Category: gay brothers

Having A Gay Brother; Lexus Gay Docuseries; First Gay Military Service Leader

Having a Gay Brother

I know I’ve mentioned I have a gay brother in NY and a gay nephew in medical school in Iowa, however, I don’t think I’ve ever commented on that in detail. This series of memes is interesting to me because it has quotes from younger gay guys who have gay siblings, and they are growing up knowing this. And I have to admit that’s a novelty for me.

I didn’t even know my brother was gay until we were both in our late twenties and we accidentally and literally bumped into each other in a gay bar. We didn’t grow up knowing this. It’s not that we were ever estranged either. We just didn’t discuss it and we just didn’t talk about it. You didn’t do that in the 1990s. But I was glad when I found out. It made sense to me.

Growing up gay is often an isolating experience, though thankfully that’s beginning to change in a big way.
For many people, the thought of having a gay sibling to relate to during adolescence sounds like it would have been a dream come true.
 And here’s one of the quotes…
Whenever someone is surprised that both my brother and I are gay I feign surprise that their siblings are all straight. 
You can read the other quotes here. They’re all a little different.

Lexus Gay Docuseries

I love this because we just re-leased another Lexus iS 300, and we knew nothing about it while we were negotiating a price with the Lexus Dealership. At least I know Lexus is gay friendly…not that it would have mattered. I really don’t think that way, but it’s still nice just the same.

Luxury automobile brand Lexus launched a new documentary series for their L/Studio film portfolio. This six episode series, called “It Got Better,” is a collaboration between producers Lisa Kudrow and Dan Bucatinsky of the award-winning “Web Therapy” series with the It Gets Better Project. These episodes will feature such GLBT luminaries, including actors Jane Lynch, George Takei and Laverne Cox, professional basketball player Jason Collins, style maker Tim Gunn and recording artists Tegan & Sara.

Here’s the rest. I think it looks wonderful and I’ll post more as I get more info.

First Gay Military Service Leader

One of the things I try to do here on the blog is show people new links for LGBT information on the web. It’s not always easy because you don’t always get links with a simple search. I got lucky with, and I hope you check out all of their content with the two links I’ve provided with this post.

In any event,

Fox News reports the Senate Armed Services Committee has confirmed the first openly gay leader of a U.S. military service, voting to approve the nomination of Eric Fanning to be Army secretary.

You can find that one here.

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Palm Beach Stud; Hot Gay Couples/Brothers; Fred Karger Opens Up About Presidential Run

Palm Beach Stud

I think I’ve posted there are two more books in the Bad Boy Billionaire series, and this one, Palm Beach Stud, is next to the last. This one runs about 60,000 words and I found it hugely emotional to write. The last book in the series, Small Town Romance Writer, runs well over 100,000 words. I wanted it to be that long to end the series and to give readers that little something extra. And, just as important, the story line in that book seemed to call for more in-depth character study of the small town romance writer.

In any event, here’s the cover preview for Palm Beach Stud. I’ll post more tomorrow…a blurb and free excerpt. I think the release date is tomorrow, but it could be over the weekend. Once again, they did a killer job on this cover. The house in the background is exactly like the house in the book…the whole novel is set in Palm Beach, Florida. It really is one of the most beautiful places in the US.

Hot Gay Couples/Brothers

I have a gay brother in NY, and I’m always amazed at how people find that so interesting. It’s perfectly normal for us and we never think twice about it. But there’s this fascination about gay brothers sometimes, and this article is proof I’m not imagining things.

But can it always be the case that all of these couples are gay?

Surely they could just be vaguely affectionate brothers?

You can check out the photos of these “affectionate brothers” here. And I can promise you I have never posed for a photo with my brother like these.

Side note: Tony and I look nothing alike. And, not to be snarky, but we tend to shy away from gay couples who dress too much alike. We’re well past that stage where our biggest worry is what new matching shirts we’ll wear on Saturday night.

Fred Karger Opens Up About Presidential Run

The first line of the article to which I’m linking really frustrates me to the point of kicking something…”You may not be aware that Fred Karger ran for president in 2012.” During the last general election I posted endlessly about Fred Karger because I thought it was important for LGBT people to know about him from a historical POV. I also got frustrated when I saw the mainstream media reporting about RuPaul at political events and ignoring Fred Karger completely. Nothing against RuPaul, but I don’t take Ru very seriously when it comes to my own political standards and beliefs. As a gay man, RuPaul does not represent me. RuPaul is a wonderful entertainer I love, not a political leader.

In any event, Karger recently spoke out about why he ran for President, and his motives are interesting. He also answered a few questions about some of the obstacles he faced…many from within the LGBT community because he’s a Republican.

