Will Hollywood Portray Disabled Gay Characters? Some History on Jeff Sessions; Duck Dynasty Canceled

Will Hollywood Portray Disabled Gay Characters? 

Here’s an interesting piece about gay disabled characters and TV.

According to GLAAD’s 2016 “Where We Are on TV” report, the percentage of series regulars with disabilities this year has risen to 1.7 percent (15 characters), up from last year’s 0.9 percent (eight characters). It is an “amazing” accomplishment, according to Ryan O’Connell, a gay and disabled TV/film writer and author of “I’m Special: And Other Lies We Tell Ourselves,” a memoir based on his life as gay and disabled–but still not enough. 

Well that’s finally something encouraging for a change. I hope it continues. Hollywood doesn’t have the best track record.

You can check out the rest here

Some Disturbing History On Jeff Sessions

I would be remiss if I didn’t post about things like this once in a while. Even though I hate politics myself, I do know that many people are concerned about the future. Unfortunately, this one about Jeff Sessions doesn’t sound too encouraging, and that’s because it looks as if he’s going to be the Attorney General.

Here are a few things about his past record.

  • In 2000, Sessions voted against an amendment that would expand the definition of hate crimes to include sexual orientation. He voted against it a second time in 2002.
  • In 2004 and again in 2006, Sessions voted in favor of advancing the Federal Marriage Amendment, which would defined marriage across the entire  United States as a union of one man and one woman.
  • In 2010, Sessions voted against repealing Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.
  • In 2011, Sessions spoke out against President Obama and in defense of DOMA.

 You can read the rest here. There’s more.

With all due respect, not the best way for President Elect Trump to gain supporters from the LGBT community, and those who support the LGBT community.

Duck Dynasty Canceled

I’m sure everyone has heard about Duck Dynasty being canceled by now, but I know a lot of people haven’t seen the Twitter reaction.

After more than a week of seemingly endless bad news, we finally have something genuinely good to report: After five long years and 11 tired seasons, A&E is finally pulling the plug on its flagship white trash reality series Duck Dynasty. 

According to sources, ending the show was a mutual decision between the cast and the network. The final season will be split into two parts, with the series finale airing sometime in April.

You can check out the Tweets here. I’ve never even seen one episode of DD.

George Takei, Star Trek Beyond, and Gay Sulu; San Jose Police, Public Rest Rooms, and Targeting Gay Men; "Twinks For Trump"

George Takei, Star Trek Beyond, and Gay Sulu

George Takei had a few more comments about Star Trek Beyond and the concept of making Sulu a gay character.

“I’m delighted that the issue of LGBT equality is finally being raised, but Gene Roddenberry created all his characters as heterosexual because he had to. There is a lot of evidence of Sulu being heterosexual,” Takei said. He brought up instances from the original series that involved Sulu displaying an interest in Uhura. 

He goes on to state that he liked the movie but the gay scene isn’t much more than a “whisper.”

You can check this out here.

I’ve always wondered “what if” when it comes to characters who are straight and have been straight for years. What if you make them gay? Why can’t you make them gay? Evidently, I’m not the only one.

San Jose Police, Public Rest Rooms, and Targeting Gay Men

This is an age old issue with gay men that’s rarely ever addressed openly, not even in the gay community. I know gay men who have had this happen to them. And it can be very costly.

From 2014 to 2015, San Jose police ran a sting operation where undercover officers talked with suspects, then cited or arrested two dozen people and charged them with, among other things, loitering near a bathroom with the intent to commit a lewd act.

You can check this out here. It’s an interesting article because they mention that there have been no arrests for male-female lewd behavior. The police will use their best looking, hottest male cop to lure and bait gay men into thinking they are interested in them, and then when a gay man responds to an open advance, the cops arrest him. And, unfortunately, you have to be very clever not to get sucked into that old trap.

“Twinks For Trump”

I honestly had no idea there was even a group called “Twinks For Trump.” And this article…or letter…is addressed to a gay conservative who is supporting Trump. It’s really getting heated up out there, and I think the lines have been drawn.

You think you are awesome because being gay does not, as you say, define the entirety of your existence. This does not make you awesome. It makes you privileged. You are sitting on a whole big heap of privilege, which you appear to ignore.

