Music Celebrating Gay "Married" Long-time Seniors; Chadwick Moore and Tucker Carlson; 9 Eligible Gay Bachelors

Music Celebrating Gay Long-time “Married” Seniors

This article I’m linking to is titled, New Music Video Celebrates Seniors In Long-Term Relationships, and that bothered me. Maybe I’m being too OCD about this, but I changed my title to gay married seniors. And that’s because I know a lot of gay seniors who have been together for years who just got legally married, but they all considered themselves “married” prior to the legalization of same sex marriage. And I’m tired of that old time term “long-term relationship.” We’re allowed to get married now. They could have at least put “married” in quotes.

I think the main reason why I feel this way is because I recently lost a very good friend to cancer. It happened fast. He was diagnosed in late November, started chemo in December, and was gone by the week before Christmas. That fast. And he was only 65. When I read his obituary it stunned me a little to see that someone had written that he and his “life partner” had been together for 35 years. They were married. I sent them flowers, and I know for certain they were married. They were husband and husband. So why didn’t it say that he and his “husband” were together for 35 years?

In any event, I see this a lot in the gay community and I just don’t understand it. I don’t think I know any gay couples who have been together for years who haven’t gotten legally married. But here’s a video that does celebrate gay couples who’ve been together for the long run.

 That changed Tuesday morning, when LA-based songwriter Tom Goss released his new video for “More Than Temporary,” a reverb-drenched ballad that abandons subtly in favor of unabashed sentimentality.

You can check that out here. It’s a great video. Someone left a great comment at the bottom.

Chadwick Moore and Tucker Carlson

I hate posting these things because I don’t like pundits of any kind. But it’s news, and it’s out there. I know people on social media who might find it interesting. But more important, I don’t want to be that gay person who is incapable of being tolerant of everyone’s opinion, and who goes on vituperative rants screaming intolerance. Objectivity is important in life. Without any objectivity at all, the best we could ever hope for would be idiocy.

In any event, here’s one of the things Moore said…

The other thing I see a lot is gay presses writing articles about gay men getting caught with “married” men. The implication is that the “married” man is hetero and he’s married to a woman. They never take into consideration that WE can get married now, too.

You can read the rest here. Oh, there are comments, you can be sure.

9 Eligible Gay Bachelors

This is nice to see. They’re using the word bachelor to describe gay men now…as in gay bachelor, not straight unmarried men.

And look who made the list…

(Colton) Haynes outed himself in 2016, and since then, one of the hottest men on TV has become a lust object for, well, pretty much everyone. His sincere social media posts don’t hurt his appeal either. The star of popular shows like Teen Wolf and Arrow, Haynes’ began his career as a model for the obvious reasons. He recently purchased a gorgeous pad in the Hollywood Hills, igniting media speculation that the actor might have a more serious relationship on the horizon. Though recently more forthright about his personal life, Haynes still prefers to keep his dating life more private, though he did recently add that since coming out, he feels the happiest he ever has.

You can check the rest out here.


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Republican Governor In Mass Signs Trans Rights Bill; John Barrowman and Threats In Montreal; High School Basketball Coach Secretly Films Dudes Showering

Republican Governor In Mass Signs Trans Rights Bill

Republican Governor Charlie Baker of Massachusetts recently signed a pro trans rights bill that will help stop LGBT discrimination.

‘No one should be discriminated against in Massachusetts because of their gender identity,’ Baker, a Republican, said in a statement.

The Massachusetts House of Representatives passed the bill last month after a version had already been passed by the State Senate. 

There’s more here.

There are only two comments, both seem to be spam bots.

John Barrowman and Threats In Montreal

Evidently, John Barrowman canceled an event planned for today in Montreal and they’re blaming it on an “unspecified” threat.

‘This morning an email was sent that directly referenced me and in light of recent events, I’ve decided to take the advice of my management, and family, as they were concerned for my safety,’ the out actor wrote on Facebook.

‘We are working with the convention to arrange for security that not only keeps me safe, but also all of you who come to see me,’ he continued. ‘I’m really sorry I have had to cancel my panel, and photo ops, this weekend. I will be signing later today once security has been arranged. Please check with the promoter, and social media, for updates on where and when I will be signing.’ 

You can read the rest here. I rarely mention it, but the main reason why I use comment moderation is because of threats I’ve received. They don’t bother me too much anymore. I’m used to it. But I don’t want my readers to be distressed with things like that. It’s just not a positive thing to see, so I keep it to myself.

We travel up to northern Vermont a few times a year, which is on the US/Canada border, and it’s only miles from Montreal. It seems like the safest place in the universe to me.  

High School Basketball Coach Secretly Films Dudes Showering

This is pretty creepy.

