Category: gay coming out stories

"Albert the Faggot?" Ellen’s New Objectified Male Gardener; Big Rubber Sex Toy in Thailand

“Albert the Faggot?”

There are several facets of this article I found fascinating. First, a really great young guy came out of the closet in 2009 and his aunt asked him “When is it going to be okay to call you Albert the Faggot?”  The peculiar thing is that this aunt wasn’t as upset and it sounds, as if she was supporting him. 

Then this happened:

Then she said this: ‘So, you’re already “Albert the Jew” and “Albert the [Georgetown University] Hoya.” When’s it going to be OK to call you “Albert the Faggot’?”‘
Eisenberg paused then said to his aunt: ‘Never, Aunt Marianne. It’s never going to be OK to call me ‘Albert the Faggot.”‘
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Then she said this: ‘So, you’re already “Albert the Jew” and “Albert the [Georgetown University] Hoya.” When’s it going to be OK to call you “Albert the Faggot’?”‘ 

Eisenberg paused then said to his aunt: ‘Never, Aunt Marianne. It’s never going to be OK to call me ‘Albert the Faggot.”‘

The aunt sounds like she could be a real asswipe.

After that, a friend congratulated him and said he was glad Albert was not like another effeminate gay he knew. In other words, the friend was saying, “You’re one of the good ones.” I think all minorities know how that goes. It’s just that it’s still okay to say this openly to gay people where it’s not okay to say this openly about any other minority. 

It all leads up to a statement from Albert Eisenberg stating we all really need to work on these things a lot more because they’re not going to be solved in court.

You can read it here, with a video clip. Side note: Albert is adorable and smart.

Ellen’s New Objectified Male Gardener

I wish Ellen would take a lesson from Albert Eisenberg. I could be wrong about this, but I find it interesting that a women, a lesbian, like Ellen DeGeneres would make such a big thing about objectifying men when it’s always been so wrong to objectify women in this way. If Jimmy Fallon were to do this with a sexy French maid every feminist on the planet would be going after him, and rightly so. It stands to reason. And even though it’s not being discussed in public openly I can’t believe other people aren’t at least thinking this.

She’s accepting video auditions to be the new objectified green thumb, and recently showed off a few eligible candidates.

We’re not sure — are nude photos a set back or a leg up?

I know you all think this is funny-haha and Ellen’s so cool and lesbian hip right now. And I’m taking it too seriously. But I’m actually not…not literally. I don’t really give a damn if Ellen objectifies men, women or kangaroos. That’s not my point. I think we all get too uptight about these things anyway. Some people, men and women, have made careers out of this kind of objectification and they’ve done well for themselves. And good for them. I just don’t like double standards, especially when there’s a hidden agenda involved.

Go ahead, Jimmy Fallon. You try this with a stereotypical female French maid and see where it gets you. I hear the word misogynist in the distance. But I don’t hear anything about Ellen doing this to men. It goes both ways and you don’t right one wrong by creating another.

The rest is here. 

Big Rubber Sex Toy in Thailand

In Thailand they allegedly found a huge rubber sex toy in a cave. This has caused a shitstorm in a small community, and rightly so, because the cave is supposed to be sacred and the big dildo is driving them to distraction. However, they aren’t upset because it’s a dildo, they’re upset because it’s factory made, not man made out of hardwood. Someone probably had good intentions, but missed the mark this time.

The offending item, which local media have described as “a large, pink faded sex toy,” was discovered in the Phra Nang Cave, nicknamed the “Phallus Shrine,” a place where locals leave dong-shaped offerings for a goddess named Phra Nang. But the rule is the offerings must be made out of wood, not rubber. Hence the village unrest.

“We believe it was left there by a tourist who doesn’t really understand local beliefs,” Komart Paenkerd, who works for the Krabi Provincial Cultural Office, told the Phuket Gazette.

The bottom line is that they’d like tourists to keep it more traditional and leave phallus symbols made out of wood…hardwood. They don’t want generic sex toys you can buy in any Adult World bookstore.

You can read the rest here in case you’re planning a trip to Thailand any time soon. It actually sounds very interesting to me and if I were going there I’d make a point to check this out.

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Call For Gay Stories; Rose McGowan Is An Idiot; Jonah Hill Apologizes

Call For Gay Stories

There was an e-mail in my inbox tonight that I think a lot of people will find interesting and I figured I would share it right now while it’s fresh. There’s a new web site called “Who’s the Guy?” that revolves around gay coming out stories and a few other things that has an open call for submissions. It’s a simple web site to navigate and all you have to do is submit a story. The long range goal is to put together a full published work/anthology to inform people. There is also a “Happy Endings” page I thought was interesting. This is from the web site:

But Who’s The Guy? is a question many of us have been asked within the LGBT community. This question, among many others have kept me extremely satisfied with stories of how others may imagine our lifestyles and the ways we stumble to assemble a response to absurd questions and situations.

But Who’s The Guy? is a submission site for the coming out stories and our responses to questions we all have to share when asked about LGBT relationships and the community. Coming out can often be a daunting experience but there are also some comical situations and conversations along the way. We aim to find the humor in the awkward moments before, during and after coming out.

Ultimately, these stories will be chosen to be part of a published piece devoted to those needing a good outlet, connection and laugh.  But Who’s The Guy? would also like to donate to a worthy LGBT cause. By working together we can create a better world for everyone. Please feel free to take a moment to laugh at yourself and others by sharing your story and promoting the cause for change!

There’s more here that I think readers will find worthy of checking out. For anyone seeking publication I think this is one of those opportunities you might want to take advantage of. Every publishing credit counts and don’t let anyone tell you differently.