It’s an interesting letter that brings up a few excellent points. I think it was written from the heart. I like the last paragraph the most because it’s genuine and civil. The letter isn’t meant to be mean or antagonistic, which is a novelty these days. 

 You can check that out here

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Tina Fey’s Comments on Gay Men; Utah’s First Gay Woman Mayor; Rose McGowan Slams Caitlyn Jenner

Tina Fey’s Comments On Gay Men

I’ve been seeing this particular story all over social media this week and I wanted to post about it because I’ve been getting private messages about it.

Nothing makes Tina Few happier than to know that plenty of gay men still enjoy quoting her 2004 movie Mean Girls over brunch.

I’ve never seen Mean Girls and I have no intention of seeing it. I’m gay and have been all my life. I know a lot of gay men do enjoy that sort of entertainment and I think that’s wonderful for them and I support them completely. Many are friends and I love them. But not ALL gay men enjoy that kind of entertainment and I think that point needs to be taken into consideration now, too.

‘it definitely gave me a wider swath of humor styles. I grew up so much in theater, so the gay community has always been a natural part of who I feel like I’m playing to. When you’re writing jokes, you’re always thinking of your friends.’

It shows how limited Tina Fey’s scope (and “swath”) is when it comes to gay men. I can’t remember the exact quote and I don’t feel like looking for it right now, but Jonathan Groff said something wonderful after Looking was canceled when he stated that he learned fast just how “diverse gay men can be.” Unfortunately, Looking might have been canceled because it broke many of the stereotypes.

The biggest problem is that most gay men don’t have voices…yet. There are many reasons for that, but one of the main reasons is that so many gay men live quiet, subtle lives.  Many are still in the closet. Some are married to women and they might never come out. Get this, some are even Republicans. Trust me on that. For every one gay man who cheers Tina Fey’s Mean Girls another one cringes.

I think I would be remiss if I didn’t mention this as well. To take a minority, any minority, and stereotype them the way Tina Fey has done is about as wrong as it gets. Try to imagine her doing this with any other minority. 

You can read the rest here.  

Utah’s First Gay Woman Mayor

On a much more positive note, here’s a piece about the first gay woman elected mayor of a large city in the state of Utah. This is history being made right in front of us.

Jackie Biskupski made history on Tuesday (17 November) by becoming the first lesbian to be elected mayor of a major city in the state of Utah.
Biskupski, 49, will be sworn in as mayor of Salt Lake City in January.
Because she had been well ahead of incumbent two-term Mayor Ralph Becker in mail-in ballot results on election night two weeks ago, her official victory came as no surprise.

Tony’s brother and family live in Utah in a suburb right outside of Salt Lake City and I’ve been eager to get out there for a visit.

Here are more details. 

Rose McGowan Slams Caitlyn Jenner

You may or may not recall several posts I wrote about Rose McGowan slamming gay men for not supporting women enough. At the time, I didn’t like the way she lumped all gay men into one category and portrayed them all the same way…wearing speedos and riding Pride floats. More stereotypes. I’ve always been up front with my support for women, even when I don’t understand something completely they have my support. Most of the people I work with in publishing are women and I learn a great deal from them. And I thought McGowan was guilty of putting gay men into a tight little box because of her limited scope and her lack of understanding about gay men. 

And now McGowan is going after Caitlyn Jenner as a trans woman, with her typical brand of vitriol.

‘Caitlyn Jenner you do not understand what being a woman is about at all,’ she wrote in an open letter posted on Facebook. 
‘You want to be a woman and stand with us – well learn us. We are more than deciding what to wear. We are more than the stereotypes foisted upon us by people like you.
‘You’re a woman now? Well fucking learn that we have had a VERY different experience than your life of male privilege.

I’ll admit that I don’t always understand Caitlyn Jenner as a woman. However, in her efforts to slam Caitlyn Jenner as coming from a place of privilege, McGowan is showing just how disingenuous she is. It’s true that Caitlyn Jenner will never know what it was like to grow up as a woman, but Rose McGowan will NEVER know what it was like to grow up as a closeted transgender person.

So once again, Rose McGowan is full of shit. 

The rest is here.  

