Gay Boyfriend “Twins”
This one made me smile. Through the years Tony and I have known several gay couples who fall into this category: gay boyfriend twins. It’s not about incest. These guys aren’t related to each other. They are boyfriends who try hard to look like each other. The first year we were together Tony made a point of telling me he didn’t want us to ever look like “one of the Bobsie Twins.” At the time we knew a gay couple who wore the same outfits (always tight black shirts), the same shoes (black boots), and even wore their hair the same (too short, dyed black, and spiked)…like identical twins…and even though it’s not something that would have occurred to me I completely agreed with Tony on that matter.
This article explains it in more detail with photos:
We’ve all seen it happen. Two people start dating, and over the course of the relationship, they start to morph into mirror images of each other. It can be funny, sad, hot — it all depends, really.
But did you know there’s a blog that chronicles this phenomenon? The aptly named BoyfriendTwin Tumbler is just chock full of wonders.
You can read more here. The comments get a little snarky, too. This one seems to have hit a nerve.
Side note: most of the gay couples we’ve known over the years do NOT do this. They don’t dress like twins, and make a point of it. The ones who do dress like twins are usually the ones you run from at parties.
This guy’s cousin came out to him on social media…my nephew did the same with me on Facebook. This guy claims he wasn’t shocked…I was stunned. I really didn’t have a clue. But then I didn’t know my one brother was gay until I ran into him in a disco in New York.
In any event, it’s an interesting story about how their relationship as gay cousins devolved over time. From the way it sounds the younger cousin who came out on social media felt as if the older cousin was trying to mold him into being the gay man everyone expects…the typical South Beach gay man. It didn’t work because the younger cousin wasn’t into any of that, and the two cousins wound up drifting apart for obvious reasons.
“A growing number of physicians and health activists recommend that all men who have sex with men, especially those who are HIV-positive, be tested every one-to-three years depending on their immunological well-being and CD4 count,” organizers said in a statement. “They suggest that HIV negative individuals be tested every three years. This work is important, because most people know little about anal cancer, have never been tested for it, and don’t know that screening tests exist.”
The key thing that is not made clear from this article and much of the coverage you see around is that the vast majority of Anal cancer is caused by HPV infection (Human Papilloma Virus) – so it is a sexually transmitted disease. It is the exact same virus which causes the majority of Cervical Cancers in women. Anal Cancer is just as nasty and aggressive as Cervical Cancer, and if you have a screening programme available to you, you should take it up because getting to it early makes a huge difference.
And there is a myth that if you don’t have genital warts, you don’t have HPV – you can be infected with HPV and never know it.
You can also be vaccinated against HPV. In the USA, all gay and bisexual men up to the age of 26 can be offered HPV vaccination (and all other men up to the age of 21). In the UK there is currently no vaccination of men but you can request it. The message is clear: if you’re gay or bisexual, take part in screening and get vaccinated if possible.
I like to make a point of letting readers know this book was released in two versions, one with strong sex scenes, one without. This is the PG rated version and runs about 52,000 words. It’s .99.