Rose McGowan Is An Idiot

This is just odd.

I’ve posted about the corporation in the country of Brunei that owns The Beverly Hills Hotel several times. Brunei is a country that supports Sharia Law, which advocates stoning gays and treating them as criminals. They don’t treat women any better. Many celebrities, including Jay Leno and Richard Branson, have come out against them in support of global gay rights and they’ve organized a boycott on The Beverly Hills Hotel.

But not everyone is supporting the boycott. Russell Crowe doesn’t think it’s a good idea because it’s going to hurt the people who work at the hotel. And now actress Rose McGowan agrees with him and she’s allegedly organized a party to support NOT boycotting the hotel.

Her comments are rich. She doesn’t think boycotts work. I guess because she’s such an experienced activist? And she has so much knowledge on the topic of boycotts?

And you might want to hold onto your seat when you read this comment:

Her friend Amanda Goodwin, who helped plan the party, added: “A lot of people have asked me whether I’d go if it were Hitler. Probably. I think I would. I’d go, and I’d say, ‘I’m a Jew’.”

“I think it’s great that we’re here, being gay, sitting on his sofa. I really want to gay this place up.”

Gay the place up? Seriously?

They’re both idiots. Did they learn how to read? Did they go to school? If these two privileged idiots even knew a hint of history and what Hitler did to Jews and gays and a few others during WWII they would cringe at how stupid that comment actually sounds.

But more than that, I never thought I would live to see the day someone would be glib about Adolf Hitler.

I think it’s time to boycott Rose McGowan and anything associated with her.

There’s more here.

I hate to see anyone lose a job or suffer a loss of income. But I think that when it comes to things like this, and what happened with the Russian Olympics, a large statement needs to be made for the good of the majority. And the majority doesn’t work at the Beverly Hills Hotel.

Jonah Hill Apologizes

Jonah Hill went on a vituperative rant recently and did an Alec Baldwin. Hill didn’t like it when he was being followed by press last weekend when one of the reporters commented about his short pants, probably goading him.

This is how Hill replied:

After a period of silence, where he was still being followed, the actor responded by saying: “Suck my dick, you faggot!”

That comment set off a firestorm and he’s now apologizing because he’s not really anti-gay and he didn’t mean a word of what he said.

“This is a heartbreaking situation for me,” an upset Hill said outright. “From the day I was born and publicly, I’ve been a gay rights activist.”

There’s more about his apology here.

Obviously, the word faggot is part of his vocabulary. And that makes me stop and wonder. But I think it’s part of the vocabulary of most straight men and that’s what needs to change. If I were Jonah Hill I would make that statement and focus on making that change…if I really were sorry.

Michael Sam’s Dad’s Mixed Reaction to Gay News

Michael Sam’s Dad’s Mixed Reaction to Gay News

I’ve posted about this more than once this week and all you have to do is scroll down to find the posts they’re so recent. Michael Sam, a football player with University of Missouri, came out this week and people are still talking about it. This time they are talking about the less than thrilled reaction Michael Sam’s dad had when he discovered his son is gay through a text from Sam Jr. while he was eating at Denny’s.

“I couldn’t eat no more, so I went to Applebee’s to have drinks,” Sam Sr. told the newspaper. “I don’t want my grandkids raised in that kind of environment.”

Sam Sr. described himself as “old-school,” saying the idea of a gay player in the NFL bothers him, but he told the newspaper that he loves his son and hopes he makes it into the NFL.

“As a black man, we have so many hurdles to cross. This is just one he has to cross,” Sam Sr. told the Times.
Sam, an All-America defensive end, led the SEC with 11.5 sacks and 19 tackles for a loss last season.

This sounds all too familiar to me because I have a gay nephew and he came out to me on Facebook in a private message a few years ago, and that message wasn’t expected and it floored me for a moment. I had no idea. He was already on his way to med school in Iowa and in his mid-twenties doing a fellowship in St. Louis at Washington University. Evidently, having two openly gay uncles (my brother is gay) did nothing to help him come out sooner. It did nothing to relieve his anxiety. He went through the same angst and pain most younger gay men deal with before they actually decide to come out.

Of course I supported him immediately and told him I would not tell anyone else until he was ready. He told me he wanted to wait, but he just had to tell someone to get it “out.” He said if he didn’t he felt as if he might explode. Many gay men feel that way. A few days later I heard through my mom that my nephew phoned my sister and brother-in-law and he told them himself. And even though my sister and brother-in-law were shocked they didn’t support him immediately. It took a while. It wasn’t that they reacted poorly. They just reacted with shock and didn’t know how to deal with it.

So I can see how Sam’s dad would go through all kinds of mixed emotions. I went through them with my own nephew and I’m openly gay. The first thing I thought was how hard it’s going to be for my nephew being gay in this world. The second thing I thought was just support him no matter what because he already knows how hard it is. I also think it’s a little harder for some in the African American community. I dated men of African descent before I met Tony and they all faced the same issues, which was almost double the shame of being gay within their own communities. I’m not sure why the stigma still lingers so much in some places, but I think a lot has to do with the bible, religion, and strong ties to old ways that have been preached for hundreds of years.

I hope Sam Sr. comes to terms with this and learns from others that it’s not the worst thing in the world and that he should be proud of his son for being so talented, so honest, and so willing to become and example for other gay men like him. That in itself makes a bold statement about the kind of man Michael Sam is. And even though Sam Sr. might not know it yet, he definitely did something right when he was raising his son.

You can read more here.