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Russell Tovey Worst Gay Ever?; Gay Men At CPAC; Meadows Are Not Forever by Ryan Field

Russell Tovey Worst Gay Ever?

Russell Tovey from Looking recently got slammed by gay men for comments he made about gay men. Russell Tovey is an openly gay man himself. The remarks he made are being called “controversial.” James Franco can make fools of us daily and almost everyone laughs, but what Tovey said is “controversial.” Interesting.

The actor made the headline-making comments in a March 1 interview with The Guardian’s Tom Lamont. In the interview, Tovey recalled his father’s refusal to send him to a “theater school” during his teen years. 

“I feel like I could have been really effeminate, if I hadn’t gone to the school that I went to,” he said. “Where I felt like I had to toughen up. If I’d have been able to relax, prance around, sing in the street, I might be a different person now. I thank my dad for that, for now allowing me to go down that path.” 

That experience, he added, “has probably given me the unique quality that people think I have,” which appeared to hint as his ability to play both gay and straight roles in film and on television. 

And then Twitter went berserk.

You can read more here. There are tweets where Tovey apologized. They look sincere.

I’m only going to make one comment on this one. With all the discrimination, cultural appropriation, and hate gay people face these days maybe it’s time we stop slamming each other and start going after the James Franco’s of the world. Because not a day goes by when I don’t see a privileged straight person doing something to get attention with gay bait.

Now, here’s an article where Tovey is dubbed “The Worst Gay Ever.” Who is calling him this? Well, think about that, and then think about who actually runs the painfully dismal gay media that only represents a small portion of gay men fairly and objectively. 

Gay Men At CPAC

This is one of those things that never surprises me because I’ve seen it first hand and I know it really happens. But I know that it does surprise people, because it’s not something you would think would happen…gay conservatives. (I’m always somewhere in the middle so I do think I can be objective about it.)

Paul Detric, a reporter for Reason.TV, attended this year’s Conservative Political Action Conference (CPAC) and used the gay hook-up app Grindr to try and track down gays attending the event. Rather unsurprisingly, he found a number of them and several were willing to talk to Detric — though not necessarily on camera. 

Here’s one quote I found interesting.

“Especially for conservatives to be able to win an election, they’re going to need to get younger voters. To do that they need to start being more socially liberal — essentially they need to shift libertarian.”

Another young man added, “if we’re true conservatives, we really don’t want the government to be involved in our lives — period.”

Even though I’m not all that political, the one thing I always find fascinating is that you rarely hear a gay conservative take an aggressive approach. At least for now, they’re always in hiding as if they’re terrified to “come out.” The comments at the bottom of this article, unfortunately, are what you would expect from the most liberal.

The rest is here.  

Meadows Are Not Forever


Sean Eldridge Gay Politician; Disgusting Gay Guys; Straight/Bi-Sexual Men Who Have Gay Sex

Sean Eldridge Gay Politician

When I post about these things I’m only doing it from the POV where an openly LGBT person is running for political office. I don’t care if the person is gay, lesbian, bi, or trans (or anything else that might fall into the category extension). I care about the LGBT factor. The article to which I’m linking, however, is more of a commentary about how money can’t buy a political office. I highly disagree with that theory based on several recent campaigns larger than Eldridge’s where some very powerful people won an election, in fact, due to money and power behind them. Money does win elections as much as charm, and they start spending that money years before the actual elections. 

However, all that aside, here’s another LGBT political face to watch for in the future, Sean Eldridge. Even if he doesn’t win this election I don’t think we’ll see him disappear any time soon.

Sean Eldridge has a lot going for him. He’s the son of two physicians and head of his own venture capital firm. He attended Harvard, where he met his husband-to-be, Chris Hughes. As one of the co-founders of Facebook, Hughes is fabulously wealthy, so the couple live comfortably in a $1.9 million house they bought in the Hudson Valley of New York.

What Eldridge will not have any time soon is a seat in Congress. Despite pouring nearly $2 million of his own money into a campaign to unseat incumbent Republican Chris Gibson, Eldridge is running well behind. Political observers have called Eldridge’s campaign “a flop,” and Eldridge has resorted to trumpeting an internal poll that shows him cutting GIbson lead in half: to ten percentage points. 

