Category: gay history

Have Lots and Lots and Lots of Sex; Mr. Clean Is One Hot Daddy; Chris Salvatore Cares For Elderly Neighbor

Have Lots and Lots and Lots of Gay Sex

I thought this was wonderful. Of course you have to “get” the context first, which many in the comments didn’t seem to grasp. However, I think the general point behind it is brilliant and empowering.

Davey Wavey interviewed LGBT Historian, Tim McCarthy, and McCarthy made some spot on comments…along with an abridged lesson in LGBT history.

Have sex. Have lots and lots and lots of sex. Sex has always been a revolutionary act, especially queer sex. It both honors the protest that’s required to stand up to the world around us, but it also honors and validates who we are. So, number one, if that’s all you can do, you’re still doing a great thing, okay?

But there’s so much more. I promise that’s not all this interview is about. You have to actually watch it to see what I mean. McCarthy talks about strength, caring, all the things that are positive about people who fall under the umbrella of LGBT.

You can watch some of the video here.

And, you can also read books about gay sex, love, and romance.


Mr. Clean Is One Hot Daddy

It’s Friday. Sometimes you need to just focus on the lighter side of life. Or, sometimes you just need to get away from creeps like that Milo Yiannapapadolapolis.

It’s a long-established fact that Mr. Clean is a stone cold fox. You know, as far as animated fictional brand mascots go.

But despite his reputation for bringing all the boys to the yard, we were simply not prepared for the newest commercial from the company, set to air during the Super Bowl.

You can check out the video here.

It’s actually funnier than it is sexy, at least I didn’t find anything sexy about it. But you might feel differently.

Chris Salvatore Cares For Elderly Neighbor

Chris Salvatore is a rare breed. He’s an openly gay actor in Hollywood, and, he’s got a huge heart.

As grotesque as the general landscape is out there, it’s important to remember that not everyone is a craven opportunist hoping to misdirect people from their blackened hearts.

Case in point: Openly gay actor Chris Salvatore, who, apropos of nothing, has taken in his 89-year-old neighbor Norma Cook (and her cat Hermes.)

There’s a lot more here, with photos and gifs.

We were caregivers for both my mother and father and I always tell people it’s one of the most rewarding things anyone can do in life. And when it’s over, you’ll miss that care-giving more than you ever imagined.

 Stepbrothers In the Attic

New Release

Imperfect

Ellen DeGeneres and the Allegedly Racist Tweet; Gay History In San Francisco; Another Gay Bar In London Closes

Ellen DeGeneres and the Allegedly Racist Tweet

Either Ellen DeGeneres or her publicist tweeted something that some people are questioning as racist. I know this is yesterday’s news for people I see daily on social media, but this blog is (and always has been) for the Internet and most of my hits come from random searches that aren’t always related to social media. I also like to post these things in case I want to revisit them in the future for one reason or another. It’s happened before.

In any event…

In the edited picture, DeGeneres is seen riding piggyback on Bolt using him for transport.

If you consider America’s history of slavery, where black women and men literally had their backs broken by their white slave owners, this did not go over well. 

You can check this out here. There’s a photo of the tweet.

I don’t think for a minute that Ellen DeGeneres is racist or that she meant any harm at all with this tweet. However, I do think it’s an excellent example of how cautious we all have to be these days with the PC police questioning everything.

Gay History In San Francisco

In one of my most recent books, Unabated, I have two young adult characters who are gay…openly gay. One was raised by two gay dads in a world where he has completely assimilated into the mainstream. His gay dads are, too, and they did that on purpose because they didn’t want their family to be different. I think that’s happening a lot these days in RL, and will continue to happen, but sometimes I worry it will be at the expense of all gay culture.

This article says a lot about how things have changed.

Back in the day, people looking for Osento on a similarly soupy afternoon were probably just as confounded. The women-only communal bathhouse, a frequent haunt for lesbians, didn’t have a sign out front. It was mostly known through word of mouth by its clientele, who say its founder ended a nearly three-decade run when she shuttered it in 2008 and moved north to Lake County, Calif.

You can read the rest here. 

Another Gay Bar In London Closes

Speaking of gay culture, here’s yet another story about a long running gay bar in London shuttering its doors for good.

