cheaters

Cheating Gay Boyfriends; Awkward Grindrfails; Hillary Clinton and Trans Support

Cheating Gay Boyfriends

Here’s one of those meme post things where guys talk about how they feel when they find out their boyfriends cheated on them. (Oh, the stories I could tell about people I know.)

But the odds that you have cheated, been cheated on, or know someone from either camp are about as likely as Adele making money off her next album.

And if we’re going to get real about it, monogamy isn’t a ship built for everyone, but our culture almost demands it. The real problem isn’t non-monogamy, it’s non-communication. We’re afraid to talk to our partners and afraid to be truthful with ourselves, and the secrets and lies are the poison that can eventually kill the love shared between two people.

You can read the rest here.

I actually cover a lot of this in my novel, below, Unabated. In my book, however, the gay open marriage concept is discussed…along with monogamy. You can check that out with the Amazon link. It does have a happy ending.

Awkward Grindrfails

Here’s what happens on Grindr. It’s a series of texts and the kind of conversations guys have with each other. I don’t know Grindr at all and I’m not familiar with online hooking up, so to speak, and I can’t comment on this one. 

You never know who you might meet on Grindr, but one thing is almost always guaranteed: You’re going to run into a crazy or two while scrolling through guys. We’re talking men with bizarre senses of humor, unusual sexual fetishes, anger management problems, creepy requests, and red flags for stalker tendencies. But it all comes with the territory, right?

Here are the rest.

I will eventually put something like this in a book, and I’ll become more familiar with places like Grindr through research…book research. Not actual research. You don’t have to jump out of an airplane to write something about it.

Hillary Clinton and Trans Support

Although I hate to get political, I have posted objectively about Trump a few times recently so I better give some objective posts to Hillary, too. Otherwise people might get the wrong idea. So here’s a nice post about Hillary Clinton offering support to a transperson.

Via Facebook…

Pearl, I’m so sorry that you experienced this. The all-too-high prevalence of violence and hatred faced by the transgender community —  in 2016! —is a rebuke to all of us. Every single person deserves to be safe and live free from discrimination and cruelty, period. And transgender people need to hear from every one of us that you are loved, respected, and deserving of equality under the law. Know that you have my support, and I’m on your side.

You can check the rest out here.

Even if you’re not supporting Hillary, you have to agree with that.  At least I hope so. If you don’t, and you think violence is good, you probably suck.

Unabated

 The Arrangement



Cheaterville: A Web Site for Adultery


Someone told me about this web site called “Cheaterville,” and I figured I’d post a link. I don’t know much about it, so I’m not commenting one way or the other.

Except for this: Last week I linked to a post written by this guy who not only knocks the romance genre, but also feels as though he’s somehow above it. I’m not mentioning his name in this post. I don’t want to give him that kind of attention again. But check out the post, and below is a quote from his post.

After my last post about, not only the dreadful writing associated with romance novels, but the often deadly message they bring glorifying everything from adultery to incest,

Once again, I find it interesting to read something like this, especially when most romance novelists and readers stay away from books with adultery.

In any event, check out “Cheaterville.” And if you know someone who is cheating on his or her spouse/partner, you might want to examine it even further.

Someone once asked me if gay couples consider it cheating if they’ve been together for a long time and they aren’t legally married. I had to laugh, as if being legally married is where the line is drawn for cheating. I replied with the question: Do straight couples who aren’t married and consider themselves in a monogamous relationship consider it cheating when one of them has an affair? What about engaged straight couples?

Unless there is some kind of an open relationship with an agreement where everyone is happy, it works just the same way for gays as it does straights. The sad fact is that people who cheat were wired that way from birth. Most go to their graves this way. I have no problem with open relationships and anything you want as long as both parties in the relationship agree to it. But I have very little tolerance for cheaters and sneaks.