Category: gay pride

Nude Male Celebrities; Anna Paquin Proud Bisexual Mom; Small Sexy Men; Call For Nude Male Photos

Nude Male Celebrities

I think I might have interviewed this blogger about ten years ago for bestgayblogs.com, but can’t find a link anywhere. When BGB was sold to another start up a lot of the archives disappeared. In any event, Alan Ilagan is an openly gay photographer, a gallery manager, a blogger, and has many other talents. I especially love what he wrote in his bio about children:

From 2008 through 2012, Ilagan was the Gallery Manager at the Romaine Brooks Gallery at the Pride Center of the Capital Region in Albany, NY. In 2008 he was voted “Best Dressed Man in the Capital Region” by the readers of the Times Union. He has lived with his partner Andy since 2000. They were married in Boston, MA in May 2010, and remain happily unburdened by children.

We’re not all heteronormative…yet. Some of us still believe dinner should never begin before nine at night and brunch is somewhere around two or three in the afternoon.

Ilagan’s web site is interesting in many ways. He mentions a few iconic gay venues like the Hotel Chelsea in New York, with an amazing commentary that captures exactly what the hotel has always been about. I think it’s interesting that so many who claim to know so much about gay men have never even heard of the Hotel Chelsea.

I find the entire web site not only professional and artistic, but a level above most of the web sites similar to it that are out there. In fact, it’s one of a small handful of web sites where you can find a section devoted to elegant nude photos of male celebrities. You can check that out here.

And there is a great deal more to read and view. It’s one of the places where I go when I need to feel gay again. That might not make much sense to most people reading this. But I think a lot of gay men would agree with me, especially these days.

Anna Paquin Proud Bisexual Mom

Anna Paquin of True Blood recently tweeted that she’s proud to be a married bisexual mom in support of pride month. She’s married to a man, another True Blood co-star, Stephen Moyer but has been openly bisexual since 2010.

She’s made some excellent comments about bisexuality that I think more people need to read.

‘I’m sure for some people saying they’re bisexual feels less scary than making a statement that they’re gay,’ she told Zooey magazine. ‘For me, it’s not really an issue because I’m someone who believes being bisexual is actually a thing.’

‘It’s not made up,’ she added. ‘It’s not a lack of decision. It’s not being greedy or numerous other ignorant things I’ve heard at this point. … For a bisexual, it’s not about gender. That’s not the deciding factor for who they’re attracted to.’

There are so many misconceptions about bisexuals. I know someone who thought his son was bisexual when his son came out of the closet and told him he was gay. This guy wanted his son to be bisexual, as if it would make it better in some way. And that’s just not how it works.

You can read more here.

Small Sexy Men

Even though I’m six feet two inches tall, I’ve never really considered height to be a factor with regard to other men. Or whether or not height makes men sexy. But I know guys who are very self-conscious about their height and maybe this article will put some of their worries to rest.

There’s a list of 21 men who don’t make the tall cut, but each one easily could get multiple phone numbers in any gay bar on planet Earth. Probably in other worlds also.

The ranking includes people like Zac Efron, Daniel Radcliffe, Usher, Aziz Ansari, Bruno Mars, and James McAvoy.

There are photos and you can read more here.

Just in case you haven’t seen it, here’s a link to a nude photo of Daniel Radcliffe. And there’s NOTHING small about him in THAT photo. Check out the one with the horse. It brings new meaning to the old phrase that my worst straight critics would shun: horse hung.

Call for Nude Male Photos

If any guys out there have any tasteful nude photos of themselves they would like to share here please contact me in private. I can’t post any photos here without permission in writing. But if you’d like to share with permission I’d be more than happy to post them. I will protect anyone’s identity and discretion is something I take seriously. Or, if you’re promoting yourself that’s fine, too.

Contact me here: rfieldj@aol.com 

RuPaul’s Transphobic? Modern Family is Poison? Boy Scouts Fire Troop Leader

RuPaul’s Transphobic?

