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Have Lots and Lots and Lots of Sex; Mr. Clean Is One Hot Daddy; Chris Salvatore Cares For Elderly Neighbor

Have Lots and Lots and Lots of Gay Sex

I thought this was wonderful. Of course you have to “get” the context first, which many in the comments didn’t seem to grasp. However, I think the general point behind it is brilliant and empowering.

Davey Wavey interviewed LGBT Historian, Tim McCarthy, and McCarthy made some spot on comments…along with an abridged lesson in LGBT history.

Have sex. Have lots and lots and lots of sex. Sex has always been a revolutionary act, especially queer sex. It both honors the protest that’s required to stand up to the world around us, but it also honors and validates who we are. So, number one, if that’s all you can do, you’re still doing a great thing, okay?

But there’s so much more. I promise that’s not all this interview is about. You have to actually watch it to see what I mean. McCarthy talks about strength, caring, all the things that are positive about people who fall under the umbrella of LGBT.

You can watch some of the video here.

And, you can also read books about gay sex, love, and romance.


Mr. Clean Is One Hot Daddy

It’s Friday. Sometimes you need to just focus on the lighter side of life. Or, sometimes you just need to get away from creeps like that Milo Yiannapapadolapolis.

It’s a long-established fact that Mr. Clean is a stone cold fox. You know, as far as animated fictional brand mascots go.

But despite his reputation for bringing all the boys to the yard, we were simply not prepared for the newest commercial from the company, set to air during the Super Bowl.

You can check out the video here.

It’s actually funnier than it is sexy, at least I didn’t find anything sexy about it. But you might feel differently.

Chris Salvatore Cares For Elderly Neighbor

Chris Salvatore is a rare breed. He’s an openly gay actor in Hollywood, and, he’s got a huge heart.

As grotesque as the general landscape is out there, it’s important to remember that not everyone is a craven opportunist hoping to misdirect people from their blackened hearts.

Case in point: Openly gay actor Chris Salvatore, who, apropos of nothing, has taken in his 89-year-old neighbor Norma Cook (and her cat Hermes.)

There’s a lot more here, with photos and gifs.

We were caregivers for both my mother and father and I always tell people it’s one of the most rewarding things anyone can do in life. And when it’s over, you’ll miss that care-giving more than you ever imagined.

 Stepbrothers In the Attic

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Imperfect

Ellen DeGeneres and the Allegedly Racist Tweet; Gay History In San Francisco; Another Gay Bar In London Closes

Ellen DeGeneres and the Allegedly Racist Tweet

Either Ellen DeGeneres or her publicist tweeted something that some people are questioning as racist. I know this is yesterday’s news for people I see daily on social media, but this blog is (and always has been) for the Internet and most of my hits come from random searches that aren’t always related to social media. I also like to post these things in case I want to revisit them in the future for one reason or another. It’s happened before.

In any event…

In the edited picture, DeGeneres is seen riding piggyback on Bolt using him for transport.

If you consider America’s history of slavery, where black women and men literally had their backs broken by their white slave owners, this did not go over well. 

You can check this out here. There’s a photo of the tweet.

I don’t think for a minute that Ellen DeGeneres is racist or that she meant any harm at all with this tweet. However, I do think it’s an excellent example of how cautious we all have to be these days with the PC police questioning everything.

Gay History In San Francisco

In one of my most recent books, Unabated, I have two young adult characters who are gay…openly gay. One was raised by two gay dads in a world where he has completely assimilated into the mainstream. His gay dads are, too, and they did that on purpose because they didn’t want their family to be different. I think that’s happening a lot these days in RL, and will continue to happen, but sometimes I worry it will be at the expense of all gay culture.

This article says a lot about how things have changed.

Back in the day, people looking for Osento on a similarly soupy afternoon were probably just as confounded. The women-only communal bathhouse, a frequent haunt for lesbians, didn’t have a sign out front. It was mostly known through word of mouth by its clientele, who say its founder ended a nearly three-decade run when she shuttered it in 2008 and moved north to Lake County, Calif.

You can read the rest here. 

Another Gay Bar In London Closes

Speaking of gay culture, here’s yet another story about a long running gay bar in London shuttering its doors for good.

The Queen’s Head on Tryon Street, Chelsea, has been serving gay customers since the mid-20th century.

On Sunday it posted the following message to its Facebook page: ‘Unfortunately it’s true, the Old Lady of Tryon Street will be closing her doors for the last time on 6 September.