 A high school boys’ basketball coach has been charged for filming players on the team taking showers in the locker room.

Zachary Patrick Roberts, 28, who was a coach at the Janesville-Waldorf-Pemberton High School in Minnesota is facing multiple charges for his alleged use of a pen-camera to record naked boys in the school’s locker room.

Here’s the rest. I hate to see kids being used and exploited this way.

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Gay Log Cabin and Trump; Gay Woman Lost Her Music Career; Vintage Men In Loin Cloths

Gay Log Cabin and Trump

For those who might not know, the Log Cabin is a political organization for LGBT people that supports Republicans. It’s been around for a long time. I remember an attorney friend of mine was having fundraisers for Log Cabin events back in the 90s in Philadelphia and in New Hope.  

In any event, here’s what they think of Trump.

‘He will be the most gay-friendly Republican nominee for president ever,’ said Gregory Angelo said, president of the group.

In a separate blog post, however, he questions Trump’s stance on gay marriage, which has been unclear over the course of his presidential campaign.

Angelo writes: ‘All over the place – that’s the only way to describe Donald Trump’s stance on marriage equality.’

You can read the rest here.

Gay Woman Lost Her Music Career

If you’ve ever wondered why celebrities and people who depend on mainstream audiences (even writers and literary agents) don’t come out, here’s a good reason. It’s about what happened to Vicky Beeching after she came out.

Beeching grew up in Kent, England. Raised by a strongly religious family, she began writing songs for her church when just 13.

She enjoyed a successful recording career as a writer and singer of Christian-themed rock and pop, and relocated to the US in her 20s, where she routinely performed in front of thousands in mega-churches across the country.

Then, in 2014, she made the decision to come out. Her announcement sent shock waves through the US Christian community and she received condemning messages from scores of people who had previously been fans of her music.

Here the rest. 

She lost her career and her friends because she came out. It’s a reality only gay people can understand. 

Vintage Men In Loin Clothes

I love these vintage art photos. I think a lot has to do with the photographer, however, I even like the bad ones…because they’re vintage.

Loin cloths. What’s not to love about them? Not only are they sporty and fun and leave little to the imagination, but they’re super practical, keeping a guy both cool and comfortable on hot summer days. If you ask us, there needs to be a movement to bring back the loin cloth. Who’s on board?

You can check them all out here. I think it’s SFW. 


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Gay Christian Rock Star; GOP super PAC Gay Rights; Pregnant Man; Most Transphobic Article Ever;

Gay Christian Rock Star

A gay Christian rock star who recently came out claims she tried all kinds of outrageous things to help cure her of being gay. When you read about some of the hell she put herself through because she thought she was a sinner, you’ll sit there gaping. However, as extreme as this is, I think we can all relate to this in one way or another. If there’s one thing I’ve never seen it’s a gay man or woman who came out with a great big smile and said, “That was so easy.”

It was torture.

Now, Christian musician Vicky Beeching wants her fans to know the truth about who she really is—and perhaps, inspire some to reexamine their convictions.

“I’m gay,” the songstress said. “What Jesus taught was a radical message of welcome and inclusion and love. I feel certain God loves me just the way I am.”

This is the type of thing I’ve been hoping to see happen. Trust me on this, she’s not the only gay Christian and I have feeling we’ll be hearing about a lot more in the future.

You can read more here.



 GOP super PAC Gay Rights

Although I’ve never been political, as a long time blogger I find these things interesting from a human interest POV. Especially these days where I see so much hate coming from both sides of the political spectrum on social media…and it’s not always about LBGTI issues. So when I see an article like this one, a piece that talks about how there’s a GOP super PAC spending time and money to help gay rights issues move forward, I think it’s not only important to post about it as information, but also interesting to examine from a cultural POV. I hear a lot of talk about breaking gay stereotypes and this one sure does it.

 A Republican group tied to hedge fund billionaire Paul Singer plans to spend at least $2 million up to Election Day to boost congressional candidates who share its views in favor of gay rights.

This is interesting, too.

“For many years, there’s been a huge fear from Republican elected officials that if they showed courage on issues like this, would they be able to survive politically?” Cook-McCormac said.

“What American Unity PAC is committed to doing is ensuring that as these courageous elected officials follow their conscience and do the right thing, that there is a political network in place that’s there to defend them.”

As I said, I’m not very political and I don’t know where something like this will lead. But I’m not all that shocked to read about it either. I know more than a few LGBTI Republicans…all closeted Republicans (out as gays) and terrified to actually admit it aloud for fear of the backlash they might have to deal with from others in the LGBTI community.

Not only are we living in interesting times, the times continue to change when we least expect them to.

