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Harsh Kevin Spacey Coming Out Memes; Jason Dottley On Hollywood Sex Abuse; Colton Haynes and Jeff Leatham’s Wedding Video

Harsh Kevin Spacey Coming Out Memes

I get a lot of letters from gay men who are still in the closet, and they are in the closet for valid reasons. They find my books or this web site, and they contact me in private. Most live in small towns where there’s still a huge gay stigma, and some live in parts of the world where coming out could get them killed…literally killed. I correspond regularly with a closeted gay Amish man (one of the nicest people I have ever met) who has lived his life married to a woman and he has children. He’s lived a good life and a productive life. I think there are some valid reasons why people don’t come out of the closet. And I never judge.

But I do find this Hollywood hypocrisy thing confusing. There are gay men in Hollywood who came out in their private lives years ago, but they remain in the closet because they believe it might hurt their careers. Well, it might hurt their careers…I’m not sure about that. But I am sure they live in this privileged world where hypocrisy is a way of life. These are ambitious people who will stop at nothing to get what they want while the closeted gay guys who really can’t come out at all suffer in private and the brave gay men in Hollywood like Colton Haynes deal with the career issues alone. So I have very little tolerance for that kind of Hollywood hypocrisy…the kind where a gay man is open to all his friends and family, but remains in the closet so he can get the next movie deal or sign the next contract. That’s not fair to everyone else. Plus, it only continues to promote the shame that’s always been associated with being gay.

With all that said, Kevin Spacey has faced more than his fair share of backlash recently thanks to his unusual attempt at coming out. Under any circumstances this coming out announcement is not a huge surprise, but these are some really powerful circumstances. They are alleged circumstances that make this entire Hollywood sex abuse scandal even worse.

In case you haven’t heard yet: On Sunday, actor Anthony Rapp accused Spacey of making untoward sexual advances on him when he was just 14 years old. Spacey was 26. In response, Spacey issued a hasty statement saying he was drunk at the time and didn’t remember the alleged incident… Then he came out as gay. Surprise!

Here’s what Spacey said…

In my life I have had relationships with both men and women. I have loved and had romantic encounters with men throughout my life, and I choose now to live as a gay man. I want to deal with this honestly and openly and that starts with examining my own behavior.

First and foremost you don’t choose to be gay. I didn’t choose to be gay, and neither did my Amish friend who’s still living in the closet. People are born gay. Spacey just chose to pretend to be straight all those years. There’s a difference.  

You can read the rest here. There are comments. Of course there’s the usual victim blaming and shaming.  

Jason Dottley On Hollywood Sex Abuse With Men

I had a feeling we’d be hearing more about this sex abuse scandal in Hollywood. Jason Dottley was part of the Sordid Lives cast a few years ago, and now he’s speaking up.

On Monday, the 36-year-old entertainer posted a lengthy Facebook status update alleging widespread sexual harassment and abuse at the hands of industry professionals when he was a teenager trying to make it as an actor.

There’s more, plus the full statement, here. 

Colton Haynes and Jeff Leatham’s Wedding Video

On a more positive note, which I think most people need nowadays, here are some great wedding images that were taken in Palm Springs at Haynes and Leatham’s wedding. It’s actually a video.

The below video will allow you to gently re-enter polite society, firm in the confidence that you’re up to date on every breath Haynes has taken in the last 72 hours. We did this for you.

Here’s more. Even though the comments are a little cruel, I think it’s adorable and I’m still shocked this is now possible for gay men to do…get married. I hope it’s a long and happy marriage.  

Someone said they’re going to hyphenate their names.  

Altered Parts





Kendle’s Fire
A PG Rated Gay Romance


Said With Care


Gay Men Going To the Far Right In Germany; Gay Men Afraid To Hold Hands In Public; Louise L. Hay, Gay Men, AIDS, and "Kitsch Spirituality"

Gay Men Going To the Far Right In Germany

Here’s a piece about something that’s been going on in Germany that rarely makes headlines in the US, not even in LGBT presses.

It’s about two gay men who suffered a violent attack that has changed everything about them…right down to their core beliefs.