You can check this out, here. I’ve written many posts on this topic, and about the reasons why bars like this are closing. At one time I went to gay bars all the time, and the truth is I haven’t been to one in almost a year. Changing times…moving forward.

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Valley of the Dudes

Unabated

Obama: Stonewall A Landmark; Sean Hayes On When He Came Out; Cher Flip Flops On Brexit Vote

Obama: Stonewall A Landmark

I would be highly remiss if I didn’t post about this on the blog. This is huge for gay culture and gay history.

President Barack Obama announced today that the Stonewall Inn – the birthplace of the modern LGBTI rights movement – has been declared a national monument.
The announcement comes just days before the first anniversary of the US Supreme Court ruling that made same-sex marriage legal in all 50 states.

You can read more about it here.

This is, indeed, history being made. And I have a feeling that when President Obama leaves office, he’ll be remembered for being on the right side of history in many respects.

Sean Hayes On When He Came Out

Back when the TV sitcom, Will & Grace, aired we knew nothing about Sean Hayes’ sexuality. Of course we knew, however, Hayes never spoke about being gay openly in RL. And now he’s saying this…

It’s something the now completely out and proud actor wishes he had handled differently.
‘I had personal issues inside of myself that I regret,’ the 45-year-old admits to Playbill.
‘I regret not coming out sooner and helping more people, and I regret not coming out during the show.’

There’s more here. Times were very different back then. I wasn’t as openly gay as I am now. I think we all feel that way at one point or another…that we could have done more.

And then there are those in Hollywood still to this day who flatly refuse to come out at all. They live a lie; they claim they don’t like “labels.”

Cher Flip Flops On Brexit Vote

This is an example of why I think celebrities should stay away from things like this. I have seen so many idiotic, insulting tweets about the Brexit vote by US celebrities who don’t know what they’re talking about I’m embarrassed for all of us here in the US. One in particular didn’t even realize how dumb he looked on Twitter…and he probably still doesn’t. (I just keep duct tape on my mouth at all times these days.)

I also think that if you’re going to tweet about something as important and complicated as the Brexit vote you should damn well know what the hell you’re talking about. And you shouldn’t joke about it unless you’re very, VERY clever.

In any event, Cher wasn’t joking, but she first tweeted support for the Brexit vote, and it was bad. When other people replied to her tweets, and she saw the negative responses, she flip flopped. She even started praying for everyone with those pithy little hand praying emoji. It’s a mess.

I’m not quoting here because the tweets are all screen shots. You can check them out here.

I like Cher. I don’t think she meant any harm, and she did try to make it right. She gets a big pass for that, at least I think she should. There are celebrities out there who would have taken the first tweet down and just ignored it. Cher didn’t run away. She owned it. But I also think celebrities should think twice before they tweet about issues that are this important and that will affect so many people.

Unabated

The Arrangement 

 

Ellen’s Gardener and Nutella; Mr. Gay World Turns In His Crown; Gay Purges At Colleges

Ellen’s Gardener and Nutella

I don’t think I’ve ever seen the “Ellen” show, not even once in my life. I wouldn’t even know where to look for it. However, you’d have to be chained to a tree at the top of a mountain in Nepal not to hear about it. You don’t even have to use her last name anymore. It’s just…ELLEN.

I’ve been following the dramatic saga of Ellen’s gardener since it started to gain exposure in gay presses with other fascinating stories like the ones with Nick Jonas, and here’s another Ellen’s gardener installment that kind of reminded me of Nutella. I do love Nutella and I have a jar (or two) in the house at all times.

Even though “Ellen” is usually on the side of all things that are good and right and PC, I think it’s adorable the way she’s objectifying a man this way without getting called out for it. It’s the same thing men in power have been doing to women since the beginning of time. 

We’ve had our eyes on Billy Reilich for some time now. He first came to our attention as Ellen DeGeneres’ frequently-shirtless gardener on her daytime show. She helped him land a blink-and-you-miss-it cameo in the Magic Mike sequel. Of course, as a rite of passage these days, there were also leaked nude selfies. But lately we’ve noticed something very unusual about the mild-mannered young man. He’s slowly evolved into an incredible self-tanned, body-building hulk. Please don’t make him angry!

And when they say self-tanned they aren’t joking. Scroll to the bottom and you’ll see what I mean. That’s what reminded me of Nutella…his self-tan. Someone should tell him he doesn’t have to do that. 

You can check out the pics here.  For those of you who never heard of Nutella, you’re supposed to eat it, not wear it.

You might want to check out the comments with this one.

