Category: chaz bono

"Turning" Gay for Orgasm? Joan Rivers Again; Gays Denied Swimming Pass; Small Town Romance Writer by Ryan Field

“Turning” Gay For Orgasm?

According to an anti-gay US pundit, Peter LaBarbera, men “turn” gay for cheap orgasms. In addition, LaBarbera has also accused the President of being obsessed with gays. LaBarbera has some kind of radio show somewhere on the fringes and he’s been getting attention lately with David Manning, another homophobic minister with a TV show somewhere out there in oblivion, by attacking gays.

LaBarbera said he thinks homosexuals are not ‘real men’, because they cannot be bothered to date, marry and have children with a woman so instead they choose the easier gay life.

‘I think homosexuality is one sense offers to men, if I can say this on your program, it offers the cheap orgasm,’ he said.

‘It’s a lot harder to be a man, a real man and have a family, court a woman, marry a woman, have children, raise a family.’

His comments are so painfully dumb I almost feel bad for him. He clearly knows nothing about gay men, because if he did he’d never makes statements like that. We court, we marry, and we do all the rest. And we’ve been doing all this long before same sex marriage became a topic. Even more interesting, many gay men who didn’t come out of the closet for various social reasons actually did date women and all those other things LaBarbera mentions. In fact, I know several who are married and raising families right now…married to women. It’s not all that uncommon.

There’s more here.

Joan Rivers Again

I’m actually posting about Joan Rivers again because I think she’s a master at getting attention and promotion. I respect her and admire her for many reasons. I love her wit and humor. I’m not always sure her way is the best way to go about it. But I think it’s interesting that she’s become so vocal lately on such hot topics right around the same time she has a brand new book out.

In any event, Rivers is now going after Chaz and Sonny Bono in her unending quest to get attention. She seems to think it’s funny. I guess she’s forgotten how all those Elizabeth Taylor jokes in the 80’s backfired on her, especially when Taylor lost all the weight and lashed out at Rivers in defense.

Rivers spoke with host Marc Lamont Hill when she held up a Ken doll (of the Barbie line) and pointed out that the doll does not have male genitalia.

‘Ken I think, unfortunately … I found out to be Chaz Bono,’ Rivers said as Hill dissolved into laughter.

Said Hill: ‘You’re saying Ken has a vagina?’ Rivers: ‘Ken is good looking but nothing at home.’

Rivers then slammed Sonny Bono, and went on to comment in her own defense in what sounds like a quest to redeem herself:

You don’t make jokes about people no one knows.

Duh! The point I’m focusing on is that regardless of what anyone thinks about all this old time trash humor, Rivers is getting the best free attention. I’m not knocking her for that. I just wish she went about it in a slightly different way.

But, of course, I think the main thing to remember here is that I like to think Rivers thinks in terms of comedy first…whether we agree with that or not.

There’s more here.

Gays Denied Swimming Pass

I find this article both inspiring and courageous because it’s not a position Tony and I would ever be in because we’ve always avoided places like this swimming pool in Ohio. I’m not saying that’s a good thing on our part either. We grew up in a time when guys like LaBarbera condemned us and women of WTF-ery like Joan Rivers treated us like pet poodles. But A lesbian couple isn’t taking anymore shit, and they are basically fighting city hall in order to get some kind of family law rewritten so they can get discounted passes to a public pool.

For the past nine years, Melody Mohn and her children have made regular use of the Heise Park Pool in Galion, Ohio. This year, in an effort to save money, she applied for a family pass – to cover herself, her four children and same-sex partner, Hela Young.

However, when she called the YMCA in charge of managing the pool, she was informed that a family is defined as ‘mother, father, and three children.’ Her request was therefore denied.

There’s more here. The city council claims they didn’t know the law existed.

Small Town Romance Writer
 
 
by Ryan Field
 
 
 
 


In this 113,000 word gay romance, when bad boy male stripper, Ethan, and quiet academic, Travis, first meet at the storied Iowa Writers’ Workshop in l990 neither one of them know this unusual relationship will consume the next twenty years of their lives…even as their lives change, they meet new people, and they each take different paths as career writers.
Ten years later, Travis is a well-respected author in the LGBT community who is up for a prestigious literary award and Ethan is still a struggling gay erotic romance author writing short stories for small LGBT presses. But all this is about to change when Ethan soon becomes famous for a gay romance that Travis thinks is quite possibly the worst book ever written.


As Ethan’s mainstream writing career progresses and he’s dubbed the Small Town Billionaire Author, Travis’s career moves forward in more subtle, literary ways. Although there are times when Travis is jealous of Ethan’s fame and fortune, he’s found the young man he thinks is the love of his life and nothing else matters. In fact, his life seems perfect…until tragedy strikes and leaves him with nowhere to turn but to Ethan.