The Queen’s Head on Tryon Street, Chelsea, has been serving gay customers since the mid-20th century.

On Sunday it posted the following message to its Facebook page: ‘Unfortunately it’s true, the Old Lady of Tryon Street will be closing her doors for the last time on 6 September.

You can check this out, here. I’ve written many posts on this topic, and about the reasons why bars like this are closing. At one time I went to gay bars all the time, and the truth is I haven’t been to one in almost a year. Changing times…moving forward.

All three of these books are available in e-book format, or print.
 Amazon All Romance E-books Smashwords

Valley of the Dudes

Unabated

Obama: Stonewall A Landmark; Sean Hayes On When He Came Out; Cher Flip Flops On Brexit Vote

Obama: Stonewall A Landmark

I would be highly remiss if I didn’t post about this on the blog. This is huge for gay culture and gay history.

President Barack Obama announced today that the Stonewall Inn – the birthplace of the modern LGBTI rights movement – has been declared a national monument.
The announcement comes just days before the first anniversary of the US Supreme Court ruling that made same-sex marriage legal in all 50 states.

You can read more about it here.

This is, indeed, history being made. And I have a feeling that when President Obama leaves office, he’ll be remembered for being on the right side of history in many respects.

Sean Hayes On When He Came Out

Back when the TV sitcom, Will & Grace, aired we knew nothing about Sean Hayes’ sexuality. Of course we knew, however, Hayes never spoke about being gay openly in RL. And now he’s saying this…

It’s something the now completely out and proud actor wishes he had handled differently.
‘I had personal issues inside of myself that I regret,’ the 45-year-old admits to Playbill.
‘I regret not coming out sooner and helping more people, and I regret not coming out during the show.’

There’s more here. Times were very different back then. I wasn’t as openly gay as I am now. I think we all feel that way at one point or another…that we could have done more.

And then there are those in Hollywood still to this day who flatly refuse to come out at all. They live a lie; they claim they don’t like “labels.”

Cher Flip Flops On Brexit Vote

This is an example of why I think celebrities should stay away from things like this. I have seen so many idiotic, insulting tweets about the Brexit vote by US celebrities who don’t know what they’re talking about I’m embarrassed for all of us here in the US. One in particular didn’t even realize how dumb he looked on Twitter…and he probably still doesn’t. (I just keep duct tape on my mouth at all times these days.)

I also think that if you’re going to tweet about something as important and complicated as the Brexit vote you should damn well know what the hell you’re talking about. And you shouldn’t joke about it unless you’re very, VERY clever.

In any event, Cher wasn’t joking, but she first tweeted support for the Brexit vote, and it was bad. When other people replied to her tweets, and she saw the negative responses, she flip flopped. She even started praying for everyone with those pithy little hand praying emoji. It’s a mess.

I’m not quoting here because the tweets are all screen shots. You can check them out here.

I like Cher. I don’t think she meant any harm, and she did try to make it right. She gets a big pass for that, at least I think she should. There are celebrities out there who would have taken the first tweet down and just ignored it. Cher didn’t run away. She owned it. But I also think celebrities should think twice before they tweet about issues that are this important and that will affect so many people.

Unabated

The Arrangement 

 

Ellen’s Gardener and Nutella; Mr. Gay World Turns In His Crown; Gay Purges At Colleges

Ellen’s Gardener and Nutella

I don’t think I’ve ever seen the “Ellen” show, not even once in my life. I wouldn’t even know where to look for it. However, you’d have to be chained to a tree at the top of a mountain in Nepal not to hear about it. You don’t even have to use her last name anymore. It’s just…ELLEN.

I’ve been following the dramatic saga of Ellen’s gardener since it started to gain exposure in gay presses with other fascinating stories like the ones with Nick Jonas, and here’s another Ellen’s gardener installment that kind of reminded me of Nutella. I do love Nutella and I have a jar (or two) in the house at all times.

Even though “Ellen” is usually on the side of all things that are good and right and PC, I think it’s adorable the way she’s objectifying a man this way without getting called out for it. It’s the same thing men in power have been doing to women since the beginning of time. 

