased with the article. He took it as being called gay by The Independent, though the article never speculates his sexuality, only his support for Tim Cook.

You can read the rest here. It’s not an in-depth story and I’m only posting about it because I like to create awareness about the fact that even if you aren’t gay there’s nothing wrong with someone thinking you are. Gay should not be synonymous with shame.

This tweet from the journalist who wrote the piece says it all:

That being called gay should never be insulting & that standing up for #LGBT rights is an admirable thing to do…

James Franco’s Album

Although I reviewed (and loved) James Franco’s novel, Actor’s Anonymous, with five stars, I sometimes get annoyed with his attempts at self-promotion. But he’s great at it…self-promotion…to the point of being a genius, and he never actually stops pushing his own personal boundaries in spite of who he might be offending. In this case he’s releasing a new album, and most are claiming it’s not that bad either. I actually do like it, at least from what I’ve listened to so far.

The almost annoyingly busy renaissance man is now coming out with an album, of course. The band is called Daddy, and in typical James Franco fashion, instead of pop beats and silly unrequited love stories, we get lyrics like, “The love life of the octopus, groping and grabbing.”

You can see a clip of the music video here. The comments are very entertaining. There’s some gay slut-shaming examples at the bottom. You don’t have to go too far to find these things.

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