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Male Rape Culture; Chechnya’s President Ramzan Kadyrov; A Gay Father and Son

Male Rape Culture

Just when I think I’m going to stop linking to Queerty, they come up with a piece like this. It’s short and simple, and it gets the point across.

“Sexual violence does not discriminate against men,” activist and filmmaker Vanessa McNeal says.

McNeal’s new documentary The Voiceless features the stories of five male survivors of sexual violence and explores the taboos and stereotypes surrounding the abuse. The film has been making the rounds on college campuses and was just made available online at www.thevoicelessdocumentary.com.

If you think men…especially gay men…don’t experience sexual violence and harassment you’re living in a bubble. I know from personal experience it happens, and I still get it on social media at least weekly from some idiot on either Facebook or Twitter. Most of the time I get it from other gay men.

Here’s the rest.

Chechnya’s President Ramzan Kadyrov

With all the news we’ve been reading about gays being detained in horrible concentration camps in Chechnya, I think we’ve all been a little curious to know more about the President of Chechnya.

Kadyrov has been President of Chechnya since 2007, although he has held power there for much longer than that. Ramzan’s father, Akhmad Kadyrov, was a high-ranking Muslim cleric in Chechnya; after Russia beat down the terribly violent wars of the 1990’s when Chechnya tried to fight for independence, Akhmad was “elected” president, as approved by the Russian government. But then Akhmad was assasinated in 2004 by persistent Chechen rebels, so now his son Ramzan is in charge. Since Ramzan took over, the fighting for independence has calmed down. And Ramzan is delighted that Chechnya is a Russian republic again.

There’s a lo more here. There are photos of him hugging kittens. But it gives a lot more insight as to what’s going on with gays in that part of the world.

A Gay Father and Son

Even though this is not a new topic to me, I’ve been seeing a lot of this lately. This was a question posted on reddit about a kid who came out to his dad, and his dad had a little surprise for him.

So I turned 17 couple of days back and I told my dad that I’m gay. To my surprise, my dad took it very positively and looked happy. That evening he told me he’s gay too, always been. He says he never cheated on my mom with a guy and got married due to social and family reasons.

Should we tell my mom, what to do?

You can check this one out here.

There are various replies, and a few comments at the bottom. You can see that a lot of people are unfamiliar with the whole topic, and some are just plain dumb.

I think they should tell the mom. That is if she doesn’t already know anyway. I would be willing to bet she’s not going to be that shocked.

The truth is most of the marriages I’ve known personally between a gay man and a straight woman have been happy and they’ve lasted for the long haul.

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Addicted to Gay Massage Parlors; Is Sexual Addiction Real?; Conviction Overturned For Tyler Clementi’s Roommate

Addicted to Gay Massage Parlors

Someone wrote in to an advice column about their brother-in-law having an addiction to gay massage parlors. From what I gather, the guy who is addicted to gay massage parlors is married to a woman.

I am writing this question on behalf of my sister, who is facing issues with her husband, who’s cheating on her by being a regular visitor to gay massage parlours. Though they have discussed the issue and he made a promise to my sister that he wouldn’t do it again, he still continues to visit these places without her knowledge. She feels like he is addicted to it and can’t come out of it. What is sad is the fact that barring this habit, he is a gem of a person. Could you please suggest a way of helping him out of this mess?

You can read the reply here.

Frankly, I’m not sure if buy into the whole concept of sexual addiction. I’m posting about this below, with links.

I’m also wondering why this guy is going to a gay massage parlor instead of a straight massage parlor. He’s married to a woman. I think there’s more to this one that can’t be covered in a simple post.

Is Sexual Addiction Real?

When I wrote The Wall Street Shark in my Bad Boy Billionaire series, I mentioned the topic of sexual addiction. I didn’t go into great detail, but I learned a few things while doing the limited research I did do.

Not everyone believes sexual addiction exists.

Does sex addiction really exist? A new study published in last week’s journal of Socioaffective Neuroscience and Psychology suggests that maybe it doesn’t—bad news for celebrities like Tiger Woods and Russell Brand who have made it trendy in recent years to claim a clinical addiction to sex as an explanation for sexual misbehavior.

There are clinical scientific examples given. You can check them out here.

Conviction Overturned For Tyler Clementi’s Roommate

If you recall, Tyler Clementi was the student from Rutgers University in New Jersey who committed suicide after his roommate allegedly used a spy cam on him and caught him kissing another guy. It’s a complicated story and I don’t want to get anything mixed up. You can read more about that here, in depth.

And now something new has surfaced in this case.

Ravi was convicted in 2012 on 15 charges, including counts of bias intimidation, a portion of which the state Supreme Court has since invalidated, ruling that it was “constitutionally vague.”

The three judge panel ruled that his prosecution on these charges “tainted the jury’s verdict on the remaining charges,” determining that he therefore did not receive a fair trial, The New York Times reports. They have ordered a new trial on the charges not related to bias intimidation, such as invasion of privacy and tampering with evidence.

You can check that out here. It should be interesting to see what happens this time.

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