Category: gay priests

The Pool Boy and the Priest; Online Porn and Dwindling Sex Drives; Supermarket All Gay Kiss-In Protest

The Pool Boy and the Priest

No. That’s not the title of an erotic gay romance. It’s about a California priest who was allegedly sending sexts to a pool boy.

Monsignor Lawrence McGovern is, er, was the pastor of Presentation Parish. In a sexual harassment complaint filed late last week, the parish’s former pool boy, a married father of two, claims McGovern sent him naughty photos along with a text that read, “Oops. Sorry about that. The curse of the Internet. Shame on me. What is my penance?”

You can read more here.

Don’t tell the Pope.

Online Porn and Dwindling Sex Drives

This  article suggests that men…especially younger men…are ruining their sex drives by being exposed to so much porn regularly.

 If this scenario sounds at all familiar, you’re not alone. A leading psychosexual therapist claims adult entertainment’s abundance and availability is slowly poisoning men’s sex drives, causing a host of heath problems, both physical and psychological.

Here’s the rest. It’s interesting. 

Supermarket All Gay Kiss-In Protest

I understand the point behind protests like this, and I do support them in theory. I just wish they would come up with a better idea sometimes…like hand holding, or hugging. Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe I’m being too conservative for my own good, but I think something as personal as kissing…gay or straight…someone you care about shouldn’t be put on public display. But I get the point. I really do.

Whether battling homophobia, book bans, or frump-a-dump Kim Davis, kissing has proven to be a surprisingly effective form of protest.

Case in point: Saturday’s well-attended “kiss-in” at Sainsburys, a supermarket in London that made headlines last week after one of its security officers told a gay couple that holding hands inside the store was inappropriate.

The rest is here, with visuals.  

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Seminary and Huge Gay Scandal; Bad Advice From Gay Friends; Trailer For Looking Movie

Seminary and Huge Gay Scandal

If you read my newest book, Unabated, (see links below) you’ll see that I get into the topic of gays and the Catholic Church, in fiction. I can’t say how I do that, because that would be a spoiler, but I do get into this subject to a certain extent. I don’t think I did it in a negative way either…or a hateful way.

With that said, here’s another real life scandal about gays and the Catholic Church.

 The announcement of Connolly’s sudden departure comes amidst rumors of an underground gay subculture happening in the seminary. According to The Irish Catholic, an anonymous source told the paper that “seven seminarians and two staff members” have been “involved in inappropriate behavior of a homosexual nature.”

My only comment is that if you’re gay and you’ve been around gay culture long enough, this is nothing new.  The unfortunate thing about it is that there’s still so much shame attached to being gay within the Catholic Church. And that’s painful to see. Someone should tell them.

You can read the rest here.

Bad Advice From Gay Friends

On a much lighter note, I’m always advising people never to take publishing advice, and I think this next article falls into the same category, about not taking advice from friends.

A friend can be a true savior in times of need, offering a fresh perspective on any one of life’s seemingly insurmountable problems. You know they have your best interests at heart, so you can trust that they’re giving you sound advice.

That is, until they tell you the best way to get over an ex is to pop a xanny bar, wash it down with a fifth of tequila and call him to get some closure.

You can check this out here, where there’s a video.

Trailer For Looking Movie 

I sometimes wonder why it takes so long for these things to transpire. It seems as if it’s been ages already since I watched Looking on HBO, and to be honest I’ve moved on. I loved the show. I posted about that here many times. I hated to see it canceled. I thought it represented a segment of gay men very well.

But since that time I’ve dropped my premium cable channels, I’ve started streaming instead, and the world is, indeed, a very different place. I know many people who don’t even deal with cable TV anymore. So I’m not going to run to watch the Looking movie on HBO. As much as I would love to do that, I’m not signing on again to HBO to pay top dollar for one TV show and thousands of bad, old movies.

In any event, for those of you who disagree with me, there’s this.

Good news for fans of the woefully short-lived HBO series Looking. Today, the official trailer for the full-length feature follow-up has been released, and it finds Patrick (Jonathan Groff) returning to San Francisco to find closure and resolution in his relationships with Richie (Raúl Castillo) and Kevin (Russell Tovey), but instead chaffing up against a host of new challenges, old resentments, and boilerplate advice on letting go (i.e, “Sometimes you have to leave everything behind so you can move forward.”)