We’ve had our eyes on Billy Reilich for some time now. He first came to our attention as Ellen DeGeneres’ frequently-shirtless gardener on her daytime show. She helped him land a blink-and-you-miss-it cameo in the Magic Mike sequel. Of course, as a rite of passage these days, there were also leaked nude selfies. But lately we’ve noticed something very unusual about the mild-mannered young man. He’s slowly evolved into an incredible self-tanned, body-building hulk. Please don’t make him angry!

And when they say self-tanned they aren’t joking. Scroll to the bottom and you’ll see what I mean. That’s what reminded me of Nutella…his self-tan. Someone should tell him he doesn’t have to do that. 

You can check out the pics here.  For those of you who never heard of Nutella, you’re supposed to eat it, not wear it.

You might want to check out the comments with this one.

Mr. Gay World Turns In His Crown

In a move that hasn’t really shocked anyone and doesn’t have any huge significance in the world, Mr. Gay World is stepping down from his position and he’s turning in his crown. But he’s not offering much of an explanation.

He states he’s doing this for “personal changes.” Not personal reasons. Personal “changes.”

In a letter published on Mr. Gay World’s official blog yesterday, Bukart wrote: “When I entered the 2015 MR GAY WORLD™ competition in South Africa I thought that becoming MR GAY WORLD™ was the biggest challenge of my life.”

He continued, “Indeed it is very challenging and exciting winning the title, but what is
more challenging is living up to the expectations, responsibilities  and
duties that come along with it.”

You can read more about it here. The speculations in the comment section are what you would expect from the Internet.

Gay Purges At Colleges

There’s no sarcasm with this one. I never knew about this until now. According to this article, colleges used to do these gay purges, which means they would go after students they thought might be gay and ruin their lives and their futures. This is all pre-Stonewall, in the 1940’s.

It doesn’t surprise me this hasn’t been talked about before. When I was researching my short story about gay men on the Titanic I hardly found anything about gays during the Edwardian Era. This is why I don’t like to do gay historicals…so much is speculation. In fact, the word “gay” wasn’t even used widely until the 1970’s so when I use that word here it’s so people understand what I’m talking about…and to avoid terms I’d rather not use anymore.

In 1948, four University of Wisconsin students pleaded guilty to engaging in homosexual activities and were given one year’s probation and a warning from the judge that they had caused an “indelible mark” to be placed against them. Two years later, one of those students, “Keith Pritchett,” who was about to graduate at the time he was given probation, asked the university to grant his degree. The World War II veteran expected to be called back to active duty because of the Korean conflict and wanted the degree so he could be promoted. Despite positive recommendations from military officials, the university denied his request.

There are more examples here. If you’re interested in gay history, this one is an article you don’t want to miss.  There’s also a link to the main essay.

The Men Who Loved On the Titanic

 

"Days of Love" Library of Congress Event; Another Brokeback Mountain; Straight Men Caught on Grindr; Free Gay Excerpt: Meadows Are Not Forever

Days of Love Library of Congress Event

2014 will go down as an “interesting” year for me for many reasons. After 22 years of being with the same person and living as if we were married, Tony and I were finally allowed to legally wed last January…in Vermont, and by a Vermont Supreme Court Justice, Beth Robinson. To add to the romance of being in Montgomeryville Center, VT, we were also part of a Hollywood documentary, The State of Marriage. I’ve posted about all that here a few times. 

Also in 2014, Tony and I had several intense family health related issues we had to deal with. I rarely post things that private in public when they first happen. I usually do eventually, but in the beginning I think it’s important to protect certain aspects of our private lives…all of us who are online, not just me.

While Tony and I were going through all this Elisa Rolle, whom I’ve met in person, was e-mailing me about a book titled Days of Love that would focus on gay couples, gay marriage, and long term gay relationships. There was so much going on at the time with family I almost didn’t participate. However, something told me this would be a book to remember someday. From a historical POV, this book would be something people could look back and reflect upon during the days when we were still fighting for legalized same sex marriage all over the world. So I put together everything Elisa asked for, I submitted it, and went back to dealing with life.

When I saw this in my inbox today I felt a sense of gratification, and it was a surprise I hadn’t expected. 
   
Just in case any of you are in Washington on that date!

This talk will encompass LOC’s acquisitions of Sylvester & Orphanos Publication Archives, of Stathis’s Christopher Isherwood Collection and his photographs. And Stathis told me Days of Love, which proudly display some of those photographs, will be featured as well.

