Category: gay marriage Utah

Fed Gov’t Honors Utah Marriages; Coming Out Reactions; Hot Guy Pic

Fed Gov’t Honors Utah Marriages

In a highly supportive move, Eric Holder made the announcement that the federal government will, indeed, recognize the same sex marriages performed in Utah even though same sex marriage is NOT recognized any longer in Utah. If you haven’t been following this, you can read more here where I’ve been posting for a while. It’s been a rollercoaster because gay marriage was legal for about five minutes in Utah, many LGBTI people got married, and then it wasn’t legal on a state level all over again.

So those who were married in Utah are basically in the same position as people like Tony and me. Our state, PA, doesn’t recognize same sex marriage, but when we’re married later this month we will be recognized in other states and by the federal government.

“I am confirming today that, for purposes of federal law, these marriages will be recognized as lawful and considered eligible for all relevant federal benefits on the same terms as other same-sex marriages,” Holder said in a video released Friday afternoon.

You can read more here.

Coming Out Reactions

This next article talks about a video that gets into what gays can expect when they tell someone they are gay. I’ve posted my thoughts on this more than once and I think coming out is a personal process that should be handled gently and within each individual’s comfort zone. I also don’t think everyone needs to have a “coming out,” at least no in the literal sense. I never did. I just never denied it and continued doing what felt right to me. Everyone figured it out on their own when I brought my first boyfriend home. No questions asked.

Coming out is something of a rite of passage for most gay men and women, whether we like it or not. I personally do not. I’ve even spent a lot of time thinking how funny it’d be if my hetero friends were required to come out as straight—taking the aphorism ‘take a walk in someone else’s shoes’ to a whole new extreme—but that day seems a ways away if not a tad (and unnecessarily) torturous for everyone. Until then, let’s lighten up with our queer proclamations…and laugh.

You can read more here, and view a clip. It’s very adorable. You’ll want to hug him.

Hot Guy Pic

I have to figure out a way to legally post photos like this myself. Until I do, here’s a link to wickedgayblog, to a photo of a hot guy taking a selfie in his shorts. There’s just something about it.

Marriage Hold Utah; Celebrity Big Brother Homophobia; 14 Things Should End in 2014

Marriage Hold Utah

I had a feeling this would happen. But I don’t think it’s the worst thing in the world. It shows how important it is for same sex marriage laws to be written up with care so this sort of thing can’t happen in other places.

While a federal appeals court fully considers the issue, no more same-sex unions will take place in the US state. A brief order was issued today (6 January), following an emergency appeal by the state following the 20 December ruling by US District Judge Robert Shelby.

More here.

When you really get down to this and people stop looking at same sex marriage with sexual thoughts…or impressions…and realize it’s more about quality of life and equality, the entire controversy takes on a different appeal. And those who don’t seem to understand this are going to go down in history the same way those who opposed civil rights in the 1960’s did. Not well.

Celebrity Big Brother Homophobia

It seems the reality show, Big Brother, is riddled with racism and homophobia all over the place and now it’s happening again on Celebrity Big Brother. I posted about last summer’s racism several times, here. I know people who were brought to tears just watching how African and Asian Americans were treated. Trust me, I’m usually one to say many things today are too PC. However, that brand of hate and racism I watched on Big Brother this past summer left me gutted.

And now they’re dealing with more gay hate on Celebrity Big Brother, with rapper, Dappy:

Later, Dappy was called into the diary room and was told he could have caused offence to gay people with his comment. It was revealed it was the third time Dappy had been told off about his language while in the house

I think these shows are airing in the UK so I haven’t seen them. If any of my UK readers have seen them I would love to hear your thoughts.

You can read more here. Evander Holyfield said he didn’t think gay was “normal.”

14 Things Should End in 2014

This is one of those pieces you may or may not agree with, but some of them are interesting. It’s a small rant about things we all had to suffer through in 2013 that they hope we won’t have to deal with again in 2014. Here are just two I hope come to an end.

2 Zombies, zombies everywhere It seems to me people are so tired of the world as it is today they have to turn their love into something else, something like zombies. Probably inspired by The Walking Dead, one of the most watched series of 2013, more people are searching on how to prepare for a “zombie apocalypse.” We already have too many unsolved issues in the world. Let’s try not to create one more.

3 Selfies We are all familiarized with what ‘selfies’ are all about: people taking close up pictures of themselves, sometimes pulling off a duck face. Let’s be more social next year. Let’s ask our friends to take pictures of us. I promise we will look so much better.

I wish I could say I was more of a Zombie fan, but I’m not. I love almost all paranormal, but Zombies never did it for me. I’m also not a huge fan of selfies and rarely take them. In fact, when I first hear the word I had a totally different idea about what they were. You can use your imagination on that one.

You can read more here. Unfortunately, I think all these things are just going to get much worse.