Police identified the attackers as two locally known Muslim extremists. They were never arrested and later fled to Syria. After demanding answers from local prosecutors and the mayor’s office and not getting a response, Karsten turned to Germany’s far right party, the Alternative for Germany (AfD).
“I don’t like everything they say,” Karsten says, “but this is too dangerous for gay people to live openly here, if we get attacked like that. We need a party that’s talking openly about this.”
Gay Men Afraid To Hold Hands In Public
This is happening in the UK, but I think it could probably happen anywhere. There was a survey taken and more than half the gay men in Britain feel unsafe holding hands in public. And it gets into other hate crimes with other groups that fall under the LGBTQ+ umbrella. 
Stonewall said the UK had much to do before all LGBT people “can feel safe, included and free to be themselves”.
While hate crime was more effectively recorded than in the past, the charity said there had undoubtedly been “a genuine increase” in incidents since its last major survey in 2013.
Louise L. Hay, Gay Men, AIDS, and “Kitsch Spirituality”
This is actually a difficult one for me because I did follow a lot of the principles and techniques of Louise Hay, and I never knew any of this.  But I followed Hay in a very general sense, and at the time I was very, very young and I wasn’t as heavily invested as some people were. 
Evidently, now that she’s dead people are speaking up about Hay and how she affected a generation of men. 
Many AIDS survivors and caregivers have testified to the tragic personal cost of Hay’s philosophy, and what some have called her brutal dismissal of actual people with AIDS, including the poor and people of color, as well as her willingness to profit personally through the pain of the sick, the psychically unsettled, and the terminally ill. Activist and filmmaker Peter Fitzgerald saw Hay in action with his desperately ill comrades. After her death he said,  “I understand that she providedd hope at very dark times to a great many people, I also know all too well that her clay feet were deeply mired in the guilt of being an AIDS profiteer, a disloyal friend and purveyor of false hope. Namaste, bitch.”
It’s a long piece, that you can find here at this link. They refer to Hays and what she taught as “kitsch spirituality.” I really don’t know enough about it to make any specific comments.   
Said With Care


A PG Rated Gay Romance



Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field





LGBTQ People and Mental Health Issues; Russell Tovey and the Femme Controversy; The Vatican On Gay Priests

LGBTQ People and Mental Health Issues

Here’s an interesting piece that explores whether or not LGBTQ people deal with more mental health issues than straight people.

A sweeping new study by the National Alliance on Mental Illness indicates that people who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender are three times as likely to suffer from certain mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder.

I think there’s definitely something to this. We grow up repressing so many emotions that straight people take for granted there has to be some repercussion.

But, we’re strong, too. You can read the rest here. 

 Stepbrothers In the Attic by Ryan Field

Russell Tovey and the Femme Controversy

I must have missed this one totally. I don’t remember it happening, but I could be wrong. 

Last year, the actor ruffled feathers by saying he was grateful for all the childhood bullying that cured him of being “really effeminate.”

He recently made this comment…

Things come out the way you don’t intend them to. It was a very upsetting time for me. … I learned from it and I’ve grown from it. … I’ve found you’ve just got to be true to yourself, be a good person and the work should speak for itself.”

You can read the rest here.

The comments are mixed. Evidently, a lot of people saw this. This is a tricky one because, of course, there’s nothing wrong with effeminate men…gay or straight. The problem is what society expects ALL men to be. And frankly, I think that’s changing for ALL men…gay and straight.

The Vatican On Gay Priests

Don’t laugh (or cry) too hard when you read this one.

For the record, The Vatican still doesn’t think those of us with “deep-seated homosexual tendencies” or people who “support the so-called ‘gay culture’” should be priests.

A new statement reiterates the ban on gay priests that’s been in place since 2005, stating that those who “practice homosexuality” will not be welcomed into the priesthood.

There’s a quote from the Vatican that goes into more detail. You can check that out here.

I think we should tell them it’s already too late to enforce this one.   I’ve already posted about the two gay priests I once knew, here.  

A Christmas Carl Print/Paperback; Defying Gay Stereotypes; Queerty Writer Doesn’t Like TROLLS or Butthurt??

A Christmas Carl Print/Paperback

Twenty years ago when my stories first started showing up in gay anthologies by gay presses like Alyson Publications, I used to get excited whenever my author copies came in the mail.

And now, after over one hundred digital releases, I have to admit that I’m still just as thrilled as I was back then when I opened the mailbox this weekend and found my author copies in print.

This time it’s even better because I did it without a publisher. Many of you may not know that even though all of my Ravenous Romance novels were released as both e-books and print, I never once received an author copy of a print book from Ravenous Romance. They just didn’t do that. If I wanted a copy of a Ravenous Romance book that I authored, I was told that I had to order it and pay for it myself.

So I never bothered. I did receive digital author copies, and that was exciting, too. But there’s something about seeing these books in print that’s hard to describe. And I’m not going to go back to reading print books for personal pleasure, not ever. I love my digital library. But the print books give me something tangible. I guess some old habits just can’t be broken.