It’s a great book that I believe will be around for a long time. And to be honored this way, in a book, for everyone who participated, as well as Elisa Rolle who put it together, it is a proud humble moment, indeed.

Another Brokeback Mountain

Apparently, one Brokeback Mountain in a lifetime wasn’t enough so now there’s going to be another type of film just like BM, with a dark storyline that exploits all the most depressing aspects of gay culture. This is the blurb that was released:

The project is based upon the true story of Oregonian father-and-son Joe and Jadin Bell. Jadin, a fifteen-year-old openly gay sophomore, took his own life after being both bullied at high school and struggling for acceptance from the people closest to him. In the wake of Jadin’s suicide, Joe is plunged into a sea of remorse and regret. Attempting to work through his grief, Joe sets out on a walk across America, hoping to promote awareness about the consequences of prejudice to anyone he encounters along the way.

So far the details are sketchy. The article I’m linking to only mentions the writers and the producer of the original BM…all people coming from a place of privilege. However, the people who commented on this news made some interesting statements. It’s a gay press; I’m assuming they come from gay people.

One said:

Brokeback Mountain was absolute rubbish!

Another said this:

These films are marketed towards straight people, I’m tired of ambiguous endings, HIV and death at the end. Gay films almost never have a happy ending.

And when I posted about this on social media last night one gay male author commented about why gay fiction written by gay people is never treated as seriously as films like BM.

I have no comment at all until I know more details about it, but I’d be willing to bet there won’t be a happy ending 🙂  You can read the rest here. 

Straight Men Caught on Grindr

This is about what happens when straight men get caught on Grindr…well sort of.

Gaybriel, dressed in a flamboyant pink shirt and sunglasses, and two bikini-clad beauties teamed up to trick the guys. The ladies would go down the beach and flirt with the gents, collecting as much information about them as possible before radioing it back to Gaybriel, who was waiting up the beach. When the guys eventually passed by, he would rush over pretending to recognize them from Grindr. Hilarity (and some awkwardness) ensued.

There’s more here, with a video. For those of you who think this is in bad taste, tricking the straight guys that way. Too damn bad. Get over yourselves. When I first started going out to gay bars in college, I pulled into the parking lot of a gay club one night and there were straight frat guys standing around a guy with a blindfold over his eyes. They’d brought the guy there to trick him into going to a gay bar. These “dudes” and “bros” thought it was hilarious, a gay bar and laughing at gays. And now I think this shit is just as hilarious.
 
Free Gay Except: Meadows Are Not Forever

(There is a happy ending to this story, a VERY happy ending) 

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            When they called his name, Cade was one of ten people left in the room. They’d collected the information sheets at the back of the room first and those up front wound up waiting all day. It was late and Cade’s feet were killing him; he had a sharp pain in the middle of his forehead. The pain was partly caused by his mother. He’d had to call her and let her know he’d be home later than he’d expected. He felt like he’d jumped right back into high school, when he’d had to call in and let his mother know everything he was doing. But he had her car; he had to let her know where he was. He could have lived without her harping about traffic, wearing his seat belt, and not talking to strangers. He was twenty-five, he’d been on his own supporting himself in Los Angeles for seven years, and she still treated him as though he were ten years old. If he’d been under less pressure he might have enjoyed the attention. It had been a long time since anyone had cared that much about him. But after what had happened in the men’s room, all he wanted to do was get this audition over with as fast as possible.