You can read more here. Are they using us…the gay vote? I’m not sure about that yet. Breaking stereotypes about the gay vote hasn’t been discussed anywhere yet as far as I know.

Pregnant Man

The world’s first pregnant man is now allowed to divorce his wife. Prior to that, another ruling stated he was in a same sex marriage and couldn’t file for divorce. A judge stated that because he was a trans man and able to give birth he was in a same sex union, which are banned in Arizona.

Then this happened:

However, a three-judge panel of the Arizona Court of Appeals overturned the decision, concluding that Beatie’s marriage was not a same-sex union and is thus considered valid in the state.
 
David Michael Cantor, Beatie’s attorney, welcomed the decision, saying: ’The state of Arizona has officially recognised him as a man and that his marriage was valid, and because his marriage was valid, his kids were born in wedlock, which is important to him.

You can read more here. He obviously identifies as a man, and lives his life as a man. Good for him. But I’m now wondering if this means that all trans people who marry non-trans people of the opposite sex will be considered legally married? Feel free to comment on this one…or e-mail me in private.

Most Transphobic Article Ever

I hate to see that transgender people are having such hard times these days, but I’m also glad these issues are at least making news. Up until recently, anything trans related would have been ignored…or at best, buried. In this case the link is talking about Gavin McInnes and his alleged transphobic article pubbed on Thought Catalogue.

McInnes, who also co-founded online magazine Vice, wrote a piece entitled ‘Transphobia is Perfectly Natural’, in which he justifies bigotry against the trans community by claiming tolerance is ‘sexist, misandrist, homophobic, and further damages the lives of the mentally ill.’

 In the article, he says: ‘Of course it’s fucking unusual. We’re all transphobic… They are mentally ill gays who need help, and that help doesn’t include being maimed by physicians. These aren’t women trapped in a man’s body. They are nuts trapped in a crazy person’s body.

You can read more here. The article is being referred to as the most transphobic piece ever written. It’s probably one of the worst I’ve ever seen, and I’ve seen a lot from more than one wing nut like McInnes. I hope no one pays attention to him.

As a result, McInnes has left Rooster in what’s being called an indefinite leave of absence.

The Sheriff and the Outlaw
 
by Ryan Field
 
 
 


Republican & Gay Marriage; Hollywood Fails Gays; Nelsan Ellis Slams Luke Grimes

Republican & Gay Marriage

David Jolly is a freshman in the US House of Representatives from Florida and he’s publicly supporting gay marriage. He’s also a Republican, which for some reason this article seems to find fascinating.

‘I believe it is fully appropriate for a state to recognize both traditional marriage as well as same-sex marriage,’ Jolly, 41, said this week as he spoke about a recent judicial ruling that made same-sex marriage legal in Florida’s Monroe County.

 ‘ … As a matter of Constitutional principle, I believe in a form of limited government that protects personal liberty,’ Jolly said. ‘To me, that means that the sanctity of one’s marriage should be defined by their faith and by their church, not by their state.’

You can read more here, where there’s an interesting note about Jolly’s personal life.

I’m not really surprised at the tone of this article. It seems to suggest that all Republicans are anti-gay and anti-gay marriage and I think that’s because it’s not from a US publication. The fact is that there are gay Republicans and Republicans who do support gay marriage, and it’s more common than most would imagine. In recent years many Americans from both parties have felt the need to go silent with regard to politics because they fear backlash from the loudest voices/bullies from both extremes. I think that’s going to come to an end in the future.

Hollywood Fails Gays

Speaking of loud left wing liberal politics, the irony of this next link is interesting because it claims that ultra pro-gay Hollywood has failed in the way it portrays gays in films. The survey was done by GLAAD. They covered the seven largest studios in 2013. There were 102 releases, and only 17 LGBTI characters. According to this survey, not one gay character was a lead. As a side note, I often look at Tony while I’m scrolling through on demand and wonder why there is only one gay film, hidden in the indie section, that I had to find out about on social media. And it’s usually not a very good film.

‘The lack of substantial LGBT characters in mainstream film, in addition to the outdated humor and stereotypes suggests large Hollywood studios may be doing more harm than good when it comes to worldwide understanding of the LGBT community,’ said GLAAD’s CEO and President Sarah Kate Ellis.

 ‘These studios have the eyes and ears of millions of audience members, and should reflect the true fabric of our society rather than feed into the hatred and prejudice against LGBT people too often seen around the globe.’