As I said, I loved this show for many reasons. And I’ll watch the movie if it goes to Netflix…or if I can get it On Demand. But I really wish that some of these TV shows would take into consideration the concept of timing. Seriously. I think the show started well over two years ago. This is more like a Looking reunion than a finale.

You can check this out here.  The comments, as usual, are a little vicious.


The Arrangement 

"Old" Catholic vs Catholic; Gay Marriage Australia; Gay Away Pills

“Old” Catholic vs Catholic

When I owned my gallery I remember a customer mentioning to me her father was a Catholic priest and he was married. I didn’t get it at time and figured she was confused about something. After twelve years of private Catholic schooling, I thought I knew Catholic priests were not allowed to marry. But there was something she left out of her story, something that I didn’t know about “Old” Catholics. I know this isn’t publishing related or even LGBT related, but I think it’s an interesting piece of information most people don’t know. And, there is an LGBT angle as well.

I was researching something last night for a book and stumbled across an article with a gay bishop and something they kept referring to as “Old” Catholic. At first I ignored it, but then it kept coming up with the search and I started reading more about Old Catholic as a religion and I went off on that proverbial tangent and wound up forgetting all about my research. As usual, the best source of information I found that made it easy was at Wiki. I’m not even going to try to explain it because it’s still so new to me.

The term Old Catholic Church originated with groups which separated from the Roman Catholic Church over certain doctrines, primarily concerned with Papal authority. These churches are not in full communion with the Holy See of Rome, but their Union of Utrecht of Old Catholic Churches is in full communion with the Anglican Communion[1] and a member of the World Council of Churches.[2] Nevertheless, according to Roman Catholic teaching, the Old Catholic churches of the Utrecht Union have maintained apostolic succession and valid (albeit illicit) sacraments. The formation of the Old Catholic communion of Germans, Austrians and Swiss began in 1870 at a public meeting held in Nuremberg under the leadership of Ignaz von Döllinger, following the First Vatican Council. Four years later episcopal succession was established with the consecration of an Old Catholic German bishop by a prelate of the Church of Utrecht. In line with the “Declaration of Utrecht” of 1889, they accept the first seven ecumenical councils and doctrine formulated before 1054, but reject communion with the pope and a number of other Roman Catholic doctrines and practices. The Oxford Dictionary of the Christian Church notes that since 1925 they have recognized Anglican ordinations, that they have had full communion with the Church of England since 1932 and have taken part in the ordination of Anglican bishops.

You can read more here at wiki.

There’s a web site,, that says this:

The Old Catholic Church of America in expression of its global mission to preach the word of Jesus Christ as a Catholic and Apostolic Church welcomes all people, regardless of life situation, as children of God and seeks to love and serve the Christ in one another. We are committed to building supportive and loving communities of faith as guided by the Holy Spirit.

We will provide to our developing communities of faith, leadership, training, evangelization and pastoral care, for the facilitating of ministry within the community and its outreach to others.

As far as I can tell, you can be gay and become a priest, or even a bishop, if you are “Old” Catholic. According to this article, however, most traditional Catholics do not recognize “Old” Catholics or even take them seriously. And this article mentions that unless it were an absolute emergency, a Catholic would never receive sacraments from an “Old” Catholic priest.

If anyone has anything to add to this, feel free.

Gay Marriage Australia

In a not so uplifting story I read this morning, it seems that a high court struck down same-sex marriage laws in Australia yesterday and gay marriages that have been performed are now invalid.

Around 20 gay couples had tied the knot since December 7, when Australia’s first same-sex marriage laws came into force in the Australian Capital Territory (ACT). The first ceremonies were celebrated a minute after midnight (8 a.m. ET Friday).

Aside from the obvious sadness and frustration I feel for those in Australia, and for those who were recently married only to be stabbed in the back by this high court, I’ve posted about how these things can be tricky and how legislation must be written carefully so same-sex marriage laws can’t be challenged and overturned. In other words, before we start jumping up and down and celebrating with woots and cheers all over social media, we need to know we’re going to be safe for the long term. In Australia the conservatives challenged the law based on the grounds that it conflicted with federal law. They won. It happens all the time. In this post I wrote about gay marriage in Hawaii, I mentioned Jo Jordon, a lesbian representative in Hawaii, who wasn’t all that ready to rush into legalizing gay marriage in Hawaii without writing up solid legislation.

