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The Deal With Twitter…

Here’s the deal with Twitter:

Unless you’re Ashton Kutcher and you have millions following you on twitter.

Or you’re a literary agent and thousands are following you because they want you to represent them and turn them into the next Stephanie Meyer.

I think it’s a nice gesture to follow someone on twitter when they’ve been kind enough to follow you. It’s simple, too. You just open the e-mail, click on the person’s name, and then click “follow.”

Twitter isn’t easy to get into, not by any means. But once you do you’ll start to enjoy it more than you thought you would. You’ll also be connected to a lot of excellent things you would have missed otherwise. And there’s a lot less “noise” on twitter than on most other social media.

Facebook Friends…and De-Friending

In the past year, I’ve signed up with twitter, facebook and a few other networking sites. I do it to promote books, keep in touch with friends and family, and see what other people in publishing are doing. I personally don’t limit any of these sites to just the publishing industry. I’m curious about everyone out there, especially on facebook and twitter. I recently “friended” someone I knew through old friends, and I’m enjoying all their posts. I love reading about what my nephews and nieces are doing (Katie…John Michael…etc…) And my blogging buddy, Ryan Stratton, always makes me smile on facebook.

So sites like facebook cover a lot of ground for me. And I’m learning. So if I haven’t asked to be friends with someone, please consider me a facebook idiot, and don’t take it personally. Same thing with twitter following. I accept all friend requests all the time and if you are following me on twitter, I’ll usually follow you back. And I would never defriend or stop following someone on purpose. It’s just something I would not do.

And there’s a reason for this. Up until a week or so ago, I was reading facebook posts by an editor I’ve worked with for a long time. I’ve always liked him so much I was willing to do anything to please him. If he said, “Make this change,” I’d do it even if I didn’t agree. I loved being in his books, and loved the things he’d written himself. And so I was following him on facebook, enjoying all his posts, too.

And then one morning a week ago, I noticed his facebook posts had all disappeared from my homepage. I figured he was busy and not posting. But by the end of the week I started to wonder. So I searched his name, checked his profile, and found that he’d actually removed me from his friends list. Then I triple checked to make sure I hadn’t made a mistake. But sure enough, he’d wiped me off his list for no apparent reason.

I know I should have thicker skin. I get reviewed all the time and I rarely care what they say. I’m used to taking the good with the bad. But this really bothered me. Here I was thinking we were “friends,” enjoying all his posts, and he knocked me off his friends list without giving it a second thought.

I’ll get over it, but I know one thing for sure. I will never, ever remove anyone from my friend list, on anything, unless I contact them first and tell them why I’m doing it. And if I haven’t friended someone on facebook or I’m not following them on twitter, please understand it’s just my own stupidity and I will do it as soon as I figure out I haven’t done it.