Update Below

There are so many new politically correct words, terms, and phrases these days that when I key in words like transphobic I get a spell-check alert on some devices and not on others. Even computers are confused. And I think this article that talks about RuPaul’s TV show coming under fire for using “transphobic” terms is a good example of the way many of us wonder whether or not we’re using the right terms these days. Even the most innocent slip-up, never meant to harm anyone, seems to get the most aggressive zealots on the fringes of society up in arms and I think a lot of us are getting tired of dealing with it. In this particular case, the terms “Female of She-Male” were used on RuPaul’s Drag Race and RuPaul has issued a statement in defense.

“We delight in celebrating every color in the LGBT rainbow,” RuPaul Charles, Fenton Bailey, Randy Barbato, Tom Campbell, Steven Corfe and Mandy Salangsang said in the statement. “When it comes to the movement of our trans sisters and trans brothers, we are newly sensitized and more committed than ever to help spread love, acceptance and understanding.”

I think the key word in RuPaul’s statement is “sensitized.” I’ve posted about drag culture in the past several times and how the word “tranny” often comes under fire. I don’t use it, but it’s actually very common in some places with LGBTI people. This could be generational. It could be many things. And until we all understand which terms and phrases are correct I think the zealots should back up a little and try to educate us instead of slam us. No one’s perfect. And intent is always the most important factor with anything like this.

You can read more here.

Modern Family is Poison?

I’ve always had the feeling it would only be a matter of time before TV show, Modern Family, came under fire. Bryan Fischer of the American Family Association is making claims now that the show is “poison” and it gives convoluted impressions of what he thinks family life should be all about.

Modern Family,” Fischer said, is “designed to make you think that same-sex households are wonderful” and “the optimum nurturing environment for children,” which depicting heterosexual marriage as “bondage, dreary,” and “gloomy.”

I’ve only watched Modern Family a few times, and I never thought it portrayed heterosexual marriage as dreary. In fact, the main reason I don’t watch is because I often think they make gay marriage look too heternormative in a stereotypical way. But I don’t think that’s poisonous.

Fischer also said this:

Watching the show, he added, was “like getting a little bit of poison over a long period of time, eventually getting enough accumulation in there where it can be kind of lethal to the organism.”

He then concluded, “People are just watching TV to be entertained, not realizing that their view of life is being twisted in a way that’s very harmful to them and harmful to our culture.”

Now that’s an interesting spin on something harmless. Last I heard Modern Family wasn’t forcing an agenda on anyone. What they’re doing is portraying the way thousands of gay married couples are living right now, and have been living for a long time. I know Tony and I didn’t need Modern Family to teach us how to be a gay married couple. In fact, there are a few things I could teach Modern Family.

Fischer needs to rethink this argument a little more, and learn more about gay people and gay marriages. He doesn’t sound credible. He’s also highly underestimating the viewing public and not giving them enough credit.

You can read more here.

Boy Scouts Fire Troop Leader

Update: Here’s another article on this topic I found interesting because I still don’t feel as if I have the entire story. It sounds as if the troop leader was fired because he was gay (if he was that’s just wrong), however, if you read between the lines it doesn’t all parse. Was he fired because he was gay or because he couldn’t keep his political activism separate from the scouts? I think there should be a distinction clearly made.

This is one of those things that makes me wonder. The article seems to be saying that openly gay troop leader, Geoff McGrath, was fired because he’s gay and was promoting the “gay agenda.” It also goes on to mention that McGrath took his troop to a gay pride last June and they marched, carried flags, and promoted the scouts at gay pride. They allegedly fired McGrath because they didn’t think this was appropriate…that he mixed his politics in with the scouts.

McGrath, who is a software developer by day, said: ‘They are complaining that the problem [his homosexuality] is a distraction to Scouting and they don’t seem to understand the distraction is self-inflicted’.

 Officials said they did not ask the scout leader about his sexuality when he applied to set up the new troop, known as Troop 98, because it is against their policy, but said they took action once they found out.

‘It was then that we became aware of his intentions to make a public statement about his orientation and use our program as a means to further a personal agenda,’ Sharon Moulds, from the BSA, said in an email.

Deron Smith, another spokesman for BSA, added: ‘Our policy is that we do not ask people about their sexual orientation, and it’s not an issue until they deliberately inject it into scouting in an inappropriate fashion.’

