Category: Down the Basement

Penis Size and Gay Men; Joan Rivers Goes Too Far? More Gays Than Lesbians; Down the Basement by Ryan Field

Penis Size and Gay Men

Of course this is about penis size once again, and it’s not really an article. But I often find that forums where people talk about topics like this can be far more honest and realistic than those “studies” we see mentioned in magazines and posts.

In this case the topic is how gay men feel about penis size. If you are of the sensitive variety, you’ve been warned this isn’t what you’ll find in any text book.

Why would anyone want a small one?\ \ I hate seeing a pencil dick or tiny little thing and thinking, yuck. Especially when you’re expecting a good one.\ \ Aesthetic yes…just looking at one of those monsters gets my mouth a’waterin.


But to be perfectly honest, I don’t think any of these things (the studies or the forums) are very accurate. Every single comment could be disputed. Deep down would most people be willing to admit, openly, they would prefer a small penis over a large one? I’m not talking about those with specific preferences. I’m talking about the millions out there on Grindr and social networks and porn sites. 


You can read more here. None of the opinions on this link reflect my personal opinions. 


Joan Rivers Goes Too Far?

Update: Link to Fredricka Whitfield’s Facebook page where people have been leaving comments about Whitfield’s interview with Rivers. It’s interesting because most seem to be one-sided.


Update 2: Evidently, Joan Rivers used the “tranny” word, which I’ve posted about many times before. This wasn’t in the original link or I would have mentioned it. I don’t use the T word, but many still do. They feel it’s part of their culture. But I still don’t think referring to anyone as gay or trans should be considered a slur and I think we should all rethink that. This isn’t about Joan Rivers or Michelle Obama or even a word. This is about trans abuse, much of which seems to be coming from the LGBTI community.


Iconic performer, Joan Rivers, made headlines twice recently. She was promoting her new book with a snarky CNN reporter, Fredricka Whitfield, and stormed off the set in the middle of the interview, and then when she made interesting comments about the President and his wife.




I have some very strong opinions on this I’ll post at the end.


CNN’s Fredericka Whitfield goaded Rivers during an interview that was supposed to be about her new book with questions about how mean Rivers is on Fashion Police. 



When the anchor described the fashion critiques as “very mean in some ways,” the 81-year-old cut her off.

“It’s not mean, it’s not mean, it’s not mean,” she said. “I tell the truth.”

“I’m sure I say the same things that all your viewers say to their friends sitting next to them on the couch,” Rivers added.



 
“We’re one of the few shows that says ‘that’s an ugly dress.’ … These ladies make $28 million a picture. You really think that Nicki Minaj cares I didn’t like her dress?”

You can read more here about that.   Frankly, that PC attitude of all CNN reporters is why I haven’t watched CNN since they gave Joy Behar her own TV show. I still won’t watch CNN even though Behar’s show was canceled for lack of ratings.

Even more interesting is this next piece about Rivers commenting on the President and his wife.

The comedian known for her lack of self-censoring recently officiated a same-sex wedding and was asked by a photographer if she believed the United States would ever see the first gay or female president. Her response was typical Rivers.



“We already have it with Obama, so let’s just calm down,” she said. “You know Michelle (Obama) is a trans.”

This didn’t sit well with many people. Here’s my issue.


So Joan Rivers makes a comment about the President being gay and the First Lady being trans and people are getting upset? Does this mean there’s something wrong with gay people and trans people? Is it a negative reflection on the Obamas to be compared to anyone in the LGBT community? I find it highly insulting as a gay man to think anyone would find these comments as negative. We already know that Joan Rivers has always been a huge supporter of the LGBTI community. I don’t understand what motivated Rivers to make the comments. But comments like this should not be associated with shame or disrespect. There’s nothing shameful or disrespectful about being gay or transgender, not even for the President and First Lady…unless, of course, you belong to the Westboro Baptist Church.  


There’s more here. This article calls it a trans slur. Yes. Liberal Huff Po calls it a trans slur. And the only slur I find is that the article calls it a slur.

I think this is the kind of double standard from liberal media that bothers me the most. We’ll support you, LGBTI people, but just don’t call our President gay or trans. At least we know where we stand with the conservative media.

More Gays Than Lesbians

This is another one of those articles I always seem to think might be flawed. It’s focused on how the average person in Britain knows more gay men than lesbians.