Years after that, both Ethan and Travis have evolved in many ways as men and authors. They also find themselves in situations they hadn’t predicted, and the tables have turned on them. Their long-lasting, unusual relationship is challenged once again when Ethan is up for the same award Travis won twenty years earlier, and this time it’s either going to make them or break them.    

Pistorious’ Defense; Gay Retirement Home Spain; Chaz Bono

Pistorious’ Defense

One of the most publicized trials since OJ Simpson is about to begin its defense. Nothing about this case has ever been simple, not from the start. And, it varies significantly from the OJ Simpson trial because Pistorius admittedly shot because he thought his life was in danger. It’s also a bench trial, which means no jury.

For five days, Oscar Pistorius endured a withering cross-examination at his murder trial from a prosecutor who pounced on apparent inconsistencies in his testimony. Yet, legal analysts said Tuesday, expert witnesses who will testify for the defense could undermine the prosecution’s efforts to prove Pistorius killed girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp on purpose after an argument.

The demeanor of the Olympian, often fumbling for answers and occasionally breaking into sobs, contrasted with that of prosecutor Gerrie Nel, who called Pistorius a liar and unleashed volleys of barbed questions. Social media buzzed that Pistorius is in deep trouble – a South African talk show host wryly observed that the double-amputee runner had not “covered himself with glory” when his cross-examination ended Tuesday – but experts said the trial has a long way to go.
 
You can read more here.
 
I also think this is one of the saddest trials in history because of the life lost and the lives ruined. It’s actually very hard to listen to Pistorius being questioned because the sobs are so gutting.
 
Gay Retirement Home Spain
 
In an effort to help gays from returning to the closet as they grow old, Spain has come up with a gay retirement home. (I’ve never actually heard of that…returning to the closet.)
 
The project is an attempt at stopping Spain’s elderly LGBT population from returning to the ‘closet’ in old age. 
 
‘They don’t have children and grandchildren they can talk about and often they conceal their sexual orientation to avoid rejection,’ Federico Armenteros, president of 26 December Foundation, said.

They are making it clear that the home is open to everyone, not just gays. We have several things like this here in the US and it’s important to make this distinction because to call a place an all gay…or gay only…retirement home is discriminatory.

I don’t plan to retire, not ever. There will be no condo in Wilton Manors for me, or small house in Palm Springs. I’m a writer, and I’m not fond of the concept of “gay ghetto.” I just plan to expire quietly.

You can read more here.

Chaz Bono

I have to admit this up front. I don’t know what it is that fascinates me so much about female to male transgenders, but I can’t get enough of Chaz Bono…or anything on the topic. I think that’s probably because as a gay man I’m more familiar with male to female transgender people. I’ve known them personally most of my life. But I actually don’t know any female to male transgendered people at all personally. At least I don’t think so.

 Transgender activist and actor Chaz Bono dropped by RuPaul’s Drag Race to help contestants learn to conduct a celebrity interview and in the process, opened up a bit about himself.

‘You know, there was a number of years where I knew I was transgender but was afraid to do anything about it,’ Bono told one of the contestants.

I think (hope) we’ll be hearing more about female to male transgenders in the future. If Chaz felt that way I can’t even imagine what it’s like for someone living in less sophisticated circumstances.

In any event, Chaz was on RuPaul’s Drag race. And I wonder if that has anything to do with the recent kerfuffle they’ve had over transgender terms and phrases. I’m starting to wish someone would come up with a good solid web site where I can go to make sure I’m not saying or writing anything politically incorrect that would offend anyone. The other day someone asked me if the term “Drag Queen” was appropriate and I just shrugged and said I never use it because I believe in playing it safe. I stick to female impersonator at all times.

You can read more here.

Good For Cher: Chaz Bono on Dancing with the Stars



I probably should have left up my new release post for the weekend. But I saw this about Cher and Chaz Bono and couldn’t help posting about it right now.

When I made my last post, about Chaz doing the reality show, I was a little surprised at some of the negative reactions I received. And from gay and straight people, too. Well, anyone who knows me knows I don’t buckle when it comes to things like this. I kept the post up and I’m posting about it again. This is what the T in GLBT is all about, and I’ll fight to my death for tolerance.

Good for Cher for coming to his defense!!

As for Chaz, you may not like it, you may not understand it. You may not even want to like it or understand it. But the point is that Chaz Bono is doing something most people wouldn’t have the guts to do. And I find that amazing…on so many levels I could fill this entire blog with examples. And I don’t even like dancing myself…can’t do it….won’t even try. But I’ll be watching this show.

….Cher takes to Twitter to defend Chaz Bono on DWTS

By Sandy Cohen | AP – Thu, Sep 1, 2011 9:08 AM PDT

….tweet240EmailPrint…

..LOS ANGELES – Cher is taking to Twitter to defend her son Chaz Bono.

