Category: Craigslist

Breaking Stereotypes: Gay Boxing; Grindr, Rape, Philly;

Breaking Stereotypes: Gay Boxing

There’s a new boxing club in New York breaking old stereotypes called Velvet Gloves where gay men can work out in a very different way now, and meet people in the process. Here’s an interview with Vance Garrett, the guy who started the club.

I’ve wanted to do something with and for my group of friends outside of the typical scene for a long time. All of us have been to the parties and clubs, and that can be great, but I think we collectively have wanted something else to do that’s fun — but won’t leave you with a hangover — and fits with our current lifestyles. Working out and wellness in general is important to many of them, and while conditioning for boxing requires being in the best shape possible, I don’t think many would want to step into a traditional boxing gym. Also, boxing has always been a tough man’s sport. It has been marketed as gruesome and intimidating yet it is one of the most beautiful sports to watch. The athletes are as graceful as dancers. It allows you to develop self-defense skills, builds confidence, and is physically AND mentally challenging. So I wanted a club that was tailored just for them-for fun, social guys who want the best workout possible in the best environment possible.

You can read more here. I would join. I jog four or five miles every morning because health clubs annoy me. I’m out to work out, not socialize. I don’t have time. But I’ve never been to a club where I don’t wind up either ducking behind something to avoid someone, or stuck in conversation for at least twenty minutes. Velvet gloves looks like serious working out.

And for those of you who think this is something new. It’s not. Gay men come in all sizes, shapes, and varieties…not just what you’ve seen on Sex in the City.

I’ve actually incorporated a gay boxer character in one of my books, The Actor Learning to Love. It’s a recent novel in the Bad Boy Billionaire series.

Grindr, Rape, Philly

I actually saw this on my local news the other night and was surprised I didn’t see it anywhere online. It took a while, but I spotted it this morning and thought I’d post about it for those of you take chances with web sites like Grindr or Craigslist. A man from Canada who was visiting Philly decided to hook up on Grindr and got more than he bargained for. He was held up at gunpoint, and sexually assaulted.

It didn’t end there. The men then walked together about 15 blocks through the city, with the victim being forced to purchase Visa gift cards and make ATM withdrawals totaling $3,000. Finally, inside a busy bar at 20th and Walnut, surveillance cameras captured the struggle between the two men as the victim escaped.

You can read more here.

I also saw that an Allentown, PA man was murdered while trying to sell his car on Craigslist last week. The guy met a potential buyer from Philadelphia at his place of business, and then he was shot to death and the car was stolen. I get my tenants through Craigslist, and I actually sold my Jag through them recently, too. However, you don’t know what screening is until you’ve contacted me through Craigslist. I turn down far more people than I accept because they did something offhanded during the e-mail process. A huge red flag for me is when someone wants to meet too soon, or call too soon. It’s e-mail and only e-mail in the beginning. Those who are serious don’t mind that. Those who are up to no good, back off. The back and forth e-mail process for me when looking for a tenant or selling anything on CL takes at least a week. And even then I always meet at a very busy, crowded public place for the first time.

You just can’t take anything for granted, especially if you’re visiting a rough, vicious city like Philadelphia. Those of you who live in different places don’t always realize how we live here, and what we have to deal with. All of your worst fears about cities like Philadelphia are most likely true. All of the worst things you’ve heard are probably true, and even worse now because most have never recovered from the economic depression. Don’t trust anyone, especially from an online hook up.

Craigslist Gay Sex Ad; Carnival American Horror Story; Photos and E-mail

Craigslist Gay Sex Ad

This local Philadelphia story is interesting because I just watched the most recent episode of Shameless where two gay thugs did almost the same thing to an unsuspecting older gay man they met in a hotel while soliciting sexual favors. In this case they got away with extortion and more.

But not in the Philadelphia case. A man tried to blackmail someone he met on Craigslist and in this case the victim only responded to the CL ad. He didn’t actually do anything with the extortionist.

Beisher posted a personal ad on Craigslist soliciting homosexual sex.  The victim responded to the ad in August 2012 and sent Beisher a naked photo of himself.  Beisher found the victim’s telephone number and address and called him the following day, threatening to expose the victim to his wife and family if he did not pay Beisher money.  Beisher called repeatedly to demand that the victim meet him at various locations in Philadelphia to make payments. The victim met Beisher seven times over the course of nine days, making payments ranging from $200 to $400.  The victim paid Beisher a total of $1,950 before refusing to meet him again and reporting him to the State Police.

I only wish the victim had reported this creep sooner. I also wonder how many times this happens and isn’t reported to anyone.

As for Shameless, Tony can’t stand the storyline anymore. But I think it’s authentic and portrays the characters well…and always in a shameless way.

Carnival American Horror Story

It was announced today, without great detail, the next theme for American Horror Story is going to be a Carnival.

American Horror Story writer Douglas Petrie confirms that the setting for the shows fourth installment will be a carnival theme. Read on for the full details.

Fan created posters depicting a creepy carnival tent and various circus performers took the internet by storm well before Ryan Murphy and company were willing to discuss the theme for American Horror Story‘s fourth season. However, writer Douglas Petrie may have confirmed the general theme for the fourth season is indeed a carnival of horrors.

It goes on to state this is a rough idea, probably subject to change. Evidently, a lot of people on facebook wanted to see this and it became almost an online campaign of sorts. One more reason why if you’re interested in pop culture you shouldn’t avoid facebook. It’s not the place for the literary elite and the grandest of our times, however, pop culture reigns supreme as far as information goes.

Although I’ve never set a book in a carnival, I’ve always been interested in the carnival theme and I have written a few proverbial three ring circus erotic romance novels in my time. One had a burping penisAmerican Star.

You can read more here.

Photos and E-mail

I’ve posted about bloggers using photos in blog posts a few times, but I wanted to do it one more time because I think it’s something we all need to think about and take seriously. This article give a far better explanation than I could.

For those of you who are super observant, you may have noticed some changes on my blog over the last few months. Tumblr posts went away. Fiction Groupie disappeared. I deleted most of my Pinterest boards. The Boyfriend of the Week has changed format. And all my previous posts from the past three years — all 700 of them — now have new photos on them.
Copyright laws are all over the place with this.

As for the e-mail part of this post, I’d like to make it clear that like many other people I’ve been hand picking which e-mails I open, which I delete, and which go directly to spam. And I don’t think anyone can be too careful about this anymore either. Even though I back up all my files constantly, I’d rather not deal with some of the scary things happening all over the Internet now and if I can avoid something I will. In this case, it means taking certain precautions. One of which is never opening a suspicious looking e-mail.

So if you have e-mailed me about something and I haven’t replied, please try it again and put something distinct in the subject line letting me know who you are. Or even better, pm me on facebook. I never miss a pm and I’m more likely to get back to you that way. I’m also on goodreads and twitter. I wish there were laws against this kind of spamming but there aren’t.