Mr. Gay World Turns In His Crown

In a move that hasn’t really shocked anyone and doesn’t have any huge significance in the world, Mr. Gay World is stepping down from his position and he’s turning in his crown. But he’s not offering much of an explanation.

He states he’s doing this for “personal changes.” Not personal reasons. Personal “changes.”

In a letter published on Mr. Gay World’s official blog yesterday, Bukart wrote: “When I entered the 2015 MR GAY WORLD™ competition in South Africa I thought that becoming MR GAY WORLD™ was the biggest challenge of my life.”

He continued, “Indeed it is very challenging and exciting winning the title, but what is
more challenging is living up to the expectations, responsibilities  and
duties that come along with it.”

You can read more about it here. The speculations in the comment section are what you would expect from the Internet.

Gay Purges At Colleges

There’s no sarcasm with this one. I never knew about this until now. According to this article, colleges used to do these gay purges, which means they would go after students they thought might be gay and ruin their lives and their futures. This is all pre-Stonewall, in the 1940’s.

It doesn’t surprise me this hasn’t been talked about before. When I was researching my short story about gay men on the Titanic I hardly found anything about gays during the Edwardian Era. This is why I don’t like to do gay historicals…so much is speculation. In fact, the word “gay” wasn’t even used widely until the 1970’s so when I use that word here it’s so people understand what I’m talking about…and to avoid terms I’d rather not use anymore.

In 1948, four University of Wisconsin students pleaded guilty to engaging in homosexual activities and were given one year’s probation and a warning from the judge that they had caused an “indelible mark” to be placed against them. Two years later, one of those students, “Keith Pritchett,” who was about to graduate at the time he was given probation, asked the university to grant his degree. The World War II veteran expected to be called back to active duty because of the Korean conflict and wanted the degree so he could be promoted. Despite positive recommendations from military officials, the university denied his request.

There are more examples here. If you’re interested in gay history, this one is an article you don’t want to miss.  There’s also a link to the main essay.

The Men Who Loved On the Titanic

 

Gay Content; More Paula Deen; Equal Rights Blog Hop

I posted yesterday about something that happened to me during final edits for an upcoming book about tea dance in gay culture, and I just wanted to elaborate on why I’ll probably vet gay content…or gay cultural content…even more now.

But I’m not going to go overboard either, and I also wanted to get into why it’s important not to add too much information in fiction. Tea dance for me and thousands of other gay men of all ages…it’s not an age thing or a generational thing; I know gay men that range from age 21 to 91 who go to tea dance in Sunday afternoons…is something we don’t even think about twice. I e-mailed good friends yesterday to back me up and they agreed with me. But I do understand how many people who are not gay, or familiar with all the details of gay culture, would not know anything about tea dance. So I added a few lines to the book in an appropriate place to explain tea dance.

But only a few lines. I didn’t go into a long dissertation with multiple paragraphs on tea dance or the history of tea dance. I didn’t want to stop the story to do that, I didn’t want to lose the reader, and I think the explanation doesn’t disrupt anything in the book. If I had gone into a long explanation of tea dance I would have run the risk of boring the people who do know what tea dance is, and even boring those who don’t know what it is. In other words, the book is about a Palm Beach rake (bad boy), it’s not about tea dance in gay culture. And it’s important to stay focused on the story and not the elements surrounding the story.

As for all gay content in general, I’m going to be thinking differently now whenever I write something into a book where I mention something dealing with gay culture that I take for granted. With all the blogs and information I see out there at a glance, I honestly did think someone, somewhere, had posted about tea dance and I thought it would be redundant to explain it in the book. But I’m not going to assume anything anymore. There are blogs I see sometimes that post up to five five or six times a day about gay history and gay couples, but now I’m starting to wonder how deeply those posts go. In other words, I’m starting to think all these articles flashed on blogs and social media are nothing more than excerpts and quotes from other practical academic sources with very little original content that’s based on any personal…or solid…experience about gay culture.

One of the things I find most difficult, as a gay writer, is finding good solid information about anything online dealing with gay culture when I need a resource. For example, in this article/post that deals with gender power in m/m romance, everything is based on academic information you can find in a text book in any community college. It’s a good article; it can’t be disputed. I completely agree with it. However, I find it lacking like most other gay content I find online. And that’s just a very small example. The majority of information I read online always seems to skim over gay content, with haphazard pieces about gay couples in history, or famous people who may (or may not in some cases) have been gay, always leave me wondering why no one ever digs deeper. It’s one thing to post about Gertrude Stein and Alice B. Toklas on the surface and say they were gay, but it’s another to really get into a least a small part of the dynamics behind their relationship.