 Statistics show the average British person knows 5.5 gay men and 3.1 lesbian women. The poll only focused on these two aspects of the LGBTI community.

It gives more detail here. This part is even more interesting. The average LGBTI person knows 21.6 gay men and 10.3 lesbian women. Location plays a huge part, too.

I take none of these studies seriously because I would bet half of all gays, men and women, still aren’t out of the closet.

Down the Basement
 
by Ryan Field
 
 
 
 


Amazon Review:

Ryan Field is top of the class when it comes to cross dressing and female attire erotica and this is one of his hottest. The sense of danger as Rush takes care of the drunken jocks who could suddenly discover his secret and beat him up is palpable as is the erotic tension. The situation is plausible and the ‘surprise’ ending is a nice touch.


Cory Booker’s Woman; Erotic Romance Book Review; Porch Swing Gay Romance

Cory Booker’s Woman

I’ve posted about Newark, NJ Mayor, Cory Booker, in the past, mainly because he’s running for the US Senate right now, he’s a confirmed bachelor, he’s in his forties, and there have been insinuations that he might be gay. He’s denied these insinuations. So far, he’s absolutely not gay.

Cory Booker is also the consummate politician, he’s been preparing for much bigger things than mayor of a NJ city for most of this adult life, and I have no doubt whatsoever that he will win the senate seat this fall, and he will continue to move forward because he’s such a consummate politician.

However, it’s interesting to read a few recent incidents involving Booker, and a female stripper from the west coast who considers herself, “Stripper Model Weirdo.” It’s really all very harmless, and nothing like other sex scandals we’ve seen with other politicians. It seems this stripper woman is somewhat infatuated with Booker and Booker has been responding to her in a friendly way.

At a news conference Thursday, Booker said he communicates with people who send “kindness” his way and he doesn’t “study peoples’ profile(s).”

“That’s really what this is, is me responding to people, which I do every single day,” he said. “And frankly, finally, I just have to say, it is all about just that, is about listening to people and engaging with people no matter what their profession.

“I’ve tweeted people back from all different backgrounds,” he added. “It’s not something I pay attention to. But when somebody’s kind to me, I often say thank you.”

You can read more here. And in this article you can read some of the tweets the stripper woman sent to Booker and actually see a few photos of her. It’s as entertaining as it is creepy.

“I want @CoryBooker to plow me through the night . . . ” she wrote in one tweet first reported on the website BuzzFeed.

I guess this is even more proof that Cory Booker isn’t gay, not if he’s tweeting to a female stripper. And frankly I like Booker, and I’m glad he’s not gay. Because if he were gay, and he’s been hiding it all this time, I would lose all respect for him at this point in my life. I’ve never been one of those people who believe everyone should come out of the closet at one time, and I’ve always believed that coming out of the closet is a highly personal matter and not everyone is ready to do it. I even think it’s okay if a man or woman spends his or her entire life in the closet, quietly and without attention. I feel sorry for them, but I have empathy for them and I understand that. In my own personal life, I even support a few closeted gay men all the time.

But when it comes to politicians, and others in the public eye who are setting examples for younger gay people, I have no patience anymore for high profile liars, including politicians or anyone else who wants to promote the shame that’s always been associated with being gay, with denial of the fact. And that includes all politicians, Democrat and Republican, who try to scam us into believing it’s wrong to be gay. The lives of too many decent gay men and women have been ruined with that kind of mind set.

I know the old argument is that “it shouldn’t matter” one way or the other if a politician, or another public figure, is gay or not. And in a perfect world I would agree with that. In a hundred years, I hope this really is the case. However, right now, that’s not how it works. We are fighting too hard for equal rights. It does matter in some cases, especially if you’re in the public eye and we’re depending on honesty. Younger gay people need role models, too, and they aren’t going to get positive signals from those who continue to hide being gay based on the concept of “it shouldn’t matter.”

It matters.

Erotic Romance Book Review

I may or may not have posted about the following book review I received last spring from On Top Down Under Book Reviews for my stand alone short story, Down the Basement.  I know I have posted about Down the Basement a few times over the years, mainly because it’s always surprised me at how well that story was received. When I say I’m surprised, I’m talking more like stunned. When I wrote that story a long time ago and submitted it to a Cleis Press anthology I never thought anyone would even notice it. This is truly one of those deals in publishing where you never know what to expect. It was even part of a Lambda Award Winning book, which I posted about here.