In any event, here’s where you can find A Christmas Carl now as an e-book or as a paperback.

Defying Gay Stereotypes

Here are a series of memes with quotes by gay men who are defying the stereotypes we see all too often.

I like this one:

I’m a gay police officer. I don’t do anything sexy like use handcuffs in bedroom, nor have I ever seduced a straight man. My job is really normal and I like it that way.

I like the other quotes, too. Many of them seem to want to bring home the point that gay men don’t always have women friends…because they have so little in common with straight women. But there is one thing in particular I didn’t find here that I think has become a very serious stereotype. This concept…this rule…that all gay men have to follow the same brand of politics. And that simply just isn’t so.

They didn’t mention the “gay icon” stereotype either, which is always something that’s passed me by.  Not every gay man loves Cher, Bette Midler, or any of the others.

The other issue I have is that just because something is a stereotype doesn’t make it wrong…or even bad. I think the main focus is that gay men are highly diverse. 

You can check them all out here. 

Queerty Writer Doesn’t Like TROLLS or Butthurt?

This is rich. It’s an article about butthurt from a writer with a gay press who would probably be the first to scream free speech if anyone tried to silence his personal views.

I once saw an exchange on a small personal blog where someone commented and disagreed with the author of the blog post…a gay author. The author of the post RAN to social media, posted there was a TROLL commenting on his post, and his minions followed him back there with popcorn. 

The only problem is that I was there watching this entire exchange, silently, too. I didn’t see a troll anywhere. I saw someone commenting who didn’t agree with a highly charged topic and he or she was expressing a different POV. The gay author of the post didn’t like this and neither did his minions. They went after this alleged “troll” in such a vicious way the person commenting finally gave up and moved on. And this so-called “troll” was making a perfectly valid point without getting offensive or abusive. The gay author and his minions, however, were actually behaving more like trolls than the person they were calling a “troll.”

There’s a huge difference between an Internet troll and someone with a different opinion. The word troll, like the word bully, is highly overused in most cases. Unfortunately, the distinction isn’t pointed out in this particular butthurt piece.

This is the overall tone coming from the author…

The troll is lurking in the shadows, more than happy to tell you your child is ugly, your haircut looks terrible, and your version of “Defying Gravity” never got off the ground. 

You can read it in full here.

Once again, butthurt at its best from someone too special to take criticism.


If you think I sound a little too cold-hearted about this, think again. I’ve been subjected to every single ounce of criticism and opinion there is online as an author and I’ve never once complained butthurt in all the time I’ve been doing it. So I have very little sympathy when I hear someone else do it. 


I think many of the comments on this one agree with me. I highly suggest checking them out. 

Fangsters: Book 2

Gang Bang Fangsters



Ryan Field Print Books;Ben Cohen’s Big Bear Hug; Bette Midler Shade Toss for Caitlyn Jenner; Jake Gyllenhaal and Gay Marriage

Ryan Field Print Books

Here are more books I just released in paperback. For those who don’t read e-books, this is an alternative. I’m actually excited to see how the covers look in paperback. I’ve never really seen these books other than in digital format.

Chase of a Dream (unabridged) This was the book where I released two versions, one with sex scenes and the other without. Both books are identical and I only had to remove 7,000 words to make it pg rated. I did self-censor this book on purpose, but I put up both versions. The covers are identical but it’s clearly marked which is abridged and which isn’t.

Amazon 

Create Space

Chase of a Dream (abridged) Here’s the version without sex scenes.

Amazon

Create Space 

Chase of a Christmas Dream is another book in the Chase series.

Amazon

Create Space 

Please keep in mind that the Create Space links are accurate, but sometimes it takes time for Amazon to put things up and if you don’t see it there are this very moment, you will very soon.   

Ben Cohen’s Big Bear Hug

This is one of those multi-photo pieces where the well known post things on social media. I like them, and some of the photos are interesting. It’s mindless entertainment…and harmless.

You don’t really need a quote.

You’ll like some of them. I work a lot and don’t always have time to keep up with what’s happening in pop culture and these little things to me are like a crash course in who’s who.

Bette Midler Shade Toss for Caitlyn Jenner

First Bette/Britt Midler goes after Justin Bieber in a tweet that came out of nowhere and was totally unprovoked by Bieber. Say what you will about Justin, but he really didn’t do anything to warrant Bette/Britt Midler’s Twitter attack. And, she went after his DAD. Who does that?

And now this:

And now her attention has moved to a subject that many seem to be thinking but few are will to say: Caitlyn Jenner and her inexplicable Republican values.

Someone should tell her.

