Queer Eye For the Straight Guy?? One Million Moms Go After Yogurt; Rainbow Detective Series Box Set on Amazon

Queer Eye For the Straight Guy??

Ted Allen, from TV’s Queer Eye For the Straight Guy, made a few comments about how he thinks the TV show helped change a generation of TV viewers. I’ll comment below, but read it all, not just the first part.

“When we made Queer Eye, we never saw ourselves as important or as activists. We were proud of being out. We were the first television show, that I know of, that had an entirely openly gay cast… I’ll never forget the first time I watched Matt Lauer try to say the word ‘queer’ on TV. I mean, it’s not a word people threw around a lot, and it was a very political word. I didn’t like the title at the beginning. I’ve come to realize I was wrong, because I think the provocative nature of it was balanced with the sweetness of the way the show ran most of the time. It worked out… The main thing about Queer Eye that I will say is that, in an era before the Internet was everywhere, we heard from hundreds, probably thousands, of gay kids who said, ‘Thank you for putting some gay people on TV that my parents can actually like. Firefighters liked us, cops, marines. I mean, it was a very good show.”

I actually do remember, and I remember it very well, the first time I watched Queer Eye For the Straight Guy. At first, I was excited/eager because it was a gay TV show, with gay people. There was nothing else gay on TV. Then I watched one episode and that was enough for me…and for Tony. We just looked at each other and shook our heads. When we mentioned the show to friends after that, our friends basically felt the same way we did. That’s because there was nothing at all to which we, as gay men, could relate.

However, I’m not knocking the show. I think it did help push gay people forward in its own limited way. And when you look at something collectively that way, that’s never a bad thing. I’m also sure there were many gay men who could relate to the show, and there’s nothing wrong with that either. So it did have an impact on gay and pop culture in some ways. 

As you would imagine, the comments are mixed, which shows just how diverse gay men can be. That’s the thing I’m always hoping people “get.” Not all of us care about fashion, fabrics, and accessories. Many of us care more about cars and baseball.  

The rest is here. 

One Million Moms Go After…Yogurt!!

The title is pretty self-explanatory. The anti-gay crusaders known as One Million Moms are now going after a yogurt company because the yogurt company featured lesbians in an advertisement. Lesbians in a bed, wearing wedding rings.

Within moments, that spectral organization known as One Million Moms rose up from the gulley in which it sleeps, instantaneously firing out a nutso press release that reads in part: “Chobani should be ashamed of their latest commercial for attempting to normalize sin by featuring two women naked in bed together… This commercial not only promotes same sex relationships by including two lesbians, but also same-sex marriage because the two women wear matching wedding bands.”

You can read the rest here. The comments are worth checking out here, too. I just wish they wouldn’t use ableist language so often…words like “nutso.” That’s wrong and I don’t think I’m being too PC about that. We don’t snark that way about cancer or any other illness and we shouldn’t be doing it to people who have emotional illnesses.

Someone in the comments also mentions that the “One Million” part of this group of moms isn’t accurate. I don’t know that for certain, though.

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Russell Tovey Worst Gay Ever?; Gay Men At CPAC; Meadows Are Not Forever by Ryan Field

Russell Tovey Worst Gay Ever?

Russell Tovey from Looking recently got slammed by gay men for comments he made about gay men. Russell Tovey is an openly gay man himself. The remarks he made are being called “controversial.” James Franco can make fools of us daily and almost everyone laughs, but what Tovey said is “controversial.” Interesting.

The actor made the headline-making comments in a March 1 interview with The Guardian’s Tom Lamont. In the interview, Tovey recalled his father’s refusal to send him to a “theater school” during his teen years. 

“I feel like I could have been really effeminate, if I hadn’t gone to the school that I went to,” he said. “Where I felt like I had to toughen up. If I’d have been able to relax, prance around, sing in the street, I might be a different person now. I thank my dad for that, for now allowing me to go down that path.” 

That experience, he added, “has probably given me the unique quality that people think I have,” which appeared to hint as his ability to play both gay and straight roles in film and on television. 

And then Twitter went berserk.

You can read more here. There are tweets where Tovey apologized. They look sincere.

I’m only going to make one comment on this one. With all the discrimination, cultural appropriation, and hate gay people face these days maybe it’s time we stop slamming each other and start going after the James Franco’s of the world. Because not a day goes by when I don’t see a privileged straight person doing something to get attention with gay bait.

Now, here’s an article where Tovey is dubbed “The Worst Gay Ever.” Who is calling him this? Well, think about that, and then think about who actually runs the painfully dismal gay media that only represents a small portion of gay men fairly and objectively. 

Gay Men At CPAC

This is one of those things that never surprises me because I’ve seen it first hand and I know it really happens. But I know that it does surprise people, because it’s not something you would think would happen…gay conservatives. (I’m always somewhere in the middle so I do think I can be objective about it.)