In any event, it constantly surprises me. And this review is truly one of the most entertaining reviews for Down the Basement I’ve read so far. As a side note, I didn’t solicit this review, and I most certainly didn’t pay for it.

It’s Halloween. There’s going to be a frat house costume party and Rush has himself all ready to go – 6 inch black stiletto fuck-me heels, check, black lace-up corset, check, black, tight skirt, check again, black thong-sock, yep. Rush is tanned, terrific and ready to go to the frat house party. He’s not cruising for guys, just wanting to feel sexy all dressed up with somewhere to go.

On the way some guys scope Rush out, ‘pussy-hounds’, commenting they would like to get some of what she’s got. First test passed. Rush looks and feels like the woman she wants to be tonight.

You can read the entire review at the link above. And take the time to check out the rest of the web site while you’re there. It’s a great site, with a strong voice.

As a side note, I post about reviews sometimes, but I don’t always remember to offer this one little hint to other authors who write gay erotica or gay erotic romance. If you’re going to solicit professional online blogs or web sites where book reviews are done for free, please take the time to check out the kinds of books they review. In other words, you don’t want to submit gay erotica or gay erotic romance to this book review site because they don’t focus on gay erotica, and they know nothing about gay erotica or gay erotic romance. They’re great with mainstream romance and some lighter brands of harmless m/m romance, but their concept of what’s gay (gay culture and gay men) comes from hearsay and text books, not actual experience. Make sure you do the homework and find a book review site that fully understands gay erotica and gay erotic romance, or you might be disappointed. Same thing applies for straight erotica and erotic romance. This information is right there. All you have to do is check out what they’ve reviewed well as compared to what they haven’t enjoyed.

I will be posting a long free excerpt from the sequel to Down the Basement later today, so it’s up for the weekend.

Porch Swing Gay Erotic Romance

I’m not even sure there is such a thing as porch swing gay romance. So rather than going into a long explanation of what I consider a “porch swing” romance novel, I think this explains it well.

Though Nora Roberts’s novels are good any time of year (curled up in bed on a cold night, outside on a porch swing in the crisp fall air), summer is when I find myself reaching for her romances most often.

For me, it’s also a feeling of comfort, with a small town feel…without the billionaires, lavish settings, and elaborate backgrounds that include jets and helicopters. Only I rarely see this in any erotic romance, or even gay erotic romance. And I’ve been guilty as charged because I’ve done more than my share of billionaire themed books. We like that, too, and we like the escape billionaire romances bring to us. We can also curl up and read them on a porch swing.

But sometimes there’s nothing more comforting than curling up on a porch swing and reading a romance that’s set in a small town where everything’s quaint and perfect, and where most old homes have old porch swings themselves. And just because you’re gay doesn’t mean you can’t have that. In fact, I would be willing to bet there are more gay people now living in small quaint towns across America than ever before.

So in the next book I’m writing, the first in a western series for Ravenous Romance, I’ll be focusing on the small fictional town of Glendora, Texas. It’s the most perfect little town I’ve ever written about, where the homes are all Victorian or turn of the century craftsman style, and where everyone’s front yard is stippled with pots of flowers and perfectly round boxwoods. They have town celebrations where everyone gathers to sing and dance. They have old cars they treat with pride and love. They even have a sheriff who maintains the kind of perfect structure all small towns would like to have. And most of all, they are all having sex, especially, in some cases gay sex.

My inspiration for this came from many sources. But mainly it’s because I’ve always wanted to read a porch swing romance with erotica, and I’ve never actually found one I liked. I’m about thirty thousand words into this first book in the series, The Sheriff and the Outlaw, and I’ll be posting free excerpts very soon.

1romanceebooks.com

I was recently pointed to an online e-book retailer called 1romanceebooks.com. I’d never been to the site before, so I’m not sure whether or not it’s brand new. But it looks like it’s simple to navigate, simple to order from, and it gives all the basic info on all the books being sold.

My www.loveyoudivine.com books are being sold there, too. These are all stand alone e-books that I only publish with lyd because they tend to lean more toward erotic romance and erotica than romance. One, DOWN THE BASEMENT, was originally part of a collection of short stories that was published by Cleis Press and won last year’s Lambda award for gay erotica. And the rest are either originals or previously published short stories that were in books by either Cleis Press or STARbooks Press. There’s also a new one being released on March 19th, titled, A REGULAR BUD.

