Straight Men Cuddling
When my author friend, Jon Michaelsen, sent me this link yesterday I have to admit that I found it more than interesting. The article talks about how it’s not as uncommon as we think it might be for straight men to cuddle in bed and show affection with each other in ways that have always been considered taboo. In fact, a study states that nine out of ten straight young men have spooned with each other in bed.
‘We’re always cuddling, my lot,’ Jarrett, one of the young men who was interviewed, said.
‘We’re all comfortable with each other.’
Max, another survey participant, described how he and his friends would nurse their hangovers together at university.
Following a night out, he said he’s happy to watch TV, play video games, and frequently cuddle with friends.
‘If your mate has a headache you can like massage his head, or you just lie there together holding each other and laughing about how awful you feel,’ he said.
I could joke about this and make a comment or two. But I actually do find it interesting because I think straight men…and gay men…are always so highly underestimated because we’ve been socially conditioned not to show affection toward each other. It’s always been fine to see two women dancing together, but not two men.
Update: I polled twenty straight men I know about this earlier today and not one said they’ve ever spooned or cuddled in bed with another straight man. They have no reason to lie to me. I swore it was off the record and I would not mention names. And these are guys who have confided with me on personal things in the past. Just thought I’d throw that out there.
Zachary Quinto Shirtless
Openly gay actor, Zachary Quinto, didn’t get a Tony nomination this year, but he is out there promoting the role he’s playing for an upcoming Agent 47 film with his body. He makes it clear he’s not an exhibitionist for fun…just for work.
The openly gay star of the Star Trek movies (Mr. Spock) would be the clear winner in a ‘Shirtless Selfie of the Day’ contest.
Quinto posted this shot of himself onto his Instagram account and explained that his exhibitionism has a professional purpose: he is busy preparing for his next movie role.
‘Back to work(ing out). Agent 47. Home stretch.’
You can see the photo here. I pity the young male actor out there who is not “working it” with his body these days.
Gay Activist Slams Obama
A Malaysian gay activist, Pang Khee Teik, wrote what I think is one of those open letters to President Obama stating that he doesn’t want Obama to use gays as political pawns.
While I appreciate the call for Obama to support the activism on sexual orientation and gender identity issues, I find myself confused by the intended outcome of such a support. How can they help, really? And who are they helping, really? (And no, I wasn’t invited to meet Obama. But with my cynicism, could you blame them, really?)
On one hand, Obama’s visit seems premised on securing better international relations. And better international relations are often the stepping stone for better trade agreements. Better for the signers of agreements, naturally. Most notoriously, the USA has recently been trying to promote the TPPA (Trans Pacific Partnership Agreement), which has terms favorable to USA’s corporations and their economic interests, as well as the interests of ruling elites locally, at the expense of local communities and rights. A possible outcome of TPPA is the protection of the interests of pharmaceutical firms, thereby increasing the prices of HIV drugs and making effective cancer treatment less accessible for Malaysians.
You can read the rest here. It’s an angry commentary that hops from one point to another, and I’m still not sure what this activist is complaining about. But it’s an interesting read and some points do hit close to home for me.
What I would have liked is for USA to admit to its past discriminatory policies and bad laws targeted at LGBTs, and how some are still being enacted as we speak. Some states have recently signed into law the right of people to refuse services to LGBTs based on religious convictions. Really, USA, WTF?
And some states, like Pennsylvania where I live, have yet to recognize same sex marriage.
Chase of a Holy Ghost
I’m working on a new book in the Chase of a Lifetime series, Chase of a Holy Ghost, and here’s a short excerpt. This will be the fourth book in the series and it should run about 80,000 words. I’m 99% finished and I’ll post more about a release date.