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CBS, Tony Perkins, Anti-Gay Leader; Are Bottoms More Promiscuous? Broadway Bares and Ted Cruz

CBS, Tony Perkins, Anti-Gay Leader

Even the mainstream media is having trouble listening to Tony Perkins these days. So much so that they’re referring to Tony Perkins as the Anti-Gay Leader, and the Family Research Council as a hate group. But what I find most interesting is that most Christians do NOT feel that Tony Perkins or the Family Research Council speaks for them.

“The Southern Poverty Law Center has branded the Family Research Council an anti-gay hate group,” Schieffer explained as if it were a warning to his viewers. “We have been inundated by people who say we should not even let you appear because they, in their view — quote — you don’t speak for Christians.” 

Perkins argued that the Supreme Court had no place deciding whether LGBT people deserved equal protection under the Constitution because “it does a disservice to both sides if the court weighs in on public policy like this.”

“The courts are decided [SIC] to interpret the Constitution and the constitutionality of laws, not to create public policy,” he opined. “When they do that, they create division and they erect barriers to reaching consensus on public policy like this. So no, we stand with millennia of experience that the union of a man and a woman — the sacred union of marriage — is the cornerstone of society.”

You can read more, and check out a video here. I’ve been waiting for this to happen, where the majority of Christians in the US start speaking up about how they feel so misrepresented by the far right in both the religious and political spectrum. And it’s not a matter of free speech and silencing them. I truly believe that should be able to say what they want. It’s just a matter of showing them the door.

Are Bottoms More Promiscuous?

I think this is the kind of thing that fascinates people, even if it is pure clickbait. Partly because it’s rare to find a gay man willing to admit whether he’s a full top or a full bottom, and partly because it sets up a pattern of sorts with all kinds of social ramifications.

“I’ve always believed that bottoms have more fun,” blogger Jerry Plaza writes in a new op-ed published by GayGuys.com. “We’re able to tease, please and squeeze our way into sexual situations necessary for us to be a part of. After all, if there isn’t a man willing to bend over backwards, penetration is out of the question.”

Plaza, a self-proclaimed “power bottom,” says that when it comes to red hot gay lovin’, bottoms hold most of the cards.

“Most of the time, bottoms don’t need to seek out sex,” he writes. “Guys are drawn to us like a moth to a flame. … Go to the dance club and see for yourself, or better yet change the preference on your Grindr or online dating profile to ‘Power Bottom’ and see how many more messages you receive.”

I’m sorry. I’m calling bullshit on this one. First, it’s really not always easy to tell. In fact, it’s almost impossible to tell unless the sloppy-ass bottom is so obnoxious about being a power bottom you would rather have nothing to do with him in the first place because he’s so sleazy. Second, you can go to any gay club, hook up site, or cruising ground anywhere in the world and you’re going to find nothing but bottoms looking for that one great top, which rarely ever happens. So if you look at this as a simple supply and demand situation, the top holds all the cards because he is in such high demand. Now tell me I’m wrong and make me smile.

I had a friend from Bosnia once who could sum all this up in four words: “They Are All Bottoms.” That might be a little extreme, but it’s not that far off either. And all of this falls under the title of, “It’s Complicated.” In other words, gay sex is not always all about anal sex. There are many gay men who don’t like it at all.   

The comments…116 of them…seem to agree with me.  

Broadway Bares and Ted Cruz

I’m going to try to keep a convoluted situation as simple as I can right now.  

Republican Senator Ted Cruz is anti-gay marriage. Yet he’s been linked to wealthy gay hotel owners in NY…these wealthy gays had an event for him at their NY apartment.  It’s nothing sexual; it’s people in power dealing with other people in power. Now the gay hotel owners are dealing with boycott threats because they are linked to Ted Cruz. I know, it sounds as if I’m making this up. I’m not.And it gets even worse.

Evidently, the gay hotel owners also own the club, 42 West, where Broadway Bares was supposed to be doing a fundraiser on May 10th. When it was disclosed there was a relationship/connection between the gay club owners and Ted Cruz, this transpired:

It is with regret that we have decided to cancel this year’s edition of the Broadway Bares Solo Strips fundraiser, which was scheduled for May 10 at the NYC club 42West. We cannot in good conscience hold an event at a venue whose owners have alienated our community, as reflected in an April 23 New York Times story and an April 24 follow-up post.

