Category: Gay Heroes

Jack Falahee’s Sexuality; Joel Grey on Neil Patrick Harris; Tom Selleck and Gay Rumors

Jack Falahee’s Sexuality

In ABC’s How to Get Away With Murder, Jack Falahee plays a gay character who from what I gather actually brought his partner to tears during a rimming scene. I’ve never heard of Falahee, and I probably won’t see much of him because I rarely watch that kind of network TV anymore. But he’s relatively unknown and everyone now wants to know whether he’s gay or straight.

And he’s being coy, secretive, and demure about it:

‘I don’t think answering who I’m sleeping with accomplishes anything other than quenching the thirst of curiosity. And moreover, it seems reductive.’ he tells Out Magazine in a new cover story. 

‘It’s been really interesting to be in the middle of the industry’s fascination with the individual, because I never thought about that growing up or when I was at acting school. No matter how I answer, someone will say, “No, that’s not true.” 

‘We still live in this hetero-normative, patriarchal society that is intent on placing everything within these binaries. I really hope that – if not in my lifetime, my children’s lifetime – this won’t be a question, that we won’t need this.’

After saying this, he goes on to say how much he wants to help people in the LGBT community.

We will always live in a heteronormative society because there will always be more heterosexual people in our society. Yes, there are people who would question him no matter how he answers, but I think that kind of thing is disappearing little by little as more gay people assimilate. Even though I will always support the gay person who is in the closet and isn’t ready to come out yet because of his/her circumstances, I find it hard to support any guy who makes his living…a very good living filled with privilege…playing gay and yet won’t own up to his/her sexuality in public.

But I give Falahee credit. At least he knew the word heteronormative. And this all could be a huge publicity act, too. Keep the people dangling and wondering. I’ve seen that before.

You can read more here. If you don’t agree with me, that’s fine. But remember, I’m not slamming anyone for being in the closet like so many millions of gay men around the world who don’t have the luxury or the opportunity to come out. This guy is coming from a place of HUGE privilege, he chose to be in this position in public, and he won’t even admit this one basic fact about himself. I find that highly disingenuous, especially when I think about heroes like Michael Sam who have done so many positive things for the LGBT community as the risk of their own careers…lives.

And remember this, what you do in bed is no one’s business. But being gay and part of the LGBT community is a lot more than what you do in bed. At least I hope it is.  

Joel Grey on Neil Patrick Harris

Now here’s an article that’s worthy of praise because it may help inspire more people…maybe even Jack Falahee, although I doubt that. Joel Grey who has been entertaining us for years recently came out of the closet and he’s claiming that Neil Patrick Harris was inspirational to him.

Joel Grey, best known for the film Cabaret, says of this year’s Oscar host: ‘Neil Patrick Harris is a star in every way. And he’s a dad. He’s the most gifted, charming, talented actor who is himself, and that’s it. There are no limits.’ 

In an interview with People, Grey calls Harris ‘one of my heroes.’ 

‘He is just excellent at everything, and he is totally who he is.’

Just like Michael Sam, Neil Patrick Harris is another hero and not just for one or two people. These brave men are inspiring gay men who can’t come out, or who are thinking of coming out, literally on a daily basis. I know this because I get letters from these guys on a weekly basis because their only connection to the gay world is through fiction and an e-reader. Some sneak netflix and look for clips of Will & Grace on youtube when no one is around. I do not joke about things like this.

Here’s the rest of the piece.   

Tom Selleck and Gay Rumors

In keeping with the general theme of today’s post, here’s an interesting fact about Tom Selleck I didn’t even know.

Selleck played a gay role in 1997 in a film titled, In & Out, I don’t remember seeing it, but I could be wrong about that.  At the time, Selleck was dealing with tabloids and gossip mongers suggesting he was gay and he took the gay role on anyway. Remember, this was almost 20 years ago…a very different world.

It was about midwestern teacher (Kevin Kline) who questions his sexuality after a former student makes a comment about him at the Academy Awards. The film also starred Joan Cusack, Debbie Reynolds, Matt Dillon and Bob Newhart, among others. 

Says Selleck: ‘I said, “I’ve been trying to do ensemble comedy forever and this is one of the best ensembles I’ve ever seen.” Because I had sued several tabloids for falsely saying I was gay, people were saying I was anti-gay. 

‘Playing the role ended both those rumors.’ 

As far as I know, Selleck has never hidden the fact that he’s a straight actor playing gay. 

The rest is here. 

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