Bette/Britt should stick to singing and mind her own damn business when it comes to what someone else believes in politically. It’s just none of her business.

You do get the right to believe in whatever you want to believe in the US.  You don’t get the right to tell anyone else what to believe in, or to question their beliefs. You don’t have to agree with them, but there’s this word called tolerance that those on the far left and the far right really need to learn more about.

You can read the rest here. 

You can also read Bette/Britt’s nasty tweet there as well. I’m not going to bother quoting her here.

Jake Gyllenhaal and Gay Marriage

This is interesting because it’s a quote by Jake Gyllenhaal on how he thinks the movie, Brokeback Mountain, helped push equality forward…in a general sense.

I think it is changing… and it’s pretty amazing how it’s changing. And one of the things that I’m so proud about [Brokeback Mountain is that], within the past basically 10 years, how much has changed.
 
When the Supreme Court [issued a ruling] just a little while ago, I felt like we had been part, a little part and parcel of that movement. I was proud, you know? To me that’s really a pretty incredible moment. We had to wait a little while for it. But when will it be OK for an actor to be gay? I mean, it’s OK now.

Heath was always somebody who I admired. He was way beyond his years as a human, in a way. I wasn’t quite sure where he came from. I mean, I know he’s from Perth, but I wasn’t really quite sure where he came from, and I think that’s the feeling most people got when they were around him and why he was so extraordinary.”
 
I actually do agree with Gyllenhaal. Even though I would never minimize all the hard work that went on behind the scenes with court cases and constant, endless battles for equality that most straight people don’t know about, little films from the straight community like Brokeback Mountain did help when it came to educating the mainstream. It brought the topic up front and out in the open for the first time while everything else was going on behind the scenes and while all the hard work for real equality was actually being done.

You can check that out here.  

Fangsters: Book 2


Gang Bang Fangsters



KDP Exclusives; Ricky Martin’s Wedding; Story Competition

KDP Exclusives

I wrote in the post right before this one that I have a Christmas novella, The Littlest Christmas Tree, up for free as a thank you to readers. Unfortunately, on Amazon the book will still be .99 because Amazon doesn’t give any other options with the KDP lending program. In other words, if I were to opt into the KDP lending program and I were to put the book up for free it would only be free for five days on Amazon, I would have to sign a three month exclusive with Amazon, and I wouldn’t be allowed to put the book up for free anywhere else for three months. If I were to violate this I would be in breach of contract. So I opted out of the KDP lending program this time because I want the book up for free for the holidays in as many venues as possible for as long and I as the publisher and author want to do this, and I don’t want to wait three months. The KDP lending program can be beneficial to everyone sometimes, but not always. This is one of those times I wish things were different, but it is what it is.

Amazon link here.

Side note: This is why I try to guide readers to smaller web sites where e-books are sold, and to publisher web sites.

As a big thank you to Amazon and KDP lending rules and exclusives (I HATE exclusives of any kind), I’ve asked Tony to also put another one of my previous Christmas novels up for free as well. I’ll post more details when I get them.

Story Competition

I read about a short story competition earlier today that will benefit people with autism. I like these competitions because they motivate writers to do things they normally wouldn’t do unless they were under contract with a publisher. Sometimes we need something as a motivational tool. This is a good example. You can read more here.

This Short Story competition is an amazing opportunity for new undiscovered writing talent to pursue their dreams of publication and contribute to a great cause.

All entrants will have their work judged by the internationally acclaimed authors Colin Bateman, Declan Burke, Lucille Redmond and Nathan Bransford

 Ricky Martin’s Wedding

I have to smile when I read articles like this because they refer to Ricky Martin’s longtime partner, Carlos Gonzalez, as his “beau”…as if Martin and Gonzalez have been dating all this time. It’s the hetero norm most straights don’t get about gay couples, especially now that gay marriage is becoming legal in more places. Look at it this way, if Tony and I were to say we’ve been engaged for twenty-one years wouldn’t that sound a little stupid? Tony’s not my “beau” and I’m not his. Our “beau” days ended during the Clinton administration. And until things balance out and gay dating and engagements even up with straight couples I think words should be chosen with care.

So Martin is not marrying his longtime “beau.” He’s marrying his longtime partner to make an established relationship/marriage legal because he didn’t have an opportunity to do that before.

This is where Ricky Martin would like to get married.

“I would get married,” he told King, according to Pink News. “There are many countries around the world where same-sex marriage is a right… yes, we could go to Spain and get married. We can go to Argentina and get married. But why do we have to go somewhere else? Why can’t I do it in my country where the laws are — you know, protecting me?”
 