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                 He crossed into a smaller room and sat down on a folding chair that faced a long narrow table. The two guys in saggy pants he’d seen earlier that day were sitting on the ends of the table. Anderson Randolph sat between them. They didn’t look up when Cade entered. They were huddled together, conferring about something in hushed voices. At this angle, with the light hitting Anderson’s profile from the side, Cade couldn’t help notice how attractive he was. His short brown hair was shiny and a little messy on top. His tanned skin took on a slightly bronze appeal in this light. Cade guessed he was between thirty and forty; it was hard to tell nowadays because so many gay men didn’t seem to age until the last minute. (Cade had an older friend who’d once said, “I’d know them for years and they’d look exactly the same. Then one day they’d show up at my door and they’d be old men.”)
            Anderson’s body wasn’t bulky and outrageous, but there were definite signs of muscle definition showing through his tight black V-neck shirt. Although he wasn’t the rough, athletic type that usually made Cade’s mouth water, he had an aggressive, understated masculine appeal that made Cade stop and wonder what he might be like in the sack.
            When the three of them finally looked up at Cade, they each asked him a round of basic questions almost as if this was an interview for a regular job, not an audition for a reality show. They wanted to know where he lived full time, if he’d be available for travel at a moment’s notice, and if he really was single. The guy on the right with curly brown hair said they didn’t want any fakes…guys with boyfriends who were pretending to be single just to get on to the show. He also stated that if Cade was selected they would do in-depth background checks. So if there were any surprises in Cade’s past, it was best to be honest now. 

               The guy on the left asked, “Have you ever modeled or been filmed in the nude? Have you done anything professionally in the adult entertainment industry?”
            Cade gulped. He couldn’t lie. He squared his back and said, “I’ve never modeled in the nude and I’ve never done any porn films professionally. But I do work for a web site in the valley that’s considered all male entertainment. It’s called straightguycondo.com, and I’m the production assistant.” He was surprised at how good he felt after he told them the truth. Cade didn’t have anything to hide. He didn’t count the scene he’d done with the guys because he knew his face would never be shown in public. He worked hard and did a good job for an honest day’s pay. And if they didn’t like what he did, and they judged what he did, he decided he wouldn’t want to work with them either. 

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              After he told them this, the two guys on the end leaned in toward Anderson and they whispered to each other for a few seconds. They glanced back and forth at Cade a few times; they remained expressionless.
            Then the guy on the right asked, “Have you ever actually performed for this web site?”
            Cade couldn’t lie about that either. “Once,” he said. “But no one saw my face. The only shots the camera took were rear lower body shots, no head shots. I only filled in for an actor who didn’t bother to show up for work that day. My job has always been behind the scenes, not in front of the camera. And I’ve never used my real name. In other words, if you did a search for me on the internet, you’d come up with nothing.” 

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            They started whispering again, sending him quick glances, looking him up and down. Cade sat back and exhaled. He even smiled and extended his right leg. Anderson Randolph hadn’t asked him many questions: he seemed to be sitting back and evaluating with his tongue pressed to his cheek. Evidently, Anderson didn’t remember Cade or the cupcake incident from the airport. If he had, Cade figured he would have said something right away. For the first time that day, Cade felt so relaxed he fought the urge to yawn. All that worrying about being recognized had been for nothing.

             When they stopped whispering and turned to face him, there was a knock on the door. The guy on the right said, “Come in,” and a young woman entered the room carrying a small tray of large chocolate cupcakes. There must have been a mound of rich fudge frosting on top about three inches deep, set in perfect ridged swirls to form peaks. And each one had been topped with an expensive truffle.
            Unfortunately, the young woman didn’t notice that Cade had become so relaxed he’d stretched out his right leg. And when she entered the room with the tray of chocolate cupcakes, she tripped over his right foot. She caught her balance just in time and didn’t fall down. But the cupcake tray jerked and a half dozen chocolate cupcakes went sailing across the room toward the three men at the long table. 

             The guys on the end saw them coming and ducted just in time. But Anderson Randolph had been looking down at a stack of papers on the table he he’d missed the fall. Three cupcakes landed on the floor; two upside down on the table. And one lone cupcake flew across the table and landed right between Anderson Randolph’s legs.
            The two guys started laughing.
            The young woman apologized and bent over to retrieve the ruined cupcakes on the floor.
            Cade sat up straight and held his palm to his throat as Anderson reached down between his legs and slowly lifted the upside down cupcake from his crotch. 

            Anderson held the cupcake up and stopped moving for a second. His eyebrows furrowed as if deep in thought and he tilted his head sideways. A minute later, he flung a glance in Cade’s direction. His eyes opened wide; his lips parted. He pointed at Cade and said, “You’re the cell phone guy from the airport. I knew I’d seen you before somewhere.”