We do business with and accept fundraising support from a variety of people across a wide spectrum of political and religious affiliations. The rich diversity of our community makes what we do together so special. It is a rare instance where the actions of a donor negatively impacts us as an organization and potentially jeopardizes our relationship with others whose support is integral to our success. But when it does occur, in a way that’s blatantly against all we stand and work for, we can’t pretend it doesn’t come with consequences. Silence is not a neutral position. It is complicit.

This is not about partisan politics or punishment. This is about doing what’s right to ultimately ensure that our commitment to the men, women and children we serve cannot be questioned.”

You can find that quote here. 

I don’t mean to diminish this in any way, and I support Broadway Bares completely with their decision to cancel, without hesitation. It’s just that I’ve known this kind of politics, and these kinds of gay men before. So frankly, it doesn’t surprise me that there would be extremely wealthy gay men having a supportive event for the likes of Ted Cruz and completely ignoring the gay marriage issue, or toning it down as if it means nothing at all. It is, in deed and action, complicit.


In this third book in The Rainbow Detective series, Proctor and Blair take on a case that involves blackmail, kidnapping, and a handsome young guy with two perfect penises. The guy with two penises is a public personality, and the wealthy client who hires Blair and Proctor is willing to pay a huge sum of money to keep the guy’s two penises a secret.

As fascinated as Blair and Proctor are with the guy who has two penises, there are dangerous, unexpected twists in this case that put them in grave danger. And the fact that they are in love with each other doesn’t make working together any easier. It’s the kind of peculiar double penis case that will not only test their love, but also test whether or not they can continue working together.


Will Blair be able to grow up and meet Proctor’s professional expectations? And will Proctor ever be able to get the guy with two perfect penises out of his head?

Forbes Promotes Gay Shame; Mean Girls Racism Big Brother; American Idol Racism Lawsuit

Forbes Promotes Gay Shame

I often talk about how shame plays such a huge part in the lives of gay people. And even though we’ve come so far in the past few years that same brand of shame still continues with publishers like Forbes. And the kind of shame I’m talking about now isn’t something that always registers as quickly as it should…I would bet most of the people who read what happened this week with Forbes and the President of Ireland didn’t even pick up on it.

According to this article in Huff Po, Forbes published an article about the President of Ireland and they said he was gay in the article. They were wrong. The President of Ireland isn’t gay. But instead of just posting a simple retraction, Forbes posted a fucking *apology* to readers, not the President. They will allegedly contact the President of Ireland in private and apologize to him for calling him gay. Obviously, they feel the need to go out of their way because he’s not gay.

 The article, posted Tuesday by Ireland-based blogger David Monagan, called Higgins an “acknowledged homosexual.”

Higgins, a poet and intellectual who supports gay rights, was elected as Ireland’s ceremonial head of state in 2011. One candidate he defeated, Sen. David Norris, is Ireland’s foremost campaigner for gay rights and famously open about his homosexuality.

It’s important to pay attention to the way this is worded. Forbes called him an “acknowledged homosexual.” That phrase itself is an insult, like “practicing homosexual.” But they didn’t call him a car thief, a murderer, a bank robber, or a rapist. They didn’t call him anything that should have warranted an apology. They said he was gay. All they had to do was retract what they’d done and move forward. No apology needed, because gay isn’t something negative and it isn’t a crime.  

But the fact that they felt the need to issue an apology, as if there is something inherently wrong with being gay in a general sense, shows how Forbes and other media outlets are constantly promoting gay shame and most of the general public doesn’t even know it, including gay people who are still struggling with issues and not out of the closet. I know that’s the kind of article I wouldn’t have even noticed ten years ago. But now that I’m more aware of how the LGBT community is portrayed in the media, it’s like that proverbial slap in the face. And I think it’s time to start slapping back.

Mean Girls on Big Brother

One of the reasons why I’ve been watching the reality TV show Big Brother since it first aired about eleven or twelve years ago is because it’s interesting to watch how real people interact, and react, in a stressful situation where they are kept hidden from the world and they are competing to win a half a million dollars. Since I started watching BB, I’ve seen everything from people stabbing each other in the back to falling in love. It’s part of the game, it can be highly entertaining and amusing, and the gender politics is fascinating.