Jordon said this:

“I’m not here to protect the big churches or the little churches, I’m saying we can’t erode what’s currently out there. We don’t want to scratch at the religious protections at all, because if we don’t create a measure that’s bulletproof, or as close to bulletproof as possible, then the measure will go to the courts. And they will interpret it however that may be. A judge will make assumptions and make a ruling, and that will become the law of the land. So you really want us to create the legislation.”
I have to admit that I’m no expert in this department. But in the same respect I have seen gay marriage legalized before, and then made illegal once again thanks to a snag, weak legislation, and a different judge. I’d rather not see this happen again.

In any event, same-sex marriage is a complicated issue and I hate to see things move backward like they did in Australia.

You can read more about what happened in Australia here.

Gay Away Pills

This I don’t think was ever meant to be taken seriously by any means. But a novelty store in Canada was selling what were called Gay Away pills…pills to cure people from being gay…and they were removed from the shelves after a number of complaints.

The packaging for the ‘new extra strength’ pills states that they ‘stop the craving for misbehaving,’ and that Gay Away ‘cures gayness’ and are ‘for real fruit cakes.’

Instructions on the back of the packet state ‘just two pills a day will have you off the stick and in the bush in a matter of weeks.’

People took this very seriously. You can read more here.

My only comment here is to authors: watch what you write nowadays. Watch every single word and line. There’s no such thing as a sense of humor anymore in these politically correct days of “yummy, lol, OMG” social media updates.

Hollywood’s Well-Endowed Men; Checking Testicles; Catholic Priest’s Double Life

Hollywood’s Well-Endowed Men

Of course this won’t change any one’s life one way or another, but it’s a little trivia I found interesting and thought I would share. This is allegedly a list of Hollywood’s most well-endowed actors, and some of the names might surprise you. This one, below, didn’t actually surprise me. I could have guessed. There’s just something about him. And, in his case size doesn’t really matter anyway.

When Owen Wilson and his buddy Woody Harrelson traveled to Peru together, paparazzi managed to snap photos of them bathing in an irrigation ditch wearing nothing but their boxers. Owen’s sopping wet underwear left little to the imagination and showed off the size of his equipment. Maybe these two should swap names?

You can read more here.

Checking Testicles

Here’s a link to an article I saw last night about rugby players who are taking testicular cancer seriously and doing something about it. This is a highly significant disease for men, and I personally know someone who had to deal with it about twenty years ago. Because he caught it fast enough, he’s still here today.

In an effort to raise money for the Balls to Cancer charity, these hunky athletes dropped their pants in a Maverick TV segment to demonstrate how screening for testicular cancer is really done, utilizing everything from compact mirrors to an ultrasound system.

Side note: someone pointed out to me they aren’t really rugby players. I don’t know and I’m not researching it for the post. The point of the post…and what these guys are doing…is to make men more aware of testicular cancer, not sports.

Catholic Priest’s Double Life

The next article discusses a Catholic priest who has been living a double life, and he finally admitted it openly. In this case, he was married to a woman in secret. He’s not gay. However, when he admitted his double life, he admitted a lot more that the church doesn’t like to acknowledge.

Following his televised revelations – and his plans to expand on them in a forthcoming book – he has been removed from his position and has since been excommunicated.

Fr Lee, a priest for 20 years, said he made little effort to keep his relationship under wraps after he met Josephina in the Philippines and married her in secret.

He said: ‘People in the hierarchy probably knew or were prepared to turn a blind eye.’

He’s also writing a book, and claims that the church knows there are more priests like him, and many are living double lives. A spokesperson from the church denied this claim.

This is a topic I’ve been thinking about lately for personal reasons. Tony and I recently discovered that friends we knew very well about eighteen years ago are/were both Catholic priests living a double life right here in New Hope. And one is/was a bishop, the other a monsignor. We only found out by accident because they recently listed their home for sale and we were curious to see how much they listed it for because we’ve been thinking about listing our home. When we did a *public* search we noticed completely different names for these people who at one time had been very close friends. And when we did a second search with their real names, we discovered the truth about them and the double lives they’ve been living right in our own proverbial backyard all these years. In this case, both bishop and monsignor are gay, there is proof all over the Internet of their double lives, and there are even photos of them giving out communion and posing in clerics. I could write about this in a book.

It’s a difficult topic to write about because I still feel duped and insulted. To think that you know people so well, on a personal basis where you spend holidays and birthdays, and then you find out they’ve been lying to you all that time isn’t easy to swallow. In fact, it’s downright creepy.