I wonder if McGrath would have been fired if he’d been gay and just like other hetero troop leaders who are not political activists of any kind. Just a regular guy who happens to be gay but without a label who wants to be a troop leader who knows when to separate his politics from things related to scouting. In other words, if I had a kid in the scouts and that kid was taken to ANY event other than something related to scouting I’m not sure I would have appreciated McGrath putting my kid into an activist situation. If a troop leader were to take a kid of mine to ANY political event that’s geared toward ANY kind of activism I would have hit the roof and pulled my kid out of the troop.

So I just have to wonder about this one, and whether or not McGrath overstepped his boundaries this time by interjecting his activist politics into a group that isn’t supposed to be political at all. I’m well aware of the issues with boy scouts being anti-gay. And I’ve never been a huge fan of them for this reason. But what McGrath did is not something I would have done, and I don’t think gay pride is appropriate for everyone in this case. I’m not even fond of these gay pride events myself because when they aren’t capitalizing for profit they are pushing political agendas that have nothing to do with equality or discrimination. More often than not they bully, and I’m starting to think we should all be re-thinking gay pride as it stands. The people doing most of the work now are fighting the issues in court.

You can read more here. I wish there was more information that would answer some of the questions I have, but like most news pieces these days this one seems to have a slant, too.


First Gay Weddings in Maine…

In a history making event, the first same sex couples gathered in Maine to exchange vows this weekend. It’s significant in the sense that all these couples were finally allowed to have their relationships validated legally in Maine, and also because it’s one step closer to same sex marriage on a federal level.

There’s also an emotional factor here as well. And unless you’ve been in a long term same sex relationship and you’ve gone the proverbial distance, you can’t even begin to imagine how something like this works psychologically. You might think you can, but you really can’t know unless you’ve experienced not being allowed to legally marry. Being able to legally marry for gay couples is like they’ve finally stopped punishing you for that crime you never committed in the first place.

Arriving in a limo, Donna Galluzzo and Lisa Gorney had all the trappings of a traditional wedding: Rings, flowers, wedding vows, an entourage and a friend to officiate.

With tears in their eyes, they were among the first gay couples to exchange wedding vows early Saturday morning after Maine’s same-sex marriage law went into effect at midnight.

“We’re paving the way for people to go after us. I think it’s just amazing. It’s freeing. It’s what’s right,” an emotionally drained Gorney said after their ceremony in front of City Hall.

Of course here in Pennsylvania same sex couples aren’t allowed to get married, and the couples who were allowed to marry in Maine are still facing obstacles like inheritance taxes, benefits, and other legal issues because same sex marriage is not legal on a federal level. In an ironic twist, same sex couples who aren’t legally allowed to marry face injustices when it comes to divorce, too. (More to follow on the divorce issue soon.) In other words, to make this clear, if the couples who were married in Maine…or any other state where gay marriage is legal…come to visit Tony and me in Pennsylvania they would not be considered legally married. And that’s what “state by state” means in a general sense.

But at least it seems we’re moving forward. After the most recent elections in this country, I’ve stopped hoping that a President or one particular leader (and I use the term leader loosely) is going to do anything about recognizing same sex marriage federally. When it does happen (and it will) it’s going to have to be a collective effort that involves many people. And what happened in Maine this weekend is one more step in that direction.

You can read more here.

Photo: Falln-Stock Deviantart.com    (Huge thanks to photographer for taking such cool pics!)  



How Tony and I Spent June as Pride Month…


First weekend: we put on lipstick, earrings, and high heels. Then skirts and camisoles. After that, we both grabbed a picnic basket, a rainbow flag, and skipped over to our local m/m romance learning center for a lecture on what is and what isn’t considered “Gay Literature,” given by a fascinating woman who swears she knows it all when it comes to “Gay Literature.” Oh, by golly gosh, it was an exciting weekend to be sure. On Sunday afternoon, we wound up braiding K.Z. Snow’s hair and painted Cat Johnson’s toenails tipsy pink. (I love them both to death; I’m sure they know I’m only writing in jest.)

But seriously, this is what we really did all month. And take into consideration that we have our own gay pride in our own community that lasts a week in May. So it’s not as if we don’t support gay pride or the historic significance of gay pride as an event. We do have respect for it. We just don’t like to turn it into a promotional event so we keep a low profile. In fact, as an author I make a point of not turning gay pride month…or week or day…into a promotional event for my books. That would be declasse.

