Category: gay culture disappearing

When Her boyfriend Is Gay; Being Gay In 2015; No One Likes A Faggot

When Her Boyfriend Is Gay

Here’s an interesting post…about how straight women react when they find out their boyfriends are gay.

Each meme/person, in this case, has a different reaction. This one kind of gutted me.

My boy friend just told me he was gay. I wish he would have told me before I fell in love with him. 

You can check out the rest of the memes here. Some are more uplifting. But the one above really tugs at the heart strings.

Being Gay In 2015

Here’s a glance back over this past year about what it was like to be gay, and how various events unfolded. I think the most significant was the way SCOTUS ruled.

Everyone will long remember the Supreme Court decision granting marriage equality. But it’s easy to forget the equally important string of favorable decisions that led up to that ruling and the favorable decisions that followed. Court after court struck down state bans on same-sex marriage, often in eloquent language defending our rights. Nor did it stop there. As a sign of how serious the courts are, Kim Davis, America’s least beloved county clerk, was thrown in jail for contempt of court for refusing to issue same-sex couples marriage licenses. Nor has it stopped there. Just this month, the Supreme Court stopped an Alabama court from denying parental rights to a lesbian, signalling that the marriage case may lead to stronger protections for gay parents.

The rest of the article goes on to talk about other things, for example, will gay identity mean as much as it used to mean now that marriage is legal. There’s a link to another article there that focuses on the topic. It sounds like an argument I’ve heard many times before from older gay men about how gay culture will begin to disappear as more LGBT people…particularly gay men…assimilate into mainstream culture.
“People are missing a sense of community, a sense of sharing,” Eric Marcus, the author of “Making Gay History,” told the paper. “There is something wonderful about being part of an oppressed community.”

I think we’re caught somewhere in the middle, and I think it’s too soon to predict the outcome. There’s still a lot of work to do, but we did win equal rights in one of the most fundamental fights (if not the most) of our time: marriage. So when gay men do assimilate into the mainstream I’m not so sure that is such a bad thing anymore.

You can read this article here, and the other at the link above. There are a lot of interesting comments with varying opinions, which once again proves how diverse the gay community really is.

No One Likes A Faggot

Now this is definitely the kind of story that puts the old days of being gay and being oppressed into a different perspective. There’s absolutely nothing wonderful about it. It’s still happening, but not quite as often. 

It’s a story about a guy who was in such denial…and living with such fear…about being gay he had sex with another guy, and then what he did afterward is just gut-wrenching.

He reached out to me and told me he loved me. And I spit in his face.

I called him names like “faggot” and “queer.” I told him I wasn’t like him and never wanted to be. I said that I’d tell everyone he was lying and that he’d told me about being gay and I’d rejected him. I told him to leave and never come back.

You can read the entire story here. It’s well-written and it’s a subject I know happens and yet we never hear much about. But I do think kids in high school are dealing with this a little differently nowadays, at least compared to ten or twenty years ago. From what I see with my own nieces and nephews they don’t even care if you’re gay anymore.

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