      

Big Bad John Gay Parody

Big Bad John Gay Parody

I came across this web site recently and wanted to devote a short post to it because it is a big gay story, with respect to gay culture, and it revolves around the kind of parody I’ve sometimes done with books like An Officer and His Gentleman, or Pretty Man. And when I write posts like this I’m trying to show people who don’t know these things that there is more to gay culture than what you normally read online these days. This is a typical discussion I might have with any number of gay authors during the course of a week…always in private.

There are a few very interesting comments on this web site that all support/explain gay parody in general, and it’s a topic I think gay men find interesting because we’ve been so ignored in music, books, and films for so long we craved something…anything…mainstream that we could call our own. Even the gayest authors of their time like Truman Capote were not able to write anything with gay main characters. The same goes for the gayest performers and actors. Men like Capote did the best they could with books like Breakfast at Tiffany’s and took what they could get during a time when gays were considered either clowns, court jesters, or mentally unsound.

Here’s the most interesting (and true) comment I found in a commentary by Randy Sparks:

This parody was all in good humor, and it became one of the best-requested numbers in my solo act. I quickly discovered that most Gay men had no problem with laughing at the ditty, but any Lesbians in my audiences seemed to immediately take offense, so I was careful where I sang it. I didn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable.

It’s the fundamental difference I’ve always found in writing gay parodies of mainstream films. And it’s a huge problem for some who are not gay men and want to read about us or listen to our music, but not on our terms.

In any event, I’m not going to elaborate on that because this post would never end. But here’s a link to 13 gay parodies of the hit song, Big Bad John, by Jimmy Dean. According to the site, there may even be more. If you click on the small music notes with each recording you can hear the songs to understand how they were done.

Gay culture is evolving and it is changing, especially with respect to assimilation, and I embrace all those changes completely. But that doesn’t mean I’m willing to lose all that we’ve created.

Same Sex Marriage Legal In Pennsylvania

Same Sex Marriage Legal In Pennsylvania

For those who follow me on this blog, I have posted numerous times about the fact that my husband and I live, work, and pay taxes in the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania where same sex marriage has been illegal. As a result, we were married in Vermont and have been waiting for same sex marriage to become legal so we can share the same equality as other married couples all over the United States.

Today Federal Judge John E. Jones III made history by ruling that the ban against same sex marriage in Pennsylvania is unconstitutional. He ruled in favor of 23 defendants who filed suit through ACLU and others.

This is a direct quote from Judge Jones:

“We are a better people than what these laws represent,” Jones wrote of same-sex marriage bans in his ruling, drawing comparisons between the civil rights movement and the modern gay marriage movement. ”It is time to discard them into the ash heap of history.”

“By virtue of this ruling, same-sex couples who seek to marry in Pennsylvania may do so, and already married same-sex couples will be recognized as such in the Commonwealth.”

I think it’s also important to note that Judge Jones was appointed by President George W. Bush in 2002, and was recommended by Senator Rick Santorum. Both Bush and Santorum are Republicans.

The ruling in Pennsylvania, as with other states, came as a direct result from last June’s ruling by SCOTUS that stated the Defense of Marriage Act implemented under President Bill Clinton, Democrat, violates the Constitution in several ways.

You can read more here. There’s an excellent map of which states are now legal and which aren’t.

Here’s another piece from the NYT.

On a personal level, it’s hard to even talk about how this ruling feels after waiting so long…a lifetime. It’s both legally and psychologically liberating.  I just hope it’s not overturned as we’ve seen before in other places.

As of right now there has been no statement from Pennsylvania Governor Tom Corbett’s office. Historically, Corbett has been against legal same sex marriage and it will be interesting to see how he responds and how he’s going to interpret a law/ban that so many other states seem to think is clearly unconstitutional.

Interestingly, this ruling by Judge Jones came on the very same day of the Democratic primary race for Governor in Pennsylvania. Not only did it trump that story, it shows that not one single politician, as we’ve been told, really did all that much to help legalize gay marriage. At least not in public. Not Democratic Mayor of Philadelphia Michael Nutter who refused to perform same sex marriages in Philadelphia last year because it was illegal, and who is now waving the rainbow flag tonight in Philadelphia. Thank you, Mayor Nutter. We appreciate your support after the fact.

And let’s not forget about Mayor Keller right here in New Hope, PA, who refused to perform same sex marriage for the very same reason.