The first weekend of June we drove down to Washington to visit a gay couple we’ve known for fifteen years. They’ve been together for twenty years just like we have and we don’t get to see them often. On Saturday evening the four of us went to a fundraiser somewhere in a Washington suburb. After that, we returned to DC and went to clubs on Dupont Circle. For those who have never been to a club there, let’s just say it’s a very revealing experience in a literal sense. In one club, we ran into our high profile politician friend who has a weekend home in New Hope…a gay Democrat, not Republican, who is very much in the closet for personal reasons I respect.

The second weekend in June we drove out to Fire Island to visit my brother, who also happens to be gay. We don’t see each other often unless it’s a family event and we usually plan these things way in advance. I’m not a huge Fire Island fan because I get bored on beaches and I prefer to drive up to restaurants instead of walking to them. But we had fun in spite of my complaints. And trust me, we saw plenty of gay pride on Fire Island. If you haven’t been there, it would be hard to describe on a pg rated blog.

The weekend after that I spent the entire day on Saturday dealing with my home. For the first time in two weeks I had a chance to mow and manicure…which is something I normally do every weekend in the summer unless we’re away. We have three acres of very difficult property. The previous owners wanted a modern home with a limited plant palate and I’ve continued their original landscape design. On Sunday of that weekend we drove to Tony’s dad’s house and spent father’s day with him. I took the day off on Monday that week and we drove to my dad’s and spent a belated father’s day with him.

Yesterday…Saturday…we drove over to Tony’s other sister’s home in Doylestown, PA, for a farewell party the family was throwing for Tony’s younger brother. He and his family are moving out to Utah permanently and we knew it was the last time we would see them for a long time. Very emotional. But I did order (I don’t bake, thank you) a cake with gay pride colors.

And today I worked on my property again.

Next weekend, the last weekend in pride month, June, we’re driving to my other brother’s home in New Jersey to celebrate my nephew’s eighth grade graduation. On Sunday, if we’re lucky, we might just figure out a way to go to tea dance at our local gay bar and spend a little time with gay people.

Of course…aside from braiding K.Z. Snow’s hair…everything I listed above was about as derring-do as a hemorrhoid. But this is what two gay men do when they’ve been together for twenty years. They have professional, social, and family obligations that can’t be ignored. Tony and I both have a great deal of respect for the concept of gay pride as an event, but at this point we are living gay pride every single moment of our lives and we don’t necessarily need an event to remind us.

Gay pride isn’t just a month, a week, or a day for us. Gay pride is a way of life. We don’t use it to promote anything other than pride itself through our actions, and we’ve always been there to offer support both financially and physically to those who need it. The odds are you won’t find us marching in a parade or wearing feathers and rhinestones, but we are…just like the majority of other gay men like us…trying to do it in our own way.

Interesting Facts: Gay Pride


I’ve posted something like this before, but I never seem to get enough of these things. And someone e-mailed me and asked me to post about gay pride again. So I’m doing it now.

I always felt cheated, in a way, because I missed out on all the beginnings of gay pride. For this reason, I rarely ever write about it in fiction. But I’m going to have to rectify this soon. It’s part of the culture and it’s the one time most of us can all come together and be one.

Here’s the link.

Here’s an interesting fact from the link:

The original rainbow flag had eight colors. It included hot pink and turquoise, symbolizing sexuality and art. These colors were taken out later due to production constraints and the need for design symmetry.

Here’s another link about the history of gay pride.

And here’s an excerpt:

After the Stonewall riots in 1969, many LGBT people—even those that did not witness the rebellion—were inspired to contribute to the cause. Gay rights had entered the national spotlight. LGBT people began organizing, protesting and mobilizing. On July 4, 1969, a year after the Stonewall riots, the Mattachine Society along with Frank Kameny, Craig Rodwell, Randy Wicker, Barbara Gittings, Kay Lahusen and many others, picketed in front of Independence Hall in Philadelphia in what was called the Annual Reminder. The protest was quiet and organized to the dismay of Craig Rodwell who felt Frank Kameny and Mattachine’s methods of calm protest were not enough.