Paul Detric, a reporter for Reason.TV, attended this year’s Conservative Political Action Conference (CPAC) and used the gay hook-up app Grindr to try and track down gays attending the event. Rather unsurprisingly, he found a number of them and several were willing to talk to Detric — though not necessarily on camera. 

Here’s one quote I found interesting.

“Especially for conservatives to be able to win an election, they’re going to need to get younger voters. To do that they need to start being more socially liberal — essentially they need to shift libertarian.”

Another young man added, “if we’re true conservatives, we really don’t want the government to be involved in our lives — period.”

Even though I’m not all that political, the one thing I always find fascinating is that you rarely hear a gay conservative take an aggressive approach. At least for now, they’re always in hiding as if they’re terrified to “come out.” The comments at the bottom of this article, unfortunately, are what you would expect from the most liberal.

The rest is here.  

Meadows Are Not Forever

Robbie Rogers Gay Masculinity; Twinks, Daddies, Jocks; Transgender Fairy Dolls

Robbie Rogers Gay Maculinity

It was hard to title this part of the post. I thought about using “Gay Stereotypes” and a variety of other interesting words often used with respect to gay men. I’ve often talked about how we usually see only one type of gay man portrayed in the mainstream, when the truth is that there are all kinds of gay men and if people really knew this there might not be any stereotypes at all.

But as it stands this is still a discreet topic and many gay men haven’t even come out at all. Many don’t come out because of stereotypes. It’s not a simple topic. The other day I posted on FB about Michael Sam mentioning there are other gay pro football players and one gay guy commented that Sam shouldn’t have said that. The guy who commented thought it might start a “witch hunt.” That floored me a little because even gay people don’t always see the importance of coming out…as difficult as it is to do for all of us. 

In any event, Robbie Rogers is a gay athlete and they’re doing a sitcom about his life. ABC is doing this, which doesn’t give us much hope that it will be either accurate or funny…because it’s network TV. But the main point right now is that Robbie Rogers has asked to have a masculine actor play him in the sitcom, and if this is done right it sounds as though it could be something different for a change…something with which other gay men can identify.

 We want to teach people through laughter and play with stereotypes.

“It’s gotta be someone funny, someone who doesn’t care and someone very masculine; someone you wanna grab a beer with. In a perfect world – he obviously wouldn’t do this and I don’t think I’m anything like him – but someone like Chris Pratt. You know, someone hilarious, good looking but not super fit, you know what I mean? So it looks like he doesn’t go to the gym kind of thing…”

Now you would think that was an innocent comment from Rogers. However, if you move down to the comment thread and see some of the vicious comments left by disgruntled people you would think Rogers killed a kitten. It’s also two-sided and it sparked an interesting discussion.

You can read the rest here.

Twinks, Daddies, Jocks

Here’s a link to an article about the various definitions often used to portray small groups of gay men. It’s interesting because it shows how the gay community can often be so diversified…and it’s hard to argue with any of them, except that they only define small groups. I don’t fit into any of the categories and no one I know does.

Here are two I didn’t even know existed:

Pocket Gay
Petite and small in stature, a pocket gay is a travel-sized homosexual who stands under 5’7, even in shoes, and is often highly sought after the moment he steps into a gay bar.

Short guy
Petite and small in stature, a short guy stands under 5’7, even in shoes, and is overlooked or assumed to be gay when he steps into a straight bar.

I probably could have lived a full and happy life never knowing these labels exist, however, I’m just passing the information on with this one. It’s just one of those topics where you’re not sure whether to laugh or kick something.

You can read the rest here. 

I’d like to know one thing: what about the gay men who own homes, pay taxes, vote, are active members of their communities, and have families? Guess what, they even go to church. You know, the majority of gay men out there in the world today. Your cousin, your neighbor, and even your facebook friend. Never see a name for them anywhere in these trashy clickbait articles.

Transgender Fairy Dolls

I’m not talking about a category or a stereotype this time. There’s a new toy doll out on the market that’s “shocking” parents because it’s a transgender fairy doll. But even that information is sketchy because it could have been a mistake. And I don’t really know enough about transgender people to comment honestly about this, but I would think this might be insulting on a certain level. I could be wrong about that. I really don’t know.

News about the doll broke after a mother claimed her three-year-old daughter discovered the penis under the doll’s skirt. She posted a picture of it on her Facebook account. The story quickly went viral, causing a stir across the country, before eventually turning into a worldwide pandemic among concerned parents.

The toy was made in China. It is unknown whether the penis was intentional on the part of the manufacturers or if was a factory defect, though we’re going to take a wild guess and say it wasn’t intentional.
I will say this. The transgender people I know don’t identify with fairy dolls. They identify with a specific gender, period. Unfortunately, as it stands the comments aren’t too helpful with this one. I was hoping to learn more, but didn’t.
You can read the rest here, with a photo of the doll. 

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