Eric Arvin/T.J. Klune Support
I don’t normally post many personal things here, but for those who read and write gay romance, and follow a lot of what happens on social media within the community, you probably already know about the serious health situation with Eric Arvin. So far, from what I’ve read, Arvin has been intubated (placed on a ventilator) and they are talking about surgery. I don’t know more than that, other than this is very serious. I know from personal experience with Tony they don’t intubate you and put you in ICU unless it’s serious. There’s really no way to describe what it’s like when you’re going through something like this with a spouse or life partner. And when you’re younger it’s even harder, trust me.
Klune did a youtube video thanking people for their support. And when I watched this it was like going back to 2007 when Tony was intubated, almost died, and spent four months in ICU in Doylestown Hospital with a deadly strain of pneumonia. I posted about this before, but the impact of seeing someone else go through something similar is strong. It’s the first time I’ve seen anything like this since 2007 when I went through it. Things like this change you forever. And when I saw the video Klune made I think I know what I must have looked like back then. Shock. You also find out fast who your friends are. You’d be amazed at how many people do a disappearing act. The week Tony was admitted to the hospital New Hope was having a gay pride event. We found out fast how many “friends” were more interested in gay pride than they were in whether or not Tony lived or died. Those who supported us emotionally will be friends until we die. Those who disappeared were weeded from our lives.
In any event, there’s a support fund for Arvin and Klune to help offset medical expenses here. So far the fund has raised 22,000 dollars. Tony and I were lucky enough to have health insurance that covered his entire hospitalization. This was a huge fear of mine at the time. But to give you an example of how expensive it is to go through a serious illness these days Tony’s final expense was two million dollars. That figure still blows me away.
Facebook Celebrates Gay Rights
It’s nice to see something positive happening around the world with regard to the LGBTI community for a change. For the past few weeks most of what’s been happening seems to involve hate and discrimination in one form or another.
But for Facebook, it’s time to celebrate the many good things that have happened to the LGBTI community this year. Looking back in the 2013 in review video, they remember the most amazing and memorable events that have happened this year.
You can read more here.