When I wrote the Titanic historical gay romance over a year ago (which will be released soon with Ryan Field Press as a .99 e-book) I found basically nothing about gay men in the Edwardian era when I was researching. And that’s because the word gay with regard to sexuality didn’t even exist back then. If they weren’t referred to as homosexuals, they were queers and fags and a variety of other pejoratives I would rather not repeat here. And no one talked about it openly, so no one recorded anything. And the best we can do now is guess about what it was really like.

But things have changed, and gay content isn’t that difficult to find anymore. The big problem I see right now are the sources where the gay information is offered is often lacking in substance, and lacking in content because it’s not coming from people who know how to dig deeper…or want to take the time to dig deeper. As a result, nice people take for granted that’s all there is and they don’t question anything because they don’t realize they aren’t getting all the information. And that’s where it’s important to vet gay content these days. In other words, don’t just take what you see on a blog that posts tons of gay articles daily and think it’s valuable information. It’s information, and it’s most likely correct, but it’s not going to tell you about things like gay tea dance. I’m going to try to work harder on this in the future.

More Paula Deen Issues

It was announced yesterday that now Wal-Mart and Caesars Entertainment will be backing away from Paula Deen. And there might be more to come.

Walmart and Caesars Entertainment joined Smithfield, a food company specializing in pork products, which dropped Deen on Monday. The Food Network also decided not to renew Deen’s contract after her remarks.

QVC told TMZ.com it was “closely monitoring these events and we are reviewing our business relationship with Ms. Deen. In the meantime, we have no immediate plans to have her appear on QVC.”

Equal Rights Blog Hop

A blogging buddy of mine sent me information about a blog hop for his new web site that’s focused on equal rights.

From my inbox:

The Equal Rights Blog Hop
As most of you know, equal rights are something that the GLBT community (or whatever acronym you prefer) has been fighting for across the world for some time now. The right to marry whomever we love. The right to be protected against discrimination in the workplace. The right to be protected from acts of violence that stem from who and what we are. We are making gains in some areas–many more countries are recognizing same-sex marriages as a legal right. We are losing ground in others, such as the increase in state-sanctioned violence against homosexuals in Russia and transgendered people in Greece.

July the 4th marks the celebration of Independence Day in the United States. We invite you to take place in a blog hop to celebrate our own march toward independence!

Queer Town Abbey is hosting a blog hop July 4th through 7th and we want YOU to participate! We’re calling on writers across the GLBT genre to join us: our theme is “What does being a member of the GLBT community mean to you?”

Please write a blog post on this topic and post it on your site on the 4th July. Feel free to also promote your books, too. Consider offering a prize to readers who comment on your post, as this will help ensure that people circulate the entire blog list.

This is a serious subject but we want you to have fun too! Share with us what being a member of this fabulous community means to you while taking the opportunity to introduce yourself to new readers and potential fans.

For more info: http://queertownabbey.com/join-the-equal-rights-blog-hop-july-4th-through-7th/

 

Gay Icon: Peter Berlin


As for gay icons, few compare to Peter Berlin. He was one of those men who attracted attention without even trying. Just one image of him can define an era for gay men, an era that I was too young to be part of. But his photos inspired me to write gay erotica, as I’m sure they inspired many others.

From Wiki:

Armin Hagen Freiherr von Hoyningen-Huene (born in 1942) is a photographer, artist, filmmaker, clothing designer/sewer, model and gay sex symbol best known by his stage name Peter Berlin. In the early to mid-1970s, Berlin created some of the most recognizable gay male erotic imagery of his time. Serving as his own photographer, model, and fashion designer, Berlin redefined self-portraiture and became an international sensation.[1]

This makes today’s amateur photos from iPhones look slightly silly.

Check out his web site here.

His two films, Nights in Black Leather (1972) and That Boy (1974), played to packed houses for years and, along with other pioneering erotic filmmakers such as Wakefield Poole and Jack Deveau, helped bring gay male erotic films artistic legitimacy.

And who says erotic films are not artistic? I personally think boning and art can be combined very well, indeed.

John Waters made a great video I found on Youtube.

There are tons of images here and I’m not sure what’s legal to use or not so I’m linking to them instead. It’s worth checking out the web site I linked to above to read and see more about him.

Though he retired, I’ve read he’s still in San Francisco and he’s recognized often on the street.