I’ve been saying basically the same thing since I started blogging. This is one reason why I sometimes parody heteronormative films in books, with gay characters. Time and again, it’s fail, fail, fail for Hollywood. And if they do get it right, they fail in other ways…like Matt Damon joking around about how weird it was to kiss a guy (and to get paid quite well to do that). Not all do this. Actors like Trevor Donovan play gay roles, do it well, and with respect. They make it look simple. But unfortunately, Donovan and the others aren’t in the majority.

The same thing could be said about books and the publishing industry, which is one of the main reasons why I have always been pro m/m romance. In the m/m romance genre things aren’t always perfect, but most of the time the authors (and the readers) get it right. I also think this is why the genre continues to grow. But I don’t want to get off topic. This is about films.

You can read more here. The bigger question for me is why do we, as gays (and those who support us), continue to take this? If they aren’t exploiting us for monetary gain, they are examining us as if we’re lab rats. If they aren’t treating us as if we’re pet poodles, they are patronizing us and portraying us as heteronormative clones. And we…I include myself in this because I’m just as guilty…take it each time.

Nelsan Ellis Slams Luke Grimes

Finally, someone is speaking up and not letting “them” get away with it. I’m talking about Nelsan Ellis from True Blood. He plays Lafayette, the gay character on the show that was supposed to have a gay storyline with Luke Grimes this season. I posted about Luke Grimes allegedly quitting when he found out about the impending gay storyline. And now Ellis is speaking about Grimes and the situation for the first time in public.

‘I just think that, you’re an actor, you’re an actor on a show that’s True Blood, we’re all sitting there going, “You quit your job because … really?”

I’m just… I’m over him,’ Ellis tells Vulture. While a spokesman for Grimes said the departure was over the actors’ feature film schedule, HBO has maintained it was over the creative direction of the character. Says Ellis: ‘You quit your job because you don’t want to play a gay part? …

You have to be open. But more importantly, you make a statement when you do something like that.

You can read more of what he has to say with this link.

Stay tuned for Grimes’ reply, which I’m sure will come very soon.

Small Town Romance Writer
 
by Ryan Field

 


James Franco Full Frontal Nudity; Cory Booker Looking For Gay Vote?

James Franco Full Frontal Nudity

Someone sent me this link, and since it’s Labor Day Weekend I thought I would share. Can’t post the photos here on this blog, but the link is safe and it works very well.

Hotness career student, and all around renaissance man James Franco derives many a pleasure from teasing his gay and straight fans alike. We will never forget his Flaunt derriere cover and be forever grateful for it.
 
But this here photo is one of the best-est gift that could be extended to his legions of fans worldwide. See more pics of Franco after the jump!
 
Franco is no stranger to nudity on screen – Milk pool scene immediately jumps to mind – but full frontal has alluded all of us waiting for the final frontier to be showcased. Some lucky shutter-bug, however, apparently caught this very missing link while Franco aired out his family jewels on some beach, reaping the benefits some of us would pay a hefty price to witness first hand.
 
This photo actually supports one of my theories about male full frontal nudity in films, and with well known actors. It’s obvious James Franco has nothing to hide, but this could be the reason why we don’t see more full frontal nudity with male actors. I know they can make it look real with stand-ins. However, no man wants to go there unless it’s absolutely necessary.

Stand-ins are not good for the ego.



Cory Booker Looking For Gay Vote?

There’s been some talk recently about the NJ Democratic candidate running for the Senate, Cory Booker, and whether or not he’s gay. I posted this earlier this week. It was the topic of discussion in a few places I went yesterday. And now it seems he’s being accused of being ambiguous about whether or not he’s gay so he can allegedly snatch up the gay vote.

The Senate campaign of Newark Mayor Cory Booker said his Republican rival was “bigoted” for saying that Booker was “acting ambiguous” in an effort to attract gay votes.

Booker’s team was reacting to comments by Republican Steve Lonegan, a conservative who is trailing badly in polls.

Lonegan, who is known for his blunt style, seemed to raise old rumors that Booker might be gay and told the conservative Newsmax TV that recent Booker comments where he said he doesn’t care if people do think he is gay because “I want to challenge people on their homophobia” were “weird.”

This entire discussion just shows how little the mainstream actually knows about gay men, and how the gay stereotype is perpetuated all the time. It seems to be a given that all gay men are liberal Democrats, as if this is part of their birthright. And just because Cory Booker is a liberal Democrat who gay men “think” might be gay they will run out in droves to the voting booths just for that alone. And that’s just not how it works.

The fact is not all gay men are liberal Democrats. Personally, I’m an independent. Not all gay men vote according to a candidate’s sexuality. If I still lived in New Jersey I probably would vote for Cory Booker. But not because he “could” be gay, or because he’s a Democrat. It’s because I’ve seen what he’s accomplished in the city of Newark and I’d like to see someone in Washington who can get results like that.