Gay Man, Lawsuit For Pride Nudity, Suicide; Another London Gay Club Closes; Ten Gay Films of 2016

Gay Man, Lawsuit For Pride Nudity, Suicide

When I saw this story I immediately felt sorry for the gay man who allegedly committed suicide. Then I noticed how many reactions there were to this story. It’s amazing how people will comment on something on social media without knowing all the facts. Some don’t even read the article. They only read the title. Don’t be that person.

A young gay man named Will X Walters was arrested at San Diego Pride in 2011 for wearing an outfit that allegedly exposed part of his bare buttocks. It started out as a misdemeanor, but then Walters refused to sign the misdemeanor based on principle. Walters claimed that he wasn’t naked and that he was being discriminated against. That’s the gist of it, but there’s nothing uncomplicated about this story.

Ultimately, Walters sued the police. That dragged on for five years, which lawsuits like that tend to do, and he wound up losing the case anyway. His legal costs reached one million dollars.

Then this happened…

On Wednesday, Walters’ body was found at his apartment in Hillcrest, San Diego.
It’s not yet known how long his body had lain their undiscovered, but his attorney, Chris Morris, says he had not spoken to him since the 13 December jury ruling.
Morris said that Walters had been left ‘shocked’ by the failure of his lawsuit. His legal team say that the case had racked up $1million in costs for Walters.
Authorities believe that he committed suicide.

You can read the rest here. As complicated as this story is, I think any gay man alive who has ever been discriminated against by the police will understand what happened here. And as sad as this is, it continues to happen all the time. The comments are interesting.

Another London Gay Club Closes

Sadly, this also continues to happen…

Kazbar, a beloved gay venue in Clapham, London, has announced it is closing in a post on their official Facebook page.
The anonymous post reads: ‘After 20 years of being the iconic gay bar of South London, we regret to inform you that we will be closing down this year.’
The post adds that the bar’s last day of trading will be 1 January 2017.

Here’s the rest. The closure is due to an alleged rent increase.

Ten Gay Films of 2016

Here’s a list of ten gay films that were released in 2016. It should come as no surprise that James Franco had a lot to do with this.

I saw a few of them, and I especially loved this one, Tab Hunter Confidential.

The documentary spotlights former matinee idol Tab Hunter, a squeaky-clean hunk that charmed America with his good looks, crooning voice and appearances in over 40 movies. Hunter, however, had to hide his sexuality during most of his Hollywood days before changing tastes coupled with age thrust him into obscurity.
Tab Hunter Confidential suffers from loving its subject a bit too much. The film totally ignores Hunter’s vocal opposition to marriage equality in the 2000s and bashes Hunter’s ex-boyfriend and fellow closet case Anthony Perkins. That said, it does shed light on the era of closeted Hollywood, the fickleness of showbiz, and just how far LGBTQ has advanced.
You can read the rest here. It was a good documentary and I don’t think it was disingenuous. 
There are a few films on the list I haven’t seen yet, like King Cobra. I’m not sure I’ll bother to see that one. 
Uncertainty

A Gay New Adult Erotic Romance 

In Digital or Paperback 

  “The characters are wonderful and each bring a beautiful light to the story.”  

-Unsolicited Amazon Customer Review

Gay Guy Reacts To Rejection Badly; Cabinet Member Who Might Be Pro-Gay-ish; San Fran Stud Bar Safe For 2 Years

Gay Guy Reacts To Rejection Badly

This is about how one gay guy rejected another on a hook up app, and the guy who got rejected went berserk on the other guy.

But one guy took bitter rejection to a whole new level.

After rejecting a guy off OK Cupid, he responded by going totally defensive and ranting about the other guy.

It’s a bitter diatribe, in screen shots, you can find here. 

Kind of reminds me of an altercation I had on Facebook last week with some idiot (a gay guy) I didn’t know at all, and who wasn’t even a Facebook friend. I finally had to delete and block. Some people truly believe that because they are hiding behind the safety of a computer screen they can say or do anything they wish.

Cabinet Member Who Might Be Pro-Gay-ish

A guy named Rex Tillerson who is the CEO of a large oil company was recently named Secretary of State by President Elect Donald Trump. 

Tillerson is also the first member of the President-elect’s cabinet who may be considered to be somewhat in favor of LGBTI equality.

A long-time volunteer with the Boy Scouts of America, Tillerson played a significant role in updating the organization’s views on including gay youth.

In 2013, the Boy Scouts of America’s National Executive Board decided to end its ban on gay scouts, although the ban on homosexual leaders and adults joining its ranks was upheld until 2015.

You can read the rest here. I know nothing about Tillerson, so the best I can do is go by what I’m reading in this article and hope it’s accurate. I do think that LGBT people want/need to hear something positive with regards to the Trump administration and LGBT equality.