The superstar posted several tweets Wednesday defending his participation on the upcoming season of “Dancing With the Stars.” Bono is the first transgender competitor on the hit ABC show.

Cher says her son, who was born female and underwent surgery to become a man, is being “viciously attacked” on blogs and message boards since the new cast was announced Monday.

“This is Still America right? It took guts 2 do it,” Cher wrote, adding that she supports him no matter what he chooses to do.

“Mothers don’t stop Getting angry with stupid bigots who (mess) with their children!” the 65-year-old singer wrote.

Bono, 42, is paired with pro dancer Lacey Schwimmer on the reality show, where celebrities and their professional partners perform various ballroom dances for judges’ scores and viewer votes.

“Dancing” fans have posted both angry and supportive comments on the show’s message boards. One called the casting choice “disgusting” and said “ABC should be ashamed of theirselves for harassing mainstream Americans and Christains.”

Another wrote: “I never and mean NEVER watch DWTS but will this season to support/vote for (Chaz).”

On his own Twitter page, Bono described himself as “the luckiest guy around” and thanked his fans for their support. He also thanked Cher.

“Thanks for all your support mom,” he wrote. “The haters are just motivating me to work harder and stay on DWTS as long as I possibly can.”

The 13th season of “Dancing With the Stars” is set to premiere Sept. 19.

Chaz Bono on Dancing with the Stars…



I’m obviously still here and Hurricane Irene didn’t do me in. In fact, as far as storms go, I’ve seen much worse. We’re used to nor’easters up here, with wind gusts up to 90 mph. The highest wind gusts we had here, and I’m only two hours away from Atlantic City where the eye was, were about 50 mph. But no complaints from me. It could have been much worse and I’m glad it wasn’t.

I just read here that Chaz Bono is going to be on Dancing with the Stars. Even though I can’t stand to dance myself, I do love to watch the dancers on that show. Jerry Springer amazed me. My heart sank when Kirsti Alley tripped and fell on her partner’s leg.

You have to give Chaz credit. And I’m not talking about the transgender thing. I’m talking about his having the guts to go on that show and dance in front of the world. I couldn’t do it. I’m not that brave. From what I’ve seen, it’s intense at best. And unless you’ve had formal training as a dancer, there’s no way it can be easy.

Chaz Bono…Transition: The Story of How I Became A Man


I don’t usually take time out of my day to watch Oprah at four o’clock in the afternoon. But I did today, because Chaz Bono was doing an interview and promoting his new book, Transition: The Story Of How I Became A Man.

Although I can’t relate completely as a gay man, I did have a friend once who was a woman who felt as if he was trapped in a man’s body. I didn’t know this at first. He was always very reclusive and quiet. And he refused to show is feet…even when he went to the beach. As it turned out, he refused to show is feet because his toenails were always painted and he didn’t want anyone to find out. It wouldn’t have mattered: he was with a group of gay people who wouldn’t have cared whether his toenails were painted or not. But in his mind the magnitude of wanting to be a woman was so intense he created this sort of block that kept him separated from the rest of the world. It’s the only way I can describe it.

Eventually, he came to terms and is now living somewhere in Philadelphia as a woman. But he cut off all his friends, even the ones who would have supported him, because it was such an intense situation for him. So while I can’t personally relate to this topic, I’m very empathetic to it and I think what Chaz did took a massive amount of courage most people wouldn’t be able to handle.

I’ll be reading Chaz’s book. And, I hope Chaz decides to enter this in the Rainbow Awards this year. I think it’s a must read for anyone in the lgbt community.

At first, America knew the only child of Sonny and Cher as Chastity, the cherubic little girl who appeared on her parents’ TV show. In later years, she became famous for coming out on a national stage, working with two major organizations toward LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender) rights and publishing two books. And just within the past eighteen months, Chaz Bono has entered the public consciousness as the most high-profile transgender person ever.

All through the hoopla surrounding his change, Chaz has insisted on maintaining his privacy. Now, in Transition, Chaz finally tells his story. Part One traces his decision to transition, beginning in his childhood-when he played on the boys’ teams and wore boys’ clothing whenever possible-and going through his painful, but ultimately joyful, coming out in his twenties, up to 2008, when, after the death of his father, drug addiction, and five years of sobriety, Chaz was finally ready to begin the process of changing his gender. In Part Two, he offers an unprecedented record in words and photographs of the actual transition, a real-time diary as he navigates uncharted waters. These chapters capture the day-to-day momentum of his life as his body changes.

Throughout the book, Chaz touches on themes of identity, gender, and sexuality; parents and children; and how harboring secrets shatters the soul. It is an amazing contribution to our understanding of a much- misunderstood community.