So if you’re into e-books, check out 1romanceebooks to see if it’s for you. They seem to carry all authors and titles (except none of my ravenous romance books are there), and their prices aren’t bad either.

Duel Post: A Huge Thank You, and Ravenous Romance is on TV Again

First, I’d like to thank all the readers who have helped make DOWN THE BASEMENT number six on http://www.allromanceebooks.com/. I’m still surprised. And when I say thanks, I really mean it.

Second, Ravenousromance.com will be on The Home Shopping Network again this Friday, selling the Escape to Romance Collection, at 8 in the morning and 2 in the afternoon. This is exciting for everyone associated with ravenous. Even though none of my books are part of the collection, I’m supporting RR as much as I can. I’ve read the books in the collection, and I’m a huge fan of all the writers. So if you need any last minute Christmas gifts, check it out. This is the last day that HSN will guarantee shipping by Christmas Day.

Wow! I’m Surprised! — THE RAINBOW AWARDS

This has been a long week, and this post as a lot of information. I finished another novel that has to be edited next week, I wrote a short story in two nights with a fast deadline, I’ve been fighting pirates, and I’ve been working on my friend’s insurance appeal. On top of all this, I found out that a publisher I’ve worked with for a long time had his entire list of books released in digital format and I’m never going to get a single royalty payment from any of my short stories. All I received was a flat fee of $25.00. It was a sneaky way of doing business, but I learned a good lesson.

But I’m surprised! Today turned out to be a great day. I found out this morning that DOWN THE BASEMENT is number 8 on allromanceebooks.com. I like this story, but I didn’t think it would ever hit a best seller list anywhere. It seems as if this story never stops surprising me. And being that I love to shop over at allromanceebooks, I couldn’t be more thrilled to see it hit their list.
Update to post: And there was more good news today. The Rainbow Awards have been posted over at Elisa Rolle’s blog. So check out the titles and congratulate the winners. Elisa worked hard on this, and so did everyone else who was involved. http://elisa-rolle.livejournal.com/

An Older Book Review for DOWN THE BASEMENT

When DOWN THE BASEMENT was originally published, it was in a collection of short stories edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel. Then it went on to be part of BEST GAY EROTICA 2009, a book that won a Lambda Award this year. And now it’s been published by Loveyoudivine.com as a stand alone e-book.

Here’s an older review, from http://tcm-ca.com/reviews/2154.html , when the story was in the first collection:

In “Down the Basement” by Ryan Field, the narrator explains:
“One Halloween night during my senior year in college, I went to a costume party in a broken-down frat house, dressed as a character I’d been inventing for months–years, if you really want to get technical. I looked like any normal guy in college by then: short, sandy blond hair, blue eyes, white polo shirts, and khaki slacks . . Most people would never have guessed that I was gay or that I had a secret passion for lipstick, earrings and very high heels.”


The narrator is invited to descend literally into an underworld of drunken frat boys who all seem to think he is a sexually-available girl. He worries about what they will do if and when they discover the truth, but one of them already knows.

New Release: Classic Gay Erotica Without Apology

I wanted to post something quick about this new release. It’s titled DOWN THE BASEMENT and it was part of a lambda award winning book “Best Gay Erotica 2009” last year. When I submitted it, with a few changes and revises from the story in BGE 2009, to http://www.loveyoudivine.com/, I told Claudia, the publisher, that this will be the final publication for this story.

It’s being sold as a stand alone e-book. And you can purchase it at loveyoudivine.com or here at ARE: http://www.allromanceebooks.com/product-downthebasement-386939-144.html It’s also very inexpensive, and I love that it’s been priced right, especially in this economy.

But I want to emphasize that this isn’t a breezy romance. I love writing breezy romances; I love the LOVE that’s associated with breezy romances. This should be evident from books I’ve written like “When Harry Met Sal.” However, DOWN THE BASEMENT is, as the sub-title implies, without mincing words, classic gay erotic romance, written by a gay man (Me…lol 🙂 who isn’t trying to fool anyone with a pen name or a gimmick. I’ve been learning to make these things very clear to readers, and to not assume anything. I like people to know that they are getting what they paid for, without any doubts.

Next week I’ll post about a new book I’m in from STARbookspress.com. It’s a printed Christmas Collection of Short Stories and I don’t think STARbooks has done many of them. I could be wrong, but this might even be the first. I’ll check it out before I post.