You can read the rest here. There’s also a photo of Eldridge.

Disgusting Narcissistic Gay Guys

I guess it’s no secret I often tend to post about things here that aren’t always about baskets of kittens and things the PC police would like. But many times I see things that other people are wondering about in private and I don’t see anything wrong in calling attention to it. And, trust me, I control myself. If I were to open up on some of the things I see in the book world alone this blog might implode.

In any event, here’s a story about the two most disgusting gay guys on the planet. Evidently, narcissistic gay people are considered disgusting. It’s short film about a highly exaggerated segment of the gay community focused on two “disgusting” gay men who find fault in everything. Unfortunately, there’s a good deal of truth to this. 

“The disgustings are all around and they do not hide,” he said. “In some ways, we are all the disgustings. I wanted to make a film about flawed and insecure people that are really hurting. I think we often see ‘bitchy’ characters, but we rarely get to see their pain.”

Firstman’s 12-minute short has played numerous film fests around the country and he revealed that it was his intention to make audiences both cringe and relate at the same time.

It’s being billed a comedy, but it could be the saddest thing I’ve seen all year. These two should try that routine they did in the restaurant to a waitress on the east coast. They’d never be the same two disgusting PC queens again.

You can see for yourselves, here. 

Straight/Bi-Sexual Men Who Have Gay Sex

This concept of straight men being more bi-sexual than people realize is always interesting to me because I’ve often found so-called straight men can be highly aggressive with gay men, from personal experience.

According to a pornhub survey the second highest topic in searches is gay male porn and it comes from straight women. That doesn’t surprise me. Most of my readers are women and I understand what motivates them. I get it. But this next piece of information is something I’m still trying to figure out:  

In our research, we learned that straight men don’t just watch gay porn for sex tips. They also watch it to get off. Now, we weren’t born yesterday. Anyone can say they’re heterosexual, and plenty of gay guys on our favorite hookup sites pretend to “Str8″ and “just looking for a quickie while the GF is outta town.” But hold your preconceived notions for just one moment. Isn’t it possible there are more gray areas in human sexuality than anyone really knows, or is at least willing to admit? And isn’t looking at porn in the privacy of one’s own home the safest place to explore one’s curiosities?

I have never once been to a wedding where a straight man, with his wife and kids in the same room, didn’t try to hit on me. It’s always aggressive and always done with a few drinks. And I’m not talking about gay weddings. In fact, in my life I’ve always been approached more by straight men than gay men. I don’t know what that says about me or the subconscious signals I’m giving off, but I’m not doing it consciously and at this point I could live without it. It actually gets on my nerves because I don’t understand it. 

You can read the rest here.

Here’s just one comment from a guy who is supposedly straight, verbatim for the grammar police: 

im str8 but ive masturbated with my friends and one time one of my friends and i started oral, then it lead to anal. ive wanted to try again because it felt so good but im afraid to bring it up again. so i masturbate and think about it insted.

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Matt Bomer on TV’s "The New Normal"

I can’t seem to find an exact date for when openly gay actor Matt Bomer will guest star on “The New Normal,” but I’ve read it’s going to be the last episode. I hope it hasn’t already aired. My viewing habits with TNN are sporadic these days, and I’ve posted why a few times about this in the past. This link will show you why I’ve haven’t been following it regularly.

In other words, I’m still on the fence about it. And the main reason is that I don’t think it always represents all gay men the way it should. I also wish they would concentrate more on the comedy and general storylines without the constant political/social commentary that’s become so cliche with certain groups of gay men. While I do know gay men who are like the characters on TNN, I can tell you with absolute certainty that Tony and I don’t walk around talking politics 24/7, we don’t walk around talking gay issues 24/7, and we don’t wear the gay chip on our shoulders the minute we’re out in public with the rest of the world. And neither do most of our gay friends. Being gay doesn’t define us. It’s part of who we are and we don’t hide it, but it’s not the only thing we are.

I’m not the only who would feels this way about TNN:

 The New Normal has often made attempts at making emotional connection to its viewers. It would do well by being a creative comedy show that tickles the mind instead of a social commentary poking at the wrong doors.