Martin and Gonzalez, like Tony and me, can’t marry in the place where we live because Puerto Rico and the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania don’t recognize same sex marriage. That’s why we’re scheduled to get married this January in Vermont…not in Pennsylvania.
 
Side note two: The comment section in this article has something interesting I’ve never seen before. Evidently, Huff Po is trying to promote more civil discussion. In order to do this you have to link to a facebook account and verify. I wonder how many Huff Po users have FB accounts. Frankly, I’d never bother because I don’t like to mingle FB and Huff Po. This is what it says:
 

Review: Lethal Obsession Deserted

Review: Lethal Obsession Deserted

http://www.amazon.com/Lethal-Obsession-Deserted-Michele-Montgomery-ebook/dp/B00G799HX4/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1386116493&sr=8-1-spell&keywords=Michele+Montgomery+Lethal+Obsession+desserted

I love any book that begins with an acknowledgement to Glenfidditch, however, that was only the beginning with this one. Lucca is a lonely, arrogant, rebellious young man who seems to crave attention from his family. However, due to this lack of attention from family he winds up finding it in a few questionable places. Almost as if he’s daring himself to see how far he will go. And in the same respect, his self-destructive nature could also be described as vengeance toward his family. His only consolation in Italy is his mentor, Sal, who sometimes seems too nice for a young man who needs more guidance. The first chapter moves fast, and the the story really begins when Lucca asks Sal to take him to America. Only that makes life more complicated, and it changes Lucca in ways he couldn’t have predicted.

Lucca becomes obsessed with the idea that he needs to be worth something to someone, which is almost a direct quote from the story. And in order to prove his worth, and to prove how determined he is, he stuns his family with something they never saw coming and disappears into the world of BDSM in Denver, CO, with his friend, Marcello. When the family realizes he’s gone, Carl, from the prologue, enters the picture through friends of friends and he reluctantly begins a search for Lucca. But Carl also has a story of his own:  Carl opened the door and stopped for a moment to process the feeling that hit him every time he entered the club, the feeling that he’d just tumbled down the rabbit hole and into a sexual wonderland. And at this point in the book I would be remiss if I didn’t mention how well the subject of BDSM is handled. There’s nothing too graphic, but it’s the concept that is treated with respect to those who are into the scene, which I found interesting as a bystander who isn’t into BDSM. I don’t see that often in BDSM books.

In the meantime, Lucca and Marcello form a closer bond because of their circumstances and I often felt as if Lucca feels responsible for Marcello. From there, the BDSM scene continues in more interesting ways I’d rather not say to avoid spoilers. Marcello is not as savvy or articulate as Lucca, and he becomes a liability Lucca’s not sure he’s willing to deal with. As the character of Carl is explained in more detail, we see him as a stronger, almost stubborn man who is determined to get what he wants and we’re not certain about him just yet. All we know is he wants to find Lucca.

In some scenes that follow, the BDSM world is shown to be a sometimes dangerous place for young men who aren’t as careful as they should be. Marcello discovers this after a particularly bad scene he does because he needs the money. This is when we see a stronger side of Lucca as he convinces Marcello to go home. In the same respect, he refuses to go himself in spite of the things he knows he must do to survive. Then Carl enters the picture again and ignores his own feelings because he’s promised Lucca’s parents he would bring him home again. He then becomes a counselor, or guardian of sorts and tries to convince Lucca his family really cares about him.

What happens after this is a surprise. In fact, like with most of Michele Montgomery’s books, there are a few surprises I didn’t expect and I don’t want to spoil them for the reader. From a more technical POV, the book is written well, with careful attention to detail and it’s not overwritten. I speak and read book Italian, but I think it’s important to mention this for those who don’t. The dialogue constantly moves the story forward and that’s interesting because part of the book is set in Italy and the characters are Italian. However, this is handled very professionally, without words and phrases…or colloquialisms…that stop the story, or that the average reader might not understand. We know they are Italian and the book continues in English so it will move forward. It’s a clever trick most seasoned novelists understand. And not one that’s easily obtained. Montgomery has a way of drawing the reader into the story with dialogue in all her books, but I found this one especially well-executed.

I would recommend this book to anyone for several reasons. One, because it’s so well-written. And two, because even if you aren’t into the BDSM scene it’s interesting to read about them in a book like this that’s more focused on love, emotion, rebellion, and the kind of relationships that grow from some underlying connection that’s not always visible, but is there all the time. And once again, I’ll take these characters with me for a long time.

To read more and purchase the book, click the photo above which is a link to Amazon.