I was really hurt by the Victory Fund [an organization dedicated to supporting openly lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender candidates] and their lack of support. They treated me so poorly. I couldn’t see how the largest and most successful LGBT organization designed to support openly LGBT candidates would just completely sit out my campaign.
I was dismayed by the reaction I got, not just from Victory Fund, but a lot of the LGBT groups, because of my Republican Party registration. And I understand that, because nearly everything bad that has happened in our civil rights movement has come from Republicans. But I think a lot of the sophisticated people understood what I was doing, to hold the Republicans’ feet to the fire, to make them include an openly gay candidate.

I was often just as disappointed when I saw how little so many in the LGBT community cared, or even bothered to learn about Karger. He worked tirelessly for gay marriage, and he supported all the right LGBT causes. However, because of his Republican affiliation he was dismissed and ignored. You didn’t see that happen in the African American community. I personally know Republican African Americans who turned sides and supported President Obama simply because he was of African American descent. Unfortunately, that didn’t happen in the LGBT community. Even more interesting is the fact that Karger openly supported gay marriage. President Obama, at that time, either went blank on gay marriage or said he would leave it up to the states to decide. Which is exactly what he’s done and it’s why Tony and I are legally married in some states, but not in the state where we live.

You can read the full article here. It’s uplifting, inspiring, and it shows how sometimes a man will still go the distance in spite of popular opinion.

And he also made LGBT history.

Gay Porn and Johnny Hazzard; The Lazy Beagle for Authors and Readers


Thanks to social media, I found a fascinating article written by gay porn star known as Johnny Hazzard. From the way it appears, he’s written the article as Frankie Valenti. The post to which I’m linking does contain adult material, so you’ve been warned. The photo above is not Hazzard it’s from wiki commons. I don’t like to post photos unless I have permission or I know it’s safe.

A good deal of the article gets into how Hazzard has managed to survive in the adult entertainment industry, specifically gay porn.

Then, most recently, writer and friend Brett Edward Stout asked me, “Johnny, how did you survive?” I was speechless. I had no answer.

I still can’t totally explain why I survived.

While I do think there are other industries that are just as competitive as adult entertainment (trust me, I work in one), I also think that porn stars across the board deal with a few more intense issues than others. And the adult entertainment industry has changed like everything else in the past few years and I’m not even certain it’s possible to reach the heights of stardom it once was. This statement backs up something I’ve been wondering about for a while.

 There are no “porn stars” anymore. And that could be a huge reason why we are losing some of the “big guys.” Many didn’t have a way out or didn’t have goals for when the title stopped meaning as much. I can relate. You have this title, this crown that acts like currency, like armor. When the money stops, that diminished title is all you have left. Today there are hundreds of boys flaunting the moniker “porn star” but getting paid a fraction of what they were five years ago.

You can read more here.

Valenti is also in a new non-porn indie film titled, Where We Belong, which I’ll post about very soon. The film seems to get into gay brothers. I have a gay brother and I’m interested in seeing how this was handled. I’m also interested in seeing how Valenti does crossing into something more mainstream. Most porn stars don’t fare well. For some reason it’s almost impossible to lose the image of porn star once it’s been established. I understand this all too well as an erotic romance author. It’s the same for authors who write erotic romance or anything dealing with strong sexual content…which is why the less courageous authors (and clever) use fake names when writing erotica. There’s one who won’t even be associated with his own pen name, which I find amusing. Frankly, I couldn’t care less. I love what I do and I personally regret nothing I’ve done…even that burping penis.

The Lazy Beagle for Authors, Readers, and Publishers

I’ve posted about a lot of great web sites for authors, readers, and publishers in the past, but I’ve never come across one that is this unique. It’s called Lazy Beagle: Bringing Readers and Authors of all Genres Together in One Location.

I added a few of my books last week, and I’m in the process of getting more to them. It’s simple to do, and it’s another way for people to connect through social media that isn’t daunting and requires very little time.

This is from the home page:

Welcome to Lazy Beagle Entertainment founded by author Patrick Wendling-Markwell and husband, and sometimes co-author, Rondal D. Markwell. Ever find it hard to find self-published books and other books not promoted with a million dollar advertising budget. Looking for that hidden gem? Well here at LBE we will link you with your favorite published and self-published authors, and give authors a prominent place to link their work and promote themselves, so they are no longer hidden gems but displayed diamonds! We will provide links to all locations the book is available for purchase, and all available sites where you can follow the author. This page was started originally to be for self-published authors, but we have opened it up to any and all authors, self-published or not.

I especially like the fact that they put an emphasis on self-published authors and books. I can’t even count the times I’ve wished there were a place where I could browse through a list of self-published books and authors as a reader.

Here’s the home page link.

Here’s the page where you can add books.

And here’s my page once again. My full list of titles isn’t up yet, but I’m getting there.

Like I said, it’s very casual and simple to navigate.