But I have never, not in all the years I’ve been watching, seen anything like what’s been happening this season. There is a group of mean girls that rivals anything that’s ever been produced in a film or a book. It’s worse than what I’ve seen in publishing with mean girl book review sites. And these women on BB aren’t just mean girls, they are racist and filled with hate. In most cases they don’t even know it. Here’s just a tip of what’s been happening with these mean girls. If you do a simple search for “Big Brother 15 Mean Girls” you will come up with tons of other articles and forums with people who agree with me. In fact, America got a chance to vote someone off this week, and they chose the meanest, racist girl in the house. Unfortunately, she figured a way out and she’s still there.

The plastics are up for eviction. And by plastics I hope you have watched the movie Mean Girls. Aaryn is Regina Goerge, Kaitlin as Gretchen Weiners and GinaMarie as the dumb Karen. Will the Queen Bee get stunned by getting voted out? Perhaps, this week has been fetch.

The most interesting thing this season about the mean girls and the racist remarks is that they’ve made hideous slurs against Asian Americans, and the host of Big Brother, Julie Chen, is Asian American. You have to wonder, first, how dumb can these mean girls be? So far, Chen has addressed the issue on her own TV show, but she’s been playing it cool every Thursday night during the live eviction show she hosts. And frankly, while I admire Chen for being professional and taking the high road, it’s getting a little frustrating. Even last night, Chen had a guest on the show who was a previous contestant, Jeff Schroeder. I’ve posted about Jeff Schroeder’s anti-gay remarks in previous seasons. And yet there he was last night, sitting opposite Julie Chen, laughing and joking around about some of the meanest, racist people I think I’ve ever seen on TV, and not a word was mentioned. His anti-gay remarks were never addressed aloud, and since then CBS has continued to promote him.

We’re living in interesting times now. And racism is a huge topic this summer, especially in the African American community thanks to Paula Deen’s racist remarks and thanks to the Zimmerman verdict. And for CBS to ignore what’s been happening on Big Brother with regard to the racism, and to welcome Jeff Schroeder on the show as a guest, is about as insulting to all minorities as what Forbes recently did to the LGBT community. I wonder if the mean girls will be invited back a few years from now if BB is still on TV.

I know Big Brother is only a game. I get that. I know people are expected to do and say things in order to win that they normally wouldn’t do or say in real life. But how far does it go? And how long will it continue before CBS mentions it openly instead of just skirting around the issue. This past week there was an interesting discussion between Barbara Walters and Whoopi Goldberg on The View. Walter’s was promoting her 20/20 special about the new royal baby, and Goldberg said she wasn’t interested in the royal baby. Walters smiled and continued to promote the 20/20 special. The next day I checked the ratings for the 20/20 special and they weren’t very good, so maybe Goldberg had a point? And if TV networks and producers think they can get away with the same thing they did twenty years ago, they’re in for a surprise. Most of us don’t care about the royal baby enough to watch a one hour special. But we do care about racism. And if nothing is mentioned about the racism on Big Brother at all this season, I have a feeling a lot of people like me won’t be watching Big Brother next summer.

American Idol Racism Lawsuit

Whether you agree with this or not, I thought that since racism is a huge topic of discussion right now I should post about it.

“American Idol” is being sued by 10 black former contestants, claiming they were kicked off the show in their respective seasons because of their race, TMZ was the first to report.

I used to watch American Idol faithfully, but then I noticed subtle forms of racism, especially with gay contestants and gay remarks. Simon Cowell used to find it amusing to refer to Ryan Seacrest with snide comments filled with gay innuendo, as if there was something comical…or shameful…about being gay. Cowell thought that was okay to do, and no one ever questioned him. Cowell is a straight man and like most straight men he has the power and the upper hand at all times. Seacrest who is also a straight man laughed it off and ignored the comments. That kind of gay pejorative was the reason we stopped watching. It just wasn’t funny to us, and that spoiled the entire show.

But this issue with American Idol is more complicated than other racial issues I’ve seen. There have been African American contestants who have won American Idol. And there was even a gay contestant who won. So it should be interesting to see how it plays out in court. Frankly, I hope they all at least win a settlement this time, just for the anti-gay comments Cowell used to make to Seacrest. Am I being too politically correct? Probably. But it has to start somewhere.