One of the things that still surprises me is that I get so many e-mails from readers that feel isolated. I could sugarcoat what I write on this blog like other m/m fiction authors and only tell you about the “great, new, exciting” things happening. But I would be remiss if I left out some of the reality. These are gay men who are still in the closet for various personal reasons and aren’t sure quite what to do about it. On the one hand, if they were to come out of the closet they know they would be leaving the lives they’ve always known behind. On the other hand, they are intimidated by what they see on TV shows like TNN because they just can’t identify with the ultra liberal gay who wears tight shirts, red pants, has that little tuft of hair combed to a point above his forehead, and speaks like Paris Hilton.

I heard one story recently where a gay man left his home for a weekend to spend with an old friend he hadn’t seen in years. It turned into a frustrating experience because the old friend turned out to be gay, and this old friend wound up bullying the closeted gay man, insisting he had to come out of the closet. The closeted gay man ultimately wound up going back home to the safety of what he’d always known…completely confused. And that’s only normal. In fact, that is the NEW NORMAL. My advice was to sit back, let it all sink in for a while, and don’t let anyone bully you into anything you aren’t ready to do.

But I’m not completely against TNN either. And I’m sure Matt Bomer will be wonderful and I’ll most likely be watching. I think it’s wonderful there are TV shows like this now and it’s wonderful that some gay men can identify with them. I have gay friends who literally swoon when they see a photo of President Obama. Now I’ve always been a registered Democrat, and I’ve always leaned to the left on most issues, but if you think I’m going to swoon for any politician you have another thing coming. And I just wish that we’d see a TV show where gay people weren’t always portrayed the same way, and in the same respect really make them the new normal. If you were to take any old storyline from an episode of I Love Lucy and make Lucy and Ricky two gay men…or even two lesbians…and you left out the politics and social commentary, I know for certain you’d get a show that would work. That in itself is a social commentary because it shows instead of tells. And that’s exactly what I’ve done in the past by parodying straight films like “Pretty Woman” with erotic romance.

What Has Happened to Tolerance and Diversity in the Gay Community?

For those who read this blog, you all know I never get into politics with regard to my personal political beliefs. I’m not a politician and I’m not running for office. I write fiction and my goal is to entertain people…readers…regardless of what their political or religious beliefs are.

If I write about politics in my books, like I did sometimes in the Virgin Billionaire series, I balance conservative views with liberal views. One of the interesting dynamics between Luis and Jase in the VB series is that Luis is a very liberal gay man and Jase is a very conservative gay man. And they fell in love and lived happily ever after.

And that’s how it works in real life, too. Not all gay men and women are liberals, and not all are conservatives. Personally, I have not embraced the Q in LGBT yet, and I’m not sure I ever will.

Even though I don’t agree with my ultra conservative gay friends, I still respect their views and I don’t shun them because they are conservatives. And when I see this happen, I have to wonder whatever happened to tolerance and diversity within the gay community.

This past weekend Tony and I went to a BBQ at a friend’s house and the topic of politics came up toward the end of the evening and I gave Tony a look and said, “It’s time to go home and feed the dogs.” Dogs are a great excuse at times like this. No one can fault you for taking care of them. Only this time the dogs could have waited and it wouldn’t have killed them. This time I wanted to get out because one of my ultra liberal gay friends started in on politics and I saw one of my very good conservative gay lesbian friends ready to explode.

And she did explode, and I’m glad I wasn’t there to see it. But what truly bothers me is that she’s not allowed to have an opinion and everyone else is. She believes in all the things my liberal gay friend believes in as far as equal rights go, but she’s more fiscally conservative. I’m not a conservative, and yet I value what she has to say. And she’s not always wrong. What bothers me even more is this e-mail she sent me about how she feels. She wasn’t addressing me personally. She knows I respect her opinions. It was a mass e-mail to many people who haven’t been respecting her opinions. Frankly, it’s starting to cross into bullying.

Don’t send me any political jokes please. I have no intention of reading them.
I’m sick of the double standard of let me tell you all about my choice but I don’t want to hear about yours.

This is a truncated version of the e-mail, but you see where I’m gong with this. While I don’t agree with everything she says, I do believe she has a right support any political candidate she wants to support. And I respect her for doing this.

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