San Fran Stud Bar Safe For 2 Years

With so many gay venues closing all over the world, and gay culture changing so rapidly, this is excellent news.

The collective of activists and cabaret artists that are battling to save San Francisco gay club The Stud, which has been running for 50 years, has announced that it has secured the venue’s future for at least the next couple of years.

However, after that time, they will be looking to find a new home for the bar.

There’s a lot more here. It’s actually a group of regular customers who are keeping it open. They’ll be holding some kind of crowdfunding with a $500,000 goal. If you’re inclined to donate, you can find the link with this article. I think you can buy T-shirts and tote bags, too. I actually want one of the T-shirts. I’ll post a pic if I can get one.

Stepbrothers In the Attic by Ryan Field



Marco Rubio On Gay As a Choice; Barry Manilow Feels Free; Saving The Black Cap Gay Bar

Marco Rubio On Gay As a Choice

Although I’m rarely political, I think I’m following this next Presidential election more closely because there are so many important LGBT issues that have yet to be resolved. The problem right now with almost all politicians is they don’t seem to know where to stand on LGBT issues…especially Republicans. I’m not talking about the far right. We know where the Christian conservatives stand. I’m talking about Republicans who are trying to win over younger people…those Republicans who have been watching the polls and know that public opinion is changing. 

And then there’s this.

The other day I posted something where Marco Rubio mentioned gays and choices. Now he’s saying this:

The Floridian Republican, who announced last week that he is running for president, said on CBS’s Face the Nation: ‘I … don’t believe that your sexual preferences are a choice for the vast and enormous majority of people.

‘In fact, the bottom line is I believe sexual preference is something that people are born with.’

Now here’s what he said last week.

‘I’m not going to hurt them simply because I disagree with a choice they’ve made or because I disagree with a decision they’ve made, or whatever it may be,’ Rubio said in a previous interview.

That’s where he loses people. In one breath he appears to be stating  gay is a choice, and in another he’s stating the opposite.

You can read the rest here. I just hope this doesn’t portend a lot more idiocy to come in the next election. I can respect where someone stands even if I don’t agree with him. But I don’t think it’s fair for a candidate to force voters to parse every comment they make. 

Barry Manilow Feels Free

Although Barry Manilow hasn’t commented on his recent gay marriage, Suzanne Somers who was there has made a few comments. And please don’t tell me I shouldn’t refer to it as a “gay” marriage. Right now, where things stand, it’s a big deal and it IS a gay marriage. I hope this changes in the future, but right now I think it’s important to own it.

‘They’re married and really happy, and I was there when it was announced and they’ve been together for 30 years,’ Somers said during an appearance this week on Bravo’s Watch What Happens Live.

WWHL host Andy Cohen remarked: ‘Wow. It’s wild. He never formally came out and said it. It’s something everybody knew. It’s wonderful he’s been with his partner for 30 years.’

Somers also said: ‘I think it’s freeing for him. He’s one of the most incredible people and a true musical genius. I believe he is the Irving Berlin of our generation. The impact he has made on music is incalculable.’

That really is something. They’re together 30 years. I’m with Tony 23 years and I’m still not sure where all the time went…and, the first sixteen years were spent partially keeping it hidden. Not totally, but we didn’t tell Tony’s family, and Tony never let anyone in corporate America know he was gay or with someone in a long term relationship. Evidently, there are a lot of us out there.

You can read the rest here about Manilow. I hope he is feeling free…free enough to speak up now.

Saving The Black Cap Gay Bar

I’ve posted many times about how the gay bar as a concept has been disappearing slowly since the 90’s. I’m not getting into all that again, but I did post a question about it on social media and most of the gay men I know said they don’t frequent gay bars anymore. All are different ages and come from different areas. There was a time when Tony and I were at several of the local gay bars here in New Hope at least twice a week…at least. Now there’s only one gay bar left and we go there only a few times a year. Do I feel guilty about this? No. Life changes, the world changes, and people move in different directions.

But there are drag queens in London working hard to keep The Black Cap in London open.

RuPaul’s Drag Race queens are helping to save one of the most iconic London queer venues.

Latrice Royale, from season 4, and Morgan McMichaels, from season 2, joined together to call for lovers of drag around the world to sign a petition to save The Black Cap in Camden.

Closed without warning on 12 April, it is expected the owners are trying to turn the building into luxury flats.

I hate to see something this strongly related to gay culture disappear completely. The gay bar is a huge part of my past, too, just like small brick and mortar gay bookshops. Frankly, maybe they should go to RuPaul and ask her to invest her money in The Black Cap. This way RuPaul could be a hero and save the day. Because you can’t blame the owners of buildings for trying to make a profit.

On the flip side, which is a little ironic, I would bet that many of the people who will be interested if they turn the place into luxury flats will, indeed, be upwardly mobile gay men who will repeat, at length, the history of the building with each intimate candlelight dinner party they give.

The rest is here.